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Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts―One Conversation at a Time
New York Times bestselling author Susan Scott guides couples through eight must-have conversations to create a fierce love that stands the test of time and grows stronger over the years.
Often in our romantic relationships, we long for deep connection, but we don't know how to communicate well and sometimes withhold what we're really thinking and feeling. This can lead to fighting, resentment, or, worse, complacency--where you are just going through the motions, more like roommates than two people in love. As Susan writes, "It's as if we've pulled off our own wings." As couples, we don't stop to think how important our conversations are. And we certainly don't understand that what we talk about and how we talk about it determine whether our relationships will thrive, flatline, or fail.
In Fierce Love, New York Times bestselling author Susan Scott guides couples through eight must-have conversations that lead to deep connection and lasting commitment. Through the use of true stories and hands-on exercises, Susan helps us
understand that the conversation is the relationship;
identify and dispel five relationship myths that mislead and derail us;
learn eight conversations that are critical to enriching relationships; and
stop fighting or ignoring issues and start connecting in a deep and meaningful way.
After a season where many relationships were tested and tried, where some relationships thrived and others have exposed cracks couples didn't even realize were there, or realized but didn't acknowledge, now is the best time to learn to communicate well. By having honest, compelling conversations with our partners, we can foster true connection and a fierce love that will withstand the test of time and grow stronger over the years.
Often in our romantic relationships, we long for deep connection, but we don't know how to communicate well and sometimes withhold what we're really thinking and feeling. This can lead to fighting, resentment, or, worse, complacency--where you are just going through the motions, more like roommates than two people in love. As Susan writes, "It's as if we've pulled off our own wings." As couples, we don't stop to think how important our conversations are. And we certainly don't understand that what we talk about and how we talk about it determine whether our relationships will thrive, flatline, or fail.
In Fierce Love, New York Times bestselling author Susan Scott guides couples through eight must-have conversations that lead to deep connection and lasting commitment. Through the use of true stories and hands-on exercises, Susan helps us
understand that the conversation is the relationship;
identify and dispel five relationship myths that mislead and derail us;
learn eight conversations that are critical to enriching relationships; and
stop fighting or ignoring issues and start connecting in a deep and meaningful way.
After a season where many relationships were tested and tried, where some relationships thrived and others have exposed cracks couples didn't even realize were there, or realized but didn't acknowledge, now is the best time to learn to communicate well. By having honest, compelling conversations with our partners, we can foster true connection and a fierce love that will withstand the test of time and grow stronger over the years.
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March 2, 2022
Sure, Susan Scott wrote a book for readers to read, but it does start an honest conversation (which is a critical point in this book, actually) between you (the reader) and the author. It feels less like Scott is telling us how to improve our love life and more like Scott is talking to us about what our love life could be with a little bit of tweaking and help.
The advice and suggestions expressed in the book are supplemented with examples and supplemental short tales. I think one of my favorite parts of the book is early on, which essentially says that even though you leave pieces of yourself with each love and relationship that ends, you can still regroup and become a new, whole, healthy you to give your love and feel love in return. It’s a great line about abandoning the hopeless thought that life is beating you down and embracing the feeling that life has more to offer if we let it, and of course, allow ourselves to be honest to ourselves and our partners.
It's a great book, definitely one to read even if you feel everything is going fine in your love life because it doesn’t just help you regain a strong love…it enables you to reinforce the love you have (even if you feel you have none).
The advice and suggestions expressed in the book are supplemented with examples and supplemental short tales. I think one of my favorite parts of the book is early on, which essentially says that even though you leave pieces of yourself with each love and relationship that ends, you can still regroup and become a new, whole, healthy you to give your love and feel love in return. It’s a great line about abandoning the hopeless thought that life is beating you down and embracing the feeling that life has more to offer if we let it, and of course, allow ourselves to be honest to ourselves and our partners.
It's a great book, definitely one to read even if you feel everything is going fine in your love life because it doesn’t just help you regain a strong love…it enables you to reinforce the love you have (even if you feel you have none).
