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I'll Never Call Him Dad Again: Turning Our Family Trauma of Sexual Assault and Chemical Submission into a Collective Fight
The book that tells the first-hand story of the Gisèle Pelicot trial and gives a voice to women who have been silenced
The trial of Dominique Pelicot has captured the world's attention. Behind Pelicot's unthinkable crimes are a mother, Gisèle Pelicot, and her daughter, Caroline Darian, who were forced to rebuild their lives.
This is their story.
In November 2020, Caroline Darian received a call from the police. Her father was in custody. The seizure of his computer equipment revealed the unimaginable: since 2013, he had drugged his wife before handing her over, in a state of unconsciousness, to dozens of men from all ages and stages of life.
With exceptional courage, Darian recounts the earth-shattering discovery that a loved one, her own father, is capable of the worst. But more importantly, she shares the remarkable story of her mother, Gisèle, and how she carried on living, without self-pity, while learning to manage all of the things her husband once took care of. She shares how her mother managed to maintain her joie de vivre in circumstances none of us could imagine.
Gisèle has won acclaim around the world after she opted for a public trial, one in which Caroline herself has testified, turning the tables; the shame is no longer borne by the victims in silence but directed, at last, to the abusers. Caroline has set up her own campaign, #MendorsPas: Stop Chemical Submission: Don't Put Me Under, to address the issue of chemical submission in the home. Together, mother and daughter reveal another side to the violence committed against women, as they bravely transform their private trauma into a collective fight.
The trial of Dominique Pelicot has captured the world's attention. Behind Pelicot's unthinkable crimes are a mother, Gisèle Pelicot, and her daughter, Caroline Darian, who were forced to rebuild their lives.
This is their story.
In November 2020, Caroline Darian received a call from the police. Her father was in custody. The seizure of his computer equipment revealed the unimaginable: since 2013, he had drugged his wife before handing her over, in a state of unconsciousness, to dozens of men from all ages and stages of life.
With exceptional courage, Darian recounts the earth-shattering discovery that a loved one, her own father, is capable of the worst. But more importantly, she shares the remarkable story of her mother, Gisèle, and how she carried on living, without self-pity, while learning to manage all of the things her husband once took care of. She shares how her mother managed to maintain her joie de vivre in circumstances none of us could imagine.
Gisèle has won acclaim around the world after she opted for a public trial, one in which Caroline herself has testified, turning the tables; the shame is no longer borne by the victims in silence but directed, at last, to the abusers. Caroline has set up her own campaign, #MendorsPas: Stop Chemical Submission: Don't Put Me Under, to address the issue of chemical submission in the home. Together, mother and daughter reveal another side to the violence committed against women, as they bravely transform their private trauma into a collective fight.
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First published April 6, 2022
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May 9, 2025
If you haven’t heard of this story, it will shock you. If you have, it likely still shocks you.
Gisele Pelicot, is the woman whose husband had drugged her to the state of unconsciousness and allowed her to be sexually abused by dozens of men for over a decade.
This is written by Caroline Darian’s, Gisele’s daughter. It will make you uncomfortable and cringe.
Gisele, the incredible brave woman she became, opted to make this a public trial rather than private. In doing so, she shifted the shame from the victim to the abuser.
Caroline is now an advocate. Calling attention to the violence being committed with the use of drugs to chemically subdue victims.
Both courageous women who have turned a private tragedy into a collective fight for justice. 5⭐️
Gisele Pelicot, is the woman whose husband had drugged her to the state of unconsciousness and allowed her to be sexually abused by dozens of men for over a decade.
This is written by Caroline Darian’s, Gisele’s daughter. It will make you uncomfortable and cringe.
Gisele, the incredible brave woman she became, opted to make this a public trial rather than private. In doing so, she shifted the shame from the victim to the abuser.
Caroline is now an advocate. Calling attention to the violence being committed with the use of drugs to chemically subdue victims.
Both courageous women who have turned a private tragedy into a collective fight for justice. 5⭐️
April 2, 2025
I've never been so angry while reading a book.
May all the men involved rot in all the levels of Hell, for all of eternity.
May all the men involved rot in all the levels of Hell, for all of eternity.
February 13, 2025
"Das Kind des Opfers und des Täters zu sein, ist eine schreckliche Last."
Mutter und Tochter - beide das Opfer der selben Person. Beide gehen völlig unterschiedlich damit um.
Dieser Bericht aus Sicht der Tochter, Caroline Darian, ist erschreckend. Er zeigt auf, was man in den Nachrichten eher nicht erfahren hat. Die Manipulationen des Vaters, das Trauma von Mutter und Tochter und die Scham. Die Scham, welche die Opfer nicht haben sollten!
Keine leichte Kost, aber (oder eher deswegen) ein sehr wichtiges Thema!
Mutter und Tochter - beide das Opfer der selben Person. Beide gehen völlig unterschiedlich damit um.
Dieser Bericht aus Sicht der Tochter, Caroline Darian, ist erschreckend. Er zeigt auf, was man in den Nachrichten eher nicht erfahren hat. Die Manipulationen des Vaters, das Trauma von Mutter und Tochter und die Scham. Die Scham, welche die Opfer nicht haben sollten!
Keine leichte Kost, aber (oder eher deswegen) ein sehr wichtiges Thema!
February 19, 2025
Ich habe den Fall in den Nachrichten verfolgt, habe mir von unterschiedlichen Journalist:innen Berichte durchgelesen, habe Podcasts gehört und dennoch wusste ich nichts.
Caroline Darian und ihre Mutter wurden beide Opfer von dem selben Mann: Vater und Ehemann.
Caroline führt Tagebuch, lässt uns tief ihre Emotionen blicken, die düster, schmerzhaft, hoffnungslos und zerbrechlich sind. Sie erzählt von ihrer Kindheit und kramt Erinnerungen hervor, die die Natur des Bösen beschreiben.
Ebenso spricht sie über den unterschiedlichen Trauer- und Verarbeitungsprozess von Mutter und Tochter und wie dieser ihre Beziehung fast zerstört hat.
Die Scham muss die Seite wechseln. Mädchen und Frauen müssen besser geschützt werden.
Caroline Darian und ihre Mutter wurden beide Opfer von dem selben Mann: Vater und Ehemann.
Caroline führt Tagebuch, lässt uns tief ihre Emotionen blicken, die düster, schmerzhaft, hoffnungslos und zerbrechlich sind. Sie erzählt von ihrer Kindheit und kramt Erinnerungen hervor, die die Natur des Bösen beschreiben.
Ebenso spricht sie über den unterschiedlichen Trauer- und Verarbeitungsprozess von Mutter und Tochter und wie dieser ihre Beziehung fast zerstört hat.
Die Scham muss die Seite wechseln. Mädchen und Frauen müssen besser geschützt werden.
January 25, 2025
No se como escribir esta reseña y describir lo que este libro me ha hecho sentir, primero agradecerle a Caroline Darian por su valentía para desnudar su alma ante nosotros, gente desconocida, debe ser muy difícil y se requiere de mucha fuerza para hacer algo como esto.
