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The Modern Break-Up
"When it comes to dating, I seem to be going around in a circle. The ones I want don't want me, and the ones who want me, I don't want."
-Amelia
“I don’t know, I just think there’s too much miscommunication between guys and girls. I mean, no one knows what the fuck is going on. We need to have the discussion. We need to vent it and get it out in the open,” I said, grabbing my drink from the bedside table.
_____ sat on the edge of the bed and put his shirt back on. “What do you want to know?”
“I just want to know what guys are thinking. I mean we have sex and stuff and nothing lasting ever comes of it,” I said, taking a cigarette out and lighting it. I knew I shouldn’t be smoking in the room, but I was too drunk to care.
“I don’t think I should say. We don’t know everything girls are thinking. I think some things are better left unsaid.”
“I want to know. I’d prefer shit to be clearer, because I’m always confused,” I replied. I could tell he was still a bit sexually frustrated, but he seemed okay to chat.
“Go ahead then, ask what you want. I’ll try give it to you as straight as I can. But don’t hate the messenger,” _____ responded, taking the champagne from my hand and having some.
“I won’t, promise. So why do guys act so interested and then not get in touch at all? ?” I asked.
Excerpt taken from The Modern Break-Up.
-Amelia
“I don’t know, I just think there’s too much miscommunication between guys and girls. I mean, no one knows what the fuck is going on. We need to have the discussion. We need to vent it and get it out in the open,” I said, grabbing my drink from the bedside table.
_____ sat on the edge of the bed and put his shirt back on. “What do you want to know?”
“I just want to know what guys are thinking. I mean we have sex and stuff and nothing lasting ever comes of it,” I said, taking a cigarette out and lighting it. I knew I shouldn’t be smoking in the room, but I was too drunk to care.
“I don’t think I should say. We don’t know everything girls are thinking. I think some things are better left unsaid.”
“I want to know. I’d prefer shit to be clearer, because I’m always confused,” I replied. I could tell he was still a bit sexually frustrated, but he seemed okay to chat.
“Go ahead then, ask what you want. I’ll try give it to you as straight as I can. But don’t hate the messenger,” _____ responded, taking the champagne from my hand and having some.
“I won’t, promise. So why do guys act so interested and then not get in touch at all? ?” I asked.
Excerpt taken from The Modern Break-Up.
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First published May 19, 2020
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January 22, 2020
I can't even get past the second chapter. Unbelievably poor writing. The characters are less developed than those in a children's picture book. Why did the author try to write from the perspective of a woman? The only thing I can come up with is that his white male privilege gave him the guts to think that he could execute this well; there's a whole new circle in hell for cis, het white men who decide that regular mansplaining isn't enough that they need to publish a book doing so, too.
January 7, 2020
Mindlessly browsing Instagram is more entertaining then this.
February 6, 2020
i cannot even begin to stress how bad this book is. truly the utterly worst book i have ever laid my sad tired eyes on in my 26 years on earth, and though i can’t remember them i’m sure this takes baby books i read as an infant into consideration.
the characters are all fucking awful narcissistic wanks, the writing is disgracefully infantile to the point where i don’t believe a single person at this publishing house actually read a single early draft of this because any publisher with integrity would surely have told him to immediately trash it.
also there’s something grossly privileged and sexist about a (presumably) cishet male writing a novel from the viewpoint of women who are constantly complaining about “where have all the good guys gone” and “why do i only attract the HOT ASSHOLES and not the NICE GUYS”. there’s a particularly awful scene where HOT GUY BUT ALSO NICE GUY nick literally mansplains to her that she “always chooses the wrong ones” and “he doesn’t need to chase women anymore because he KNOWS himself and he’s ENTERED A HIGHER PLANE OF CONSCIOUSNESS” (an actual line someone in the book uses btw x) like jesus christ shut the fuck up you insufferable prick.
okay rant over but my words can never truly pay homage to the shitshow that is this book so PLEASE read it so you can understand my pain.
the characters are all fucking awful narcissistic wanks, the writing is disgracefully infantile to the point where i don’t believe a single person at this publishing house actually read a single early draft of this because any publisher with integrity would surely have told him to immediately trash it.
also there’s something grossly privileged and sexist about a (presumably) cishet male writing a novel from the viewpoint of women who are constantly complaining about “where have all the good guys gone” and “why do i only attract the HOT ASSHOLES and not the NICE GUYS”. there’s a particularly awful scene where HOT GUY BUT ALSO NICE GUY nick literally mansplains to her that she “always chooses the wrong ones” and “he doesn’t need to chase women anymore because he KNOWS himself and he’s ENTERED A HIGHER PLANE OF CONSCIOUSNESS” (an actual line someone in the book uses btw x) like jesus christ shut the fuck up you insufferable prick.
okay rant over but my words can never truly pay homage to the shitshow that is this book so PLEASE read it so you can understand my pain.
May 2, 2020
I stumbled across this book on Instagram. After reading several quoted passages from it, I decided to read it even though I thought I would hate it. I was pleasantly surprised to enjoy it.