February 13, 2022
Great advice on how to have the crucial conversations that are the relationship.
February 25, 2022
This book is an essential guide for couples who desire to build vital relationship skills, particularly during challenging moments. The tools for growth and learning are written in a warm and no-nonsense manner, it does a beautiful job of exploring the many issues the modern-day couple faces, while normalizing the reader’s experience by offering examples of couples working through similar challenges. A necessary read for anyone wanting to improve the quality of their relationships.
After spending so much time at home together with my partner during the pandemic our relationship was starting to feel the strain and a close friend recommended I give Fierce Love a read. I was a little sceptical at first, I’ll admit, but after having read the book I decided to talk with my partner and asked him to read the book with me. After a little persuasion he did and I have to say there has been an improvement with our communications and things between us are getting better. Don’t get me wrong, it hasn’t performed miracles, but it has greatly improved the quality of our connection with each other and it feels good. We will continue to use this book as a guide. A most highly recommended read.
After spending so much time at home together with my partner during the pandemic our relationship was starting to feel the strain and a close friend recommended I give Fierce Love a read. I was a little sceptical at first, I’ll admit, but after having read the book I decided to talk with my partner and asked him to read the book with me. After a little persuasion he did and I have to say there has been an improvement with our communications and things between us are getting better. Don’t get me wrong, it hasn’t performed miracles, but it has greatly improved the quality of our connection with each other and it feels good. We will continue to use this book as a guide. A most highly recommended read.
February 9, 2022
In Fierce Love, New York Times bestselling author Susan Scott guides couples through eight must-have conversations that lead to deep connection and lasting commitment. Through the use of true stories and hands-on exercises Susan helps us to understand that the conversation is the relationship;
identify and dispel five relationship myths that mislead and derail us;
learn eight conversations that are critical to enriching relationships; and
stop fighting or ignoring issues and start connecting in a deep and meaningful way.
After reading the book by Susan Scott I actually felt relived that I was not alone. The things I have experienced are quite normal in most relationships, and the best thing is that she helped me to understand what was happening, why it was happening and and how to try and fix it.
So much of what is written made so much sense to me. Communication is the key! This is a book that I shall keep in my nightstand and refer back to on many occasion, no doubt. I have already recommended this book to friends and will continue to do so.
identify and dispel five relationship myths that mislead and derail us;
learn eight conversations that are critical to enriching relationships; and
stop fighting or ignoring issues and start connecting in a deep and meaningful way.
After reading the book by Susan Scott I actually felt relived that I was not alone. The things I have experienced are quite normal in most relationships, and the best thing is that she helped me to understand what was happening, why it was happening and and how to try and fix it.
So much of what is written made so much sense to me. Communication is the key! This is a book that I shall keep in my nightstand and refer back to on many occasion, no doubt. I have already recommended this book to friends and will continue to do so.
January 25, 2022
Definitely a book that would have been helpful in the early years of my marriage. Even 18 years later, this was a really good read, highly recommend.
February 22, 2022
Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts-One Conversation at a Time by Susan Scott is a valuable resource for any couple who cares about their relationship. Read this book and look at your relationship in a completely different way. Embrace conversation and learn how to engage more effectively with your partner. The author writes in a compassionate way, encouraging you to explore the nuances of your relationship through more communication, that dreaded word. There are plenty of quotes throughout, much of them from prominent literature or movies that embrace and illustrate the author's point. This book's approach is wholly relatable and easy to implement if you simply use the strategies. An eye-opening read and highly recommended.
February 7, 2022
In Fierce Love by Susan Scott, she talks about different relationships in different ways we can focus our efforts on staying committed. She fill the book with stories not only people she knows what story she’s heard and those of other cultures and religions. I especially enjoyed the Chapter On divorce and how to stay together. They have a lot of dry boring advice books out there, but this isn’t one of them. I find Mrs. Scott had great insight I think this book would benefit both those Who are struggling in those already in a great relationship. Her message is love and I totally enjoyed it and highly recommend this book, especially to those wanting to stay together even if you just want a better friendship you can’t go wrong with this book. Please forgive any grammatical or punctuational errors as I am blind and dictate my review but all opinions are my own.
