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If You're In My Office, It's Already Too Late: A Divorce Lawyer's Guide to Staying Together
Hard-hitting divorce lawyer James Sexton shares his insights and wisdom from the front lines of divorce to keep you out of his office and improve your relationship.
If You're in My Office, It's Already Too Late. James Sexton knows this. After dealing with more than a thousand clients whose marriages have dissolved over everything from an ill-advised threesome with the nanny to the uneven division of carpool duties, he also knows all of the what-not-to-dos for couples who want to build--and consistently work to preserve--a lasting, fulfilling relationship. Described by former clients as a "courtroom gunslinger" and "the sociopath you want on your side," Sexton tells the unvarnished truth about relationships, diving straight into the most common marital problems. These usually derive from dishonest--or nonexistent--communication. Even when the alleged reason for separation is one spouse's new "personal trainer," there's likely a communication problem that predates the fitness kick. Symptom and root cause get confused all the time.
Sexton has spent his career working with spouses-to-be-no-longer. Reverse engineering a relationship can help to identify and fix what does not work. Ever feel like you're holding back criticism of your spouse because you just can't have that fight right now? Sexton will tell you to "Hit Send Now." Maybe you aren't as adventurous as you used to be, or need some "you time," but for some reason it seems weird or exhausting to change up the routine now. Sexton knows where that mentality leads and offers viable alternative paths to take. Though he deals constantly with the heartbreak of others, he still believes in romance and the transformative power of love. This book is his opportunity to use what he has learned to help couples that aren't so far gone get back on track.
If You're in My Office, It's Already Too Late. James Sexton knows this. After dealing with more than a thousand clients whose marriages have dissolved over everything from an ill-advised threesome with the nanny to the uneven division of carpool duties, he also knows all of the what-not-to-dos for couples who want to build--and consistently work to preserve--a lasting, fulfilling relationship. Described by former clients as a "courtroom gunslinger" and "the sociopath you want on your side," Sexton tells the unvarnished truth about relationships, diving straight into the most common marital problems. These usually derive from dishonest--or nonexistent--communication. Even when the alleged reason for separation is one spouse's new "personal trainer," there's likely a communication problem that predates the fitness kick. Symptom and root cause get confused all the time.
Sexton has spent his career working with spouses-to-be-no-longer. Reverse engineering a relationship can help to identify and fix what does not work. Ever feel like you're holding back criticism of your spouse because you just can't have that fight right now? Sexton will tell you to "Hit Send Now." Maybe you aren't as adventurous as you used to be, or need some "you time," but for some reason it seems weird or exhausting to change up the routine now. Sexton knows where that mentality leads and offers viable alternative paths to take. Though he deals constantly with the heartbreak of others, he still believes in romance and the transformative power of love. This book is his opportunity to use what he has learned to help couples that aren't so far gone get back on track.
288 pages, Hardcover
First published April 10, 2018
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March 4, 2018
Well, this was a terrifying read. I can see why the author says he doesn't get invited to cocktail parties. (He does, however, point out that he still gets invited to weddings. So there's that.)
James Sexton has litigated over twelve hundred divorces in his career. He's seen the liars and the dirty, dirty cheats. The acrimonious and amicable. He's represented the ones blind-sided by the divorce papers, he's represented an actual pimp in a custody hearing. He's been described as a ruthless sociopath, and I might believe that on some level. He also may be a bit of a romantic. In this book, Sexton addresses various recurring themes he has noticed over the years in the hopes that couples might learn from the mistakes of others.
In sum: a marital advice book written in reverse.
You're not going to come out of this book with newfound respect for lawyers. Sexton may certainly be a sociopath, as a past client has described him. But that may be part and parcel of being an attorney what with the rules about providing fair representation.
Even so, Sexton possesses a modicum of charm, like all the best sociopaths. His writing is casual--lots of f-bombs, for those who care about that sort of thing--and his stories are engaging. It's a good read, full of humor, charm, and a great deal of blunt talk about the real challenges of maintaining a good enough marriage.
The book does not traffic in unexpected advice. I suspect very little of it would surprise any reader. (Except for the chapter "Hit Send Now" when he recommends that you let your spouse know what's troubling you right away, before it has a chance to fester. I feel comfortable saying that would be a disaster in my marriage. I already pick at every little thing, and I don't give voice to even half the things that I want to.) What's useful about it is how Sexton frames marriage. He is a romantic who eschews rose-colored glasses.
In discussing the marital bed, Sexton points out the obvious: marriage is an exclusive contract for sex with a specific partner. This will not go well if you aren't honest with your partner about what you need and what you're willing to do. If your/your partner's needs aren't met, then someone will have to choose between going without or going outside the marriage. The simplicity of that realization belies the difficulty of execution.
As I worked my way through the book, I found myself really wishing that I could talk to my husband about it, that we were reading it together. Some of the traps Sexton points out are ones that are a regular feature of our marriage, and I wanted his perspective. For example, Sexton suggests that couples discuss what divorce would look like, just as they ought to discuss end of life matters. That sounds maybe more mature than I could manage, but the idea is interesting.
I have quite a few thoughts on this book, but most of them are ones that I'd prefer to share with my spouse. For everyone else, I recommend this book, ideally as a couple read if you're one of those couples who likes to talk. (No judgment. Not all couples talk over every little thing.)
I'm rushing this review a bit because there's a Goodreads giveaway on this book that closes March 6th. The book itself comes out on April 10.
I was given a complimentary copy of this review via NetGalley in order to facilitate this review. This review also appears at Cannonballread.com.
James Sexton has litigated over twelve hundred divorces in his career. He's seen the liars and the dirty, dirty cheats. The acrimonious and amicable. He's represented the ones blind-sided by the divorce papers, he's represented an actual pimp in a custody hearing. He's been described as a ruthless sociopath, and I might believe that on some level. He also may be a bit of a romantic. In this book, Sexton addresses various recurring themes he has noticed over the years in the hopes that couples might learn from the mistakes of others.
In sum: a marital advice book written in reverse.
