Assertiveness for Earth Angels( How to Be Loving Instead of "Too Nice")[ASSERTIVENESS FOR EARTH ANGELS][Paperback]

by Doreen Virtue

About the Book: Assertiveness for Earth Angels How To Be Loving Instead Of "Too Nice" Learn How To Have Healthy Boundaries With Others? Do people take advantage of your niceness? In this groundbreaking book, Doreen Virtue teaches Earth Angels -extremely sweet people who care more about others happiness than their own-how to maintain their inner peace and loving nature while at the same time holding boundaries. Youll discover how to overcome fears about saying no, and how to ask for what you want from those around you and from the universe. Assertiveness for Earth Angels is for anyone who wants to learn the art of speaking up in relationships and in their activism about issues related to the world. Whether you need more assertiveness with your family, on the job, or in your healing work, youll appreciate Doreens gentle-but-firm approach to negotiating your earthly needs in heavenly ways! Reviews: Assertiveness means that youre aware of your feelings and opinions and that you state them to yourself and others in a way that respects other peoples rights. An assertive person is kind, peaceful, and gentle yet never apologizes for his or her feelings, because feelings are to be honored and respected... - Doreen Virtue, Author

Genres: Spirituality, Nonfiction, Self Help, Angels, Psychology, Philosophy, Inspirational

240 pages, Paperback

First published October 28, 2013

About the author

Please do not buy my old books or cards, as I have repented and denounced them after Jesus saved me and opened my eyes to new age deception.

Here is my testimony of why I left the new age to follow Jesus: https://youtu.be/zZSH8mvIbdk

Reviews

[Cornelia Ward · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is such a helpful book! It's perfect for sensitive people who are here to share their gifts with the world but need assistance with setting good boundaries. Good boundaries create great self-care. And, with good self-care, we have the energy and enthusiasm to help others along their path.

Virtue wrote this book for people new to the spiritual journey as well as individuals who have been working to make the world a better place for a long time. She starts in childhood where many learn to protect their sensitivity in a sometimes harsh world and family environment. She instructs the reader about how to set boundaries without guilt or fear. This includes being loving, avoiding being a pushover, learning good communication skills, and being one's own authority figure.

The section on Developing Assertiveness in Relationships includes a very helpful chapter about handling toxic relationships. It goes into great details about recognizing and effectively addressing interrupting, correcting, one up-manship, clingy neediness, stalking, guilt-tripping, angerholism, unreliability, nosiness, and grumpiness. Virtue is so clear that these behaviors that people often accept are hurting them emotionally and really not OK. She gives the reader permission to walk away from these dysfunctional situations if necessary. I found the specific recommendations in this section very insightful.

I personally loved the section about following dreams and life purpose. This section alone is well worth purchasing the book. It ends with a discussion about Energy Work For Empaths, How To Have More Time and Energy, and activism.

Highly recommended!

[Cloris Kylie · Rating 5 out of 5]

The greatest teachers in your life are those people who know how to push your buttons; those whose words or actions can bring you incredible joy or incredible sorrow. One of my greatest teachers complained that my “problem” is that I was “too nice.” Another teacher asked me if I ever got tired of “playing Mother Theresa.”

Knowing that these people are supposed to be teaching me something (besides how to react to criticism,) I asked myself, “Am I really too nice?” So, when I came across Assertiveness for Earth Angels-How to be Loving Instead of Too Nice, by Doreen Virtue, I jumped at the opportunity to read it.

Doreen Virtue’s unique approach to assertiveness captivated my attention from the first to the last page of the book. Even though I have different beliefs from Ms. Virtue’s when it comes to the angelic realm, her words made me realize that being assertive doesn’t mean being mean-spirited or aggressive. I learned that it’s possible to be nice, loving, and assertive simultaneously.

Assertiveness is about openly communicating our feelings and establishing boundaries without guilt or fear. As Ms. Virtue says, “Whenever we avoid conflict by keeping our feelings to ourselves, we do ourselves and others a disservice. This is a form of dishonesty and manipulation. We’re trying to control the other person’s reactions by controlling what we tell them.”

Assertiveness for Earth Angels outlines behaviors that characterize the “Earth Angel” profile, which matches the “Sensitive Person” profile I’ve read in other books. Highly sensitive people tend to struggle with assertiveness because of their ability to perceive other people’s emotions based on subtle clues. No one wants to be disliked or to hurt others, so the highly sensitive person (Earth Angel, in Ms. Virtue’s book) will change his or her words and behaviors when he or she perceives a hint of animosity in other people. The book is a great tool for those who are highly sensitive, but also for people who wish to improve their communication skills. Ms. Virtue covers the basics of how to stand up for ourselves, but also detailed information on how to develop assertiveness in close relationships and out in the world.