February 11, 2022
A book that will guide you to deepen your relationship with your partner by having 8 must-have conversations. The 5 myths about romantic love surprised me, but made complete sense. This book may even be useful for singles to understand what they want in a partner. I enjoyed the true stories the author told about couples who experienced issues in their relationship and her assessment. She helps us understand that the conversation is the relationship and to stop arguing or skirting around issues so we can create a fierce love that will grow stronger over the years.
February 27, 2022
Very good!
January 24, 2022
If you are looking for ways to strengthen your relationships, Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts---One Conversation at a Time has great ideas to utilize. Susan Scott is the founder of Fierce, Inc and has spent decades helping others. Out of several of her books, this one is geared more towards marriages and partners. Don't expect to fix a relationship without working on yourself. Wanting to experience a fierce love in the place of a placid love isn't about starting over with someone new but tearing off layers of you and revealing what is deep inside. I found this book filled with challenges and ideas that I have not explored yet. It is well documented and researched.
June 13, 2024
“No one completes us. No one is our missing piece, our other half. We complete ourselves or fail to. No one else could be successful in that role because each of us is utterly unique."
Remember, that old saying?
"Communication is the key!"
It indeed is. But it can be tricky sometimes. What to say, how to, whom to, where to, etc.? Don't you think it would be nice if it was not that complex?
New York Times bestselling author Susan Scott has tried to simplify this in the context of couples. This book consists of eight must-have conversations to create a deeper and more meaningful relationship.
The narrative is very compassionate and warm. It discusses all the minor to major problems that modern couples may go through. It explores the possible reasons and provides doable exercises and solutions. The author proposes some topics for discussion in a good partnership.
Read it to learn to engage with your partner more effectively by embracing discussion.
You might like to check out more similar books here.
Remember, that old saying?
"Communication is the key!"
It indeed is. But it can be tricky sometimes. What to say, how to, whom to, where to, etc.? Don't you think it would be nice if it was not that complex?
New York Times bestselling author Susan Scott has tried to simplify this in the context of couples. This book consists of eight must-have conversations to create a deeper and more meaningful relationship.
The narrative is very compassionate and warm. It discusses all the minor to major problems that modern couples may go through. It explores the possible reasons and provides doable exercises and solutions. The author proposes some topics for discussion in a good partnership.
Read it to learn to engage with your partner more effectively by embracing discussion.
You might like to check out more similar books here.
March 19, 2022
Excellent conversation scripts and insight
March 31, 2022
This book is absolutely awesome. I highly recommend and the narration was good, too.
July 12, 2022
good practical tips and case studies, also provides templates and exercises for how conversations could look like. overarching idea of "fierce conversations" is perhaps a little repetitive, but the book really does drill it into you and explores every kaleidoscopic implication of what it means for a relationship.
April 19, 2022
Fierce Love was a real eye-opener for me. It was an impulse buy and not something I’d necessarily go for, but was a very rewarding read nonetheless and one I think I will return to and reread in the future. Fierce Love doesn’t have that preachy feel that many self-help books do. It feels like a warm conversation with a friend, and as such was much easier for me to get into.
All in all a great book with many helpful points that I do believe I’ll be able to carry on in my life going forward.
All in all a great book with many helpful points that I do believe I’ll be able to carry on in my life going forward.