You're not going to come out of this book with newfound respect for lawyers. Sexton may certainly be a sociopath, as a past client has described him. But that may be part and parcel of being an attorney what with the rules about providing fair representation.
Even so, Sexton possesses a modicum of charm, like all the best sociopaths. His writing is casual--lots of f-bombs, for those who care about that sort of thing--and his stories are engaging. It's a good read, full of humor, charm, and a great deal of blunt talk about the real challenges of maintaining a good enough marriage.
The book does not traffic in unexpected advice. I suspect very little of it would surprise any reader. (Except for the chapter "Hit Send Now" when he recommends that you let your spouse know what's troubling you right away, before it has a chance to fester. I feel comfortable saying that would be a disaster in my marriage. I already pick at every little thing, and I don't give voice to even half the things that I want to.) What's useful about it is how Sexton frames marriage. He is a romantic who eschews rose-colored glasses.
...marriage is not an end. It is a means to an end. It's about getting you to the destination; the destination is connection and companionship, comfort and trust. Getting you to the destination is an ongoing process that requires alertness, energy, and consistency.
In discussing the marital bed, Sexton points out the obvious: marriage is an exclusive contract for sex with a specific partner. This will not go well if you aren't honest with your partner about what you need and what you're willing to do. If your/your partner's needs aren't met, then someone will have to choose between going without or going outside the marriage. The simplicity of that realization belies the difficulty of execution.
As I worked my way through the book, I found myself really wishing that I could talk to my husband about it, that we were reading it together. Some of the traps Sexton points out are ones that are a regular feature of our marriage, and I wanted his perspective. For example, Sexton suggests that couples discuss what divorce would look like, just as they ought to discuss end of life matters. That sounds maybe more mature than I could manage, but the idea is interesting.
I have quite a few thoughts on this book, but most of them are ones that I'd prefer to share with my spouse. For everyone else, I recommend this book, ideally as a couple read if you're one of those couples who likes to talk. (No judgment. Not all couples talk over every little thing.)
I'm rushing this review a bit because there's a Goodreads giveaway on this book that closes March 6th. The book itself comes out on April 10.
I was given a complimentary copy of this review via NetGalley in order to facilitate this review. This review also appears at Cannonballread.com.
April 7, 2018
Come for the entertaining stories about divorcing partners, stay for the simple, practical advice for staying together and working things out.
James is a divorce lawyer in New York City. He's one of the rare divorce lawyers who wanted to go into that field from day one (most wannabee lawyers are more idealistic and change their minds partway through or after law school.) He doesn't relish destroying relationships but they're already destroyed before they get to him. And he himself is divorced. At some point it occurred to him that his knowledge of what doesn't work, could be helpful to others. Kind of along the lines of "if you can't be a good example, at least be a horrible warning."
Some of the stories are fascinating in a car-wreck kind of way. Some were a little sad, and a couple were even inspiring (one couple found out while in their lawyers' offices that their child was injured and they immediately put all animosity aside to work together on that problem as a team.) The most practical advice he gives I don't think will work for everyone--which is that when something bothers you, send a brief email about it to your partner right away. Don't let it fester, don't let it grow. He doesn't address the volume of these or choosing your battles, so I can foresee some issues with that particular advice, but I'm sure it would work for some people.
I think this book would be best for people thinking of getting married, or even in the first few years, as being forewarned is forearmed.
James is a divorce lawyer in New York City. He's one of the rare divorce lawyers who wanted to go into that field from day one (most wannabee lawyers are more idealistic and change their minds partway through or after law school.) He doesn't relish destroying relationships but they're already destroyed before they get to him. And he himself is divorced. At some point it occurred to him that his knowledge of what doesn't work, could be helpful to others. Kind of along the lines of "if you can't be a good example, at least be a horrible warning."
Some of the stories are fascinating in a car-wreck kind of way. Some were a little sad, and a couple were even inspiring (one couple found out while in their lawyers' offices that their child was injured and they immediately put all animosity aside to work together on that problem as a team.) The most practical advice he gives I don't think will work for everyone--which is that when something bothers you, send a brief email about it to your partner right away. Don't let it fester, don't let it grow. He doesn't address the volume of these or choosing your battles, so I can foresee some issues with that particular advice, but I'm sure it would work for some people.
I think this book would be best for people thinking of getting married, or even in the first few years, as being forewarned is forearmed.
October 27, 2018
This book is hilarious and really insightful. It's honest and realistic marriage advice from a divorce lawyer. I mean, I don't think it will help you achieve a wonderful marriage, but it will make you re-think a lot of things. Such as, being on facebook (huge agent in divorce), not having a life after marriage, and even treating childcare in marriage like you would if you were divorced--I think this is actually an excellent idea as I've seen many of my divorced friends become better, more present parents after their divorce. This is a fun and useful read. I loved the courtroom stories as well
August 3, 2018
Okay, so I was a little embarrassed at first to admit that I was reading a relationship self-help book. But hey, research, right? The biggest commitment of my life so far is way too important to me to go in unprepared.
I was just intrigued, at first: approaching marriage success from the perspective of divorce is undeniably an unusual angle. Then I started reading the first page and got hooked, something that almost never happens to me. Sexton is an excellent storyteller, as I would guess most good lawyers are. (Sexton does point out that a good case builds a good story.) He's also funny, exceptionally self-aware, upbeat rather than cynical (which frankly amazes me), and not too self-aggrandizing (except when he's poking fun at himself).
Some of the advice may not be revolutionary, but there's something about seeing failure in action in real situations that is far more effective than the obviously-made-up examples that I expect are in other self-help books. And there's a bit of relief in knowing that in the worst situations described, the couples do end up separated, which leaves some room for hope.
Much of Sexton's advice is simple and direct, things that you can easily do and discuss with your partner(s) without being obviously about Relationship Maintenance. All of his suggestions are wrapped up in examples that will amuse and interest anyone interested in marriage law--possibly even the Law and Order crowd--and anyone who likes reading about real relationships. The stories are gobble-it-up-like-popcorn gossip, but they're educational. (Maybe a better comparison is kale chips, if you like that kind of thing.) Even if you don't feel like you need relationship advice, this is a breezy and amusing book that will make you think.
