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Success Without Structure: Some of Us Aren’t Built for RoutinesBlowing up your alarm clock is the first step in joining the Routine Resistance!Resist the Routine!

For years, I believed in the power of routine. Not just believed — I worshiped it. I saw routine as the secret weapon of the successful, the master key to unlocking productivity, the one thing separating those who achieve their dreams from those who don’t.

And why wouldn’t I?

Everywhere we look, we’re bombarded with stories of high achievers who swear by their morning routines, evening routines, and sacred habits that supposedly make them superhuman.

You know the drill:

Wake up at 4 AM.Meditate for 20 minutes.Journal your deepest thoughts.Write for an hour.Go to the gym.Cold shower.Protein shake.Be an unstoppable, ultra-optimized machine before the rest of the world even rolls out of bed.

We’re told that this is how greatness happens. AND, if you can just stick to the routine, success is inevitable.

And I believed it.

So I tried. Over and over again, I tried.

And I failed.

No matter how many times I started, no matter how badly I wanted to be one of those hyper-disciplined, perfectly structured people… I could never sustain a routine for long.

And every time I failed, I told myself the same story:

“I’m just not disciplined enough.”
“I don’t want it badly enough.”
“I’m lazy.”
“I’ll never achieve my full potential.”

Sound familiar?

But here’s the truth — the thing no one tells you when they’re selling you the routine myth:

Some of us aren’t built for routines.

And forcing yourself into one won’t unlock your potential. It’ll just burn you out.

The 21-Day Habit Lie (and the Gurus Who Love It)

Let’s talk about the 21-day habit rule — that golden number that self-help gurus, internet “coaches,” and so-called experts repeat like scripture.

I am sure that you have heard it before:

“It takes 21 days to build a habit!”

They say it with such confidence, as if it’s some scientifically proven law of human behavior, rather than just another convenient marketing slogan designed to sell you their next productivity course.

Here’s the real story:

The “21-day rule” is most commonly attributed to Maxwell Maltz, a plastic surgeon who popularized the idea in his 1960 book, Psycho-Cybernetics.

Maltz noticed that his patients took around 21 days to psychologically adjust to their new appearance after surgery.

And from that, he casually extrapolated: Well, if it takes 21 days for people to get used to a new nose, then surely that’s how long it takes to form any habit, right?

And just like that — without real scientific backing — the “21-day habit” myth was born.

Since then, self-help gurus have clung to it like gospel, repeating it endlessly in books, seminars, and motivational speeches. And when their clients inevitably fail to transform their lives in three weeks?

They don’t blame the faulty advice.

They blame you.

“You’re just not disciplined enough.”
“You don’t want it badly enough.”
“You’re lazy.”
“You’ll never achieve your full potential.”

It’s a convenient way to shift the blame — because if the system works and you’re struggling, then clearly you must be the problem.

Well, here’s the real science:

A study published in the European Journal of Social Psychology found that, on average, habit formation takes 66 days — not 21. And even that varies widely depending on the person and the habit itself.

So, no, just forcing yourself to do something for three weeks does not magically turn it into a lifelong habit.

If that were true, I would still be:

Running every day (tried it, didn’t last though I did manage to rack up one marathon, twenty-six half marathons and more 5Ks than I can count).Eating vegetarian-only (I did it for 35 years, and stopped).Playing the piano regularly (I was a music major for two years in college and practice was central to my life, now my piano performs as a dust collector).

Clearly, repetition alone doesn’t guarantee lasting change.

And yet, for years, I kept trying to force routines into my life, believing they would magically transform me into the best version of myself.

The INTJ Illusion

For most of my life, people told me I was an INTJ.

And it made sense.

I am decisive. A shoot first, aim later kind of person. I break things down into logical steps. I seem structured and strategic.

And because of that, I convinced myself I was an INTJ — the “Mastermind” type, known for discipline, planning, and long-term goal execution.