One of the most powerful gifts in this book is the clear advice on how to remain assertive when dealing with various personality types. Especially interesting to me was how to deal with the “Martyrs,” those perpetual victims and complainers who reject suggestions and advice.
Assertiveness for Earth Angels helped me become aware of how some of my behaviors were impacting my self-care. Because in the end, assertiveness is a way to love ourselves. As Doreen Virtue cleverly expresses, “The day that you no longer need other’s approval is the day you have true freedom. Be real with people, and they’ll respect you more…and most important, you’ll respect yourself more.”

Kudos to Doreen Virtue for this uplifting Hay House book!

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FTC Disclosure: I received this book for free from Hay House Publishing for this review. The opinion in this review is unbiased and reflects my honest judgment of the product.

[Sharon · Rating 5 out of 5]

In this book, author Doreen Virtue applies both her metaphysical and psychological training to help Earth Angels (her term for lightworkers) be more assertive and get past their instinct to be "too nice." By this, Virtue means a tendency to be helpful to one's own detriment.

There are chapters dealing with all kinds of situations, such as toxic family members, miserable workplaces and more, with practical life coaching for ways to handle all of them. This is a book filled with genuine advice to help the empath who is constantly being used by those around them.

Highly recommended.

[Judy Croome · Rating 5 out of 5]

In the similar, fairly simple, style that characterises her oracle cards, Doreen Virtue’s ASSERTIVENESS FOR EARTH ANGELS is easy to understand, positive and inspiring.

Although the terminology may at times border on the sentimental, this book is probably one of the best examples of teaching in action that I’ve read. At times gently firm, at all times positive and encouraging, Virtue’s approach to assertiveness was refreshing and informative.

Virtue teaches us that there is a middle path between being a doormat or aggressive when walking the path between worrying about other people’s feelings and protecting our own sensitive feelings: assertiveness. One does not have to avoid conflict or meet it with aggression, one can stay true to the value of kindness, but can face conflict head-on in a gentle, polite way, which shows compassion for the issues the other person must be experiencing while keeping our own boundaries healthy.

This book is not just abstract ideas: it also contains some down-to-earth (!) and practical advice that is easy to put into practice. The sections with advice on handling toxic relationships without descending into a negative mind-set is invaluable, and helped me come to terms with some clearing out of old, toxic relationships/friendships that I struggled with over the past few years.

Other sections include how to gain more energy through using assertiveness techniques to avoid having one’s energy levels drained by toxic relationships and how to find meaning in one’s life in a positive, assertive way.

If one is a pacifist who is exhausted by all the demands on one’s compassion by more aggressive personalities, ASSERTIVENESS FOR EARTH ANGELS is well worth the read.

[Bridget · Rating 3 out of 5]

I was first introduced to Doreen Virtue's writing several years ago. Since then I have devoured her books, even following her on youtube. She seems to be deeply spiritual and very in touch with her real self. So, I recently acquired this particular book, but was hesitant to read it because of the title. What are earth angels? Did I believe in them? I wasn't sure I did until I came across Virtue's definition of them - "sensitive people...with an important mission: to defuse and reduce conflict on this planet." That was a definition I could get behind and feel comfortable with, so I proceeded to read the book. I learned a great deal about myself and the relationships I have had with people throughout my life. But the most important things I learned were how to identify toxic relationships, how to assert myself in an honest and loving way, and how to foster good, healthy relationships. I really think that any person could benefit from reading this book, especially people that may be confused about what assertiveness really looks like. It isn't aggressive or harsh, but it isn't "nice" either. I feel like many people wrongly identify being assertive with being aggressive, and it would probably be good to have more assertive people than aggressive ones. I feel better and stronger after reading this book and am thankful for the information and instruction it provided. Get yourself a copy!

FTC Disclosure: I received this book for free from Hay House Publishing for this review. The opinions expressed in this review are unbiased and reflect my honest judgment of the product.

[Silas · Rating 2 out of 5]

This one is tough for me, because while it did present me with one or two profound insights, on the whole, I did not enjoy this book. I might have known that the book would not be to my liking from the title mentioning angels, but since I had gotten it for free, I thought I would give it a chance. It is definitely very Christian-oriented, which I tried to set to the side whenever it occurred, since that is not central to its message in many ways, but it increased a great deal in frequency as the book progressed. In fact, the book, while it started relatively strong, degrades in quality about halfway a great deal, going from profound insights to platitudes, and at the end, just stringing along some suggestions about that you might try doing, instead of giving you anything to actually work with. Ultimately, while I am glad that I read it, because of the insights into how changing yourself to make people like you is manipulating them, most of the book was a slog to get through for me.