And, as a divorced man himself, Sexton also offers valuable advice about managing finances and coparenting that would probably make any other relationship self-help author's jaw drop in horror--but which have led me and my spouse-to-be to have some interesting and important conversations.
So, on to complaints, of which there are just three. (I'm trying to do better!)
Sexton acknowledges in a note at the beginning that he's made all the couples heterosexual so that he can keep the pronouns straight and clear. I'm going to call BS on that, since he's almost certainly managed just fine when dealing with same sex couples, and anyway a good editor should be able to help spot any confusion. On the upside, here's an example of Sexton's self-awareness: "I am aware, however, that at this point these terms are heteronormative, perhaps inaccurate, frequently undesirable." Props on acknowledging it. Thumbs down for copping out.
Second, the advice does start to thin out a bit in the second half of the book in favor of Sexton's stories--but those alone are so entertaining and informative, and there are still enough chapters of straight-up advice scattered around that I didn't really notice this until I was taking a second look at the table of contents after I'd finished reading.
Finally, I'm not sure about the title, which seems a little too defeatist compared to the general upbeat tone of the book.
No quote roundup this time, because I worry that my quotes are going to give away the advice!
Disclaimer: The opinions expressed in this review are entirely my own and do not represent those of my employer.
Further disclaimer: I know I said I enjoyed this book, but then I only gave it three stars. I'd probably give it four, but I'm so sick of GoodReads adjusting all its algorithms for me when I read and highly rate even ONE book that isn't my usual fare. Argh!
I was just intrigued, at first: approaching marriage success from the perspective of divorce is undeniably an unusual angle. Then I started reading the first page and got hooked, something that almost never happens to me. Sexton is an excellent storyteller, as I would guess most good lawyers are. (Sexton does point out that a good case builds a good story.) He's also funny, exceptionally self-aware, upbeat rather than cynical (which frankly amazes me), and not too self-aggrandizing (except when he's poking fun at himself).
Some of the advice may not be revolutionary, but there's something about seeing failure in action in real situations that is far more effective than the obviously-made-up examples that I expect are in other self-help books. And there's a bit of relief in knowing that in the worst situations described, the couples do end up separated, which leaves some room for hope.
Much of Sexton's advice is simple and direct, things that you can easily do and discuss with your partner(s) without being obviously about Relationship Maintenance. All of his suggestions are wrapped up in examples that will amuse and interest anyone interested in marriage law--possibly even the Law and Order crowd--and anyone who likes reading about real relationships. The stories are gobble-it-up-like-popcorn gossip, but they're educational. (Maybe a better comparison is kale chips, if you like that kind of thing.) Even if you don't feel like you need relationship advice, this is a breezy and amusing book that will make you think.
And, as a divorced man himself, Sexton also offers valuable advice about managing finances and coparenting that would probably make any other relationship self-help author's jaw drop in horror--but which have led me and my spouse-to-be to have some interesting and important conversations.
So, on to complaints, of which there are just three. (I'm trying to do better!)
Sexton acknowledges in a note at the beginning that he's made all the couples heterosexual so that he can keep the pronouns straight and clear. I'm going to call BS on that, since he's almost certainly managed just fine when dealing with same sex couples, and anyway a good editor should be able to help spot any confusion. On the upside, here's an example of Sexton's self-awareness: "I am aware, however, that at this point these terms are heteronormative, perhaps inaccurate, frequently undesirable." Props on acknowledging it. Thumbs down for copping out.
Second, the advice does start to thin out a bit in the second half of the book in favor of Sexton's stories--but those alone are so entertaining and informative, and there are still enough chapters of straight-up advice scattered around that I didn't really notice this until I was taking a second look at the table of contents after I'd finished reading.
Finally, I'm not sure about the title, which seems a little too defeatist compared to the general upbeat tone of the book.
No quote roundup this time, because I worry that my quotes are going to give away the advice!
Disclaimer: The opinions expressed in this review are entirely my own and do not represent those of my employer.
Further disclaimer: I know I said I enjoyed this book, but then I only gave it three stars. I'd probably give it four, but I'm so sick of GoodReads adjusting all its algorithms for me when I read and highly rate even ONE book that isn't my usual fare. Argh!
March 22, 2020
This is an entertaining self-help book that mixes anecdotes from the author’s experiences as a divorce lawyer with marriage advice he draws from those experiences. Awhile back I read some entertaining medical memoirs and wished the same was available from the legal profession, which it generally isn’t; books by lawyers about their work tend to be grim or outraged or both. Sexton is neither, and his anecdotes are entertaining and sometimes even funny, though relatively brief. (And the outrage might sometimes be on the reader’s end, like when Sexton insists that because he was once hired by a drug-dealing, abusive pimp for a child support case, he was somehow ethically compelled to represent the guy in every case he ever had thereafter, including to get custody of his young daughter. Yeah, right.) Whether because Sexton isn’t a journalist or because the anecdotes are here to illustrate the advice, they don’t have a lot of depth to them, but there is a lot of humorously-recounted drama, so there’s that.
As far as the relationship advice, it ranges from the thought-provoking to the somewhat questionable, as in probably any self-help book, with much of it being fairly banal. That said, people have been writing about relationships for hundreds of years if not longer, so perhaps it’s not fair to expect this author to have a lot of strikingly new insights. Writing about how to sustain a marriage based on a lot of stories of failed marriages at times leads the author into pessimism (he’s unconvinced marriage counseling helps anyone, a phenomenon perhaps explained by the title of his book) and speculation. For instance, many of his clients, and the author himself, have found that having their children for limited, set times makes them focus more on the kids while they’re together rather than taking them for granted as they did before, so he suggests intact couples also try taking turns “having the kids,” without any evidence from anyone who’s ever actually tried this. Still an interesting idea though. And in general, Sexton seems to take a pretty realistic and grounded view of relationships, without descending into sweeping gender stereotypes as a lot of authors on the subject seem to do.