And you know what INTJs love? Routines.

So, naturally, I believed that was the key to my success.

If I could just stick to the plan, I’d finally reach my full potential.

But something never felt quite right.

No matter how hard I tried to lock myself into a structured system, I would always drift. I’d get bored. I’d lose interest.

And every time that happened, I felt like I was failing at being the person I was supposed to be.

Until one day, I stumbled upon an old MBTI assessment I had taken in college. And guess what?

I wasn’t an INTJ.

I was an INTP.

And suddenly, everything made sense.

INTJ vs. INTP: Why Routine Never Worked for Me

INTJs thrive on structure, planning, and efficiency. They love setting up systems, executing them flawlessly, and refining them over time.

INTPs? Not so much.

Here’s how we differ:

INTJs work methodically every day toward their goals.INTPs work in bursts of obsessive energy, then move on to the next fascinating thing.INTJs create detailed plans and follow them to the letter.INTPs rebel against rigid plans and prefer flexibility.INTJs find security in daily habits.INTPs feel trapped by them.

I had been forcing myself into the wrong box for years.

It’s not that I lacked discipline. It’s not that I was lazy.

It’s that I was never meant to live my life by a rigid routine.

The Stephen King Myth

I think of myself as a writer. I wrote this.

Wannabe authors and self-proclaimed life coaches love to repeat the so-called Stephen King rule: “Write every day, even when you don’t feel like it.” (I have no idea if he actually said that, but people love to act like it’s gospel and supposedly Stephen King writes for one hour everyday whether he wants to or not and that’s it. That’s how he writes a book.)

For years, I thought I berated myself because I couldn’t do that.

You see, I believed it.

So I tried. Over and over again, I tried.

And I failed.

No matter how many times I started, no matter how badly I wanted to be “a real writer like Stephen King”… I could never sustain that routine for long. And when I did, the writing that I produced was pathetic. Pathetic.

Here’s the truth: I don’t write every day. Some days, the words don’t come, and I let them be. Here’s the truth: sometimes, weeks pass, and I don’t write at all — no guilt, no shame, just space. And here’s the truth: when the fire finally sparks, I write for ten hours straight, consumed, obsessed, chasing the story until there’s nothing left of me but the words on the page.

And the most profound truth— despite not following the so-called “golden rule” of writing — I’ve published 26 books (so far).

Clearly, I’m doing something right.

Join the Routine Resistance

Let me say it loud and clear:

Routine doesn’t work for everyone.

If you’re constantly struggling to stick to a routine — if you feel more focused on maintaining the habit than actually doing the thing — maybe you’re not meant for routines.

Maybe you’re like me.

Maybe you thrive in bursts of passion and intensity rather than in slow, steady drips.

And if that’s the case, it’s time to stop trying to force yourself into someone else’s mold.

Resist the routine.

Join the Routine Resistance.

Because life doesn’t magically open up when you follow some perfect, external system.

It opens up when you follow the way you’re naturally built to work.

What do you think? Are you part of the resistance?

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Practicing the Eight Precepts: Living with PurposeThe Buddha taught the Eight PreceptsThe Eight Precepts as a Guide to Ethical Living

In a world filled with constant distractions, endless choices, and moral gray areas, finding a framework for ethical living can feel overwhelming. For those who have encountered Vipassana meditation, the Eight Precepts serve as a foundational guide — not just as rules of restraint but as aspirational principles for living a life of clarity, intention, and kindness.

G. Scott Graham’s Living the Eight Precepts challenges the traditional view of these precepts as mere prohibitions. Instead, he presents them as an opportunity to shift from a mindset of limitation to one of aspiration. Rather than seeing them as a restrictive moral code, we can embrace them as a pathway toward cultivating wisdom, peace, and personal growth.