Si hay alguien en este planeta que no haya escuchado sobre el caso Pelicot, es que vive debajo de una piedra, ya me había sentido shockeada e indignada por todo lo que se supo (y fue mucho) cuando se dio a conocer la noticia y durante el juicio, la indignación creció cuando escuchabas a la abogada defensora de algunos acusados y peor cuando nos enteramos de las condenas, me parecieron tan pequeñas.
Caroline en este ejercicio de, creo yo, sanación a través de la escritura, nos relata no solo los hechos que por supuesto todos conocemos, si no, el desde dentro, como lo vivió la familia, pero sobre todo ella, aquí vemos como el mundo ordenado de una persona se cae a pedazos cada día y pasan los meses y pasan los años y siguen saliendo situaciones y se sigue enterando de cosas y más cosas, Caro nos hace ver como todo fue tan poco a poco y el dolor y la decepción y la vergüenza se van convirtiendo en todo eso que tienes que recoger para seguir con tu vida y buscar la manera de que esta situación se convierta en algo positivo, ella en su caso, comenzó a trabajar con asociaciones que ayudan a mujeres violentadas, trabaja para lograr un cambio en la legislación, para lograr que exista apoyo psicológico a la victimas por proceso, para que exista más información sobre la sumisión química, un problema que va más allá de que te echen algo en la bebida en algún bar.
Es un libro muy corto, que me he leído en unas cuantas horas pero que me ha movido todo, nosotros como espectadores conocimos a una Gisele que al menos en pantalla se veía fuerte, con la cara en alto, pero es que tuvo 4 años para poder digerir toda la situación y honestamente creo que aun hoy en día ella no ha terminado de digerir en su totalidad la situación.
Dominique Pelicot, ofreció a su mujer por más de 10 años a diferentes hombres, eso lo sabemos todos, pero los detalles que sus hijos y su mujer tuvieron que ver y escuchar, como él se refería a ella, como la ofrecía, las fotos que publicaba de ella, de su hija y de sus dos nueras, eso no fue todo.
En retrospectiva, como desgraciadamente casi siempre sucede, es cuando te das cuenta de todas las señales que ahí estaban y pasaste por alto, en retrospectiva es cuando señalas las faltas medicas por que un doctor no hizo las revisiones o estudios adecuados ante situaciones medicas extrañas, en retrospectiva se ven muchas cosas, pero eso no minimiza el trauma ni el dolor.
Este ha sido un caso muy mediático y si bien es importante que estas cosas se conozcan para que todo el mundo se concientice, también es verdad que dentro de todo eso esta una familia que ha sufrido una vejación tremenda y hay niños involucrados, hay seres humanos que se ven inmersos en una pesadilla que además es conocida por todo el mundo de manera literal.
No es una lectura sencilla, es doloroso para mi sigue siendo shockeante, saber que mas de 70 hombres participaron en violaciones, es que ¡carajo! son demasiados, ¿es que estamos rodeados de tantos depredadores? Para mi sigue siendo un tema difícil de digerir en su magnitud, la indignación es mucha y mi indignación ha crecido más aun leyendo este libro.
No se si puedo recomendar esta lectura, es bueno, si, es para todos, no, pero me parece un ejercicio que tenemos que hacer para la concientización de muchas cosas, para aprender a dejar de ver las señales solo en retrospectiva, dicen que nadie aprende en cabeza ajena, pero algo, quiero creer, que podemos agarrar para ver esas banderas rojas cuando salten.
Un abrazo a todas esas mujeres que de alguna u otra manera han sido dañadas, sin duda somos más fuertes de lo que cualquier hombre pueda siquiera imaginar, aunque creo que inconscientemente lo saben y por eso siguen haciendo estas cosas.
Si hay alguien en este planeta que no haya escuchado sobre el caso Pelicot, es que vive debajo de una piedra, ya me había sentido shockeada e indignada por todo lo que se supo (y fue mucho) cuando se dio a conocer la noticia y durante el juicio, la indignación creció cuando escuchabas a la abogada defensora de algunos acusados y peor cuando nos enteramos de las condenas, me parecieron tan pequeñas.
Caroline en este ejercicio de, creo yo, sanación a través de la escritura, nos relata no solo los hechos que por supuesto todos conocemos, si no, el desde dentro, como lo vivió la familia, pero sobre todo ella, aquí vemos como el mundo ordenado de una persona se cae a pedazos cada día y pasan los meses y pasan los años y siguen saliendo situaciones y se sigue enterando de cosas y más cosas, Caro nos hace ver como todo fue tan poco a poco y el dolor y la decepción y la vergüenza se van convirtiendo en todo eso que tienes que recoger para seguir con tu vida y buscar la manera de que esta situación se convierta en algo positivo, ella en su caso, comenzó a trabajar con asociaciones que ayudan a mujeres violentadas, trabaja para lograr un cambio en la legislación, para lograr que exista apoyo psicológico a la victimas por proceso, para que exista más información sobre la sumisión química, un problema que va más allá de que te echen algo en la bebida en algún bar.
Es un libro muy corto, que me he leído en unas cuantas horas pero que me ha movido todo, nosotros como espectadores conocimos a una Gisele que al menos en pantalla se veía fuerte, con la cara en alto, pero es que tuvo 4 años para poder digerir toda la situación y honestamente creo que aun hoy en día ella no ha terminado de digerir en su totalidad la situación.
Dominique Pelicot, ofreció a su mujer por más de 10 años a diferentes hombres, eso lo sabemos todos, pero los detalles que sus hijos y su mujer tuvieron que ver y escuchar, como él se refería a ella, como la ofrecía, las fotos que publicaba de ella, de su hija y de sus dos nueras, eso no fue todo.
En retrospectiva, como desgraciadamente casi siempre sucede, es cuando te das cuenta de todas las señales que ahí estaban y pasaste por alto, en retrospectiva es cuando señalas las faltas medicas por que un doctor no hizo las revisiones o estudios adecuados ante situaciones medicas extrañas, en retrospectiva se ven muchas cosas, pero eso no minimiza el trauma ni el dolor.
Este ha sido un caso muy mediático y si bien es importante que estas cosas se conozcan para que todo el mundo se concientice, también es verdad que dentro de todo eso esta una familia que ha sufrido una vejación tremenda y hay niños involucrados, hay seres humanos que se ven inmersos en una pesadilla que además es conocida por todo el mundo de manera literal.
No es una lectura sencilla, es doloroso para mi sigue siendo shockeante, saber que mas de 70 hombres participaron en violaciones, es que ¡carajo! son demasiados, ¿es que estamos rodeados de tantos depredadores? Para mi sigue siendo un tema difícil de digerir en su magnitud, la indignación es mucha y mi indignación ha crecido más aun leyendo este libro.
