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I Walked on My Own Grave
Ramon Sosa's memoir I Walked on My Own Grave recounts in vivid detail the unbelievable events that led to his wife plotting to have him killed. The boxer turned businessman and motivational speaker faked his own death (complete with pictures from the grave) to take back his life and return to his family.
While the story of a murder-for-hire plot is intriguing to any reader, Sosa's main goal is not to entertain but to help others see the warning signs they may be ignoring. In hindsight, Sosa realized that his shame and embarrassment and his desire to save both his marriage and his image prevented him from getting away from his abusive wife before it was almost too late.
I Walked on My Own Grave delves deep into the meaning of love, the importance, and fragility, of relationships, and a person's innate will to survive even under the most challenging situations, along with offering lessons and ideas for regaining a better life.
While the story of a murder-for-hire plot is intriguing to any reader, Sosa's main goal is not to entertain but to help others see the warning signs they may be ignoring. In hindsight, Sosa realized that his shame and embarrassment and his desire to save both his marriage and his image prevented him from getting away from his abusive wife before it was almost too late.
I Walked on My Own Grave delves deep into the meaning of love, the importance, and fragility, of relationships, and a person's innate will to survive even under the most challenging situations, along with offering lessons and ideas for regaining a better life.
- GenresTrue Crime
168 pages, Hardcover
Published April 24, 2019
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June 19, 2025
Ramon Sosa tells not just the harrowing tale of a man whose wife tried to have him killed, but a story far more universal — a story about misplaced love, the masks people wear, and the devastating cost of trusting the wrong soul.
This is not a novel born from imagination; it’s reality laid bare. Yet it reads with the suspense and emotional tension of a psychological thriller, unfolding with the weight of truth and the quiet desperation of someone who has stared into the grave -literally- and walked away wiser, but never the same.
When Love Becomes a Lie:
it's about betrayal on the most intimate level -by someone who once said, “I love you.” Sosa explores what happens when the person we trust with our vulnerabilities becomes the very source of our undoing.
"How well do we ever really know someone?"
This isn’t just Ramon’s question, it’s ours too. Whether in love, friendship, or partnership, we are reminded how easily affection can blind judgment, and how desire for connection can silence intuition. In the case of Sosa, that silence nearly cost him his life.
His journey is not merely external -it’s internal. We see a man emotionally stripped to the core, forced to re-examine every moment, every word, every sign he might have missed.
The woman he loved isn’t painted here as a villain in the simplistic sense. Instead, she becomes a symbol of a larger truth: that some people love what you offer, not who you are. Her charm, neediness, and seeming devotion are slowly unmasked not only by police investigations, but by Sosa’s own retrospective clarity.
In literature, we often speak of the tragic hero. In this memoir, Ramon is the survivor-hero — not because he outwitted death, but because he emerged with his humanity intact, scarred but speaking.
This is not a novel born from imagination; it’s reality laid bare. Yet it reads with the suspense and emotional tension of a psychological thriller, unfolding with the weight of truth and the quiet desperation of someone who has stared into the grave -literally- and walked away wiser, but never the same.
When Love Becomes a Lie:
it's about betrayal on the most intimate level -by someone who once said, “I love you.” Sosa explores what happens when the person we trust with our vulnerabilities becomes the very source of our undoing.
"How well do we ever really know someone?"
This isn’t just Ramon’s question, it’s ours too. Whether in love, friendship, or partnership, we are reminded how easily affection can blind judgment, and how desire for connection can silence intuition. In the case of Sosa, that silence nearly cost him his life.
His journey is not merely external -it’s internal. We see a man emotionally stripped to the core, forced to re-examine every moment, every word, every sign he might have missed.
The woman he loved isn’t painted here as a villain in the simplistic sense. Instead, she becomes a symbol of a larger truth: that some people love what you offer, not who you are. Her charm, neediness, and seeming devotion are slowly unmasked not only by police investigations, but by Sosa’s own retrospective clarity.
In literature, we often speak of the tragic hero. In this memoir, Ramon is the survivor-hero — not because he outwitted death, but because he emerged with his humanity intact, scarred but speaking.
April 14, 2021
After Ramon and Cris appeared on David So’s podcast, Genius Brain, I was very interested in hearing all the details about Mr. Ramon Sosa’s account of “dying.” It is insane to me that it happened right here in Texas and in The Woodlands no less! During college, my friends and I frequented The Woodlands often.
This account was very intimate and “raw” as Sosa described it, and though he skips around on the timeline of his story, I still enjoyed it. It’s as if you were having a conversation with Mr. Sosa himself. For the people who are saying it was a poorly written book, remember that Mr. Sosa isn’t an acclaimed author. He was a boxer and a business owner.
I am glad that this story sheds a light on the fact that men can be victims of abuse. It is not talked about much, especially when men are expected to be tough and macho and while so many women have become victims to Intimate Partner Violence. This was definitely a good and eye opening read and I applaud Mr. Sosa for sharing such a vulnerable story especially since he was a pro boxer which is basically the pinnacle of macho and manly.
This account was very intimate and “raw” as Sosa described it, and though he skips around on the timeline of his story, I still enjoyed it. It’s as if you were having a conversation with Mr. Sosa himself. For the people who are saying it was a poorly written book, remember that Mr. Sosa isn’t an acclaimed author. He was a boxer and a business owner.
I am glad that this story sheds a light on the fact that men can be victims of abuse. It is not talked about much, especially when men are expected to be tough and macho and while so many women have become victims to Intimate Partner Violence. This was definitely a good and eye opening read and I applaud Mr. Sosa for sharing such a vulnerable story especially since he was a pro boxer which is basically the pinnacle of macho and manly.
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February 23, 2022
Sighs! Dug out this book after I watched an episode on Ramon's case on Vice TV. I couldn't fathom the extreme wickedness of his wife Lulu so I was hungry for some context. The book tells a good story though it doesn't douse the utter naivety or stupidity (some may argue) of Ramon leading up to his troubles. The latter is backed up by the fact those around him (ex wife, parents, kids) saw through Lulu and tried to warn him. In the end, it was great to see Good triumph over evil. The likes of Mundo reminds one of the need to be Good. Funny, it reminded me of a scene in Training Day starring Denzel Washington and Ethan Hawke. The relationship between the scene where Ethan's character saved the girl that was about to be raped and the scene where that act saved him from being shot in the bathroom towards the end. The fact he'd done good for the gang member's niece without knowing it then was his lifesaver. That's what Ramon meant to Mundo. Happy for Ramon!
December 31, 2019
although i feel for ramon sosa and cannot fathom the living hell he went through, this is an extremely poorly written book that wanders from place to place. there were times when ramon was living in his house with his estranged wife and in the following chapter he was living with his parents. somehow, in the next chapter, he was again living with his wife. this type of confusion happened time and again, he's living with his parents, he's living in a hotel in hiding, he's in the police station with mundo after saying mundo would only go in alone. the many contradictions ruined this story for me.
January 11, 2020
Powerful and insightful perspective of how men can also become victims in violent relationships. This book should definitely be made into a film! Thankfully, Ramon escaped his wife’s deadly plot and now is speaking out in support of men who may be at risk. Highly recommended read!
June 30, 2019
Thanks for sharing such a personal and painful story. May God bless you
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June 4, 2023Very compelling read. The story is told with many little details about his life and upbringing that enrich the plot. He wrote it in a very honest way without unrealistic embellishment.
September 12, 2019
Great book.
I read this book in one evening. Such a sad story that actually made me cry. Highly recommend this book.
I read this book in one evening. Such a sad story that actually made me cry. Highly recommend this book.
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