Beyond Restraint: A New Perspective on the Eight Precepts

The Eight Precepts are traditionally framed as prohibitions: refraining from killing, stealing, sexual activity, false speech, intoxicants, eating at improper times, engaging in entertainment, and sleeping in luxurious beds. But what if we flipped the script? Instead of asking, What must I avoid?, we could ask, How can I actively embody kindness, generosity, integrity, and mindfulness in my daily life?

This shift in perspective turns ethical practice into something empowering. It allows us to reframe each precept as an opportunity to cultivate qualities that lead to true happiness:

Compassion over non-harming — Instead of just avoiding harm, how can we actively nurture and protect life?Generosity over non-stealing — Instead of just not taking, how can we freely give and share?Integrity over restraint — Instead of just avoiding misconduct, how can we cultivate relationships built on honesty and respect?Truthfulness over deception — Instead of merely avoiding lies, how can we speak in ways that uplift and heal?Clarity over intoxication — Instead of just abstaining from substances, how can we embrace mindfulness and awareness?Balance over indulgence — Instead of merely limiting food and entertainment, how can we nourish our bodies and minds with intention?Simplicity over excess — Instead of just avoiding luxury, how can we create a life that values meaning over materialism?Practical Integration: Bringing the Eight Precepts into Everyday Life

A key takeaway from Living the Eight Precepts is that ethical living isn’t about rigid adherence to rules — it’s about thoughtful, intentional choices. Graham encourages reflection through journal prompts and life design exercises, urging readers to personalize their practice.

For example, instead of simply avoiding false speech, we can take active steps to cultivate truthfulness in our daily conversations. This might mean:

Practicing mindful communication, ensuring our words align with kindness and honesty.Speaking only when necessary, resisting the urge to gossip or engage in harmful chatter.Acknowledging when we don’t have all the answers, rather than misleading others.

Similarly, instead of seeing the precept of avoiding intoxicants as just a rule against alcohol or drugs, we might ask: What influences cloud my mind? This could extend to social media consumption, sensationalized news, or unhealthy habits that dull our awareness.

Designing a Life Aligned with the Eight Precepts

One of the book’s most powerful insights is the idea of life design — the practice of creating an environment that naturally supports ethical living. Rather than relying on sheer willpower, we can make small, meaningful changes that align our daily habits with our deeper values.

For instance:

Keeping a gratitude journal to cultivate contentment instead of material desire.Surrounding ourselves with people who inspire kindness, integrity, and mindfulness.Structuring our physical space in ways that encourage simplicity and peace.

By making ethical living effortless rather than restrictive, we create a life that naturally supports clarity, peace, and fulfillment.

The Eight Precepts: A Path, Not a Rulebook

The Eight Precepts aren’t about moral perfection — they’re about continuous growth. Whether you’re a dedicated practitioner or simply seeking a more mindful and ethical way to live, Graham’s approach offers a refreshing perspective. Ethical living isn’t about deprivation — it’s about cultivating a life that is rich in meaning, connection, and joy.

So the question isn’t How can I follow these rules? but How can I use these principles to live my best life?

Are you ready to redefine the Eight Precepts for yourself? Start small. Choose one precept and explore how it might shift your perspective. Write about it. Reflect on it. See where it leads you.

Because ultimately, living ethically isn’t just about avoiding harm — it’s about creating a life of purpose, wisdom, and compassion.

Living the Eight Precepts (Living the Dhamma)

What Are the Eight Precepts?

For those unfamiliar with them, the Eight Precepts are ethical guidelines followed by many Buddhist practitioners, particularly on meditation retreats or special observance days. They are:

