Wisdom on Her Tongue

by Lexy Sauvé

Wisdom on Her Tongue: Tips for Getting Back Your Weekends & Holidays & Learning to Communicate Effectively in Marriage is a candid, biblically grounded manual for Christian wives who desire to grow in spiritual maturity and relational wisdom. Framed by the call of Proverbs 31 and Titus 2, the book argues that a woman’s ability to communicate with grace, respect, and restraint is one of the bellwethers of a successful Christian marriage. Does she often reach for the tools of manipulation, sarcasm, and emotional impulsivity? Or does she instead favor meekness, patience, clarity, and Christian charity? The answer will likely reveal whether a woman is building up her household—or tearing it down.

The book is structured as a series of short, pointed chapters covering topics like anger, respect, honor, and self-control, often encouraging women toward the hard, good work of cultivating a gentle and quiet spirit. Sauvé urges readers to break generational cycles of bitterness and drama by pursuing habits that bring peace into the home. The tone of the book is both kind and direct, offering correction with warmth and Christian hope. With a forward and closing exhortation from her husband, Pastor Brian Sauvé, the book serves as both a rebuke and a rallying cry for women seeking to become crowns to their husbands and builders of flourishing Christian households.

Genres: Christian

108 pages, Hardcover

First published July 1, 2025

Reviews

[Ben Garrett · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very helpful book! Clear and concise without being at all boring.

[Emilie Rudd · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was an excellent read. Find yourself a copy, and don’t be surprised if you feel a bit wounded by some of the truth Lexy shares. It’s the kind of sharpening that draws us nearer to Christlikeness and calls us to live more fully as women growing in wisdom.

[Marissa · Rating 3 out of 5]

I love the Bright Hearth podcast and expected to love this book. But I haven’t met Christian women as petty as those in the examples given in this book. The scenarios counseled seem out of touch with actual concrete challenges wives face, addressing mostly anxieties and “all in your head” problems. And as much as I applaud the author for only speaking well of her husband, the reader is left with the impression that being married to Brian Sauve is the ultimate solution to every problem. I think the book could be exactly what some young new brides need, especially if they are as emotionally immature as the women in Lexy’s examples, were not raised by a godly mother, and have just married a strong, stable, mature godly man. But that is a very niche reader. There are stronger books full of Biblical wisdom written by Titus 2 women with broader experience.

[Lilly Allen · Rating 5 out of 5]

Wisdom that every wife needs to hear. I think this will be my ‘January book’ - something you read at the start of every year. This, along with “Fit to Burst” by Rachel Jankovic. I can only recommend it.

[Courtney Everson · Rating 2 out of 5]

I was hoping more for a breakdown of Proverbs 31 and how those verses related to communication and speech, with positive examples of how to engage. Instead we were given many examples of poor communication, which were just strange to me personally. I have counseled with lots of women over many years and haven’t met women like the ones used as examples in these chapters. Overall this book just missed the mark for me. It was very short and her writing seemed (not meaning to be mean-spirited) a bit immature. I will go back to my library of more seasoned authors to recommend. However, I know many women in our church who have gleaned from the author’s podcast, so I would recommend that avenue to younger women.

[Abigail Stacy · Rating 4 out of 5]

First of all, this book is beautiful. The green and gold are what book dreams are made of! The only sad part is that my copy has some kind of stains due to the fabric cover.

But to focus on the content of the book, this was a really fun and easy read. I have really enjoyed Lexy and Brian Sauvé on Bright Hearth over the past few years. As I read the book, it quickly became clear that most of what is written are the same things they have said on the podcast. I had fun reading the book and was reminded of all the lessons that the Lord has taught me through their podcast.

I will say that this book really is geared towards newly married women. It is very short and easy to read. It isn’t an exhaustive resource on how to navigate all seasons and phases of marriage. So if you’re looking for that, look elsewhere. However, these principles of staying in fellowship have a great impact on future seasons and phases of family life.

I am thankful New Christendom Press published this book. Now I have resource I can gift to young newly married friends instead of trying to just remember how something was stated on a podcast. I already have some friends in mind that would probably appreciate and be helped by this book.

