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No Pressure, No Diamonds: Mining for Gifts in Illness and Loss

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How do you find hope and healing in the face of death?

At 35 and newly married, thriving psychotherapist and Buddhist practitioner Teri Dillion had plenty of tidy answers on offer for creating a meaningful and beautiful life. But once diagnosed with Lou Gehrig’s disease (ALS) and told to get her affairs in order before facing total paralysis, she finds all smug psychology and easy equanimity no match for her harrowing new prognosis.

With a humorous and nuanced exploration of the colorful landscapes of alternative medicine and self-help culture, No Pressure, No Diamonds recounts Teri’s powerful healing journey while shining a light on the fragile blessings of embodiment in general. As she grows disillusioned with toxic positivity and bypassing spiritual gurus in her determined pursuit of a miraculous cure, she’s forced to define her own deepest beliefs about hope, meaning-making, and healing.

Inspiring, entertaining, and deeply moving, this memoir will resonate with anyone forced to grapple with chronic or terminal illness. Teri’s story teaches us how the most brilliant jewels of meaning and resilience can be found not in conventional narratives of triumphant recovery, but in what we painstakingly and lovingly carve for ourselves out of life’s roughest blows.

338 pages, Paperback

Published November 16, 2020

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Author 5 books
October 21, 2020
I just finished reading Teri Dillion’s new book in three short days. It doesn’t take long or even daytime reading to devour a page turner that touches hearts. In short, Teri has hit the proverbial baseball out of the park with her no bullshit truth telling in a voice filled with wit, grace, determination, clarity and most importantly, direct experience. I know a book is worthy of your time when I experience all the feels: laughter, tears, anger, fear, and even sexual (Teri’s beloved, John, is a total crush!). That may be TMI. Teri offers us a generous gift if we are willing to receive it. Not to spoil the punchline but… we are going to die. And, the question Mary Oliver poses in her popular poem, “what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life”, gets supercharged with Teri’s journey. Perhaps how you actually live your one wild and precious life is more important than your plan. Because we all have wonderful plans and Teri lets us know – through her journey, our plans frequently don’t manifest. Teri shows us how to live our one precious life, wholeheartedly, despite terminal news. Inspiration is my felt sense, my breath, my gratitude from reading. I feel more sane, more grateful, more alive, more inspired. When Teri describes her confusing and persistent experiences dealing with western medicine, her doctors, and pharmaceuticals, I nod my head. When Teri describes her alternative pursuits for treatment – natural remedies, plant medicine, ancient ritual – I nod my head. When Teri describes the spiritual guru scene with disappointment, frustration, rage, doubt, again, I nod my head. No stone of our human experience is left unturned – relationships, spirituality, health, career, cosmic orgasms. Congratulations Ms. Dillion and thank you. May we all benefit from your journey and be worthy of embodying our precious human experience for the benefit of all beings.
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October 20, 2020
Teri Dillion’s book -- No Pressure, No Diamonds -- is her personal journey into ultimate acceptance that we are all on a journey that leads to death. Teri teaches us that there is no tidy answer to accepting the worst medical diagnosis anyone can receive. The candid observations Teri writes about her “messy, mind-blowing, immediately uncontrollable realities” of accepting the reality of ALS and how her body will fail before she turns 40 is truly a tear jerker.

Just like the famous quote by Chuck Palahniuk “We all die. The goal isn't to live forever, the goal is to create something that will,” Teri definitely created something that will forever live on to teach us how to live and die with grace
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November 16, 2020
Teri Dillion's No Pressure, No Diamonds is intimate, vulnerable, and tenderizing.  I laughed, I cried, and I could not put it down.  It is a story of her body experiencing ALS, but it is also a story of love and grief, a story of soul searching, and a story of her witty, fearless, indestructible spirit.  Teri has a way of speaking deeply from her own experience into the reader's heart.  The insights she has mined are generously explored in this book.  If you're looking for an unforgettable book, look no further - please check it out.
2 reviews1 follower
November 13, 2020
I liked everything about this book. Teri touched me deep down in my soul with her edginess, candor, and vulnerability. Sometimes I laughed until I cried when she unexpectedly found humor in a situation that seemed totally unbearable. And sometimes I just cried and felt like I would never stop, not with pity for her but with a wellspring of compassion that seemed to have no limits.