At times, it's insightful. A fun read, almost like eavesdropping on a group of friends chatting at the table next to yours. It hits the points it's trying to get across nicely. It's dialogue heavy, and the dialogue itself is realistic.
At times, it's insightful. A fun read, almost like eavesdropping on a group of friends chatting at the table next to yours. It hits the points it's trying to get across nicely. It's dialogue heavy, and the dialogue itself is realistic.
January 30, 2020
What a load of c**p. This book was seriously cringeworthy and vomit-inducing the whole way through. The story was weak, the dialogues were long, boring and unrealistic and the characters were underdeveloped and annoying. This book is not very long, but it took me forever to read it because I didn't enjoy it and because it's so badly written. Sorry, but I cannot recommend this book.
December 19, 2019
RATING: 4.75
Can you believe I'm actually reviewing a contemporary romance novel? Because I can't. I usually tend to stay away from this genre, mainly because it doesn't give me what I need to escape reality and forget my real-life issues.
One thing I know for sure: the marketing behind this book was great. It has a dedicated Instagram page and they knew how to target their audience, which is exactly how I stumbled across it. I saw some posts that featured some lines from the book and I was immediately intrigued, mostly because I resonated with those words a lot.
I don't know much about the author: from what I gathered, he's more like a motivational influencer than an actual writer. He knows for sure how to interact with his audience and how to sell his products.
The Modern Breakup is a quick and easy read, meant for those who are experiencing confusion, frustration and stress in the dating scene. They call it a contemporary romance novel, but to me it's more of a self-help book for people who went through toxic relationships. Mainly women.
That's why I enjoyed it so much, but that's also why I feel like this wouldn't be appreciated by someone who can't resonate with the story on a personal level.
First of all, there's no actual story.
Our MC is Amelia, a girl who just went through a bad breakup with Jay, a guy who treated her poorly and that was incredibly toxic for her. Amelia is in New York, enjoying a little vacation with one of her BFFs Zara, who seems like a super confident girl, but deep down she's scared and vulnerable. They're spending the night in a bar and they casually meet two guys.
From there the "story" actually stops and we get many chapters from Amelia and Zara POVs, in which they talk with us readers about their issues with men, with relationships, with love in general. They tell us what they went through, how they felt, how they feel at the moment, what they learned from those experiences, what they want to achieve in the future and stuff like that. It feels more like a friend telling you what you need to hear and less like a character from a novel.
The point of the book, in my opinion, is making you resonate with Amelia and Zara, with their past experiences and, most importantly, with the motivational words they're telling you. If you experienced something similar you will instantly feel close to those two, you will recognize yourself in their words. If you didn't, there's literally no point in reading this book.
There are also chapters from the two guys POVs, where they also share their thoughts about the dating scene, about how girls act and things like that.
Weirdly enough, despite the author being a man, he nailed the female perspective but not the male one. What Nick states throughout the entire book sounds fake, not genuine, a series of nice words one after the other, with no real meaning.
There's not really much else to say. If you want to jump into The Modern Breakup, you mustn't expect anything from the actual story, because it's just an excuse to talk about the issues the modern dating scene has. You need to read it if you experienced a toxic relationship, abusive behaviors, negativity. You will find lots of meaningful quotes and you will resonate with them a lot. At least that's what happened to me.
So, just to clarify, my high rating doesn't go to the story itself, but to the self-help aspect of this book and it's this high only because the author seems to have taken the words straight out of my mouth. I've never read a self-help book though, so I don't feel like stating this is actually a good book. To me it was, I enjoyed it a lot.
Usually, I don't do this, but I want to add some of the lines that really hit home for me:
"To me closure doesn't come from knowing why the other person did it. Closure comes from knowing ourselves, knowing our worth, and finally realizing what we deserve. It's seeing the other person for who they really are, not who we've made them to be in our head."
" You shouldn't have to be someone else to suit anybody. You are who you are and you don't give that up for anyone. "
" Next time don't sacrifice the person you are to suit somebody else's insecurities, jealousy or lack of love. And stop letting your happiness be solely dependent on someone else's mood. You were never the type to second-guess yourself, you're better than this. "
" We have this overwhelming desire to feel wanted, to feel accepted. In a world that seems so connected, yet so far from having real communication, we crave it. And things like Instagram don't help - we scroll away our self-worth by comparing our lives with pictures of perceived gods and goddesses. "
" I know that I need to close the door and accept that my love wasn't appreciated. Not because it was wrong, but because I gave it to someone who couldn't understand it. I know I went too deep in my emotions for him. I know that I surrendered my power, my trust, and my mind to him. I fell. And I'm not sure we should fall for anybody now. Why do we have to fall? I want to stand next time I love someone. I want to be stronger. "
" I knew how to give my full self to someone when I made the commitment. But I have to accept that not everyone understands how to love as I do. "
" They say love is blind, but I saw everything. I just chose to turn a blind eye to things because, when I love someone, it has no boundaries. "
" What happened to focusing on real conversations? Being able to connect with someone? To understand them - their fear, their loves, their goals? "
" Only someone who is unfulfilled can keep another person on a string with no intention of being with them. To deliberately mislead someone who likes you is a very low act. As human beings, we have to be aware of and take responsibility for how our actions affect others, even unintentionally. But when it comes to narcissistic people, the lack of empathy toward others is greater. He was able to shut off his emotions more easily. He was able to do what suited him regardless of who was being hurt in the process. Those with narcissistic traits tend to act ignorant toward the way they make others feel. They don't care how they make you feel because they want to feel good about the situation and they will go to any measure to achieve that. They feel good knowing other people desire them, and if they have to, they will make you insecure to achieve that. "
Can you believe I'm actually reviewing a contemporary romance novel? Because I can't. I usually tend to stay away from this genre, mainly because it doesn't give me what I need to escape reality and forget my real-life issues.