[Leigha Fairchild · Rating 5 out of 5]

Absolutely wonderful. So incredibly practical yet also focused on gospel-ideals for marriage. Lexy encourages young women in their marriages to lay down their lives for their spouse, and love them the way God shows wives to love their husbands. I was convicted and encouraged. This is a book I wish I had read in my first year of marriage!

[Andrea · Rating 3 out of 5]

Nothing really wrong with the content here, it’s just a bit immature and the writing isn’t the most compelling. The subtitle doesn’t align with the rest of the book and that bugs me. After reading the lengthy quotes from The Quest for Meekness and Quietness of Spirit in the last chapter, I think that would be a better, deeper, and more practical source for this topic.

[Hailey Giannone · Rating 5 out of 5]

A convicting yet necessary read for wives. Lexy is direct and kind in her exhortations to wives, as she seeks to point women in practical ways to love their husbands better through communication. Not difficult to understand or fluffy, but definitely difficult to apply these principles. Short and to the point. I so appreciated this read.

[Elizabeth Eflin · Rating 4 out of 5]

Wisdom on Her Tongue by Lexy Sauvé has been a hot topic on social media since before it was even released. With assumptions and arguments about legalism, unbiblical ideas, and even propaganda have erupted, I decided to actually go to the source to see what the author had to say. I must admit, I was pleasantly surprised.


I do not agree with Sauvé on everything, and I do think that sometimes principles can be confused with methods, but overall I think this book shares much needed wisdom for the Christian woman. Sauvé is clear in her communication, and concise in her writing. She takes a very blunt/no nonsense approach to the language she uses which I appreciate. She also does well to reference scripture to support her claims.


There were some sections that seemed to not flow quite as well, but as it is her first book, it's not really a problem. Then there were some word/phrasing choices that I would not personally use. For example, I would not have used the term "big emotions." This term is usually used in reference to toddlers/young children (and I don't even support the use of it in those contexts), so to use the same term for women is a bit infantilizing. It is however only used in one chapter, and was the only thing that really seemed infantilizing. So it's just small things like this where wording/phrasing could have been improved upon.


Overall, I thought it was an excellent read. I will not necessarily recommend it to women in my church simply because the wisdom found in this book is the same wisdom that has been given by older women in my church for many years now. For those who do not have older women in their lives, however, I think Sauvé's book will be a blessing.

[Rachel · Rating 5 out of 5]

This. Was. Awesome.

I've been listening to the podcast (Bright Hearth) for a while, and this book is a lot of what I've heard in the podcast summed up and written for us to hold in our hands. It's really brilliant.

Lexy mentioned in one of the book episodes that each year, she rereads "Death By Living" by N.D. Wilson as a way to reset and start the year off well. This book is going to be my "Death By Living." It's a way to do a check of all areas of our marriage and find potential pitfalls and focus on building back up any area that has fallen. It's a way to set goals on how to be a better wife, mother, and homemaker. Its a way to feel refreshed and excited about the things going well. It's a great resource, tool, and encouragement.

It's a quick read but it's not easy because Lexy challenges you to think about how you are as a wife. She brings forth questions about your behaviors, your attitudes, and your relationships and pulls no punches as to where we can and do so often fail. She gets you thinking about the many ways you aren't living up to the vocation God has called you to.

Praise God she doesn't stop there. She hands you simple and straightforward, Biblical ways to change even the biggest of sins in your marriage. It's beautiful. It's brilliant. It's my new immediate wedding gift to anyone getting married.

Thanks, Lexy. Please write more.

[Carissa Benton · Rating 5 out of 5]

Fantastic, convicting, and encouraging little book that concludes with these wise words from Lexy's husband, Brian:

"Remember, the conviction of the Spirit is a part of God's love for us. It is meant to lead us to repentance, life, joy, and restoration. So don't wait. Don't wait to turn from that sin; create and walk in new habits of grace and holiness, and apply what you've learned. Knowledge is a dangerous thing, isn't it? It can give us the illusion of maturity...You may be deceived, thinking that all the books you've read on having a gentle and quiet spirit means that you automatically have one. But we know that isn't how maturity works. Maturity is found in the living, not the knowing. It certainly requires knowing, but knowing alone won't do it."