So, not particularly earth-shattering, but interesting nonetheless. Worth a read if you’re in the market for this sort of thing.
As far as the relationship advice, it ranges from the thought-provoking to the somewhat questionable, as in probably any self-help book, with much of it being fairly banal. That said, people have been writing about relationships for hundreds of years if not longer, so perhaps it’s not fair to expect this author to have a lot of strikingly new insights. Writing about how to sustain a marriage based on a lot of stories of failed marriages at times leads the author into pessimism (he’s unconvinced marriage counseling helps anyone, a phenomenon perhaps explained by the title of his book) and speculation. For instance, many of his clients, and the author himself, have found that having their children for limited, set times makes them focus more on the kids while they’re together rather than taking them for granted as they did before, so he suggests intact couples also try taking turns “having the kids,” without any evidence from anyone who’s ever actually tried this. Still an interesting idea though. And in general, Sexton seems to take a pretty realistic and grounded view of relationships, without descending into sweeping gender stereotypes as a lot of authors on the subject seem to do.
So, not particularly earth-shattering, but interesting nonetheless. Worth a read if you’re in the market for this sort of thing.
March 14, 2025
Хората напоследък много се развеждат и имат малко деца - това е обществената тенденция във всички държави, в пряка корелация с това колко забогатяват (и държавите, и хората) и колко са религиозни. Що така?
Защо колкото по-лесно е да живеем, толкова по-трудно ни е да живеем заедно? Дали не е защото живеенето заедно е еволюционен механизъм за оцеляване и след като вече все по-малко ни се налага да се борим за оцеляване и добруване, все по-малко сме склонни да търпим всякакви патерици, помагали ни по тоя път?
Колко е цинично и нихилистко да осъзнаем, че другите хора (и то не кои да е други хора, а най-близките ни) са всъщност патерици в съвременното общество... Но фактите са си факти, а те са, че в момента няма нито една цивилизована държава, която без емиграция, само от раждаемост, да може да поддържа броя на населението си, без да намалява.
James J. Sexton е бракоразводен адвокат и е доста интересен и атрактивен за слушане (в ютюб гостува на всякакви подкасти), далеч не толкова - за четене. Той се опира на дългогодишната си кариера, за да се опита да извади от нея общовалидни принципи за това какво най-често е виждал да руши браковете на хората. И съответно как да ги избягваме тия неща.
Защо колкото по-лесно е да живеем, толкова по-трудно ни е да живеем заедно? Дали не е защото живеенето заедно е еволюционен механизъм за оцеляване и след като вече все по-малко ни се налага да се борим за оцеляване и добруване, все по-малко сме склонни да търпим всякакви патерици, помагали ни по тоя път?
Колко е цинично и нихилистко да осъзнаем, че другите хора (и то не кои да е други хора, а най-близките ни) са всъщност патерици в съвременното общество... Но фактите са си факти, а те са, че в момента няма нито една цивилизована държава, която без емиграция, само от раждаемост, да може да поддържа броя на населението си, без да намалява.
James J. Sexton е бракоразводен адвокат и е доста интересен и атрактивен за слушане (в ютюб гостува на всякакви подкасти), далеч не толкова - за четене. Той се опира на дългогодишната си кариера, за да се опита да извади от нея общовалидни принципи за това какво най-често е виждал да руши браковете на хората. И съответно как да ги избягваме тия неща.
November 2, 2018
I had to warn my husband that this book was coming to the house. Divorce books make him nervous.
Recently a New York Times writer got a divorce and did a roundup review of all the latest divorce books. I couldn't resist a book that describes a divorce as a knife fight in a closet with the lights out and your spouse and your kids and all your favorite possessions inside.
There's some practical and wise advice here, but I was more interested in the salacious gossip about clients (with names and identifying details changed, of course). Chapter 8 is called "Everyone's Fμcking the Nanny."
Recently a New York Times writer got a divorce and did a roundup review of all the latest divorce books. I couldn't resist a book that describes a divorce as a knife fight in a closet with the lights out and your spouse and your kids and all your favorite possessions inside.
There's some practical and wise advice here, but I was more interested in the salacious gossip about clients (with names and identifying details changed, of course). Chapter 8 is called "Everyone's Fμcking the Nanny."
May 7, 2018
Finally someone who speaks my language.
"The romance in the movie the Titanic is bullshit. I feel the same way about Romeo and Juliet and other such tragic love stories. At least one of the parties dies before they get to see and live for a while with the yet unexpressed more annoying parts of their partner, which is when real love kicks in, or doesn't."
"Marriage isn't hard work, as long as you don't consider paying attention hard work"
I'm forever interested in the psychology of relationship and the mechanics of how they work. This book was insightful and funny as hell! Everyone loves a good divorce story and this book has some doozies. Interspersed among the stories, James explores the real deal no-no's that caused the breakdown. It was revelatory and very enjoyable. My favorite story 'the breakfast case' reminds us that our mates cannot read our minds, we need to state our intentions clearly and often, just hit send.
"Too many of us want love a la carte, we want the good parts the marriage, of commitment but not the tougher ones, the nuts and bolts. Love is a verb, its about rolling your sleeves up and giving the effort but this culture is premised on doing what you want. 'Why should I have to do that?' Well technically, you don't have to. But then, technically, you probably don't get to enjoy the really deep enriching stuff that comes only with marriages or loving relationships of long standing.... To love, to really love, is to love the whole person. If you don't love the mundane or generic or less obviously lovable side, even the sometimes hateful side, then you don't love him or her. You love a person who doesn't exist."
I read lots of self-help and relationship books but I've never read a what not to do guide this in-depth. This should be helpful to everyone in relationships. And it sure is hilariously entertaining.
"The romance in the movie the Titanic is bullshit. I feel the same way about Romeo and Juliet and other such tragic love stories. At least one of the parties dies before they get to see and live for a while with the yet unexpressed more annoying parts of their partner, which is when real love kicks in, or doesn't."