No se si puedo recomendar esta lectura, es bueno, si, es para todos, no, pero me parece un ejercicio que tenemos que hacer para la concientización de muchas cosas, para aprender a dejar de ver las señales solo en retrospectiva, dicen que nadie aprende en cabeza ajena, pero algo, quiero creer, que podemos agarrar para ver esas banderas rojas cuando salten.
Un abrazo a todas esas mujeres que de alguna u otra manera han sido dañadas, sin duda somos más fuertes de lo que cualquier hombre pueda siquiera imaginar, aunque creo que inconscientemente lo saben y por eso siguen haciendo estas cosas.
May 11, 2025
I was not familiar with the true crime rape cases against Dominique Pelicot in France. Pelicot drugged his wife, Gisele, over a nine-year period and solicited men to rape her while she was unconscious and while he watched and videotaped the rapes. Gisele was raped at least 92 times by no fewer than 72 men. The men ranged in age from their twenties to their seventies.
I'll Never Call Him Dad Again: Turning Our Family Trauma of Sexual Assault and Chemical Submission into a Collective Fight is the memoir of Pelicot's daughter, Caroline, as their family navigated the unexpected, horrific implosion of their lives. Caroline's writing style is raw and poignant while examining the depths of her father's depravity. Caroline is the founder of M'endors Pas (Stop Chemical Submission: Don't Put Me Under).
Caroline indicated two books that touched her deeply: Consent: A Memoir and The Familia Grande.
Pelicot's behaviors were demoniac, despicable and immoral which makes the content in this book horrific to read. However, it made me aware of rapes due to chemical submission; the large majority of these types of rapes are perpetrated by family members or friends.
I'll Never Call Him Dad Again: Turning Our Family Trauma of Sexual Assault and Chemical Submission into a Collective Fight is the memoir of Pelicot's daughter, Caroline, as their family navigated the unexpected, horrific implosion of their lives. Caroline's writing style is raw and poignant while examining the depths of her father's depravity. Caroline is the founder of M'endors Pas (Stop Chemical Submission: Don't Put Me Under).
Caroline indicated two books that touched her deeply: Consent: A Memoir and The Familia Grande.
Pelicot's behaviors were demoniac, despicable and immoral which makes the content in this book horrific to read. However, it made me aware of rapes due to chemical submission; the large majority of these types of rapes are perpetrated by family members or friends.
May 25, 2025
Der 2. November 2020 ändert im Leben von Caroline Darian alles: Sie erfährt von ihrer Mutter Gisèle Pelicot, dass Carolines Vater ihre Mutter über Jahre mit Medikamenten betäubt, sie im bewusstlosen Zustand selbst vergewaltigt und knapp 70 fremden Männern zugeführt hat. Tagebuchartig erzählt Darian von der Zeit nach dem Anruf ihrer Mutter, von den polizeilichen Ermittlungen, ihren Angstzuständen und den Monaten vor dem Prozess. Neben ihrer eigenen, so erschütternden Geschichte appelliert sie auch an die Gesellschaft, sich verstärkt mit chemischer Unterwerfung, also die Verabreichung von psychoaktiven Substanzen, um das Bewusstsein, die Entscheidungsfähigkeit oder die Wehrhaftigkeit einer Person zu beeinträchtigen, und dem Umgang mit Opfern partnerschaftlicher Gewalt auseinander zu setzen. Sie ist zu diesen Themen auch aktivistisch tätig.
Caroline Darians Leben ist innerhalb eines Wimpernschlags auseinander gebrochen: Da ist die Fassungslosigkeit über die Taten des Vaters, die Angst um die Mutter, deren gesundheitlicher Zustand sich durch die verabreichten Medikamente stark verschlechtert hat, der Umgang mit dem Sohn, der seinen Opa nie mehr wiedersehen wird und die eigene Ungewissheit, denn auch von ihr selbst gibt es verstörende Fotos, auf denen sie in ihr unbekannter Unterwäsche leblos und in seltsamer Körperstellung auf dem Bett liegt. "Und ich werde dich nie wieder Papa nennen" ist, trotz seiner Kürze, kein Buch, das sich leicht lesen lässt. Es ist ein schmerzhaftes Buch, das die Lesenden nicht wegsehen lässt und ein Plädoyer dafür, dass die Scham die Seiten wechselt - von den Opfern zu den Tätern.
Caroline Darians Leben ist innerhalb eines Wimpernschlags auseinander gebrochen: Da ist die Fassungslosigkeit über die Taten des Vaters, die Angst um die Mutter, deren gesundheitlicher Zustand sich durch die verabreichten Medikamente stark verschlechtert hat, der Umgang mit dem Sohn, der seinen Opa nie mehr wiedersehen wird und die eigene Ungewissheit, denn auch von ihr selbst gibt es verstörende Fotos, auf denen sie in ihr unbekannter Unterwäsche leblos und in seltsamer Körperstellung auf dem Bett liegt. "Und ich werde dich nie wieder Papa nennen" ist, trotz seiner Kürze, kein Buch, das sich leicht lesen lässt. Es ist ein schmerzhaftes Buch, das die Lesenden nicht wegsehen lässt und ein Plädoyer dafür, dass die Scham die Seiten wechselt - von den Opfern zu den Tätern.
September 6, 2024
Dans le cadre du procès qui se déroule actuellement aux assises d’Avignon, je voulais me rapprocher directement de la source : c’est-à-dire des mots des concernés. Il n’y a pas de note à donner à proprement parler : il ne s’agit ps d’une saga, d’un bon roman russe ou d’une comédie marrante. Il s’agit du destin de plusieurs femmes qui se sont vus abusés par un homme, lâche, mesquin, méphistophélique…
Le sujet des victimes collatérales y est beaucoup abordé.
Un grand soutien à ces vaillantes, nous sommes derrières vous, nous vous soutenons. Ne lâchez rien, vous êtes des immenses reines dans ce monde de lâche.
Ce livre est marqué par la douleur, le deuil, mais aussi la prévention : faites des test, et n’ayez confiance en personne.
Le sujet des victimes collatérales y est beaucoup abordé.
Un grand soutien à ces vaillantes, nous sommes derrières vous, nous vous soutenons. Ne lâchez rien, vous êtes des immenses reines dans ce monde de lâche.
Ce livre est marqué par la douleur, le deuil, mais aussi la prévention : faites des test, et n’ayez confiance en personne.
March 10, 2025
Pequena nota: estes livros de relatos mais íntimos e pessoais são um bocadinho difíceis de estrelar, no entanto, o meu cérebro não lida bem com livros sem estrelinhas. Daí este livro merecer 5 estrelas, não por ser um portento da literatura, mas pelo seu papel de alerta para estas temáticas que afetam sobretudo o sexo feminino.
Quem é realmente o meu pai? Onde está o homem que um dia me deu mimos? Onde está o homem que me levou à escola, que me encorajou nas minhas actividades desportivas, nos meus estudos, nos meus projectos e, mais tarde, nas minhas escolhas profissionais?
O homem que cuidava dos netos, brincava com eles, parecia realizado com a vida familiar? Como é que alguém pode ter uma vida dupla e enganar toda a gente durante tantos anos?
