"If you ever leave me, I will kill the kids then I will kill you."
"I can't help but think of other women who may be facing similar situations, even now in a time and generation when these events can easily be exposed as much as they could be hidden. I wish I could reach each one of them, look into their eyes and tell you don't have to live like this. Life can be better; you can choose a different path. It's not easy, trust me, I know that more than most people do, BUT IT'S WORTH IT."
This book is an autobiography about a woman raised on a large farm who learned to drive a large tractor at the age of seven, then spent many years plowing, planting and harvesting crops and taking care of the farm animals. After three years in the Marine Corps, she married her college sweetheart who became a drunk and abused her for seven horrible years before he almost killed her then disappeared. After she recovered she and her three kids fled to Florida to hide so he wouldn't find them and finish the job.
Former Indiana farm girl and Marine, Linda Beason, never expected her life to take such a drastic turn when she got married. What was supposed to be a time of love and excitement turned into a nightmarish reality for the newlywed. Her husband Phil’s drinking was getting out of control, and his drunken tirades quickly transformed into rage-fueled fits directed at her. His violent ways grew more sadistic after they had children, like tying her up and making the young kids watch as he brutalized their mother. After miraculously surviving his final violent act, Linda and the kids escaped to Florida to begin a new life.
Linda Beason’s memoir My Husband Almost Killed Me is as spine-chilling as the horrifying title describes. The author is candid about her nearly decades-long marriage to a monster who breaks down this independent and self-confident woman until she is a shell of the person she used to be. Like many abusive relationships, the author lived in denial. She made excuses for the behavior for far too long, continuously jeopardizing her physical and emotional health. When she eventually breaks free, she is irrevocably changed, and her children’s trauma runs deep.
My Husband Almost Killed Me is not for the faint of heart and comes with a necessary trigger warning. The violent acts are grotesque, depraved, and nauseatingly graphic. The pain Ms. Beason’s family endured was not only horrifying but also caused me to react viscerally. I had to keep reminding myself that (luckily) I had never been in a position like hers, so I could never fully fathom her reasons for staying as long as she did. Still, I found it difficult to rein in my frustration.
The author does an excellent job of highlighting the plight of abuse victims. From internalizing the guilt and shame inflicted upon her to experiencing loneliness and isolation from loved ones, readers are fully immersed in her experience. Despite the dire circumstances, there is a strong undercurrent of strength and perseverance that will appeal to readers who enjoy stories about resilience and the quest for love. Linda Beason’s powerful memoir, My Husband Almost Killed Me, reminds us not to give up in the face of adversity; we are capable of immense fortitude.
A heartbreaking tale of a woman who survived abuse at the hands of her husband and then was subjected to elder abuse by her daughter later in life. A short read that covers a lot of traumatic events.
This was a quick read about the harrowing life of the author that endured years of domestic abuse. I wish there was more detail, but it was a worthwhile read.