Teri speaks to me so deeply because I have been living with chronic leukemia for over a decade. Although my condition is not usually something people die from, I have, like Teri, searched almost endlessly for answers, prayed for a healing, worked with alternative doctors. And still the illness marches on. When I see that Teri is able to bring humor to the table, my load feels lighter. I find myself saying, "If she can do it, then so can I."

There are very few people who have written their story and touched my heart so deeply. Teri's a teacher, a therapist and most importantly, a human being who expresses the undeniable truth that we are all mortal beings and we're not getting out of here alive. But she has shown me what we can do with the cards that life has dealt us.

When reading her book, I was reminded that life is messy and sometimes there is no magic pill or mantra that's going to change that fact. But there is blessed equanimity every once in a while and lessons to be learned about acceptance and surrender.

This book is a "must read" for anyone who is exploring their lives, trying to make some kind of sense of it all and wanting to just feel like they are good enough, no matter where they are in their journey.

I tip my hat to you Teri. You are a brave and beautiful human being. With all the odds stacked up against you, you wrote and published this book. Bravo!
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November 13, 2020
Teri shares her most intimate thoughts in a courageous, tender and at times no-holds-barred fierce way.

She openly invites the reader into her eager quest to find cures for her chronic illness in order to save her life. She struggles through many attempts of finding antidotes. These attempts take her fragile and declining body yet astute mind to South America to drink powerful plant medicines, drive her to inject bees into her spine, as well as a plethora of other undertakings.

During this course of her life Teri is faced with spiritual betrayal and is forced to choose to leave a community/cult that she trusted and devoted years of time to.

Throughout this time, Teri endures loss of connection with dear people in her life. She deepens connections with others and creates new ones in sometimes unlikely places.

Teri unearths insight from this deep, wild, and profound journey and begins to uncover that she might have just what she needs.

Your heart will break open, you’ll question everything and then you’ll lean into Teri’s biggest desire.

Good luck putting this book down once you pick it up.
2 reviews2 followers
November 13, 2020
I couldn’t put this book down and now I can't stop thinking about it.

This witty, down to earth, gem of a book takes readers on Teri’s adventures in body and soul as she pursues every possible treatment for her terminal illness, from meditation to bee sting therapy. It is also a love story about a husband and wife finding their way through multiple losses and getting to the heart of who they truly are.

I highly recommend to readers who are on or seeking a spiritual path, to healers, leaders, coaches, yogis, therapists, and to all who have a friend or family member who is chronically ill or dying. Dillion’s exploration of spirituality in the face of challenge is nuanced, down to earth, and likely to change how you navigate your time on earth.
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November 14, 2020
Teri navigates the deep dark waters of a terminal condition with true grace and fortitude.

Whilst mourning the loss of her body, her mind - razor-sharp and lively - must struggle to cope with the devastating reality confronting her. Anger, regret and a bitter-sweet reflection of the transience of our time here on earth all come into play.

Working through these emotions with dignity, grace and intelligence she traverses the world of healing and narrates with humour and sometimes disbelief a chaotic, crazy world as she struggles to make sense of the meaning of it all.

Her words are a cry from the heart - raw, stark emotion laid bare. This is a truly beautiful, exquisitely written book that explores the greatest question of the all - the very essence of what it means to be human.
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November 10, 2020
This book is a gift to all of us asking the hard questions about life, death and how to proceed when shattered by loss. Teri brings humor, wit and all of her experience as a spiritual seeker and psychotherapist to this inspiring memoir of living with ALS. I was constantly asking friends and family to pause and listen as I would read sections that opened my mind and heart, leaving us both with tears in our eyes. It's an offering of wisdom and humility to those brave enough to journey with her.
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November 14, 2020
Teri Dillion has written a brilliant, honest, witty, vulnerable, humorous, and loving account of the journey through the diagnosis of ALS, MND, Lou Gehrig's disease and her personal journey that followed. It is a book about the deepest of thoughts around dealing with a disease that has proven to be almost 100% fatal, with currently under 50 documented ALS reversals. Her story is about her incredible efforts fighting back, building strength on loving relationships and a greater appreciation for the people that love her and have supported her, and the bold honesty that requires courage to talk to the people that matter to you about what matters most. I applaud Teri for her exceptional talent in writing her memoirs, which I could not put down until I finished.