Em 2 de Novembro de 2020, Dominique Pelicot foi preso. Tinha sido apanhado a filmar por baixo das saias de três mulheres num supermercado. Após investigações, veio a lume o caso Pelicot e todas as monstruosidades que este homem, através da submissão química da esposa, perpetrou. Acho que nem na pior ficção há um caso tão sórdido como este.
Neste livro, a filha de Giséle Pelicot deixa o seu testemunho de como foram os dias da família desde o dia em que receberam o telefonema da polícia, até ao dia 28 de Novembro de 2021, ainda antes do início do julgamento.
É um testemunho importante para alertar, sobretudo as mulheres, mas também os profissionais de saúde, para uma realidade que existe e que não é muito conhecida, a submissão química. Muitas vezes os abusadores/violadores não são pessoas de fora ou desconhecidos. São membros da família e, por terem essa relação de confiança, são ainda mais difíceis de apanhar.
Quem é realmente o meu pai? Onde está o homem que um dia me deu mimos? Onde está o homem que me levou à escola, que me encorajou nas minhas actividades desportivas, nos meus estudos, nos meus projectos e, mais tarde, nas minhas escolhas profissionais?
O homem que cuidava dos netos, brincava com eles, parecia realizado com a vida familiar? Como é que alguém pode ter uma vida dupla e enganar toda a gente durante tantos anos?
Em 2 de Novembro de 2020, Dominique Pelicot foi preso. Tinha sido apanhado a filmar por baixo das saias de três mulheres num supermercado. Após investigações, veio a lume o caso Pelicot e todas as monstruosidades que este homem, através da submissão química da esposa, perpetrou. Acho que nem na pior ficção há um caso tão sórdido como este.
Neste livro, a filha de Giséle Pelicot deixa o seu testemunho de como foram os dias da família desde o dia em que receberam o telefonema da polícia, até ao dia 28 de Novembro de 2021, ainda antes do início do julgamento.
É um testemunho importante para alertar, sobretudo as mulheres, mas também os profissionais de saúde, para uma realidade que existe e que não é muito conhecida, a submissão química. Muitas vezes os abusadores/violadores não são pessoas de fora ou desconhecidos. São membros da família e, por terem essa relação de confiança, são ainda mais difíceis de apanhar.
February 21, 2025
In Und ich werde dich nie wieder Papa nennen entfaltet Caroline Darian die schockierende Wahrheit über ihre Kindheit, die so sorgfältig hinter einer Fassade aus Liebe und Sicherheit verborgen war. Die Geschichte beginnt in der Unschuld eines Mädchens, das an die Unbeschwertheit des Lebens glaubt, bis sie eines Tages mit der grausamen Realität konfrontiert wird: Ihr Vater, Dominique Pelicot, ein Psychiater, hat über Jahre hinweg seine Frau, Gisèle, betäubt und sie Dutzenden fremden Männern ausgeliefert.
Es ist eine Reise in die Dunkelheit, die Darian unerschrocken beschreibt. Der Verlust des Vertrauens in einen Vater, der stets als Beschützer galt, ist ein tiefer Schnitt, der in die Seele schneidet. Wie kann man den Mann, der einem das Leben geschenkt hat, plötzlich als Täter erkennen? Caroline schildert den Moment der Erkenntnis, als der Name „Papa“ seine Bedeutung verliert und zu einem Begriff des Schmerzes wird.
Die Mutter, Gisèle, wird zu einer tragischen Figur, deren Leben von Manipulation und Missbrauch geprägt ist. Betäubt und gefangen in einem System von Kontrolle, kämpft sie darum, ihre Identität zurückzugewinnen, während die Schatten ihres Ehemanns über ihr lasten. Caroline beschreibt die Zerrissenheit ihrer Mutter, die zwischen Liebe und Überlebenswillen pendelt, und schafft ein eindringliches Bild von einer Frau, die den Kampf um ihre Würde antritt.
In Darian’s Erzählung verschwimmt die Grenze zwischen Kindheit und Erwachsensein. Die kindliche Unschuld, die einst in der Wärme der Familie lebte, wird brutal erschüttert. Caroline muss sich den Fragen stellen, die so oft ungesagt bleiben: Was geschah in den geschützten Wänden ihres Zuhauses? Wie lebt man mit einer Wahrheit, die so erschütternd ist, dass sie das Fundament des Lebens in Frage stellt?
Darian nutzt ihre Stimme, um nicht nur ihre persönliche Geschichte zu erzählen, sondern auch um eine gesellschaftliche Debatte über Missbrauch und das Schweigen darüber anzustoßen. Sie fordert dazu auf, die Augen für die oft unsichtbaren Wunden zu öffnen, die in der Dunkelheit gedeihen. Ihre Worte sind ein eindringlicher Appell an uns alle, nicht wegzusehen, sondern hinzuschauen und zuzuhören.
*Und ich werde dich nie wieder Papa nennen* ist ein kraftvolles und mutiges Buch, das uns zwingt, uns mit der Realität des Missbrauchs auseinanderzusetzen. Caroline Darian gibt den Stimmen der Opfer eine Plattform und erinnert uns daran, dass die Auseinandersetzung mit der eigenen Vergangenheit der erste Schritt zur Heilung ist. Ihre Geschichte ist ein Aufruf zur Empathie und ein eindringlicher Appell, die Wahrheit zu sprechen und die Geschichten derjenigen, die oft im Schatten bleiben, sichtbar zu machen.
Es ist eine Reise in die Dunkelheit, die Darian unerschrocken beschreibt. Der Verlust des Vertrauens in einen Vater, der stets als Beschützer galt, ist ein tiefer Schnitt, der in die Seele schneidet. Wie kann man den Mann, der einem das Leben geschenkt hat, plötzlich als Täter erkennen? Caroline schildert den Moment der Erkenntnis, als der Name „Papa“ seine Bedeutung verliert und zu einem Begriff des Schmerzes wird.
Die Mutter, Gisèle, wird zu einer tragischen Figur, deren Leben von Manipulation und Missbrauch geprägt ist. Betäubt und gefangen in einem System von Kontrolle, kämpft sie darum, ihre Identität zurückzugewinnen, während die Schatten ihres Ehemanns über ihr lasten. Caroline beschreibt die Zerrissenheit ihrer Mutter, die zwischen Liebe und Überlebenswillen pendelt, und schafft ein eindringliches Bild von einer Frau, die den Kampf um ihre Würde antritt.
In Darian’s Erzählung verschwimmt die Grenze zwischen Kindheit und Erwachsensein. Die kindliche Unschuld, die einst in der Wärme der Familie lebte, wird brutal erschüttert. Caroline muss sich den Fragen stellen, die so oft ungesagt bleiben: Was geschah in den geschützten Wänden ihres Zuhauses? Wie lebt man mit einer Wahrheit, die so erschütternd ist, dass sie das Fundament des Lebens in Frage stellt?