One thing I know for sure: the marketing behind this book was great. It has a dedicated Instagram page and they knew how to target their audience, which is exactly how I stumbled across it. I saw some posts that featured some lines from the book and I was immediately intrigued, mostly because I resonated with those words a lot.
I don't know much about the author: from what I gathered, he's more like a motivational influencer than an actual writer. He knows for sure how to interact with his audience and how to sell his products.
The Modern Breakup is a quick and easy read, meant for those who are experiencing confusion, frustration and stress in the dating scene. They call it a contemporary romance novel, but to me it's more of a self-help book for people who went through toxic relationships. Mainly women.
That's why I enjoyed it so much, but that's also why I feel like this wouldn't be appreciated by someone who can't resonate with the story on a personal level.
First of all, there's no actual story.
Our MC is Amelia, a girl who just went through a bad breakup with Jay, a guy who treated her poorly and that was incredibly toxic for her. Amelia is in New York, enjoying a little vacation with one of her BFFs Zara, who seems like a super confident girl, but deep down she's scared and vulnerable. They're spending the night in a bar and they casually meet two guys.
From there the "story" actually stops and we get many chapters from Amelia and Zara POVs, in which they talk with us readers about their issues with men, with relationships, with love in general. They tell us what they went through, how they felt, how they feel at the moment, what they learned from those experiences, what they want to achieve in the future and stuff like that. It feels more like a friend telling you what you need to hear and less like a character from a novel.
The point of the book, in my opinion, is making you resonate with Amelia and Zara, with their past experiences and, most importantly, with the motivational words they're telling you. If you experienced something similar you will instantly feel close to those two, you will recognize yourself in their words. If you didn't, there's literally no point in reading this book.
There are also chapters from the two guys POVs, where they also share their thoughts about the dating scene, about how girls act and things like that.
Weirdly enough, despite the author being a man, he nailed the female perspective but not the male one. What Nick states throughout the entire book sounds fake, not genuine, a series of nice words one after the other, with no real meaning.
There's not really much else to say. If you want to jump into The Modern Breakup, you mustn't expect anything from the actual story, because it's just an excuse to talk about the issues the modern dating scene has. You need to read it if you experienced a toxic relationship, abusive behaviors, negativity. You will find lots of meaningful quotes and you will resonate with them a lot. At least that's what happened to me.
So, just to clarify, my high rating doesn't go to the story itself, but to the self-help aspect of this book and it's this high only because the author seems to have taken the words straight out of my mouth. I've never read a self-help book though, so I don't feel like stating this is actually a good book. To me it was, I enjoyed it a lot.
Usually, I don't do this, but I want to add some of the lines that really hit home for me:
"To me closure doesn't come from knowing why the other person did it. Closure comes from knowing ourselves, knowing our worth, and finally realizing what we deserve. It's seeing the other person for who they really are, not who we've made them to be in our head."
" You shouldn't have to be someone else to suit anybody. You are who you are and you don't give that up for anyone. "
" Next time don't sacrifice the person you are to suit somebody else's insecurities, jealousy or lack of love. And stop letting your happiness be solely dependent on someone else's mood. You were never the type to second-guess yourself, you're better than this. "
" We have this overwhelming desire to feel wanted, to feel accepted. In a world that seems so connected, yet so far from having real communication, we crave it. And things like Instagram don't help - we scroll away our self-worth by comparing our lives with pictures of perceived gods and goddesses. "
" I know that I need to close the door and accept that my love wasn't appreciated. Not because it was wrong, but because I gave it to someone who couldn't understand it. I know I went too deep in my emotions for him. I know that I surrendered my power, my trust, and my mind to him. I fell. And I'm not sure we should fall for anybody now. Why do we have to fall? I want to stand next time I love someone. I want to be stronger. "
" I knew how to give my full self to someone when I made the commitment. But I have to accept that not everyone understands how to love as I do. "
" They say love is blind, but I saw everything. I just chose to turn a blind eye to things because, when I love someone, it has no boundaries. "
" What happened to focusing on real conversations? Being able to connect with someone? To understand them - their fear, their loves, their goals? "
" Only someone who is unfulfilled can keep another person on a string with no intention of being with them. To deliberately mislead someone who likes you is a very low act. As human beings, we have to be aware of and take responsibility for how our actions affect others, even unintentionally. But when it comes to narcissistic people, the lack of empathy toward others is greater. He was able to shut off his emotions more easily. He was able to do what suited him regardless of who was being hurt in the process. Those with narcissistic traits tend to act ignorant toward the way they make others feel. They don't care how they make you feel because they want to feel good about the situation and they will go to any measure to achieve that. They feel good knowing other people desire them, and if they have to, they will make you insecure to achieve that. "
December 17, 2019
Well I have severe mixed opinions over this one. There’s some really interesting insights into the modern dating world which I found helpful. I actually ended up highlighting a lot throughout. However, I can’t stand the delivery of the information. It’s written like a story but the characters are blah, the dialogue was really annoying and the writing is almost juvenile. I rolled my eyes many times at the immature nature of it. But like I said, amongst all that crap, was some really insightful and helpful information. Another positive is that it’s a short read.