June 1, 2022
Pros:
I love a few of the core ideas, which is why I picked this up after reading Fierce Conversations. Specifically,
* the relationship IS more or less the sum of the conversations, rather than conversations being a side thing that happens in the relationship
* Many of the negative consequences we fear from having difficult conversations are the same consequences that would be exacerbated if we didn't have the conversations
* the idea of being aware of your conversational "fingerprint" of unecessary/irrelevant "loads" you regularly attach to messages
* The value in addressing the biggest/hardest questions first
Cons:
Seems overly targeted towards people struggling in their relationships. Too much of an emphasis on staying together and saving relationships that don't need to be saved in my opinion, but not extreme. Author seems a bit absorbed with herself and odd that she's a self-described hermit in a treehouse writing about relationships but her other credentials seem solid haha. Lots of the content is practically copied and pasted from Fierce Conversations but it makes sense for consistency and to be a standalone book
I love a few of the core ideas, which is why I picked this up after reading Fierce Conversations. Specifically,
* the relationship IS more or less the sum of the conversations, rather than conversations being a side thing that happens in the relationship
* Many of the negative consequences we fear from having difficult conversations are the same consequences that would be exacerbated if we didn't have the conversations
* the idea of being aware of your conversational "fingerprint" of unecessary/irrelevant "loads" you regularly attach to messages
* The value in addressing the biggest/hardest questions first
Cons:
Seems overly targeted towards people struggling in their relationships. Too much of an emphasis on staying together and saving relationships that don't need to be saved in my opinion, but not extreme. Author seems a bit absorbed with herself and odd that she's a self-described hermit in a treehouse writing about relationships but her other credentials seem solid haha. Lots of the content is practically copied and pasted from Fierce Conversations but it makes sense for consistency and to be a standalone book
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
April 9, 2022
This was a great resource for couples. Whether your relationship is going well, or you’re starting to struggle, this book will help you communicate more effectively. After all, strong communication is a key part to a strong relationship. Quotes and stories are scattered throughout the book, along with eight important conversations. I highly recommend reading this with your partner, so that you can work through it together, and gain better understanding of each other. A great modern book for modern couples trying to navigate a very changed world.
May 27, 2022
This book only gets 3,5 stars, let me explain why.
Susan Scott is a bestseller book author, reader can see that easily. Her writing pieces are well written, but sometimes I missed more facts about the topic. Yes, the arguments she pointed out seemed logical, but I lacked more context - more research that proved her point. Ok, there wasn't even one research to which the author would quote. It was more like - please don't say that better say that. Why? Well, here is some emotional explanation for it.
In my opinion, this book is not about couples and their relationships and how they can communicate better. Pieces of Advice could be used in any relationship. Is it bad? Yes, because the book claims to help create a love that lasts. I have not read Susan's first book Fierce Conversations: Achieving Success at Work and in Life One Conversation at a Time, but while reading Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time there was a feeling that author refers too much to Fierce Conversations: Achieving Success at Work and in Life One Conversation at a Time. That was soo annoying! If I wanted to know more about conversations in general I would read your first book.
This book has a such promising title, but I was a little bit disappointed in the end.
Susan Scott is a bestseller book author, reader can see that easily. Her writing pieces are well written, but sometimes I missed more facts about the topic. Yes, the arguments she pointed out seemed logical, but I lacked more context - more research that proved her point. Ok, there wasn't even one research to which the author would quote. It was more like - please don't say that better say that. Why? Well, here is some emotional explanation for it.
In my opinion, this book is not about couples and their relationships and how they can communicate better. Pieces of Advice could be used in any relationship. Is it bad? Yes, because the book claims to help create a love that lasts. I have not read Susan's first book Fierce Conversations: Achieving Success at Work and in Life One Conversation at a Time, but while reading Fierce Love: Creating a Love that Lasts—One Conversation at a Time there was a feeling that author refers too much to Fierce Conversations: Achieving Success at Work and in Life One Conversation at a Time. That was soo annoying! If I wanted to know more about conversations in general I would read your first book.
This book has a such promising title, but I was a little bit disappointed in the end.
August 9, 2022
We teach others how to treat us. We get what we tolerate.
July 21, 2022
A straightforward book. You should read THE UNSPOKEN SECRET: How to find and keep the right partner by John Gram
August 26, 2022
Great read full of lots of though provoking questions!!