Darian nutzt ihre Stimme, um nicht nur ihre persönliche Geschichte zu erzählen, sondern auch um eine gesellschaftliche Debatte über Missbrauch und das Schweigen darüber anzustoßen. Sie fordert dazu auf, die Augen für die oft unsichtbaren Wunden zu öffnen, die in der Dunkelheit gedeihen. Ihre Worte sind ein eindringlicher Appell an uns alle, nicht wegzusehen, sondern hinzuschauen und zuzuhören.
*Und ich werde dich nie wieder Papa nennen* ist ein kraftvolles und mutiges Buch, das uns zwingt, uns mit der Realität des Missbrauchs auseinanderzusetzen. Caroline Darian gibt den Stimmen der Opfer eine Plattform und erinnert uns daran, dass die Auseinandersetzung mit der eigenen Vergangenheit der erste Schritt zur Heilung ist. Ihre Geschichte ist ein Aufruf zur Empathie und ein eindringlicher Appell, die Wahrheit zu sprechen und die Geschichten derjenigen, die oft im Schatten bleiben, sichtbar zu machen.
September 18, 2024
A few years ago when covid was still relatively new, I remember reading a terrible story in the news. A retired man had drugged his wife for 10 years, met men online and asked them to rape his wife. He filmed all of this. Almost a hundred men raped his wife and they are from all walks of life: aged twenties to seventies, single, married, young fathers, retired, a pharmacist, a journalist, a firefighter, a HIV-positive man. His wife thought she had Alzheimer and didn’t know what was happening to her body. Now the case is on trial and we have this book.
This book is written by the daughter Caroline. She describes how their family is destroyed. Her son lost his grandfather. Her mother struggles to accept reality. Caroline herself found photos of herself being drugged and struggles with the possibility of what happened. Her father took nude photos of his daughters-in-law too. Her brothers have a strained relationship. There's no going back. How can each of them process all of this pain? The father presented himself like a good man, but he was lying all this time (his background story is messed up, especially how his own father married and abused his foster sister/mother). This book was so engrossing. I feel the pain of the author and I think it's very important that she wrote this story down. The utter evilness and disrespect towards women are horrific. But it's unfortunately a reality and I applaud the author for raising awareness about date rape drugs and that the perpetrators can be the ones we suspect the least. What stood out for me the most was her painful description of how her mother struggled to accept the fact that her husband drugged her and allowed so many men to rape her. Even after seeing the photos of her own daughter drugged and almost naked in bed, the mother still thought about sending her husband in prison some warm clothes. This is so heart-breaking. The psychological struggles are real. Can one even heal from such a betrayal?
"Je m'inquiète pour la santé mentale de ma mère. Elle ne semble pas se rendre compte du machiavélisme de mon père. Ni avoir conscience de tout ce qu'il lui a fait subir durant des années. Selon moi, ma mère vit un forme de déni, même si elle n'est plus en contact avec lui depuis un an. D'une certaine manière, elle a encore de l'estime pour lui et préfère garder intact le souvenir d'un homme aimant, avec une forme de morale. Elle ne parient pas à accepter la réalité, à admettre que mon père l'a dangereusement et volontairement manipulée pour l'avilir. Car si elle reconnaissait la vraie nature de son mari, elle s'effondrerait sur-le-champ. Bien entendu, cela complique terriblement notre relation. Son chemin vers l'acceptation - puis la reconstruction - sera long et difficile. C'est très pénible pour moi de la savoir si éloignée de la réalité."
This book is written by the daughter Caroline. She describes how their family is destroyed. Her son lost his grandfather. Her mother struggles to accept reality. Caroline herself found photos of herself being drugged and struggles with the possibility of what happened. Her father took nude photos of his daughters-in-law too. Her brothers have a strained relationship. There's no going back. How can each of them process all of this pain? The father presented himself like a good man, but he was lying all this time (his background story is messed up, especially how his own father married and abused his foster sister/mother). This book was so engrossing. I feel the pain of the author and I think it's very important that she wrote this story down. The utter evilness and disrespect towards women are horrific. But it's unfortunately a reality and I applaud the author for raising awareness about date rape drugs and that the perpetrators can be the ones we suspect the least. What stood out for me the most was her painful description of how her mother struggled to accept the fact that her husband drugged her and allowed so many men to rape her. Even after seeing the photos of her own daughter drugged and almost naked in bed, the mother still thought about sending her husband in prison some warm clothes. This is so heart-breaking. The psychological struggles are real. Can one even heal from such a betrayal?
"Je m'inquiète pour la santé mentale de ma mère. Elle ne semble pas se rendre compte du machiavélisme de mon père. Ni avoir conscience de tout ce qu'il lui a fait subir durant des années. Selon moi, ma mère vit un forme de déni, même si elle n'est plus en contact avec lui depuis un an. D'une certaine manière, elle a encore de l'estime pour lui et préfère garder intact le souvenir d'un homme aimant, avec une forme de morale. Elle ne parient pas à accepter la réalité, à admettre que mon père l'a dangereusement et volontairement manipulée pour l'avilir. Car si elle reconnaissait la vraie nature de son mari, elle s'effondrerait sur-le-champ. Bien entendu, cela complique terriblement notre relation. Son chemin vers l'acceptation - puis la reconstruction - sera long et difficile. C'est très pénible pour moi de la savoir si éloignée de la réalité."
July 23, 2024
Je me suis d'abord un peu étonnée de cette fin plutôt abrupte. Puis, je me suis souvenue que bien que ce livre se finisse pour nous, le cauchemar continue pour cette famille, pour les victimes de ces faits.
Caroline Darian dévoile une partie de son histoire sous forme de journal, à l'aide d'une écriture simple, poignante et véritable.
J'espère que justice sera entièrement rendue pour toutes les personnes victimes. Et aussi que ces dernières parviendront sur leur chemin à retrouver un semblant de paix et de bonheur, loin de cette terrible affaire.
Caroline Darian dévoile une partie de son histoire sous forme de journal, à l'aide d'une écriture simple, poignante et véritable.
J'espère que justice sera entièrement rendue pour toutes les personnes victimes. Et aussi que ces dernières parviendront sur leur chemin à retrouver un semblant de paix et de bonheur, loin de cette terrible affaire.
February 2, 2025
Me ha estremecido e impresionado tanto que me lo he leído del tirón porque, a pesar de que la mente me pedía un descanso, al mismo tiempo no podía dejar de leer. El testimonio de la hija de Dominique y Gisèle Pelicot y las eternas incógnitas con las que tiene que vivir plantea tantos dilemas vitales que hace falta un tiempo para asumir la lectura.
June 13, 2025
I’m writing this late at night because I want to put it behind me, something that the author and her family unfortunately can never do.
The content in here is horrific. It will affect you deeply. It’s hard to stomach. I can’t imagine finding out that your father drugged and raped your mother and facilitated dozens and dozens of rapes by at least SEVENTY TWO men over a ten year span.