"Marriage isn't hard work, as long as you don't consider paying attention hard work"
I'm forever interested in the psychology of relationship and the mechanics of how they work. This book was insightful and funny as hell! Everyone loves a good divorce story and this book has some doozies. Interspersed among the stories, James explores the real deal no-no's that caused the breakdown. It was revelatory and very enjoyable. My favorite story 'the breakfast case' reminds us that our mates cannot read our minds, we need to state our intentions clearly and often, just hit send.
"Too many of us want love a la carte, we want the good parts the marriage, of commitment but not the tougher ones, the nuts and bolts. Love is a verb, its about rolling your sleeves up and giving the effort but this culture is premised on doing what you want. 'Why should I have to do that?' Well technically, you don't have to. But then, technically, you probably don't get to enjoy the really deep enriching stuff that comes only with marriages or loving relationships of long standing.... To love, to really love, is to love the whole person. If you don't love the mundane or generic or less obviously lovable side, even the sometimes hateful side, then you don't love him or her. You love a person who doesn't exist."
I read lots of self-help and relationship books but I've never read a what not to do guide this in-depth. This should be helpful to everyone in relationships. And it sure is hilariously entertaining.
May 17, 2020
I first learned of James Sexton from his interview on The Financial Diet’s YouTube channel and I instantly loved his personality, and candid take on marriage and divorce. This book was so good! Such a case study on what not to do in a relationship, and is really revealing on how to think of what partnership means based on people ending their marriages. I loved the story telling and advice giving. Highly recommend.
February 20, 2025
I would like to preface this review by saying my marriage is going well, and I read this out of curiosity slash as a preventative measure lol (as the author says, this is a how not to book, not a how to book).
This book is enjoyable and informative. The author is funny, and the chapters are short and to the point which I appreciate. Lots of good tips and examples in this one, and it’s written from an interesting perspective that most of us aren’t familiar with. Would definitely recommend!
This book is enjoyable and informative. The author is funny, and the chapters are short and to the point which I appreciate. Lots of good tips and examples in this one, and it’s written from an interesting perspective that most of us aren’t familiar with. Would definitely recommend!
October 17, 2018
Fantastic. Everyone interested in keeping their relationship together should read this book. Well written, entertaining and smart. And witty as hell.
January 11, 2024
4.5* leer esto as an eldest daughter y as a law student? me encantó 🤩 el tipo va al grano de lo que pasa en marriages and how they end up en divorce y no habla del divorce como algo negativo (thank fucking god) y si todas las parejas leen este libro and truly give a fuck de lo que el tiene que decir se resuelven un montón de problemas porque el cabrón dice LO BASICO like u must be empathetic, talk constantly to your partner, be a good listener, appreciate lo que hacen por ti, ayudar en la casa, no dejar cosas al aire cuando hay problemas like esto es lo básico pero aparentemente hay gente k no sabe esto anywaysss cuando besties mias se casen ya saben que este es el regalo pa ustedes also he’s a man so a pesar de eso el tipo slayed pero seria cool ver una perspectiva de una mujer divorce lawyer
July 21, 2025
Matt read this book before me, so I thought it would be fun to read it together and discuss. Very easy to read, entertaining stories, and practical advice I agree with.
Edit - there was nothing groundbreaking in this book though lol
Edit - there was nothing groundbreaking in this book though lol
September 7, 2021
This is one of those books that I will forever be quoting and bringing up in casual conversation. It's just that good. Am I thinking of seeking advice from a divorce lawyer? No no no. But if I were, I'd go see this guy. As I read in another review somewhere, come for the insane stories, stay for the solid advice about what NOT to do in your marriage.
James Sexton is one of those rare birds who set out to be a divorce lawyer from the get-go. And he's made good on his life goals...he's now a highly-sought-after, smooth, fast-talking, ruthless divorce attorney who bills out at $600/hour, and brings us some of his most bizarre and poignant stories about marriages in ruin. And because he is a romantic at heart (!) he truly wants to help those who can be helped with insight on where it all goes wrong.
Facebook is one of them. He calls it an Infidelity Machine. Asking for a threesome with the nanny would be on the list of no-nos. Or harboring a secret desire to put on women's underwear and be tied up, and not telling your wife until deep into your marriage could present a problem. He lists the five kinds of cheating to look for. He talks about communication, maintaining interests of your own, not having children to try to fix things...these are all very common sense but he puts a fine point on it with his own experiences. He's got statistics to back up his harsh attitudes. You've cheated and you think that giving your spouse more than half the marital assets will win you forgiveness? Don't bother. You seek his advice but think you'll maybe try counseling first? Don't bother. You think you're smart enough to convince the judge your business sucks so you have to pay less alimony? Good luck with that.
I laughed my whole way through this one, but all the while felt sad for all the well-intentioned moony-eyed newlyweds that ended up hating each other, ruining their kids lives, and their own. There are great lessons to be learned here and I suspect I may listen to this one again, if for no other reason than the sheer entertainment.
Mr. Sexton narrates his own audiobook, and did so with aplomb. You can tell that he is a natural storyteller and performer.
James Sexton is one of those rare birds who set out to be a divorce lawyer from the get-go. And he's made good on his life goals...he's now a highly-sought-after, smooth, fast-talking, ruthless divorce attorney who bills out at $600/hour, and brings us some of his most bizarre and poignant stories about marriages in ruin. And because he is a romantic at heart (!) he truly wants to help those who can be helped with insight on where it all goes wrong.
Facebook is one of them. He calls it an Infidelity Machine. Asking for a threesome with the nanny would be on the list of no-nos. Or harboring a secret desire to put on women's underwear and be tied up, and not telling your wife until deep into your marriage could present a problem. He lists the five kinds of cheating to look for. He talks about communication, maintaining interests of your own, not having children to try to fix things...these are all very common sense but he puts a fine point on it with his own experiences. He's got statistics to back up his harsh attitudes. You've cheated and you think that giving your spouse more than half the marital assets will win you forgiveness? Don't bother. You seek his advice but think you'll maybe try counseling first? Don't bother. You think you're smart enough to convince the judge your business sucks so you have to pay less alimony? Good luck with that.