It is a must read book for anyone touched by ALS, living with ALS, or dealing with the life and death issues that come with extreme illness and for those of us blessed without serious illness, it is a book to help us to better understand how we can support friends, family and loved ones with serious illness. One day all of us will have a loved one with serious illness and/or have it ourselves.
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December 31, 2021
This is one of the most important books I will ever read. I am a better practitioner and human being since beginning it. I have two chapters to go and I’m savoring every last page. Thank you Teri and John.
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November 18, 2024
One of the most impactful books I have read. Highly recommend.
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November 15, 2020
Every once in a while you come across a person whose life and voice pierce your heart and inspire your soul. Teri Dillon, author of No Pressure No Diamonds is such a person. In this tour de force Teri takes us with her on a wild, challenging and complex journey with incisive clarity, deep and ever deepening resilience, tenderness, courage, honesty and humor.

Teri’s very personal narrative awakens us to both the depths and heights of our shared, universal “path through the harmony and the heartbreak we are each privy to by virtue of being in human
form; wading through the universal experience of loss, breakdown, and falling apart; and then finding a way to revision and reclaim that which remains meaningful, potent, and even sacred in our lives—despite or even because of the precarious state of our bodies.” (p.12)

As some reviewers have said, she offers a grounded critique of New Age bypassing. She shares a painful and intimate experience of spiritual betrayal by a well known guru whom she had trusted for many years. And, beyond that, her excruciating (my word) journey through the failed system of allopathic medicine which is utterly unequipped to work effectively with the complex symptoms, causes. and realities of those afflicted with
a range of toxic factors embedded in neurological disorders.

And the miracle of it all is that as we travel with her in this journey, her journey facing death, we are awakened more deeply to what it is to live fully, to Be Alive, and to create a soulful destiny regardless of the whims and slams of fate and the vagaries of living in a human body.

Despite the difficult twists and turns she faces, Teri’s masterful writing kept me turning pages apace. This is a compelling and important book. I look forward to reading again. This time with
a highlighter and a journal so that I can take note of particularly beautiful writing, and savor and save jewels of insight and wisdom that are abundant throughout.
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November 20, 2020
When I read the first couple pages of this book, I thought, "Oh no. This is gonna be one of THOSE books?! The one I can't stop reading, the one that occupies my mind whenever I'm away from it, the one that distracts me from doing all my other mundane life tasks and makes the sound of my partner talking to me some sort of mumble in the background, the one that I want to read just as fast as my eyes can take me? Great. I'm in."

This book is a book for anyone who wants to laugh out loud one moment, smirk at a subtle sarcasm the next, weep for the tenderness that is the human experience, and feel seen, heard and blown wide open on the next page.

Teri's story is told so beautifully, so honestly, and most of all, with complete f-ing open-heartedness. I don't know about you, but I think we could all use a lot more of that in our lives.

Though this story is about the true experiences of someone dealing with ALS and Lyme disease, it is so, so much more than that. It is about navigating the health care system, and all the ways it comes up short. It's about looking for answers and meaning in this world so lacking but rich with possibility. It's about relationships, the complexities, the failings, the ways in which people shine. It's about hope, and hopelessness, and something bigger than that, bigger than all of us.