Pānātipātā veramaṇi sikkhāpadaṃ samādiyāmi — I undertake the precept to abstain from killing any living being.Adinnādānā veramaṇi sikkhāpadaṃ samādiyāmi — I undertake the precept to abstain from taking what is not given.Abrahmacariyā veramaṇi sikkhāpadaṃ samādiyāmi — I undertake the precept to abstain from all sexual activity.Musāvādā veramaṇi sikkhāpadaṃ samādiyāmi — I undertake the precept to abstain from false speech.Surāmeraya majjapamādaṭṭhānā veramaṇi sikkhāpadaṃ samādiyāmi — I undertake the precept to abstain from intoxicating drinks and drugs that lead to heedlessness.Vikāla bhojanā veramaṇi sikkhāpadaṃ samādiyāmi — I undertake the precept to abstain from eating at improper times (typically after noon).Nacca gīta vādita visukadassanā mālā gandha vilepana dhārana mandana vibhūsanaṭṭhānā veramaṇi sikkhāpadaṃ samādiyāmi — I undertake the precept to abstain from entertainment, music, dancing, and beautification (such as jewelry and perfumes).Uccāsayana mahāsayana veramaṇi sikkhāpadaṃ samādiyāmi — I undertake the precept to abstain from using high or luxurious beds.

These precepts serve as a framework for cultivating mindfulness, ethical conduct, and a deeper connection to a life of purpose and inner peace.

Part of the Living the Dhamma Series:

Living the Dhamma

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Practicing the Eight Precepts: Living with PurposeThe Buddha taught the Eight PreceptsThe Eight Precepts as a Guide to Ethical Living

In a world filled with constant distractions, endless choices, and moral gray areas, finding a framework for ethical living can feel overwhelming. For those who have encountered Vipassana meditation, the Eight Precepts serve as a foundational guide — not just as rules of restraint but as aspirational principles for living a life of clarity, intention, and kindness.

G. Scott Graham’s Living the Eight Precepts challenges the traditional view of these precepts as mere prohibitions. Instead, he presents them as an opportunity to shift from a mindset of limitation to one of aspiration. Rather than seeing them as a restrictive moral code, we can embrace them as a pathway toward cultivating wisdom, peace, and personal growth.

Beyond Restraint: A New Perspective on the Eight Precepts

The Eight Precepts are traditionally framed as prohibitions: refraining from killing, stealing, sexual activity, false speech, intoxicants, eating at improper times, engaging in entertainment, and sleeping in luxurious beds. But what if we flipped the script? Instead of asking, What must I avoid?, we could ask, How can I actively embody kindness, generosity, integrity, and mindfulness in my daily life?

This shift in perspective turns ethical practice into something empowering. It allows us to reframe each precept as an opportunity to cultivate qualities that lead to true happiness:

Compassion over non-harming — Instead of just avoiding harm, how can we actively nurture and protect life?Generosity over non-stealing — Instead of just not taking, how can we freely give and share?Integrity over restraint — Instead of just avoiding misconduct, how can we cultivate relationships built on honesty and respect?Truthfulness over deception — Instead of merely avoiding lies, how can we speak in ways that uplift and heal?Clarity over intoxication — Instead of just abstaining from substances, how can we embrace mindfulness and awareness?Balance over indulgence — Instead of merely limiting food and entertainment, how can we nourish our bodies and minds with intention?Simplicity over excess — Instead of just avoiding luxury, how can we create a life that values meaning over materialism?Practical Integration: Bringing the Eight Precepts into Everyday Life

A key takeaway from Living the Eight Precepts is that ethical living isn’t about rigid adherence to rules — it’s about thoughtful, intentional choices. Graham encourages reflection through journal prompts and life design exercises, urging readers to personalize their practice.

For example, instead of simply avoiding false speech, we can take active steps to cultivate truthfulness in our daily conversations. This might mean:

Practicing mindful communication, ensuring our words align with kindness and honesty.Speaking only when necessary, resisting the urge to gossip or engage in harmful chatter.Acknowledging when we don’t have all the answers, rather than misleading others.

Similarly, instead of seeing the precept of avoiding intoxicants as just a rule against alcohol or drugs, we might ask: What influences cloud my mind? This could extend to social media consumption, sensationalized news, or unhealthy habits that dull our awareness.