October 3, 2019
Perfect read for me at this point in my life.
Not sure how the male author nailed the female perspective so well, but this whole book was amazing. As a single woman in my late 30s, I have asked literally all of the same questions of men and had no Nick or Paul to ask for answers. Great and easy read. I've never made so many highlights while reading!! Definitely a book that will never be deleted. Highly recommended.
Not sure how the male author nailed the female perspective so well, but this whole book was amazing. As a single woman in my late 30s, I have asked literally all of the same questions of men and had no Nick or Paul to ask for answers. Great and easy read. I've never made so many highlights while reading!! Definitely a book that will never be deleted. Highly recommended.
September 25, 2019
This book is only 154 pages, and it's a 154 pages too long. Preachy relationship advice haphazardly fitted into the dialogue/inner monologue of the most two-dimensional characters ever.
April 11, 2020
I saw raving reviews on Instagram for this book and decided to read it. Reading a book from mainly a woman's perspective written by a man was CRINGEWORTHY. To think this guy actually thinks women think, talk, and act in the ways he describes is insulting to me. I wish I would have read the other reviews before spending my money on this book. Most of the time I felt super uncomfortable reading this book, especially the awkward conversations between the random characters. I just wouldn't recommend at all.
May 4, 2020
This is quite easily one of the worst books I've ever read. It's a long drawn out nightmare-like wannabe ted-talk sequence that sounds like it's been written by a 12-year old Wattpad writer who's watched Twilight and Sex in the City and thinks she knows what love is. The only reason I read till the end is so that I could leave this review and say I gave it an honest chance.
Major Issues:
- There's a paragraph in the book where they casually mention doing coke, an activity that is not brought up throughout the rest of the book. Did the author miss the memo where doing drugs is illegal and completely dysfunctional?
- There are sequences of broken writing that the character writes in her 'notes' which sound exactly like the rest of the book so I don't even know why he bothered separating it.
- An entire chapter dedicated to the Mom's P.O.V which was an exact repetition of a conversation she had over the phone with her daughter that was covered extensively in the previous chapter.
-Can't be bothered to mention the rest
This whole book is a distasteful attempt at being current and quirky. For starters, there is no story at all because nothing happens. Every once in 50 pages something almost happens and there are another 50 pages of how the character felt about it. This book was a long ramble and I hope nobody continues putting themselves through reading this garbage.
P.S. I never ever leave such a long and mean review but god, it was painful and it upsets me to think anyone paid for this.
Major Issues:
- There's a paragraph in the book where they casually mention doing coke, an activity that is not brought up throughout the rest of the book. Did the author miss the memo where doing drugs is illegal and completely dysfunctional?
- There are sequences of broken writing that the character writes in her 'notes' which sound exactly like the rest of the book so I don't even know why he bothered separating it.
- An entire chapter dedicated to the Mom's P.O.V which was an exact repetition of a conversation she had over the phone with her daughter that was covered extensively in the previous chapter.
-Can't be bothered to mention the rest
This whole book is a distasteful attempt at being current and quirky. For starters, there is no story at all because nothing happens. Every once in 50 pages something almost happens and there are another 50 pages of how the character felt about it. This book was a long ramble and I hope nobody continues putting themselves through reading this garbage.
P.S. I never ever leave such a long and mean review but god, it was painful and it upsets me to think anyone paid for this.
December 17, 2019
A short story about the current dating scene that basically sounds like a bad Disney movie. Provides minimal insight and just wasn’t that good—also got weirdly erotic for two pages and didn’t flow with the rest of it.
May 3, 2020
I felt like, half of the book contained men and women blaming and throwing sludge at each other. I really didn't get the whole point the author was trying to make through this substandard storyline, almost no-subplots and underdeveloped characters. This book does not leave an impact.
All the characters talk about relationships like they are prudent.
There are these characters : Amelia, Jay, Zara etc
Amelia and Jay act pretty much like high school kids and zara is like a cynical, pretending cold-hearted, grown up ass and also a responsible sidekick who is always ready to advise her best friend Amelia. We know nothing about this guy jay so far (till chapter 3). We don't know why he shows up virtually, now and then. We don't know why Jay and amelia broke up. All we know that her family and friends just keep blaming jay for whatever devastating mental state amelia has right now. We don't know jay's side of story. It felt like the author realised it later that the readers might demand to know the other part so he randomly added something at the last page. That was unpleasant!