I laughed my whole way through this one, but all the while felt sad for all the well-intentioned moony-eyed newlyweds that ended up hating each other, ruining their kids lives, and their own. There are great lessons to be learned here and I suspect I may listen to this one again, if for no other reason than the sheer entertainment.
Mr. Sexton narrates his own audiobook, and did so with aplomb. You can tell that he is a natural storyteller and performer.
May 18, 2018
4.5 stars. Being a pragmatic person (for the most part) I found this book insightful and helpful, especially if you are invested in your relationship and as James poses make it thrive:
"... marriage is a living thing, an organism. It survives when we repeat roughly the same conditions from day to day, but it thrives when it is truly nourished. There’s a difference between waking up every day and not doing anything different (It’s Tuesday, we’ll just continue the marriage … It’s November, we’ll just continue the marriage.…) vs. waking up every day, embracing what you have, and enthusiastically making a choice to continue it."
And is also entertaining and hilarious with all the sarcastic comments and funny anecdotes.
Overall I enjoyed the read in a very reflective and entertaining way.
"... marriage is a living thing, an organism. It survives when we repeat roughly the same conditions from day to day, but it thrives when it is truly nourished. There’s a difference between waking up every day and not doing anything different (It’s Tuesday, we’ll just continue the marriage … It’s November, we’ll just continue the marriage.…) vs. waking up every day, embracing what you have, and enthusiastically making a choice to continue it."
And is also entertaining and hilarious with all the sarcastic comments and funny anecdotes.
Overall I enjoyed the read in a very reflective and entertaining way.
July 22, 2024
"𝘉𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘢𝘳𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘥𝘰𝘦𝘴𝘯’𝘵 𝘨𝘶𝘢𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘦 𝘢 𝘳𝘦𝘨𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘳𝘭𝘺 𝘢𝘤𝘤𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘣𝘭𝘦, 𝘴𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘴𝘧𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘦𝘹 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘯𝘦𝘢𝘳 𝘢 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘶𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘨𝘶𝘢𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘦𝘴 𝘣𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘦𝘭𝘭-𝘧𝘦𝘥."
"𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯𝘦𝘥, 𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳, 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘮𝘢𝘳𝘳𝘪𝘢𝘨𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘪𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱𝘴 𝘧𝘢𝘪𝘭 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘸𝘰 𝘧𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘭 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘴.
1. 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵.
2. 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯’𝘵 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵.
𝘌𝘯𝘥 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺."
I have been following J𝑎𝑚𝑒𝑠 S𝑒𝑥𝑡𝑜𝑛'𝑠 works ever since I saw his interview on YouTube a few months back. I have found his book to be packed with great insights on marriage and divorce.
I loved his humorous approach to this rather serious topic. I don't agree with some of his views, but I still would recommend it to anyone who is interseted about learning a few things about how couples can stay together.
3.75⭐⭐⭐
"𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯𝘦𝘥, 𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳, 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘮𝘢𝘳𝘳𝘪𝘢𝘨𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘪𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱𝘴 𝘧𝘢𝘪𝘭 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘸𝘰 𝘧𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘭 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘴.
1. 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵.
2. 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯’𝘵 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵.
𝘌𝘯𝘥 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺."
I have been following J𝑎𝑚𝑒𝑠 S𝑒𝑥𝑡𝑜𝑛'𝑠 works ever since I saw his interview on YouTube a few months back. I have found his book to be packed with great insights on marriage and divorce.
I loved his humorous approach to this rather serious topic. I don't agree with some of his views, but I still would recommend it to anyone who is interseted about learning a few things about how couples can stay together.
3.75⭐⭐⭐
October 23, 2018
Now THIS is entertainment. Not currently a divorced person (or even a law aficianado), I very much enjoyed this book. Imagine Saul Goodman's voice from Better Call Saul - sneery, jaded, world weary, grandstanding, but with a good purpose. So in this book Sexton's purpose subtly enumerating the principles that make marriages work. The book has 40ish chapters in number each with an idea behind them. Each principle has a number of HOPEFULLY fictional counter examples. There is also a good amount on the culture and mindset of divorce lawyers, which was informative. I did like the scandalous parts as well - as Sexton advises readers they will -, but it is ultimately a very moral book.
January 29, 2025
Unflinchingly honest, unexpectedly funny, and deeply insightful. I loved the message and the punchy delivery. I’m definitely recommending this to all my married friends!
March 30, 2020
The book introduces itself as a "How not to fuck up a good relationship or marriage" p 8. He writes in a style that is equally charming and crude. I believe that negative examples of ‘what not to do’ can be just as powerful as the ‘how to’ books. He gives anecdotes of the many and unique ways that marriage can come to an end and suggests the narrow path of getting marriage right (another Anna Karenina principle). He is blunt about the importance of sex in a good marriage saying it is in the traditional vows (To have and to hold is a polite way of saying having sex). Many marriages ends are preceded by sexual misery.
Sexton is repeatedly endorse finding a partner that you can "just press send" to. What he means by this is that by the time you are ready to get married you should have the sort of partner you can tell anything to, especially the dark stuff. He uses the example of the Foot Fetish community. If your fetish is important to you, your partner should know (and if you cannot live without acting on your impulses, find a way to accommodate you). If it is important, you will 'go without, or go somewhere else', neither has a good outcome in the longer term. He does not consider "just press send" for issues just around sex. He believes "just press send" about everything. He believes in the type of relationship with your intimate other where you can be your Rogarian 'authentic self' (he does acknowledge he too is a divorcee).
Sexton agrees with the spirit of the Mike Pence rule 'I never am alone with a female who is not my wife'. Sexton approaches from the point of view of not putting yourself in situations where the outcome might not be favourable, given your personal foibles. If you are an alcoholic, do not go to bars; if you abuse sweets, don't keep chocolate in your fridge; if you are married, don't be alone with people who you are attracted to. I like this rule and apply it as best I can, given my own foibles.