Designing a Life Aligned with the Eight Precepts

One of the book’s most powerful insights is the idea of life design — the practice of creating an environment that naturally supports ethical living. Rather than relying on sheer willpower, we can make small, meaningful changes that align our daily habits with our deeper values.

For instance:

Keeping a gratitude journal to cultivate contentment instead of material desire.Surrounding ourselves with people who inspire kindness, integrity, and mindfulness.Structuring our physical space in ways that encourage simplicity and peace.

By making ethical living effortless rather than restrictive, we create a life that naturally supports clarity, peace, and fulfillment.

The Eight Precepts: A Path, Not a Rulebook

The Eight Precepts aren’t about moral perfection — they’re about continuous growth. Whether you’re a dedicated practitioner or simply seeking a more mindful and ethical way to live, Graham’s approach offers a refreshing perspective. Ethical living isn’t about deprivation — it’s about cultivating a life that is rich in meaning, connection, and joy.

So the question isn’t How can I follow these rules? but How can I use these principles to live my best life?

Are you ready to redefine the Eight Precepts for yourself? Start small. Choose one precept and explore how it might shift your perspective. Write about it. Reflect on it. See where it leads you.

Because ultimately, living ethically isn’t just about avoiding harm — it’s about creating a life of purpose, wisdom, and compassion.

Living the Eight Precepts (Living the Dhamma)

What Are the Eight Precepts?

For those unfamiliar with them, the Eight Precepts are ethical guidelines followed by many Buddhist practitioners, particularly on meditation retreats or special observance days. They are:

Pānātipātā veramaṇi sikkhāpadaṃ samādiyāmi — I undertake the precept to abstain from killing any living being.Adinnādānā veramaṇi sikkhāpadaṃ samādiyāmi — I undertake the precept to abstain from taking what is not given.Abrahmacariyā veramaṇi sikkhāpadaṃ samādiyāmi — I undertake the precept to abstain from all sexual activity.Musāvādā veramaṇi sikkhāpadaṃ samādiyāmi — I undertake the precept to abstain from false speech.Surāmeraya majjapamādaṭṭhānā veramaṇi sikkhāpadaṃ samādiyāmi — I undertake the precept to abstain from intoxicating drinks and drugs that lead to heedlessness.Vikāla bhojanā veramaṇi sikkhāpadaṃ samādiyāmi — I undertake the precept to abstain from eating at improper times (typically after noon).Nacca gīta vādita visukadassanā mālā gandha vilepana dhārana mandana vibhūsanaṭṭhānā veramaṇi sikkhāpadaṃ samādiyāmi — I undertake the precept to abstain from entertainment, music, dancing, and beautification (such as jewelry and perfumes).Uccāsayana mahāsayana veramaṇi sikkhāpadaṃ samādiyāmi — I undertake the precept to abstain from using high or luxurious beds.

These precepts serve as a framework for cultivating mindfulness, ethical conduct, and a deeper connection to a life of purpose and inner peace.

Part of the Living the Dhamma Series:

Living the Dhamma

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Mangala Sutta: Blueprint for Modern Happiness

Imagine waking each morning feeling genuinely fulfilled, your mind clear and your heart deeply at peace. Now, ask yourself honestly: Does this describe your typical day?

If not, you’re certainly not alone. Most of us spend our days chasing happiness, rarely pausing to consider what truly cultivates lasting joy.

This is precisely why the Mangala Sutta, the “Discourse on Blessings,” holds profound relevance today. This ancient Buddhist teaching reveals 38 blessings — conditions that lead directly to genuine happiness and well-being. You might ask: how can such ancient wisdom, delivered in a vastly different time, still guide us meaningfully today?

The brilliance of the Mangala Sutta rests in its extraordinary practicality. Rather than abstract philosophy, it offers concrete guidelines for living a deeply fulfilled life. Simple yet transformative advice — such as associating with wise companions, respecting elders, and cultivating humility — melds seamlessly with deeper practices like mindfulness, equanimity, and compassion.