Gisele Pelicot, Caroline Darian’s mother, is unbelievably courageous, choosing to make the trial public, to bring to light the existence of chemical submission and how it is a lot more prevalent than you might think. Gisele showed serious signs of trauma over the years—memory problems, passing out, oversleeping, losing clumps of hair, losing weight—and yet none of the many doctors she consulted ever suspected the true reason for her health problems. Her husband had the gall to go with her to all appointments, including OBGYN visits!
I took a break about 2/3 of the way through to walk my dog, and I was constantly on edge throughout, hyper aware of my surroundings and almost feeling a sense of impending doom. It was this book; I know it. Once you learn that those who appear to be perfectly good family men are in fact capable of committing despicable crimes—it becomes very difficult to trust males. I speak from experience—last year some shocking revelations were uncovered about some relatives, and what had always appeared to be THE perfect family was decidedly not. It’s a betrayal of the highest order. The crimes in my extended family are absolutely horrible, but still do not come close to the depravity manifested by Gisele’s husband (I refuse to name him), and yet I find myself still traumatized—I can’t imagine what it will take for Gisele and her children and grandchildren to heal. I think Ms. Darian’s memoir was a way for her to work through her trauma, and I applaud her bravery in having such intimate, raw details published. She is now active in spreading the word about chemical submission and helping victims of abuse to find and receive the help they so desperately need.
I applaud Caroline and Gisele. Ask yourself if you would be brave enough to publicize your trauma to the world. I bet even the ones who answer in the affirmative would hesitate to do so, when it came right down to it. Their bravery cannot be overstated. Thank you, Ms. Darian, for publishing this and helping others to know that people are not only drugged at clubs, but that it’s most often closer to home, by the ones who are supposed to love you the most. Thank you for helping others to realize that they are not alone.
My thanks to NetGalley and Sourcebooks for the eARC. All opinions are mine alone.
***I do want to mention that although the content is highly disturbing, there is nothing extremely explicit in here. You’ll find those details more in news articles, should you choose to do some research (no, thanks). It does mention some scenes and photos a few times. Exercise caution with reading age.
The content in here is horrific. It will affect you deeply. It’s hard to stomach. I can’t imagine finding out that your father drugged and raped your mother and facilitated dozens and dozens of rapes by at least SEVENTY TWO men over a ten year span.
Gisele Pelicot, Caroline Darian’s mother, is unbelievably courageous, choosing to make the trial public, to bring to light the existence of chemical submission and how it is a lot more prevalent than you might think. Gisele showed serious signs of trauma over the years—memory problems, passing out, oversleeping, losing clumps of hair, losing weight—and yet none of the many doctors she consulted ever suspected the true reason for her health problems. Her husband had the gall to go with her to all appointments, including OBGYN visits!
I took a break about 2/3 of the way through to walk my dog, and I was constantly on edge throughout, hyper aware of my surroundings and almost feeling a sense of impending doom. It was this book; I know it. Once you learn that those who appear to be perfectly good family men are in fact capable of committing despicable crimes—it becomes very difficult to trust males. I speak from experience—last year some shocking revelations were uncovered about some relatives, and what had always appeared to be THE perfect family was decidedly not. It’s a betrayal of the highest order. The crimes in my extended family are absolutely horrible, but still do not come close to the depravity manifested by Gisele’s husband (I refuse to name him), and yet I find myself still traumatized—I can’t imagine what it will take for Gisele and her children and grandchildren to heal. I think Ms. Darian’s memoir was a way for her to work through her trauma, and I applaud her bravery in having such intimate, raw details published. She is now active in spreading the word about chemical submission and helping victims of abuse to find and receive the help they so desperately need.
I applaud Caroline and Gisele. Ask yourself if you would be brave enough to publicize your trauma to the world. I bet even the ones who answer in the affirmative would hesitate to do so, when it came right down to it. Their bravery cannot be overstated. Thank you, Ms. Darian, for publishing this and helping others to know that people are not only drugged at clubs, but that it’s most often closer to home, by the ones who are supposed to love you the most. Thank you for helping others to realize that they are not alone.
My thanks to NetGalley and Sourcebooks for the eARC. All opinions are mine alone.
***I do want to mention that although the content is highly disturbing, there is nothing extremely explicit in here. You’ll find those details more in news articles, should you choose to do some research (no, thanks). It does mention some scenes and photos a few times. Exercise caution with reading age.
April 18, 2025
Uffffffffff
Al cabrón solo le dieron 20 años de prisión
Escabroso
Buenísimo
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April 15, 2025Men better never speak to me ever again.
May 26, 2025
harrowing read of sexual abuse by chemical means of a case in France which is till going through the court system
September 8, 2024
Un témoignage tellement courageux et important aujourd’hui…
J’espère que ce criminel paiera pour ce qu’il a fait, ainsi que tous les violeurs.
J’espère que ce criminel paiera pour ce qu’il a fait, ainsi que tous les violeurs.
August 12, 2025
5 Stars = It made a significant impact.
There are truly horrible people walking this earth. Even though I have been reading true crime for at least 50 years, the depravity of mankind still stuns me. There is apparently no limit to how low humans can go, and the depth of their cruelty seems limitless.
There are truly horrible people walking this earth. Even though I have been reading true crime for at least 50 years, the depravity of mankind still stuns me. There is apparently no limit to how low humans can go, and the depth of their cruelty seems limitless.
April 27, 2025
I think we’ve all been horrified when discovering the story of how Gisele Pelicot was abused by her husband… it’s just unimaginable. I was reluctant to read this book by their daughter, Caroline Darian. Partly because of the horrible crimes it would be talking about, but because it felt icky and voyeuristic. Yet you can’t help but be drawn to the strength Gisele has shown in bringing this out in the open.
The book is short; the audiobook being 3-1/2 hrs (at 1.25). It was the appropriate length. It detailed how it began with him being arrested for photographing two women in shops (up their skirts), but then how the case evolved as details were discovered on his phone and computer. It told how the images in the photos also helped show the timeline for how long this terrible violation had occurred. And how traumatized Caroline has been to discover unknown photos of herself.
While the book certainly includes details, its real focus is how something like this impacts the family. While we all respect Gisele Pelicot for her bravery in choosing to make this public, this book is about their challenges leading up to the trial and how they all struggled to reconcile this new evil man with the one they thought they knew. How the family was splintered at times, and how this man would reach out from prison to play sick games and try to garner sympathy.
Both mother and daughter are fighting to bring this issue of chemical submission into the light and to “bravely transform their private trauma into a collective fight”.
The book is short; the audiobook being 3-1/2 hrs (at 1.25). It was the appropriate length. It detailed how it began with him being arrested for photographing two women in shops (up their skirts), but then how the case evolved as details were discovered on his phone and computer. It told how the images in the photos also helped show the timeline for how long this terrible violation had occurred. And how traumatized Caroline has been to discover unknown photos of herself.