He describes the 5 kinds of infidelity and how all infidelity is just a variation of the same script (The freshly discovered soul mate; The wakeup call; The big mistake; The push out of the closet; The revenge) and the prosaic all too familiar arguments used to justify them..
Sexton dares to suggest that there is an upside to being divorced (aka protected time alone). He says that a number of divorcees enjoy the style of life that being divorced allows them. Total focus on the kids when you have them, and total focus on other activities when you don't. He believes this leads to benefits for the individuals and their children. He suggests married couples could figure out a way of getting protected time alone during an average week as a way of gain both the benefits of divorce and marriage.
He suggests making sure you keep the blow jobs within your marriage (maybe literally, but Sexton uses this as a metaphor for the small kindnesses you do that you know your partner enjoys that you get no personal gain from). Be intentional and considerate for your whole relationship, it requires constant attention (and regular blow jobs).
I enjoyed the book and the insights given. Not a serious work of research, nor does it claim to be. The work is based on anecdotes from his experience that sometimes titillate but was worth the time spent reading it. A different perspective lead to a unique book that has given me pause to think and discuss with Kerri how our relationship could be better.
Sexton is repeatedly endorse finding a partner that you can "just press send" to. What he means by this is that by the time you are ready to get married you should have the sort of partner you can tell anything to, especially the dark stuff. He uses the example of the Foot Fetish community. If your fetish is important to you, your partner should know (and if you cannot live without acting on your impulses, find a way to accommodate you). If it is important, you will 'go without, or go somewhere else', neither has a good outcome in the longer term. He does not consider "just press send" for issues just around sex. He believes "just press send" about everything. He believes in the type of relationship with your intimate other where you can be your Rogarian 'authentic self' (he does acknowledge he too is a divorcee).
Sexton agrees with the spirit of the Mike Pence rule 'I never am alone with a female who is not my wife'. Sexton approaches from the point of view of not putting yourself in situations where the outcome might not be favourable, given your personal foibles. If you are an alcoholic, do not go to bars; if you abuse sweets, don't keep chocolate in your fridge; if you are married, don't be alone with people who you are attracted to. I like this rule and apply it as best I can, given my own foibles.
He describes the 5 kinds of infidelity and how all infidelity is just a variation of the same script (The freshly discovered soul mate; The wakeup call; The big mistake; The push out of the closet; The revenge) and the prosaic all too familiar arguments used to justify them..
Sexton dares to suggest that there is an upside to being divorced (aka protected time alone). He says that a number of divorcees enjoy the style of life that being divorced allows them. Total focus on the kids when you have them, and total focus on other activities when you don't. He believes this leads to benefits for the individuals and their children. He suggests married couples could figure out a way of getting protected time alone during an average week as a way of gain both the benefits of divorce and marriage.
He suggests making sure you keep the blow jobs within your marriage (maybe literally, but Sexton uses this as a metaphor for the small kindnesses you do that you know your partner enjoys that you get no personal gain from). Be intentional and considerate for your whole relationship, it requires constant attention (and regular blow jobs).
I enjoyed the book and the insights given. Not a serious work of research, nor does it claim to be. The work is based on anecdotes from his experience that sometimes titillate but was worth the time spent reading it. A different perspective lead to a unique book that has given me pause to think and discuss with Kerri how our relationship could be better.
April 10, 2021
Will come back and add a review but this was a funny candid book on a divorce lawyers observations on divorcing couples. The author acknowledges that his lens is biased but the witty anecdotes and short chapters were easy to immerse myself into. I even had a few takeaways I’ll list later. As an aside the audiobook was excellent, he could become an audiobook narrator as a side hustle though I doubt he needs it.
A Collection of Notes I Took While Reading This Book:
- To be happy you don't have to be right. It's about the partnership
- Communicate honestly even if it's hard, lying breaks a marriage
- Don't be controlling, it's stifling and won't prevent things from happening. If they're going to cheat they are going to cheat. You restricting them isn't going to stop them.
- Don't lose yourself in a marriage, obviously you need to adjust but don't lose your hobbies, travel on your own.
- Communicate, your partner isn't a mind reader
- If you have sexual interests you want to explore at least tell your partner, and let them decide if it's on or off the table.
- The whole metaphor about cars and marriages. The idea is that you are picking a partner for the rset of your life. The flashy car that's good for the next 3 years might not be what you want at 50. Also prevention, cars need regular maintenance as do marriages.
- "Blowjobs are like eggs benedict you aren't getting them at home"
- Sex is a pillar of marriage
- In our system you get the justice you can afford, and divorce is no different.
- General advice, don't let your partner be completely in control of any one part of your life, i.e. taking care of all the finances. You can't be good at everything so it makes sense to divy up, but don't be clueless.
- Also advice for if you are on the stand, don't say you believe in a principal and have no way to back it up. I.e saying I believe in my child's education and then not know anything about it.
- "The forgiveness is in the forgetting."
- The very small penis story, lol
- When you write a text or email think if you are ok with it being published.
- When arguing, start with the big picture and give a specific example.
- Don't argue about things that can't be fixed, i.e. he's short
- In his experience, the financial system that works best is yours, mine , ours.
- Love is a verb it requires effort, you can't just get the shiny parts of marriage without the nuts and bolts behind it.
- "Just give a shit" and pay attention to them, make them feel special.
A Collection of Notes I Took While Reading This Book:
- To be happy you don't have to be right. It's about the partnership
- Communicate honestly even if it's hard, lying breaks a marriage
- Don't be controlling, it's stifling and won't prevent things from happening. If they're going to cheat they are going to cheat. You restricting them isn't going to stop them.
- Don't lose yourself in a marriage, obviously you need to adjust but don't lose your hobbies, travel on your own.
- Communicate, your partner isn't a mind reader
- If you have sexual interests you want to explore at least tell your partner, and let them decide if it's on or off the table.