[Danae · Rating 5 out of 5]

Wow—this is a book I know I’ll want to return to year after year. It’s deeply practical and rooted in Scripture. The author doesn’t speak hard truths to be harsh, but rather to call us toward true fellowship and joy with our husbands, families, and others.

Using Lexy’s words, some of my favorite quotes were: be a wife who is easy to please, a thankful woman is anti-fragile, and a low-maintenance wife is someone who does the mental work of identifying her true needs and then humbly and cheerfully asks for them.

[Cheyenne Brunet · Rating 4 out of 5]

I will start by saying I personally enjoyed the book and would recommend it to a specific type of woman.

My qualm with the book, and why I didn't give it 5 stars, is that it felt as though of the examples given were of wives being uncharitable with their seemingly cheerful and wonderful husbands. There is a reality in which wives have to fight uncharitable thoughts in this way, but the other is true as well- wives have to fight uncharitable thoughts about their husbands when they are anything but cheerful and wonderful. I would have appreciated some examples where women were having to fight the good fight even when their spouse isn't doing what they are supposed to be doing...if that makes sense.

Again, to conclude- I would recommend the book and I think it can help women be charitable in word and deed; I would've just appreciated a larger variety of examples.

[Matthew Bloomquist · Rating 4 out of 5]

Super practical, great insight into the sinful tendencies of communication accompanying a women’s nature. Content 5/5 Great summary of a lot of the content on their podcast Bright Hearth which I highly recommend!

[Brooke Houston · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is so rich in advice and care for Godly women! Whether you are married or not, I think this is such an encouraging, Titus 2, style book and I HIGHLY recommend!

[Grace Grimm · Rating 5 out of 5]

I did not intend to read this book in one day, but the chapters were in perfectly bite-sized chunks, and I couldn't stop myself. Several convicted tears were shed, but I was greatly cheered by her husband's encouragement at the end. I very much appreciated how each chapter addressed a different struggle. It is set up in such a way that I could note the chapters of specific sins I struggle with so that I can return to those chapters often. Be in the business of killing sin, for it is in the business of killing you.

[Abby Peterson · Rating 4 out of 5]

Love the podcast- knew I would love the book. Shorter book with practical wisdom that every woman either needs to hear or be reminded of. Loved the section on how our emotions are not good leaders, but good followers to Truth.

[Nathalia Watkins · Rating 2 out of 5]

I could have done without the first few chapters. I almost stoped reading it. The tone at the beginning half of the book was harsh and the author almost assumed the worst in the reader before turning on the encouraging charm at the last half of the book. Which is an odd strategy to counseling anyone, let alone a “friend”. The examples she used, particularly in the beginning chapters, were petty, immature, and almost unbelievable - almost examples of young non-believer wives than young Christian women. They felt like straw man arguments for an easy rhetorical slam dunk. The writing was also not the best. It kind of felt like it did not go through an editor’s hands at all. It could certainly use editing to tone down the accusatory tone and restructure the book for better flow. I also don’t know how I feel about Brian’s closing. If the tables were turned, it would be weird to have the wife of a male author write closing remarks for a book on manhood, even if it is to “encourage”. Overall, I would not really recommend the book because it would take so much nuance for a conversation in which I would want to lovingly disciple a young bride. Some of the principles are good, but even in their podcast, they tend to conflate principles and methods and I think there’s a better approach to encouraging wives in biblical submission.

[Bekah Hastings · Rating 4 out of 5]

As I suspected, all the grousing on social media about this book is a load of hogwash. Lexy is deeply practical, charitable, and full of exhortation in her book. This book is completely for women; she stays strictly in the Titus II lane. I’ve heard a lot of this before, but always helpful to be reminded (one fun new tip was the five-paragraph essay for communication)! Brian’s exhortation at the end was also heartfelt & pastoral — it’s easy to talk about submission and “give a lengthy discourse on the cultural damage done by all the various waves of feminism”, but to live it out is true Christian maturity and growth. The final page had me desiring to fall on my knees before the Lord and begging Him to make me such a woman.

[Anna Garmoe · Rating 5 out of 5]

Practical, direct and refreshing! I’ve enjoyed listening to Brian and Lexy for years and I always feel so uplifted by their encouragement; this one-two-punch-of-a-book was no different with its practical wisdom on the daily journey towards glory. Onward and upward!