While the book certainly includes details, its real focus is how something like this impacts the family. While we all respect Gisele Pelicot for her bravery in choosing to make this public, this book is about their challenges leading up to the trial and how they all struggled to reconcile this new evil man with the one they thought they knew. How the family was splintered at times, and how this man would reach out from prison to play sick games and try to garner sympathy.
Both mother and daughter are fighting to bring this issue of chemical submission into the light and to “bravely transform their private trauma into a collective fight”.
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January 17, 2025keine Bewertung.
Glaubt und schützt endlich Frauen.
Glaubt und schützt endlich Frauen.
January 28, 2025
würde das buch gerne empfehlen, leider gibt es aber ein paar stellen die mich so sehr stören, dass ich es nicht anders bewerten kann:
caroline darian wertet hierin selbst frauen ab („verkleidet sie wie eine billige prostituierte“???), reproduziert rassismus und auch die übersetzerinnen haben es nicht geschafft die selbstbezeichnug schwarzer menschen zu nutzen
ich werde nie verstehen, wie dein job „sprache“ sein kann und du selbst das nicht hinbekommst…
caroline darian wertet hierin selbst frauen ab („verkleidet sie wie eine billige prostituierte“???), reproduziert rassismus und auch die übersetzerinnen haben es nicht geschafft die selbstbezeichnug schwarzer menschen zu nutzen
ich werde nie verstehen, wie dein job „sprache“ sein kann und du selbst das nicht hinbekommst…
March 28, 2025
Den Pelicot-Prozess habe ich nur am Rande mitbekommen. Bewusst wollte ich damals nicht nur Nachrichten-Headlines aufschnappen und hoffte, dass ein Buch dazu erscheinen wird. Dieses hat Caroline Darian (die Tochter von Gisèle Pelicot) im Tagebuchformat veröffentlicht. Gelesen habe ich es in zwei Stunden. Absolute Erschütterung und Fassungslosigkeit - viel mehr bleibt mir gar nicht zu sagen. Ausser dass ich sehr grossen Respekt gegenüber der Familie habe und ihnen dankbar bin, dass sie offen über die Geschehnisse sprechen. Lesen!
February 11, 2025
lo leí en una sentada, no sé qué sentir además de rabia, impotencia y mucho asco; un caso reconocidísimo ya a nivel mundial, tristemente, desde el momento en que comenzó la investigación; cómo se destruye una familia desde lo más profundo e interno. solo puedo sentir admiración por la fortaleza de estas mujeres.
April 20, 2025
Einfach nur erschütternd....
February 28, 2025
“My mother is guilty of nothing, and has nothing to be ashamed about. The same is true for every other victim out there. Faced with the unthinkable, the unbearable, we must fight back.”
Wow. Just wow. I think the courage needed to write such a book deserves 5 stars by itself. I, like hundreds of thousands of people across the world, followed the court case quite closely and was blown away by the courage and strength of Gisèle and her family. Nothing I can say really seems to give justice to the incredible woman that she is and the incredibly brave and vulnerable thing she has done, not just for herself but for all rape and sexual assault survivors.
The work that Caroline continues to do will be invaluable to sufferers of sexual violence and abuse and I have to commend her for standing up and pushing for change in the face of such horrific acts toward her and her family. Both her and Gisèle are just incredible women.
Her story is not just about seeking justice - rather it’s about redefining what it means to fight back. For years she endured unimaginable trauma at the hands of men who tried their damned hardest to break her and yet she refused to let them silence her by speaking out in such an open way.
Gisèle’s decision to come forward was an act of immense bravery. In doing so, she shattered the silence that so often surrounds sexual violence. She has reminded us all that breaking the silence is the first step to breaking the cycle of abuse.
Her courage is a reminder to survivors everywhere: your voice matters, and your story deserves to be heard.
Gisèle’s story has united women around the world. Her bravery has sparked conversations about sexual violence, systemic injustice, & the need for change. She has reminded us of the power of solidarity—how, when we stand together, we can challenge even the most entrenched systems of oppression.
Gisèle Pelicot is a trailblazer. She’s given a voice to those who feel voiceless & courage to those who feel powerless. Her fight is a fight for all women—for a world where survivors are believed, perpetrators are held accountable & justice is not the exception.
The victory is hers, yes, and my gosh does she deserve it. But it’s also a victory for every survivor who has been told that their voice doesn’t matter. Because she has shown us all that they absolutely do!
Wow. Just wow. I think the courage needed to write such a book deserves 5 stars by itself. I, like hundreds of thousands of people across the world, followed the court case quite closely and was blown away by the courage and strength of Gisèle and her family. Nothing I can say really seems to give justice to the incredible woman that she is and the incredibly brave and vulnerable thing she has done, not just for herself but for all rape and sexual assault survivors.
The work that Caroline continues to do will be invaluable to sufferers of sexual violence and abuse and I have to commend her for standing up and pushing for change in the face of such horrific acts toward her and her family. Both her and Gisèle are just incredible women.
Her story is not just about seeking justice - rather it’s about redefining what it means to fight back. For years she endured unimaginable trauma at the hands of men who tried their damned hardest to break her and yet she refused to let them silence her by speaking out in such an open way.
Gisèle’s decision to come forward was an act of immense bravery. In doing so, she shattered the silence that so often surrounds sexual violence. She has reminded us all that breaking the silence is the first step to breaking the cycle of abuse.
Her courage is a reminder to survivors everywhere: your voice matters, and your story deserves to be heard.
Gisèle’s story has united women around the world. Her bravery has sparked conversations about sexual violence, systemic injustice, & the need for change. She has reminded us of the power of solidarity—how, when we stand together, we can challenge even the most entrenched systems of oppression.
Gisèle Pelicot is a trailblazer. She’s given a voice to those who feel voiceless & courage to those who feel powerless. Her fight is a fight for all women—for a world where survivors are believed, perpetrators are held accountable & justice is not the exception.
The victory is hers, yes, and my gosh does she deserve it. But it’s also a victory for every survivor who has been told that their voice doesn’t matter. Because she has shown us all that they absolutely do!
May 11, 2025
This is the story of that horrific sexual abuse story in France where a husband drugged his wife for years, while he invited other men to rape her while he filmed and photographed it. The daughter wrote this story that describes the days following the call from the police that her father had been arrested for this unthinkable behavior. Women around the world have thought that her courage in going completely public with this story is absolutely heroic. Obviously, the daughter is as courageous as her mother.
April 20, 2025
Un libro muy doloroso.
Gracias por contar tu historia Caroline.
Gracias por contar tu historia Caroline.
November 29, 2024
Dans le livre les plus difficiles à lire au niveau émotionnel que j'ai lu, il fallait que je prenne des pauses de lecture assez régulièrement parce qu'on n'épargne pas les détails, la description des photos et vidéos, etc. C'est un coup de poing de lecture très semblable à La Boîte noire pour moi.