August 31, 2022
This book was the key to my 20+ years relationship with Andrew Magdy 😍👌(shouzouz jincy haram🌈)
August 4, 2022
New York Times bestselling author Susan Scott guides couples through eight must-have conversations to create a fierce love that stands the test of time and grows stronger over the years.
The main essence of the book is communication, and how to embrace communication as it is the way forward. I didn’t believe a book could relate to me and my personal situation the way this book has. I’m extremely surprised and pleased that I read Fierce Love and would definitely recommend it to anyone going through similar struggles, or to anyone who would like to develop a stronger, deeper relationship.
The writing is well done and the ideas and thought processes are presented in a way that is easy enough to understand, without sounding patronising, or that I was being talked down to. I will go back and reread, I’m sure, and for now I’ll be recommending to a couple of friends who I think would most benefit.
The main essence of the book is communication, and how to embrace communication as it is the way forward. I didn’t believe a book could relate to me and my personal situation the way this book has. I’m extremely surprised and pleased that I read Fierce Love and would definitely recommend it to anyone going through similar struggles, or to anyone who would like to develop a stronger, deeper relationship.
The writing is well done and the ideas and thought processes are presented in a way that is easy enough to understand, without sounding patronising, or that I was being talked down to. I will go back and reread, I’m sure, and for now I’ll be recommending to a couple of friends who I think would most benefit.
September 1, 2022
This book landed at the perfect time in my life - reminding me of the power of conversations and the importance of quality time in relationships. Scott gives you the tools and examples to create a love that lasts.
January 14, 2022
2.5 rounded up to 3.
While the subtitle is “Creating a Love That Lasts”, this was much more about loving yourself. There were some great conversation starters featured, but again, the focus seemed much more to be on getting your own wants and needs across more than listening to your partner.
The author made multiple mentions of her divorce throughout the book and it honestly felt like she wanted everyone to know that if you aren’t happy, the best thing to do is leave - just be honest about it. Not exactly the advice I expected from a Christian publisher.
What I really enjoyed was how much the author quoted or used examples from fiction works to highlight positive or negative aspects of love. It’s very evident that she is a reader and loves all kinds of books.
Thank you to Thomas Nelson for my gifted copy in exchange for my honest opinion.
While the subtitle is “Creating a Love That Lasts”, this was much more about loving yourself. There were some great conversation starters featured, but again, the focus seemed much more to be on getting your own wants and needs across more than listening to your partner.
The author made multiple mentions of her divorce throughout the book and it honestly felt like she wanted everyone to know that if you aren’t happy, the best thing to do is leave - just be honest about it. Not exactly the advice I expected from a Christian publisher.
What I really enjoyed was how much the author quoted or used examples from fiction works to highlight positive or negative aspects of love. It’s very evident that she is a reader and loves all kinds of books.
Thank you to Thomas Nelson for my gifted copy in exchange for my honest opinion.
September 15, 2023
Reread after one year. Just to be reminded that relationships need maintenance and to get a few tips. Old review below still holds true.
I think most people know the truth about these conversation tips intuitively. But it is still great to hear them so clear!
Susan Scott breaks relationship maintenance down into doable steps without taking away the complexity. I also like how this book is not shy to say that some relationships might be past repairing and it is better for both to walk away. Very healthy.
I think the book applied to all kind of love! Not just romantic and hetero. With a few changes of pronouns or word choices, this book could have been more universal.
I think most people know the truth about these conversation tips intuitively. But it is still great to hear them so clear!
Susan Scott breaks relationship maintenance down into doable steps without taking away the complexity. I also like how this book is not shy to say that some relationships might be past repairing and it is better for both to walk away. Very healthy.
I think the book applied to all kind of love! Not just romantic and hetero. With a few changes of pronouns or word choices, this book could have been more universal.