Every character pretty much considers amelia a mature person but we readers have come to know her as a person who can't get enough of dating circle, feels devastated when someone doesn't pay her attention as much as she thinks she deserves (seriously!!?? What are you, a kid?) , can't get over a messed up guy whom she fell for, wants to help that messed up guy (doing some social work??) to get his shit together by sabotaging her own life (stupid!!??) and can't help herself anymore to get back her shit(where have your maturity gone, Amelia??) . So i really don't think these should be the characteristics of a mature person. The characteristic development is questionable.
Also the writing quality is very poor. The narration wasn't satisfactory. I felt like giving up but I finished the book just because of the sake of "reading spirit". I couldn't find how the title made sense when the entire piece talked about girls-getting-wrong-guys, guys-being-guys and stuffs like that.
Nothing interesting. This book so far just feeds you whatever "reality part" you already know about relationships or at least have heard once in life unless you are a junior high school kiddo.
The author had tried to make some sense through the rants showed up now and then in the book but all in vain.
All the characters talk about relationships like they are prudent.
There are these characters : Amelia, Jay, Zara etc
Amelia and Jay act pretty much like high school kids and zara is like a cynical, pretending cold-hearted, grown up ass and also a responsible sidekick who is always ready to advise her best friend Amelia. We know nothing about this guy jay so far (till chapter 3). We don't know why he shows up virtually, now and then. We don't know why Jay and amelia broke up. All we know that her family and friends just keep blaming jay for whatever devastating mental state amelia has right now. We don't know jay's side of story. It felt like the author realised it later that the readers might demand to know the other part so he randomly added something at the last page. That was unpleasant!
Every character pretty much considers amelia a mature person but we readers have come to know her as a person who can't get enough of dating circle, feels devastated when someone doesn't pay her attention as much as she thinks she deserves (seriously!!?? What are you, a kid?) , can't get over a messed up guy whom she fell for, wants to help that messed up guy (doing some social work??) to get his shit together by sabotaging her own life (stupid!!??) and can't help herself anymore to get back her shit(where have your maturity gone, Amelia??) . So i really don't think these should be the characteristics of a mature person. The characteristic development is questionable.
Also the writing quality is very poor. The narration wasn't satisfactory. I felt like giving up but I finished the book just because of the sake of "reading spirit". I couldn't find how the title made sense when the entire piece talked about girls-getting-wrong-guys, guys-being-guys and stuffs like that.
Nothing interesting. This book so far just feeds you whatever "reality part" you already know about relationships or at least have heard once in life unless you are a junior high school kiddo.
The author had tried to make some sense through the rants showed up now and then in the book but all in vain.
March 30, 2021
Thank you to @themodernbreakupbook on Instagram for sending me a copy in exchange for an honest review!
The book was good, but for me it just read like a dramatic inner dialogue, or a character piece of a movie, if you will. It definitely touched a lot on why people do the things they do, and it's definitely true to its title.
Was I wowed? Not really. But I liked the whole self-discovery/self-worth/self-love themes going on. I think if I were to recommend this one to you, I would caution you and say to try your library first, or borrow it off a friend to see how you like it before you add it to your own bookshelves.
The book was good, but for me it just read like a dramatic inner dialogue, or a character piece of a movie, if you will. It definitely touched a lot on why people do the things they do, and it's definitely true to its title.
Was I wowed? Not really. But I liked the whole self-discovery/self-worth/self-love themes going on. I think if I were to recommend this one to you, I would caution you and say to try your library first, or borrow it off a friend to see how you like it before you add it to your own bookshelves.
January 16, 2020
I found this book on Instagram and ordered it online since I couldn't find it in any bookstores in my area. Their marketing campaign is excellent and definitely why I ended up ordering the book.
This was a quick, yet insightful read. The author does a nice job of explaining the complications of modern dating, our desires for old-fashioned love with conflicting modern expectations and priorities. Even though it's fiction, it at times felt like I was reading a well-researched psychological case study (in the best way!). I would definitely recommend. The final page made it seem like there might be a sequel, and if so I will absolutely be buying it!
This was a quick, yet insightful read. The author does a nice job of explaining the complications of modern dating, our desires for old-fashioned love with conflicting modern expectations and priorities. Even though it's fiction, it at times felt like I was reading a well-researched psychological case study (in the best way!). I would definitely recommend. The final page made it seem like there might be a sequel, and if so I will absolutely be buying it!
June 21, 2020
"Closure comes from knowing ourselves, knowing our worth, and finally realizing what we deserve. It’s seeing the other person for who they really are, not who we’ve made them to be in our head."
Much needed book. Must read.
Much needed book. Must read.
July 14, 2020
Some of the worst writing I’ve ever read. A lot of backstory is given for every character and all interactions are extremely weird and unlikely to ever happen in real life. Doesn’t take much time to read the entire book, but still feels too long.
August 31, 2022
This book isn’t offensively bad but it’s not good. I don’t know why a man would think he was the person to write a book about the struggles of dating as a young woman. He couldn’t and he shouldn’t
August 7, 2022
Genuinely the worst book I’ve ever read and I’ve read Den of Vipers. The author has to be absolute misogynist. He has no idea how women act, speak or feel. It hates on women that use social media for anything other than being candid. It hates on phone/social media use full stop. It’s written in a novel format yet there’s no real plot and all they talk about are shitty relationships all the way through. I could not tel you the main characters hopes and dreams or even eye or hair colour but I can tell you her ex’s name and how many times she stalked his social media. Absolutely fucking boring. Wanted to put my head through a wall. As if I’d take relationship advice from some guy called Daniel.
