Queereaders discussion

Hi all,

Like most (if not all) of you, I feel strongly that all of us deserve full equality. My desire for this led me to write the comic novel, THE MARRYING KIND. I'm hoping I can (let's aim big) a million people who support equality, like to read and love to laugh. I think my little book could really be a part of a larger conversation that leads to marriage equality. I need a lot of help spreading the word, and so I'm reaching out here.

I hope you will read the book when it is out in June and you'll tell your friends.
Thanks,
Ken O'Neill

The Marrying Kind

If you would like to read a chapter from THE MARRYING KIND you can find one linked here: www.themarryingkind.org

Um, Ken, it would be nice if you occasionally participated, connected with others, and let us get to know you.

Your three posts to this group are about your book. No one likes to feel they are being spammed.

Point well taken, Nancy, but I don't personally experience an author telling me about his book on this site as being "spammed." I think of spam as completely useless information. Another perspective is that some authors may have reservations about sharing their personal lives because their creative lives are the brightest aspect of their lives. I sometimes wonder, do I really wish to depress these nice people with the day to day challenges of medical social work?; do they need to know that my best female friend is considerably older than me and that I feel I am already losing her to progressive cognition impairment? That being said, I doubt Ken is the only author guilty of only posting about his book. it may just be a way of saying, "Hey, you are readers and I got a book and that's the biggest joy of my life right now."

Steven wrote: "Point well taken, Nancy, but I don't personally experience an author telling me about his book on this site as being "spammed." I think of spam as completely useless information. Another perspectiv..."

I think how a person participates in a group is part of the issue. This person has only posted to promote their book. They had not attempted to participate in any other discussion at all.

I also do not have a problem with that specifically either, obviously their book is and should be important to them, but to just dismiss what they've done and what Nancy said? I don't agree you. Enthusiasm is great, but honestly when you have an author who does this same on several groups? It can reflect negatively on them as far as reader opinion goes, though I still agree however, opinions can differ on the same subject.

There are groups that say "spam us", asking for an author to only come there to promote their work, not seeking to chat or interact with anyone else. The parameters and request of this group do not fall under that category. It is important for an author to respect the group and their mission statement.

There is such a thing as etiquette and following a groups guidelines. If an author does not met that, exceeds or violates that then just you personal feeling that it's okay, shouldn't supercede the whole.

Hi all,
I really am sorry. I kept forgetting things I wanted to say hence the three posts. I promise I will not mention my own book again.

Truly did not mean to break the rules.

Ken, I want to know about your book. Your book and the strength you feel about it is a positive thing. It is never that one doesn't wish you to mention it, but perhaps only wishes you to be here also because you wish to be part of the group and not just for promotion. That's all.

Don't ever feel badly or think you are not welcome. You are infinitely welcome and wished well.

Hi Ken,

First off, please accept my apology for coming off as needlessly peevish. Steven is right, you are not the only one guilty of self-promotion. I just wasn't feeling myself yesterday and let every little thing irritate me more than usual.

I found many wonderful books that I'd have missed out on had I not "met" the readers and writers I've come to know on Goodreads.

So please continue to talk about your work. I realize writers are busy people and don't have a lot of time for this social networking stuff, but it would please me if you participated occasionally, just so we don't think you're here solely to promote your work.

I hope you don't mind that I've moved this topic to more appropriate place.

@Red: Based on communication with some of my friends here, I've noticed they are more likely to try an author's work if they interact with readers, or participate in groups. On the other hand, I imagine an author can become overwhelmed with networking and find little time to write.

The link above to the book on GR does not work. It is The Marrying Kind

I read your short bio on the book page which includes "... he's never met a piece of dark chocolate that he didn't like."

This reminds me of a quote by Deanna Troy from Star Trek Next Generation ;-)

Kernos wrote: "The link above to the book on GR does not work. It is The Marrying Kind

I read your short bio on the book page which includes "... he's never met a piece of dark chocolate that he didn't like."

T..." Well, I've probably met one or two pieces of dark chocolate I didn't like, but very few. My current fav Green & Black brand 85% :)