J'avais réservé ce livre il y a déjà plusieurs mois à la BAnQ, bien que le procès des viols de Mazan est en cours en ce moment et concerne le "père" biologique de Caroline Darian et c'est une histoire plutôt parallèle à ce qu'on entend dans les journaux, à part l'ampleur gigantesque des plusieurs centaines de viols de Dominique Pelicot et de la cinquantaine de co-accusés, il y a les descriptions de comment cet homme a manipulé sa famille, les a gaslighté pendant près d'une décennie, a continuer à essayer de faire sentir coupable une partie de sa famille même après son incarcération, etc. Tout ça a travers le récit de Darian qui, dans ce récit, explique aussi avoir été droguée, photographiée et filmée à son insu plusieurs fois sans jamais, comme sa mère, se douter de l'avoir été.
C'est absolument renversant d'apprendre cette histoire, d'en être victime, et Caroline Darian réussit à montrer comment cet agresseur pouvait s'en tirer aussi facilement, sans avoir jamais été soupçonné, grâce aux mensonges, à un système médical qui aurait définitivement pu creuser la question et croire un peu plus les femmes, mais aussi la méconnaissance de la soumission chimique, les pensées que ces situations n'arrivent jamais dans nos familles (alors c'est la toujours la majorité des agressions qui sont commis par des proches), etc.
Il y a aussi le courage de Darian de non seulement affronter ces épreuves, ces examens, ce procès, etc. (bien entourée heureusement!), mais le travail qu'elle fera par la suite pour sensibiliser la population et son implication dans la fondation de maison de femmes par la suite. Ça en prend vraiment beaucoup pour faire tout ça.
J'avais réservé ce livre il y a déjà plusieurs mois à la BAnQ, bien que le procès des viols de Mazan est en cours en ce moment et concerne le "père" biologique de Caroline Darian et c'est une histoire plutôt parallèle à ce qu'on entend dans les journaux, à part l'ampleur gigantesque des plusieurs centaines de viols de Dominique Pelicot et de la cinquantaine de co-accusés, il y a les descriptions de comment cet homme a manipulé sa famille, les a gaslighté pendant près d'une décennie, a continuer à essayer de faire sentir coupable une partie de sa famille même après son incarcération, etc. Tout ça a travers le récit de Darian qui, dans ce récit, explique aussi avoir été droguée, photographiée et filmée à son insu plusieurs fois sans jamais, comme sa mère, se douter de l'avoir été.
C'est absolument renversant d'apprendre cette histoire, d'en être victime, et Caroline Darian réussit à montrer comment cet agresseur pouvait s'en tirer aussi facilement, sans avoir jamais été soupçonné, grâce aux mensonges, à un système médical qui aurait définitivement pu creuser la question et croire un peu plus les femmes, mais aussi la méconnaissance de la soumission chimique, les pensées que ces situations n'arrivent jamais dans nos familles (alors c'est la toujours la majorité des agressions qui sont commis par des proches), etc.
Il y a aussi le courage de Darian de non seulement affronter ces épreuves, ces examens, ce procès, etc. (bien entourée heureusement!), mais le travail qu'elle fera par la suite pour sensibiliser la population et son implication dans la fondation de maison de femmes par la suite. Ça en prend vraiment beaucoup pour faire tout ça.
April 23, 2025
Con el juicio histórico, en vista pública contra Dominique y sus colaboradores necesarios,se ha conseguido que la vergüenza cambie de lado.
Lo que le ocurrió a Gisèle Pelicot en el ámbito doméstico ,cambio su vida,la su hija y el resto de familia.
Caroline Darian,en un acto terapéutico y de forma generosa ,narra su testimonio en forma de diario.
Comienza cuando reciben esa primera llamada y se van descubriendo cosas terribles.
Quiero destacar que este libro hace que un drama personal y de una familia ,se extrapole y se transforme en una lucha colectiva.
Pone de manifiesto la necesidad de hacer cambios en el sistema judicial ,que deberían ir de la mano con la asistencia sanitaria y psicológica.
Me parece increíble como han podido declarar,ver fotos,videos...y tener que irse a casa devastadas,con cero ayuda.
La atención psiquiátrica no es adecuada en muchas ocasiones y tenemos claro que estás mujeres huyen del la medicación como del diablo después de lo sufrido.
Falta de protocolos y de personal cualificado.
La sumisión química queridos está al alcance de nuestros botiquines y lo que hizo Dominique fue terrible...pero no fue él solo...como pueden existir tantos deprabados,todos unidos por internet?.
Caroline me has emocionado,me he sentido orgullosa como mujer por tú fuerza y tú generosidad.
He leído reseñas del tipo,"me gustó,pero no lo recomiendo a cualquiera"... Perdón?.
Uno no puede mantenerse en el confort de la ignorancia y ante todo, "Y dejé de llamarte papá", es un testimonio que habla sobre una lacra social que desconocemos.
El sistema judicial y sanitario necesita formarse y evolucionar.
Si,por suerte algunos lectores empáticos quedan y el corazón se te va encogiendo con la lectura.
Pero la narrativa es aséptica,no se recrea en el dolor ,en la tragedia o en lo escabroso.
He leído las noticias de hace unos días y visto las nuevas acusaciones e investigaciones sobre jóvenes agentes inmobiliarias.
Poner freno a esta lacra social contemporánea es urgente.
Lo que le ocurrió a Gisèle Pelicot en el ámbito doméstico ,cambio su vida,la su hija y el resto de familia.
Caroline Darian,en un acto terapéutico y de forma generosa ,narra su testimonio en forma de diario.
Comienza cuando reciben esa primera llamada y se van descubriendo cosas terribles.
Quiero destacar que este libro hace que un drama personal y de una familia ,se extrapole y se transforme en una lucha colectiva.
Pone de manifiesto la necesidad de hacer cambios en el sistema judicial ,que deberían ir de la mano con la asistencia sanitaria y psicológica.
Me parece increíble como han podido declarar,ver fotos,videos...y tener que irse a casa devastadas,con cero ayuda.
La atención psiquiátrica no es adecuada en muchas ocasiones y tenemos claro que estás mujeres huyen del la medicación como del diablo después de lo sufrido.
Falta de protocolos y de personal cualificado.
La sumisión química queridos está al alcance de nuestros botiquines y lo que hizo Dominique fue terrible...pero no fue él solo...como pueden existir tantos deprabados,todos unidos por internet?.
Caroline me has emocionado,me he sentido orgullosa como mujer por tú fuerza y tú generosidad.
He leído reseñas del tipo,"me gustó,pero no lo recomiendo a cualquiera"... Perdón?.
Uno no puede mantenerse en el confort de la ignorancia y ante todo, "Y dejé de llamarte papá", es un testimonio que habla sobre una lacra social que desconocemos.
El sistema judicial y sanitario necesita formarse y evolucionar.
Si,por suerte algunos lectores empáticos quedan y el corazón se te va encogiendo con la lectura.
Pero la narrativa es aséptica,no se recrea en el dolor ,en la tragedia o en lo escabroso.
He leído las noticias de hace unos días y visto las nuevas acusaciones e investigaciones sobre jóvenes agentes inmobiliarias.
Poner freno a esta lacra social contemporánea es urgente.
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