April 3, 2021
The fyre festival of books
worst book i’ve ever read. google a picture of the author and then hurl. and then hurl repeatedly for a couple hours. that’s what reading this shitfuck is like
I only read this because someone invited her friend to join our book club and this was her pick. She seemed okay but now I don’t respect her and feel like instagram rotted her brain
worst book i’ve ever read. google a picture of the author and then hurl. and then hurl repeatedly for a couple hours. that’s what reading this shitfuck is like
I only read this because someone invited her friend to join our book club and this was her pick. She seemed okay but now I don’t respect her and feel like instagram rotted her brain
August 25, 2020
Dies ist in gewisser Weise ein Ratgeber, hier aber verpackt in einem Roman. Diese Form ist mir bis dahin völlig neu gewesen, hat aber überzeugen und direkt mit sich ziehen können. Die Idee hinter „The modern breakup“ ist wirklich gut und liefert tolle Denkanstöße. Besonders die Message hinter dem Buch ist so wichtig und wertvoll. Es werden viele Probleme, Klischees, Situationen etc. aus den verschiedenen Perspektiven, in Gesprächen zwischen den Protagonisten dargestellt. Nicht nur in einer habe ich mich wiedergefunden. Durch den Perspektivwechsel und die Einsicht in die Gedanken der einzelnen Personen kommen hier die verschiedensten Denkweisen und Ansichten zusammen. Insgesamt ist das Buch sehr kurzweilig und hätte durchaus ein paar mehr Seiten haben können. Hier sollte man keinen typischen Liebesroman erwarten, so wie der Klappentext es erst einmal hergibt. Diese rückt nämlich teilweise eher in den Hintergrund. Was mir persönlich sehr gut gefallen hat, aber doch mehr hätte ausgearbeitet werden können. Dennoch kann ich mir vorstellen ein weiteres Mal zu dem Buch zu greifen, da mir der Stil und viele Punkte sehr zugesagt haben. 3,5/5 ⭐️
January 26, 2020
✏️The Deets:
A fictional, yet a non-fictional book that takes a look at modern dating and breakups through multiple perspectives. Including an experienced Mom, girlfriends and bros.
💡Just my thoughts:
I wouldn’t exactly categorize this as romance but more of an insightful awareness to relationships. Through different characters and point of views, Daniel explains why dating could be much harder nowadays.
Whether meeting up at bars, finding each other online, or using Tinder, dating could be quite the struggle.
I was nodding and agreeing with a lot that has been written in the book. It’s totally relatable.
I really enjoyed reading it and was very interested in every word it has to say. It won’t necessarily help you with your love life but it will for sure make you sit back, take a breather and ponder about your love life, the way you present yourself, and the way you communicate to others about what is it that you are looking for.
✔️All in favour, should I say Aye?
I’d say Aye! It is definitely worth the read.
📚Do you have space on your shelf?
I would recommend to buy it, read it, and discuss in in a book club. I believe it would make quite the discussion.
A fictional, yet a non-fictional book that takes a look at modern dating and breakups through multiple perspectives. Including an experienced Mom, girlfriends and bros.
💡Just my thoughts:
I wouldn’t exactly categorize this as romance but more of an insightful awareness to relationships. Through different characters and point of views, Daniel explains why dating could be much harder nowadays.
Whether meeting up at bars, finding each other online, or using Tinder, dating could be quite the struggle.
I was nodding and agreeing with a lot that has been written in the book. It’s totally relatable.
I really enjoyed reading it and was very interested in every word it has to say. It won’t necessarily help you with your love life but it will for sure make you sit back, take a breather and ponder about your love life, the way you present yourself, and the way you communicate to others about what is it that you are looking for.
✔️All in favour, should I say Aye?
I’d say Aye! It is definitely worth the read.
📚Do you have space on your shelf?
I would recommend to buy it, read it, and discuss in in a book club. I believe it would make quite the discussion.
October 15, 2019
Loved this book!! Was a little surprised at the ending but that’s partially what made it so much better!! The grip that Daniel Chidiac has on the modern dating world is insane and the story that he tells about relationships and self love is one that is necessary for all.
March 15, 2020
Poorly written
This book is poorly written and I could not make it past the first few chapters. I do not recommend.
This book is poorly written and I could not make it past the first few chapters. I do not recommend.
April 24, 2020
2.5
Liked a lot of the story, but the sexual aspect was kinda unnecessary and I could have done without it
Liked a lot of the story, but the sexual aspect was kinda unnecessary and I could have done without it
June 30, 2020
CRINGE WORTHY
May 24, 2021
I wish I had read the reviews here before I bought this book... Am wondering why a man thinks he can write from the perspective of women about dating men? Spoiler: He can’t.