January 31, 2022
‘It’s all about our conversations’
Washington author Susan Scott is the founder of Fierce, Inc – a global training company that helps major companies generate significant results by transforming the conversations central to their success. Her books to date – FIERCE CONVERSATIONS, FIERCE LEADERSHIP, and now FIERCE LOVE. In this book she directs her awarded energies away from corporations and directs her advice to incorporating her ideas in personal love relationships.
One of the joys of reading Susan’s book of insights is her manner of communicating with the reader. ‘Love doesn’t make itself, you know. We make it. Or fail to make it… You can’t make yourself love someone, neither can you make someone love you. What you can do is behave and speak in a way that would entice love if it happened to be in the vicinity, so that love would want to hang out with you for a while. What you can do is be a loving and lovable human being.’ ‘Conversations are the fulcrum that enable s to accomplish our most important goals, especially regarding the quality of our relationships. How much love you have is up to you and while it may seem complicated, it isn’t. Not really. It’s all about our conversations.’
In this book Susan offers advice on love relationships from inception to nurturing, such as ‘The five myths that mislead and derail us – You complete me, True love is unconditional, You must fulfill my list, If you loved me you’d know, and Love is all you need.’ She explores conversations we all have, but instead of simply listing the types of those verbal encounters, she analyses and explains how such communication functions in relation to enhancing relationships. Her style – stories, insights, and guidance delivered in a comfortable and accessible manner. Susan Scott becomes a fine coach for working on the way we relate to others through our conversations – the pathway to ‘fierce love.’ Recommended.
Washington author Susan Scott is the founder of Fierce, Inc – a global training company that helps major companies generate significant results by transforming the conversations central to their success. Her books to date – FIERCE CONVERSATIONS, FIERCE LEADERSHIP, and now FIERCE LOVE. In this book she directs her awarded energies away from corporations and directs her advice to incorporating her ideas in personal love relationships.
One of the joys of reading Susan’s book of insights is her manner of communicating with the reader. ‘Love doesn’t make itself, you know. We make it. Or fail to make it… You can’t make yourself love someone, neither can you make someone love you. What you can do is behave and speak in a way that would entice love if it happened to be in the vicinity, so that love would want to hang out with you for a while. What you can do is be a loving and lovable human being.’ ‘Conversations are the fulcrum that enable s to accomplish our most important goals, especially regarding the quality of our relationships. How much love you have is up to you and while it may seem complicated, it isn’t. Not really. It’s all about our conversations.’
In this book Susan offers advice on love relationships from inception to nurturing, such as ‘The five myths that mislead and derail us – You complete me, True love is unconditional, You must fulfill my list, If you loved me you’d know, and Love is all you need.’ She explores conversations we all have, but instead of simply listing the types of those verbal encounters, she analyses and explains how such communication functions in relation to enhancing relationships. Her style – stories, insights, and guidance delivered in a comfortable and accessible manner. Susan Scott becomes a fine coach for working on the way we relate to others through our conversations – the pathway to ‘fierce love.’ Recommended.
February 7, 2023
love how she says all that and at the end she's like "but that can't be me i enjoy being alone, yall stay safe tho" 😭😭😭 no but for real: i wanted to have better conversations and learn how not to give up too easily, and scott offered me so much to think about, even if at times she comes off as this all-knowing, self-proclaimed guru. there's something magical about the work you have to put into love, and something so loving about being impeccable and purposeful with your word
"what would love do? what would love say? what would love ask?"
"what would love do? what would love say? what would love ask?"
February 3, 2023
I found this book while mindlessly scrolling through Goodreads, and while I don't typically read a lot of nonfiction, especially books that sort of feel like a textbook, I decided to read this one. I am moving in with my boyfriend in a couple months, and I think this will be a great book to read And give me some insight. I am always trying to work on myself and be a better partner, and this book had great tips on communication and difficult conversations. I am not always good at those, so this really resonated with me.
December 22, 2022
Terribly written which made it painful to read. I found the writing style to be quite self-centered and did not find the information meaningful. It was one long list of things to do or not do. There was no underlying theory or program and there was no evidence of research.
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