It's just so damn good. Just read the thing. You'll see.
1 review
November 21, 2020

This book is aptly named as it is full of gems ~ it takes us on author Teri Dillion’s but before you know it you are scooped up snd on your own journey. Although her story takes us to battle with her against ALS it also leads us down a rabbit hole of self discovery. It is a revealing personal look into adversity, relationships, courage, loss snd gain.
I highly recommend this book for book clubs as you will really really talk about the book. It is not the typical indulgent memoir book but rather a ticket to a fascinating, sometimes heart wrenching, inspiring odyssey The book will lead you deep down and then always bring you back to the surface at just the right time. I want to thank this author for sharing her experiences, story, strength and vulnerability in such a meaningful yet (and this might not be PC ) but entertaining fashion. What I mean by that is once I started reading it I couldn’t put it down.
Teri Dillon you are a force !! Thank you for such a wonderful book This is a must read!
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November 15, 2020
This is a "can't put-it-down" read of a woman's journey through chronic illnesses (mold and Lyme disease) & a terminal illness (ALS). It is about the sometimes relentless and painful ways that resilience and being with what is blooms within us. Teri's writing and story is compelling, layered, raw, & seasoned w/ humor & heartbreak. Without usage of her hands to type, she wrote this book with her eyes via an eye-gaze speech generating machine!! Her ferocity of spirit and pith, on-point wisdoms had me re-reading passages over and over again, my heart blown-open with love, clarity, sadness and reckoning. As a person who has walked the path of both chronic illness and my own story of loss, i am sooo grateful for the articulations of love, loss and wisdom that Teri Dillion captured here.
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November 15, 2020
Teri Dillion's vulnerable account of existing between life and death while being host to a fatal illness provides readers with a glimpse into how to accept life unconditionally. Teri manages to do this with humor, authenticity and grit. This book truly is a gift of diamonds, allowing the reader to be inspired to graciously accept life and death, regardless of how they present themselves.

Danielle Ansted
2 reviews
November 16, 2020
This memoir completely captured me and I read it end to end in just a few days. Teri shares her story with honesty and humor, leaving me crying and laughing in each sitting. Her adventures and insights are so human and yet so fresh, her ability to share her inner world is stunning. I highly recommend this book.
1 review1 follower
November 17, 2020
A Brilliant Gem of a Book
Humbling, beautiful, excruciating, insightful, moving…I couldn’t stop reading it, even through my tears.
This book is a gift of Teri’s that she brings forward through her prayer and intention “Let me be of service.”
1 review
November 18, 2020
Fully Human. Teri Dillion has distilled Samsara into Teachings of Liberation. Her life and this book are Living Dharma.
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8 reviews
November 23, 2020
Everyone should read this book!
Dillion’s book is a masterwork in what it means to be human - a human who cannot pretend to run from uncertainty and loss of control. In sharing her story, she points us all towards a deeper humanity in ourselves, while also debunking myths about spiritual practice and illness and the deep shortcomings of a healthcare system that in many ways failed her. She shows herself as a dragon slayer, cutting through illusions and growing ever more brilliantly into a radiant, yet fully human truth teller. This is unquestionably a book for these times.
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June 29, 2022
Interesting thoughts, especially for someone else who is also sick (me)! She's very funny and real about her journey and feelings along the way. My only comment is that, towards the end, she knows she will die and that the end is nigh. What about for the people where the end is not nigh? I know we're all going to die and reach an end, but dealing with what that journey looks like is much easier when it's shorter.
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November 24, 2024
Andrea Gibson said this book moved her ok big ways as the author describes her way through ALS. Like Teri Dillon I too was hopeful that perhaps Lyme Disease was the underlying illness the could be addressed and perhaps return her to a more physically function life. Alas that was not the case. Her transformation to mandatory acceptance was illuminating. And her partner John was incredible. That he took on supporting her through this illness that would never improve and use it as a springboard for his own understanding and transformation was amazing. For Teri, the illness was mandatory. That was not the case for John, but from his perspective, it seems that Teri was mandatory in his life, and that too was incredible.
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November 28, 2020
I am so deeply moved by Teri Dillions book “No Pressure, No Diamonds”. Suffice it to say that I have already purchased six copies and am giving them to my friends regardless of whether or not they have a terminal illness. Teri’s story is definitely intensified by her illness but the lessons she shares are for everyone. She so clearly names our time of spiritual and emotional bypassing and challenges us to look deeper and go to the heart of truth telling and loving regardless of what life has dealt you. It took me a long time to finish Teri’s book as each section invited me to pause and go deeper. I had to put it down for a while to sit and digest it. The way she looks at loss squarely and without sugar coating is refreshing in that painful kind of way. I find Teri’s courage and vulnerability to share herself so personally and yet publicly especially inspiring. Her piercing truth-telling right alongside her humor and ability to laugh at herself is freeing. Teri’s grace, humility and wisdom are far beyond her years. I have the utmost respect and admiration for this woman. May we all have the courage to live with this kind of integrity.No Pressure, No Diamonds: Mining for Gifts in Illness and Loss
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110 reviews
January 16, 2025