May 22, 2021
The Modern Break-Up: it’s mildly cliché and eccentric in the worst way possible —and I usually like weird.
So, I picked this paperback up and skimmed through the first few pages, thinking that the prologue of some sort was rather interesting, as it was obviously a “subtle” meaning of a woman being lost and emotionally unhinged; it was made to seem as though she’d spent years of her life living that way. I’m a sucker for complex and underlying denotations, and so I’d figured I’d keep reading.
I have more issues than I have praise to give, and so here it goes: the story starts off with two women in a bar in NY, where they’re currently vacationing. Amelia, the main character, is clearly an awkward mess as she sits beside her best friend, Zara. Zara mentions the two men across the way, who we later learn to be named Jordan and Nick. The initial encounter is very strange, as Nick comes over and carries this somewhat intense, alpha-like aura that I can admittedly claim to be attractive —he didn’t allow Zara to give him an attitude without giving her one right back, and they had gotten into this very, very uncanny altercation where they softly bickered back-and-forth for a bit. Zara gets mad and leaves somewhere, and then comes back: there was this very odd exchange of apologies between them that I’m not even sure were genuine. For whatever reason, Jordan and Nick leave the women at the bar and head to their apartment. Somehow, between the time the women get to their place from the bar, they’re a ton of POV changes: it jumps from Amelia’s mom, Zara, to Nick and to whoever else, and it’s all so bizarrely placed. For one, Amelia is mourning over a break-up with a man named Jay and the whole time, we readers really have NO IDEA what the dynamic of their relationship was like or what even caused the break-up, and you’d think that with the book title, it’d go into thorough detail about it (but hey, what do I know?). Later, when the women are greeted by the men, Amelia takes off with Nick into the kitchen while Zara and Jordan head off to do their own thing. Then, the most offbeat thing happens where Amelia and Nick have an impassioned kiss but are interrupted by Jordan and Zara. Deeper into the night, Amelia and Nick disappear up into his bedroom and there’s a weak description of oral sex going on, in which he performs on her for a minute or so before she spots the camera in his bedroom and flips the hell out after thinking he’s recording.
Afterwards, he gets up off of his knees and tries assuring her that he isn’t recording and instead, it’s there because of his passion for photography. Right then, Amelia begins unloading on this guy and starts asking him all of the questions she has concerning the male mind, logic, and intentions with women in this modern dating world and he goes onto reluctantly explain from his perspective —now here’s the main issue I have: I personally don’t believe that anything he said was really all of that moving or even useful; it felt more as though it was a bunch of cliché sentences spread out on a couple of pages, and ultimately, it didn’t seem very enlightening, though I know it was supposed to be.
Then, in the end, after that mess is cleared-up, time goes on and it’s later implied that they’re going to be dating officially since they both “like” each other and whatnot. Not to mention (which, really, it didn’t have to be mentioned), Jay, Amelia’s ex who we really know nothing about, said a quote of his own about there being two sides to every story (which, hello, we all know that they’re two sides to every story: it’s how mankind works, and if you don’t know that then you’ve got some growing up to do).
Here are the observations I’ve made:
1.) The book is written in such a way that’s best described as “mediocre.” Some of the sayings were cringeworthy, unbelievable, and flat-out cliché.
2.) When it comes to in-depth books like this (or ones that portray themselves as being that way), why the hell would a man write this all from a woman’s POV? It’s a given that women and men have a lot of discrepancies trying to understand one another, so it’s essentially as if the author missed the memo in which women would like to know what goes on through the minds of men during heartbreaks and whatnot —three chapters from Nick’s POV weren’t enough to make an impact.
3.) How is this going to be called “The Modern Break-Up” when break-ups aren’t even discussed in detail? Sure, experiences from previous broken relationships were mentioned, but even then, it was never in the spotlight long enough, and you would think they would be.
4.) This one is more of a question (and if anyone knows the answers, please message me because I’m honestly asking): what was the actual point of this book? What was the point the author was trying to make? Overall? Specifically? That the world we live in, that the dating scene we all now find ourselves in is confusing, misunderstood, and scary? Bingo, we all already know that shit —but really, though, what is it? That we might find the right person for us if we just follow our soul and are completely unapologetic about it? Also, that we might not because dating these days is awful and intimidating? What. Is. The. Point?
5.) This one links with question #4: what was the point of Amelia’s mother, Rachel, and Zara having their own POV? None of that was needed to drive the story because it already felt like a repetitive wave of words.
6.) The use of sexual description (which was also mediocre at best) was totally unnecessary —the book went from containing somewhat decent dialogue and useless information to a sex scene that wasn’t even described that well?
Overall, I wasn’t impressed; I wouldn’t recommend, as I don’t even grip the concept of what this book was aiming to teach.
So, I picked this paperback up and skimmed through the first few pages, thinking that the prologue of some sort was rather interesting, as it was obviously a “subtle” meaning of a woman being lost and emotionally unhinged; it was made to seem as though she’d spent years of her life living that way. I’m a sucker for complex and underlying denotations, and so I’d figured I’d keep reading.
