R. Kent Hughes > Quotes

“If I throw out a boathook from the boat and catch hold of the shore and pull, do I pull the shore to me, or do I pull myself to the shore? Prayer is not pulling God to my will, but the aligning of my will to the will of God.1”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“Dietrich Bonhoeffer made the observation that when lust takes control, “At this moment God . . . loses all reality. . . . Satan does not fill us with hatred of God, but with forgetfulness of God.”5”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“Some fathers exasperate their children by being overly strict and controlling. They need to remember that rearing children is like holding a wet bar of soap — too firm a grasp and it shoots from your hand, too loose a grip and it slides away. A gentle but firm hold keeps you in control.”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“God can have our money and not have our hearts, but He cannot have our hearts without having our money.”
― R. Kent Hughes

“One thing is certain: Nothing will set you apart from culture more than the exclusive claims of Christianity. And it is here that we must intentionally set ourselves apart-because if we do not, we will have no message for the world!”
― R. Kent Hughes

“When we are in the grip of lust, the reality of God fades.”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“Men, it is the “legal” sensualities, the culturally acceptable indulgences, which will take us down. The long hours of indiscriminate TV watching, which is not only culturally cachet but is expected of the American male, is a massive culprit of desensitization. The expected male talk — double entendre, coarse humor, laughter at things which ought to make us blush — is another deadly agent. Acceptable sensualities have insidiously softened Christian men, as statis- tics well attest. A man who succumbs to desensitization of the “legal” sensualities is primed for a fall.”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“Television has greater power over the lives of most Americans than any educational system or government or church. It is the control center of most homes-more ubiquitous and more controlling than Orwell's Big Brother”
― R. Kent Hughes, Set Apart: Calling a Worldly Church to a Godly Life

“Many believers use truth as a license to righteously diminish others’ reputations.”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“Our devotion must culminate in a conscious yielding of every part of our
personality, every ambition, every relationship, and every hope to Him. This
done, we have reached the apex of personal devotion”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“But none of us can claim an innate spiritual advantage. In reality, we are all equally disadvantaged. None of us naturally seeks after God, none is inherently righteous, none instinctively does good (cf. Romans 3:9-18). Therefore, as children of grace, our spiritual discipline is everything — everything! I repeat . . . discipline is everything!”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“Brothers, the Scriptures tell us that in the Church "you have come" (right now!) to these seven sublime realities: 1) to the city of God, 2) to myriads of angels, 3) to fellow believers, 4) to God, 5) to the Church Triumphant, 6) to Jesus, and 7) to forgiveness! If this does not create a wellspring of thanksgiving in your hearts and a longing for fellowship in the visible Church, nothing will!”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“Thus we understand that giving ourselves for our brides involves prayerful intercession. Men, do you pray for your wives with something more than, “Bless good old Margaret in all she does”? If not, you are sinning against her and against God. Most Christian men who claim to love their wives never offer more than a perfunctory nod to their wives’ needs before God. Men, you ought to have a list of her needs, spoken and unspoken, which you passionately hold up to God out of love for her. Praying is the marital work of a Christian husband!”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“Men, on the most elementary level, you do not have to go to church to be a Christian. You do not have to go home to be married either. But in both cases if you do not, you will have a very poor relationship.”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“Television has greater power over the lives of most Americans than any educational system, government, or church.”
― Kent Hughes

“The key to liberation from the power of materialism is not an exodus from culture - abandoning Wall Street or leaving the wealth of the nation to others - but the grace of giving... Givers for God disarm the power of money. They invite God's grace to flow through them.”
― R. Kent Hughes

“The true test of a man’s spirituality is not his ability to speak, as we are apt to think, but rather his ability to bridle his tongue.”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“Train yourself to be godly. For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come.”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“No manliness no maturity! No discipline no discipleship! No sweat no sainthood!”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“We are accustomed to thinking of Ernest Hemingway as a boozy, undisciplined genius who got through a quart of whiskey a day for the last twenty years of his life but nevertheless had the muse upon him. He was indeed an alcoholic driven by complex passions.2 But when it came to writing, he was the quintessence of discipline! His early writing was characterized by obsessive literary perfectionism as he labored to develop his economy of style, spending hours polishing a sentence, or searching for the mot juste—the right word. It is a well-known fact that he rewrote the conclusion to his novel A Farewell to Arms seventeen times in an effort to get it right. This is characteristic of great writers. Dylan Thomas made over two hundred handwritten(!) manuscript versions of his poem “Fern Hill.”3 Even toward the end, when Hemingway was reaping the ravages of his lifestyle, while writing at his Finca Vigia in Cuba he daily stood before an improvised desk in oversized loafers on yellow tiles from 6:30 A.M. until noon every day, carefully marking his production for the day on a chart. His average was only two pages — five hundred words.4 It was discipline, Ernest Hemingway’s massive literary discipline, which transformed the way his fellow Americans, and people throughout the English-speaking world, expressed themselves.”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“François Fenelon urged: Tell [God] all that is in your heart, as one unloads one’s heart to a dear friend. . . . People who have no secrets from each other never want for subjects of conversation; they do not . . . weigh their words, because there is nothing to be kept back. Neither do they seek for something to say; they talk out of the abundance of their heart — without consideration, just what they think. . . . Blessed are they who attain to such familiar, unreserved intercourse with God.9”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“a Christian mind demands conscious negation; a Christian mind is impossible without the discipline of refusal.”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“Dietrich Bonhoeffer made the observation that when lust takes control, “At this moment God . . . loses all reality. . . . Satan does not fill us with hatred of God, but with forgetfulness of God.”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“If we confuse legalism and discipline, we do so to our soul’s peril.”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“The difference is one of motivation: legalism is self-centered; discipline is God-centered. The legalistic heart says, “I will do this thing to gain merit with God.” The disciplined heart says, “I will do this thing because I love God and want to please Him.”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“A child who grows up with the realization that his parents are lovers has a wonderful basis of stability.6”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“Jesus is literally the exegesis of God.”
― R. Kent Hughes, Philippians, Colossians, and Philemon: The Fellowship of the Gospel and The Supremacy of Christ

“Few things exasperate a child more than inconsistency. Pity the horse that has a rider who gives it mixed signals, digging his heels into its side and pulling the reins at the same time. Even more, pity the child who has the rules changed by a capricious father, and who is always exasperated because of the conflicting messages he receives.”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“We must begin with the discipline of commitment. I have grown tougher with the years in my demands on couples who want me to perform their wedding ceremonies. I tell them that wedding vows are a volitional commitment to love despite how one feels. I explain that it is rubbish to think one can break one’s vows because one does not “feel” in love. I point out that the Scriptures call us to “put on love” (Colossians 3:14) — and despite the canard about such love being hypocritical, it is never hypocrisy to put on a Christian grace. I tell them that if there is the tiniest thought in the back of their minds that they can get out of the marriage if the other person is not all they expected, I will not perform the ceremony. The truth is, marriages which depend on being “in love” fall apart. Those which look back to the wild promises they vowed in the marriage ceremony are the ones who make it. There is no substitute for covenant plus commitment.”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man

“God can have our money and not have our hearts, but He cannot have our hearts without having all our money.”
― R. Kent Hughes, Disciplines of a Godly Man