Imagine each morning beginning your day with intentions rooted firmly in these timeless principles. Visualize how your interactions could shift if consistently guided by compassion, respect, and awareness. Consider how embracing gratitude intentionally could enhance your relationships, amplify your productivity, and fortify your emotional resilience.

One of the Mangala Sutta’s remarkable strengths is its universal resonance. Its teachings speak directly to our shared human experience, effortlessly crossing cultural, social, and historical divides. Ethical living and kindness are not merely noble ideals, but everyday actions capable of transforming lives and communities.

Yet deeper still, the Mangala Sutta embodies the profound Buddhist concept of karma, illuminating that our happiness is never mere chance but is consciously shaped through our thoughts, speech, and actions.

Reflect for a moment: Are you purposefully creating conditions for your happiness, or are you simply hoping it will somehow find you?

In our age of endless distractions, anxieties, and uncertainties, the Mangala Sutta provides clarity and serenity. Its timeless wisdom invites us to align our lives intentionally, understanding happiness not as an accident, but as the direct outcome of our mindful choices.

Ask yourself now: What if a proven blueprint for lasting joy and profound peace has always existed? How might your life transform if you truly embraced even a few of these blessings?

For some, the Mangala Sutta is a tradition; for others, it’s an inspiration.

For a select few, it is a living blueprint — actively guiding them toward genuine happiness, deeper purpose, and enduring peace.

Only some will courageously walk this path.

They seek to live the Mangala Sutta.

Will you be among them?

Get the book, Living the Mangala Sutta:

Living the Maṅgala Sutta (Living the Dhamma)

Mangala Sutta (The Discourse on Blessings)

Thus have I heard.
On one occasion the Blessed One was dwelling at Anathapindika’s monastery in Jeta’s Grove, near Savatthi. Then, in the middle of the night, a radiant deva approached the Blessed One, illuminating the entire grove with his brilliance. He paid homage to the Blessed One and, standing to one side, recited this verse:

“Many gods and humans, desiring well-being,
Have pondered over what truly brings blessings.
Please tell us, O Blessed One,
What is the highest blessing?”

The Blessed One replied:

Not associating with fools, associating with the wise, honoring those worthy of honor — this is the highest blessing.Residing in a suitable place, having done meritorious deeds in the past, directing oneself rightly — this is the highest blessing.Vast learning, skillful practice, well-disciplined speech — this is the highest blessing.Supporting one’s parents, caring for one’s spouse and children, engaging in a peaceful occupation — this is the highest blessing.Generosity, righteous conduct, helping relatives, and blameless actions — this is the highest blessing.Abstaining from unwholesome deeds, refraining from intoxicants, diligence in virtue — this is the highest blessing.Respect, humility, contentment, gratitude, and timely hearing of the Dhamma — this is the highest blessing.Patience, willingness to accept criticism, meeting monks, timely discussions on the Dhamma — this is the highest blessing.Austerity, chastity, seeing the Noble Truths, and realizing Nibbāna — this is the highest blessing.A mind unshaken by worldly conditions, sorrowless, stainless, and secure — this is the highest blessing.Those who fulfill these blessings, unvanquished, in all ways move toward happiness — this is their highest blessing.

Upon hearing these words, the radiant deva rejoiced and, after paying homage to the Blessed One, disappeared.

(Khuddakapatha 5, Sutta Nipata 2.4)

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Mangala Sutta: Blueprint for Modern Happiness

Imagine waking each morning feeling genuinely fulfilled, your mind clear and your heart deeply at peace. Now, ask yourself honestly: Does this describe your typical day?

If not, you’re certainly not alone. Most of us spend our days chasing happiness, rarely pausing to consider what truly cultivates lasting joy.

This is precisely why the Mangala Sutta, the “Discourse on Blessings,” holds profound relevance today. This ancient Buddhist teaching reveals 38 blessings — conditions that lead directly to genuine happiness and well-being. You might ask: how can such ancient wisdom, delivered in a vastly different time, still guide us meaningfully today?