[Emma R. Pilcher]

Practical, concise, and to the point. This is pretty light reading, I read it in its entirety in less than an hour.

[Jason Garwood · Rating 5 out of 5]

Really good.

[Catie Sweetland · Rating 5 out of 5]

Incredible. Will put on my "must read again" list.

[Rebekah Pollock · Rating 5 out of 5]

So good, so convicting, so helpful, and so practical! Highly recommend this book for any married woman! Will have to be a yearly read for me.

[Joanna Weimer · Rating 5 out of 5]

It is a joy to read from an author who does not confuse “simple and concise” with “rude and caddy.” Lexy’s words are beautiful and deep without being too drawn out or up in the air. Her words are the honest friend we all need. I will read over and over as her writing will continue to provide opportunity for the Holy Spirit to prompt growth and maturity. While it can be read incredibly fast, I recommend taking it in slowly so as not to miss what you may desperately need to process and implement with time.

[Mairin Schuman · Rating 3 out of 5]

Debating between 3 & 4 stars because it contains good advice and is Biblical, but there isn’t anything about it that would make me particularly recommend it to someone else. I’m wondering if restructuring the book might have made it a better read? It just got to feeling redundant and wandering a bit, despite already being very short book (that was kinda expensive to me at $20+ for a book of 100 pages or maybe less of actual content). I really want to support NCP because I love what they’re doing! I don’t wanna say this book was a “miss” for me but I think I’ve gotten more from just listening to the Bright Hearth podcast.

[April Turner · Rating 5 out of 5]

Finally, a book that doesn’t dance around these issues, or ignore them altogether. An unfortunately necessary book for our age, that I will read again and again. This is a well written, intelligent work, that breaks down real biblical principles that every woman and wife striving for Christlikeness should read. This is NOT a book of damaging, “feminist” takes that have been poisoning Christianity over the last several decades. The number of practical topics covered concisely in this small and comprehensible book is remarkable. It is encouraging in both the uplifting sense, as well as the motivating sense.

Lexy wrote often of the women (and her husband) that poured these helpful, biblical teachings into her life and have helped her become the wise woman she is today. So many women have not had those older wise women in their lives, myself included. I’m thankful she has taken the time to write these things down for those of us seeking the clarity this book provides.

My only warning would be that you can’t lotion up your kiddo post bath, then pick up the book before washing your hands and making sure they are completely free of any oils and totally dry! The absolutely gorgeous paper cover is prone to the slightest smudge that won’t come off without damaging it further. 🥲

Highly recommend, and will most certainly be gifting to the women in my life!! This is a gem.

[Sheri Ingersoll · Rating 5 out of 5]

Wisdom on Her Tongue is a book about communicating well in marriage. It is a call to Christian maturity. Areas the book addresses are self control, big emotions, anger and manipulation, respect, maturity, and welcoming correction. Examples are given, along with practical Biblical application. The goal is to remain in fellowship in our marriages, through confession of sin, repentance, and forgiveness:
"This is really at the heart of most marriage issues - not knowing how to get into and remain in fellowship. Not knowing how to make it hard to get out of fellowship...We're talking about crucifying the flesh along with its passions and desires. The flesh wants to be out of fellowship. It wants to be proudly vindicated, to justify itself, and to win. But the Lord wants you to be humble, to be righteous and eager to be at peace insofar as it's up to you. Don't shirk the development of this hard, good work. God can and will help you grow in these godly affections."

[Ashley luhrs · Rating 5 out of 5]

10/10 recommend this book! Lexy takes you through every aspect of a woman’s life as a believer in great detail. All the sins we as women struggle with towards our spouses and in our relationships with others and within ourselves. The examples were spot on. The advice practical. This will forever be a book that I go back to for wisdom and biblical advice. Lots of tough topics and very convicting in many areas to me. I’m sure it could ruffle the feathers of many modern, feminist readers. And also women who do not like the idea of the husband leading their household… this will automatically be a book they turn their noses up at. But the question in return would be are those women viewing this book biblically? Biblically, Lexy is spot on. Excellent job Sauvé family! Thank you for sharing the wisdom God has given you to us all.