[Robin · Rating 4 out of 5]

I gained new insights into my way of making contact with others. I really appreciated the author's modeling of the different voices; for instance, demonstrating passive, passive-aggressive, aggressive and assertive responses in different situations. My big take away is to take her advice in acting as if my "dream" is happening now and to focus on doing one thing/spending an hour every day toward my ultimate goal. For instance, my goal is to get published so my objective is to write for an hour every day -- NO EXCUSES!

[Sumaiyah Djedovic · Rating 4 out of 5]

loved it! was super sweet and helped me understand myself better 🥰

[Sofia Wren · Rating 3 out of 5]

Great reading for sensitive people, especially women. Earth Angels could also be described as empaths or highly sensitive people.

I think this is a population that deserves attention and I'm glad that Doreen wrote this book. It's fairly basic but she goes into a number of common life problems and relationship issues and illuminates basic ways to get out of those bad habits.

I think this is a nice book and I recommend it to anyone who feels like they need better boundaries.

However, what it is missing is more at the end about different energy work techniques or other tools to help separate other people's energy, mood and emotions from the experience of an Earth Angel so they can be more successful in life. I thought that was incomplete.

I teach a course on the subject, so this book was part of my research. For more techniques and tools than is in included in this book, you can get free training at my Sacred Armor sitet

[Amber · Rating 3 out of 5]

This was an easy before bed read. One of the takeaways from this book was that by not speaking up to someone about how their behavior makes me feel it's really a disservice to the individual. We can harbor ill will when a person repeats their behavior until we reach a breaking point and cut them off. However, if we speak up we're giving the person the opportunity to change the behavior. If the person ignores how we feel it's easier to let them loose.

[Danika · Rating 4 out of 5]

This was such an amazing reminder of how important boundaries are. Not only that but the fact it’s okay to say no and to only do favours from a place of love.

[Rosie Amber · Rating 4 out of 5]

Assertiveness For Earth Angels is a self-help book about spirituality. I've recently come across the works of this author and this is the first book I've read from her.

Doreen classifies an Earth Angel as someone that is highly sensitive who has been sent to Earth on a particular mission to defuse and reduce conflict. Linking with the belief of human re-incarnation where we return to Earth multiple times to work through past personal conflicts, Doreen believes Earth Angels have their own special instructions. However because of their highly sensitive nature they can often be knocked off path by people they try to rescue, such as drama queens. addicts and energy drainers.

Earth Angels are likely to be obsessed with other people's happiness, are "Conflict-phobic", will shoulder other people's burdens and rarely ask for help. But if they are to achieve their Earth-bound goals then they must learn to protect themselves and learn to be loving without being a pushover.

I enjoyed many of the chapters which encouraged me to look deeply at my own life. Some were of less interest as I felt I had no contact with the people and situations it described, but it is all useful for the future.

[Tracey King · Rating 1 out of 5]

This is the second Doreen Virtue book I have read and I will say I prefer her fairy collection rather than the Angles.
Having said this I found the book had an interesting way to look at yourself and other people. Taking one day at a time with one action step to expand your day.
It is a book filled with positive energy and will encourage you to enjoy your journey thought life in a different way. Everything and everyone is in our lives to enrich it and gain from the story. This book will help you reflect upon your life in a positive and inspiring way. I have an inspiring friend who wrights a blog in a similar way to this book and I feel that there is no time like the present to share with you all one of her quotes: "I am beautiful, I am the product of nobody's judgement but my own, and I love myself for everything I do, and everything that I am."
Enjoy today and happy reading!!

[Saiisha · Rating 4 out of 5]

I was drawn to this book when I saw a review by one of my book club (https://www.goodreads.com/group/show/...) members, and decided to try it out. It almost started out in a fairytale-like language, but after the initial chapters, where she describes who an earth angel is, Doreen Virtue quickly gets down to describing how to become more assertive in the first section - includes topics about communication, boundaries, guilt, fear, worry, etc. The second section talks about being assertive in relationships, and the third section has several chapters about being assertive in the everyday world. The book also includes a section with some tools and guidance.

All in all, I think a great read for sensitive people, empaths, those who call themselves light-workers, especially if they struggle with speaking up or establishing boundaries.

[Mintti · Rating 4 out of 5]

Suomeksi Oletko maaenkeli? Aika harhaanjohtava nimi jotenkin, ei yhtään anna kuvaa siitä mistä kirjassa kirjoitetaan. Lähinnä kirjassa käydään läpi kuinka herkkänä sieluna täällä maanpäällä ollaan ja kuinka lempeästi tavataan erilaisia ihmisiä ja kuinka heihin voi suhtautua hajoittamatta itseään. Koin tämän juuri tähän elämänhetkeen erittäin sopivana lukukokemuksena ja jos koet itsesi herkäksi ja että ihmiskontakteissa on joskus haasteita, niin lue ihmeessä.