I have more issues than I have praise to give, and so here it goes: the story starts off with two women in a bar in NY, where they’re currently vacationing. Amelia, the main character, is clearly an awkward mess as she sits beside her best friend, Zara. Zara mentions the two men across the way, who we later learn to be named Jordan and Nick. The initial encounter is very strange, as Nick comes over and carries this somewhat intense, alpha-like aura that I can admittedly claim to be attractive —he didn’t allow Zara to give him an attitude without giving her one right back, and they had gotten into this very, very uncanny altercation where they softly bickered back-and-forth for a bit. Zara gets mad and leaves somewhere, and then comes back: there was this very odd exchange of apologies between them that I’m not even sure were genuine. For whatever reason, Jordan and Nick leave the women at the bar and head to their apartment. Somehow, between the time the women get to their place from the bar, they’re a ton of POV changes: it jumps from Amelia’s mom, Zara, to Nick and to whoever else, and it’s all so bizarrely placed. For one, Amelia is mourning over a break-up with a man named Jay and the whole time, we readers really have NO IDEA what the dynamic of their relationship was like or what even caused the break-up, and you’d think that with the book title, it’d go into thorough detail about it (but hey, what do I know?). Later, when the women are greeted by the men, Amelia takes off with Nick into the kitchen while Zara and Jordan head off to do their own thing. Then, the most offbeat thing happens where Amelia and Nick have an impassioned kiss but are interrupted by Jordan and Zara. Deeper into the night, Amelia and Nick disappear up into his bedroom and there’s a weak description of oral sex going on, in which he performs on her for a minute or so before she spots the camera in his bedroom and flips the hell out after thinking he’s recording.
Afterwards, he gets up off of his knees and tries assuring her that he isn’t recording and instead, it’s there because of his passion for photography. Right then, Amelia begins unloading on this guy and starts asking him all of the questions she has concerning the male mind, logic, and intentions with women in this modern dating world and he goes onto reluctantly explain from his perspective —now here’s the main issue I have: I personally don’t believe that anything he said was really all of that moving or even useful; it felt more as though it was a bunch of cliché sentences spread out on a couple of pages, and ultimately, it didn’t seem very enlightening, though I know it was supposed to be.
Then, in the end, after that mess is cleared-up, time goes on and it’s later implied that they’re going to be dating officially since they both “like” each other and whatnot. Not to mention (which, really, it didn’t have to be mentioned), Jay, Amelia’s ex who we really know nothing about, said a quote of his own about there being two sides to every story (which, hello, we all know that they’re two sides to every story: it’s how mankind works, and if you don’t know that then you’ve got some growing up to do).
Here are the observations I’ve made:
1.) The book is written in such a way that’s best described as “mediocre.” Some of the sayings were cringeworthy, unbelievable, and flat-out cliché.
2.) When it comes to in-depth books like this (or ones that portray themselves as being that way), why the hell would a man write this all from a woman’s POV? It’s a given that women and men have a lot of discrepancies trying to understand one another, so it’s essentially as if the author missed the memo in which women would like to know what goes on through the minds of men during heartbreaks and whatnot —three chapters from Nick’s POV weren’t enough to make an impact.
3.) How is this going to be called “The Modern Break-Up” when break-ups aren’t even discussed in detail? Sure, experiences from previous broken relationships were mentioned, but even then, it was never in the spotlight long enough, and you would think they would be.
4.) This one is more of a question (and if anyone knows the answers, please message me because I’m honestly asking): what was the actual point of this book? What was the point the author was trying to make? Overall? Specifically? That the world we live in, that the dating scene we all now find ourselves in is confusing, misunderstood, and scary? Bingo, we all already know that shit —but really, though, what is it? That we might find the right person for us if we just follow our soul and are completely unapologetic about it? Also, that we might not because dating these days is awful and intimidating? What. Is. The. Point?
5.) This one links with question #4: what was the point of Amelia’s mother, Rachel, and Zara having their own POV? None of that was needed to drive the story because it already felt like a repetitive wave of words.
6.) The use of sexual description (which was also mediocre at best) was totally unnecessary —the book went from containing somewhat decent dialogue and useless information to a sex scene that wasn’t even described that well?
Overall, I wasn’t impressed; I wouldn’t recommend, as I don’t even grip the concept of what this book was aiming to teach.
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
October 17, 2022
I didn't know what did I just read. How did the author gained the confidence even to publish this? 😭
This book was a total disaster. There were some lines that were relatable in our modern dating era but apart from that there's nothing to like in this book. It just felt like a summed up version of a friend consoling to another friend who has just been through breakup. It was like bunch of Instagram quotes published in papers. There was no depth in this book.
One star for those lines that felt relatable.
If someone's going through a heartbreak phase then maybe it can be helpful. Otherwise I see no point in reading and liking this book.
This book was a total disaster. There were some lines that were relatable in our modern dating era but apart from that there's nothing to like in this book. It just felt like a summed up version of a friend consoling to another friend who has just been through breakup. It was like bunch of Instagram quotes published in papers. There was no depth in this book.
One star for those lines that felt relatable.
If someone's going through a heartbreak phase then maybe it can be helpful. Otherwise I see no point in reading and liking this book.
November 16, 2020
3.75. Interesting Input for in between.
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