Reviewing this book feels like a challenge—not because of its plot or character development, but because of the deeply personal journey it portrays. This is not a story to enjoy in the traditional sense; it’s a raw, honest exploration of illness and the transition into death.

At times, I found myself reflecting on the extraordinary circumstances of the author’s journey—resources and opportunities that might seem unattainable for many. Yet, the deeper takeaway lies beyond the specifics of her experience. The book serves as a poignant reminder to seize every moment, live fully in the present, and allow even life’s most difficult moments to teach us something.

It inspires a mindset of curiosity and surrender when resistance no longer serves. It encourages practicing daily gratitude, cherishing the love that surrounds us, and finding magic and joy in the smallest details of life. While it’s not an easy read, it leaves behind guiding lights for navigating our own paths with greater presence and grace.
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6 reviews
December 11, 2024
As anyone else who has read this masterpiece can attest, I was glued to this book for four days of constant reading, and the pages are now tear-stained, with paragraphs more highlighted than not. I can't think of another book that has pulled me in with such vigor and emotion. I've had several crying spells whenever I've tried to convey to someone else how life-changing Teri's story has been for me, and I pray that I can take the lessons forward while remembering to be grateful every second of the way. This book has given me a new lease on life, as cliché as it sounds, and I feel less alone because of it. I'm still struggling with knowing how to synthesize and implement the takeaways into daily life, but I'm starting with just being reverent for physical embodiment and wellness. I was going to share some of my favorite quotes, but in isolation, they seem trivialized without context. The entire work is profound!
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December 20, 2024
I love how honest and raw it is, there are parts that are funny, parts that are sad, some that are frustrating and others that beautiful which is exactly how life is and life with terminal illness especially. I love the part where Anu jumps on the wheelchair and where Teri talks about anger because I’ve never considered myself an angry person but have found myself being angry of late due to my health. It’s helped inspire some thoughts around my own impending doom but also my own becoming. Thank you Teri and John for taking us on the journey.
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40 reviews
July 24, 2023
I wish I would've found this book earlier.
My mother had ALS, and this book has given me better insight into what she was going through. I have learned how important it is for the disease to be understood and recorded for the unfortunate souls who suffer and for the loved ones left behind. This book is a necessary read for anyone, but more specifically those touched by ALS.
Thank you Teri for giving this book your all and helping others all over the world.
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November 8, 2024
A wealth of diamonds

This insightful and touching story is available as a powerful support to anyone who is navigating their own or a loved one's chronic illness. For anybody ready to look at death and transformation through the eyes of one who is traveling its unasked-for path, prepare for a rich read that inspired totally relatable smiles, tears, and fully human compassion. Thanks to Andrea Gibson for the recommendation and Teri A Dillion for all it took to share this.
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January 25, 2025
This was a beautifully written book that I could not put down. It's been many years since I had time let alone the passion to keep reading a book to the end. I didn't want to get to the end of this book, as it was incredibly emotional. I am glad to have shared in the learning and connection the author inspires. She draws you in with her honesty, humor, and heartfelt desire to share her journey for the good of others. Thank you for sharing this with us, Teri!
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