[Dewin Anguas Barnette · Rating 5 out of 5]

I had never heard of Doreen until I happened upon her book in a bookstore a few months back. When I read the description for this book, it sounded like she was describing me exactly, so I had to read it. So glad I did. It was a quick, easy read full of good and useful information. I highly recommend it, and I will definitely be reading more of her books.

[Kim · Rating 3 out of 5]

Some good tidbits. I found the author quite married to her own belief system in a way that can interfere with the proffered advice.

[Kim · Rating 3 out of 5]

Earth Angels are highly sensitive human souls that have a difficult time saying no to others, and all they really want to do is help others. Often they are manipulated or find themselves in abusive situations - because of their tendency to want to fix all situations. Stability is important to them, and because of this and the need to fix a situation, they often find themselves somehow unclear on when to move on or give up.

Doreen Virtue is a well known author who is knowledgeable on the subject of angels. This book offers insights into the angelic realm and beliefs. I find her words fascinating. I believe in angels, but I am also a bit of skeptic as to the depth of it all. I think the knowledge shared is interesting, but I also think we take from it what we choose. I am glad to have read this book, however - it is a fascinating topic.

[Eliana · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a beautiful book. Those who believe in energy work will appreciate this book even more. There were some concepts that I wasn’t sure about probably because I’m not very familiar with them, however the message in this book is very grounding and insightful. I appreciate the empowering voice of the author in this book teaching us the power we have comes from God which can not be taken away from us and we need to embrace it, not let fear control us and be assertive. This power is not aggressive, is not passive, but is assertive.
This is a book I would gift to my friends who do believe in energy work and have a hard time setting boundaries because they don’t want anybody to be upset.

[Lena · Rating 4 out of 5]

Spirituella böcker är inte lätta att betygsätta, de ger insikter och information om livet som man antingen tar åt sig eller inte. Men det var en inspirerande och lätt läsning. Den fick mig att tänka lite mer på min relation till både mig själv och andra personer i min omgivning. Att vara öppen och ärlig om mina tankar och känslor, inte bara med andra men även mig själv, vilket jag haft lite svårt med..för att man är rädd att säga sin mening/känslor/tankar. Rädd för vad, egentligen?

[Monica Politte · Rating 4 out of 5]

Assertiveness for Earth Angels was a good book, especially for those how can relate to plight the of self sacrificing and hiding one's true feelings in order to please the world. I think many women(and others) are conditioned in this way. The take away for me was being this way is actually not nice, it is manipulative(in the kindest sense of the word) and harmful to the self/others. Doreen Virtue has done a total 180 in recent years, even so, the book was good.

[Raven · Rating 4 out of 5]

There are a lot of powerful lessons in here... if you are the kind of person who is manipulated by people, can never say no, or just plain ‘too nice’, I encourage you to pick it up and start changing life today. Don’t spend any more of your precious time on people who really don’t want to change, and just enjoy dragging you down with them.

[River Guru · Rating 2 out of 5]

I approached this book with an open mind, but I couldn’t even finish it. Maybe some will find it helpful-but to me it just seems like common sense. Don’t like how a behavior of your makes you feel? Change your behavior! Duh. Sorry I threw away my money in this one.

[Sharron Bardsley]

Doreen gives insight and explanations on how to stop allowing people to step on your niceness.
Get your ego (negative thoughts) out of the way, they pull on the handbreak that stops you moving forward to empowerment and inner peace. Live the life you want not what others expect.

[Paige · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book is a little more Christian focused than some of her other titles which does not resonate personally with me. I did like the overall message of assertiveness vs aggression/passivity and how following one’s dreams/goals is doing a service to oneself and others.

[Amy Lape · Rating 3 out of 5]

A psychic told me to read this book.

[Melody · Rating 5 out of 5]

Powerful

This is exactly what i needed at this point in my life! I will practice the techniques given in this book.

[Nicole Gonzales · Rating 2 out of 5]

Wanted to finish, but I couldn’t. It just didn’t grab me. Felt repetitive

[Akysian · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a very powerful book. I have read it myself and have also bought copies for friends. This is the kind of book where I go back to it and read it again...the lessons are still being learned...

[Betty Ann · Rating 5 out of 5]

She gave me the courage to trust my own instinct more. I love the situational experiences she uses in the book to explain what she's talking about. Thank you.