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368 pages, Hardcover
First published August 12, 2025
╰┈➤ ❝And now, I'm glad I didn't know the way it all would end, the way it all would go; Our lives are better left to chance, I could have missed the pain but I'd’ve had to miss the dance❞
╰┈➤ ❝Get back out there,’ they all said. ‘Plenty more fish in the sea.’ Except nobody pointed out exactly what is swimming around in the depths of the online dating ocean in your thirties and forties: it’s all jelly and teeth and transparent organs and protruding eyes jubilantly announcing that ‘they want to find that special connection’ as long as she’s a ‘nine or above.’ At least now when they ask for my ‘body count,’ I tell them it’s currently zero, but I’m looking to change that and have dug a large hole in my garden.❞
╰┈➤ ❝The problem is that the more you look for red flags, the easier they are to find. Until you’re no longer looking for fire: you’re looking for just the faintest bit of smoke, a hint of heat, a puff of ash, and you’re out of there, running for safety. A fire is a terrifying prospect when you’ve already been burned.❞
╰┈➤ ❝I think maybe I’m a bit screwed-up at the moment.’ Which is like saying it’s a bit drizzly in the middle of a thunderstorm.❞
╰┈➤ ❝Is this what we all do? Just hate ourselves, constantly, for not being perfect? For making mistakes? For somehow not living up to whatever identity we’ve created in our own heads? Are we all just walking around, living in our own guilt and shame and flaws like snails in houses we’ve made from ourselves?❞
"The problem is that the more you look for red flags, the easier they are to find. Until you're no longer looking for fire: you're looking for just the faintest bit of smoke, a hint of heat, a puff of ash, and you're out of there, running for safety. A fire is a terrifying prospect when you've already been burned."