- The whole metaphor about cars and marriages. The idea is that you are picking a partner for the rset of your life. The flashy car that's good for the next 3 years might not be what you want at 50. Also prevention, cars need regular maintenance as do marriages.
- "Blowjobs are like eggs benedict you aren't getting them at home"
- Sex is a pillar of marriage
- In our system you get the justice you can afford, and divorce is no different.
- General advice, don't let your partner be completely in control of any one part of your life, i.e. taking care of all the finances. You can't be good at everything so it makes sense to divy up, but don't be clueless.
- Also advice for if you are on the stand, don't say you believe in a principal and have no way to back it up. I.e saying I believe in my child's education and then not know anything about it.
- "The forgiveness is in the forgetting."
- The very small penis story, lol
- When you write a text or email think if you are ok with it being published.
- When arguing, start with the big picture and give a specific example.
- Don't argue about things that can't be fixed, i.e. he's short
- In his experience, the financial system that works best is yours, mine , ours.
- Love is a verb it requires effort, you can't just get the shiny parts of marriage without the nuts and bolts behind it.
- "Just give a shit" and pay attention to them, make them feel special.
June 30, 2018
As someone who has been happily married for 20 years, I think I’m well qualified to review this book. James Sexton tells it like it is, from his very unique experience of having supervised the dissolution of over a thousand marriages. I would give this book as a gift to every newlywed. In fact I’d give it to single friends looking for a relationship.
From communication, manipulation and sex to Facebook, extended family and denial (not a river in Egypt), Sexton gives great advice and shares some great stories. Some will break your heart. He admits that his job description involves doing some pretty despicable things. He’s himself divorced. No doubt his profession is as soul-crushing as it is bank balance enhancing. But his advice and observations are spot-on, delivered in no-nonsense adult language.
I don’t usually read these types of books. I heard his interview on NPR and was intrigued. Having read the book, I recommended it highly.
From communication, manipulation and sex to Facebook, extended family and denial (not a river in Egypt), Sexton gives great advice and shares some great stories. Some will break your heart. He admits that his job description involves doing some pretty despicable things. He’s himself divorced. No doubt his profession is as soul-crushing as it is bank balance enhancing. But his advice and observations are spot-on, delivered in no-nonsense adult language.
I don’t usually read these types of books. I heard his interview on NPR and was intrigued. Having read the book, I recommended it highly.
March 4, 2020
Sexton describes himself in the book as a "Buddhist, nihilist, divorced, divorce lawyer."
While this may not sound like a good recipe for relationship advice, he avidly repeats that this "Is not a 'How To' book, it is a 'How Not To' book", yet there are genuinely meaningful nuggets of wisdom in this book.
After legally representing clients in over 1200 divorces, he has compiled all the most common reasons he has seen relationships fail, and points out where the need for his services could have been prevented.
The book is an engaging read, not only because it's well written. He balances a personality that is both hopeless romantic, and sociopathic. This contrast manifests in hilarious anecdotes with deep lessons, and shameless, brutal honesty about what leads previously love-struck couples to sit in his office years later, paying him copious amounts of money to destroy their marriage in court.
While this may not sound like a good recipe for relationship advice, he avidly repeats that this "Is not a 'How To' book, it is a 'How Not To' book", yet there are genuinely meaningful nuggets of wisdom in this book.
After legally representing clients in over 1200 divorces, he has compiled all the most common reasons he has seen relationships fail, and points out where the need for his services could have been prevented.
The book is an engaging read, not only because it's well written. He balances a personality that is both hopeless romantic, and sociopathic. This contrast manifests in hilarious anecdotes with deep lessons, and shameless, brutal honesty about what leads previously love-struck couples to sit in his office years later, paying him copious amounts of money to destroy their marriage in court.
March 22, 2018
I received a copy of this book from a Goodreads giveaway. I liked that this book had a very different perspective than most marriage advice books. The stories were funny and there was some interesting advice.
February 5, 2020
While I don't necessarily agree with everything the author says, this is still a great book.
April 11, 2024
Why was this the funniest thing I have listened to in sooooo long? Definitely need to hear the author to get the most of this- a lot like David Sedaris.
February 9, 2024
2.5-3⭐️? Idk. Honestly halfway through the book I found myself just going to the last page of each chapter to figure out what point he was wanting to get across. Maybe I’m just lucky enough to be in a good relationship (humble brag lmao) but a lot of the points/tips brought up seemed to be obvious to me. But that may not be the case for everyone! I hope for the people that it’s not obvious for, that this book is very helpful for them. Everyone deserves an amazing relationship ! Well written, enjoyed his personal stories and appreciated the humor weaved through an important topic.
July 12, 2025
“We try so hard not to chip the glass that we shatter it.”
The author seems so caught up in the clichés of divorce that he treats basic insights about relationships like big revelations. I found it a bit boring and skimmed through some of the obvious advice, but some of the real case stories were actually fun to read.
November 24, 2023
I found Sexton via an interview on TikTok that was so startlingly raw and fascinating that I wanted even more of his thoughts. This book delivered (and I highly recommend the audio).
A great book to read at any point in a relationship, Sexton asks the questions we never think to ask ourselves, like What do we want out of this relationship? What does a successful relationship look like? Can we be honest with ourselves about our answers? Why is everyone fucking the nanny? (Okay, maybe that last one is more specific to his clients.)
Sexton describes his book as a how-not-to book rather than a how-to book, which is exactly the kind of refreshing take that I like.
A great book to read at any point in a relationship, Sexton asks the questions we never think to ask ourselves, like What do we want out of this relationship? What does a successful relationship look like? Can we be honest with ourselves about our answers? Why is everyone fucking the nanny? (Okay, maybe that last one is more specific to his clients.)
Sexton describes his book as a how-not-to book rather than a how-to book, which is exactly the kind of refreshing take that I like.
April 10, 2024
Intriguing insight into divorces and relationships, with hilarious moments and courtroom stories, an enjoyable and insightful read.
April 23, 2024
Lots of wisdom, a bit of humour and timely advice from someone who has seen them all.
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