The brilliance of the Mangala Sutta rests in its extraordinary practicality. Rather than abstract philosophy, it offers concrete guidelines for living a deeply fulfilled life. Simple yet transformative advice — such as associating with wise companions, respecting elders, and cultivating humility — melds seamlessly with deeper practices like mindfulness, equanimity, and compassion.

Imagine each morning beginning your day with intentions rooted firmly in these timeless principles. Visualize how your interactions could shift if consistently guided by compassion, respect, and awareness. Consider how embracing gratitude intentionally could enhance your relationships, amplify your productivity, and fortify your emotional resilience.

One of the Mangala Sutta’s remarkable strengths is its universal resonance. Its teachings speak directly to our shared human experience, effortlessly crossing cultural, social, and historical divides. Ethical living and kindness are not merely noble ideals, but everyday actions capable of transforming lives and communities.

Yet deeper still, the Mangala Sutta embodies the profound Buddhist concept of karma, illuminating that our happiness is never mere chance but is consciously shaped through our thoughts, speech, and actions.

Reflect for a moment: Are you purposefully creating conditions for your happiness, or are you simply hoping it will somehow find you?

In our age of endless distractions, anxieties, and uncertainties, the Mangala Sutta provides clarity and serenity. Its timeless wisdom invites us to align our lives intentionally, understanding happiness not as an accident, but as the direct outcome of our mindful choices.

Ask yourself now: What if a proven blueprint for lasting joy and profound peace has always existed? How might your life transform if you truly embraced even a few of these blessings?

For some, the Mangala Sutta is a tradition; for others, it’s an inspiration.

For a select few, it is a living blueprint — actively guiding them toward genuine happiness, deeper purpose, and enduring peace.

Only some will courageously walk this path.

They seek to live the Mangala Sutta.

Will you be among them?

Get the book, Living the Mangala Sutta:

Living the Maṅgala Sutta (Living the Dhamma)

Mangala Sutta (The Discourse on Blessings)

Thus have I heard.
On one occasion the Blessed One was dwelling at Anathapindika’s monastery in Jeta’s Grove, near Savatthi. Then, in the middle of the night, a radiant deva approached the Blessed One, illuminating the entire grove with his brilliance. He paid homage to the Blessed One and, standing to one side, recited this verse:

“Many gods and humans, desiring well-being,
Have pondered over what truly brings blessings.
Please tell us, O Blessed One,
What is the highest blessing?”

The Blessed One replied:

Not associating with fools, associating with the wise, honoring those worthy of honor — this is the highest blessing.Residing in a suitable place, having done meritorious deeds in the past, directing oneself rightly — this is the highest blessing.Vast learning, skillful practice, well-disciplined speech — this is the highest blessing.Supporting one’s parents, caring for one’s spouse and children, engaging in a peaceful occupation — this is the highest blessing.Generosity, righteous conduct, helping relatives, and blameless actions — this is the highest blessing.Abstaining from unwholesome deeds, refraining from intoxicants, diligence in virtue — this is the highest blessing.Respect, humility, contentment, gratitude, and timely hearing of the Dhamma — this is the highest blessing.Patience, willingness to accept criticism, meeting monks, timely discussions on the Dhamma — this is the highest blessing.Austerity, chastity, seeing the Noble Truths, and realizing Nibbāna — this is the highest blessing.A mind unshaken by worldly conditions, sorrowless, stainless, and secure — this is the highest blessing.Those who fulfill these blessings, unvanquished, in all ways move toward happiness — this is their highest blessing.

Upon hearing these words, the radiant deva rejoiced and, after paying homage to the Blessed One, disappeared.

(Khuddakapatha 5, Sutta Nipata 2.4)

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A Commitment that Requires a Guarantee is not a CommitmentThe road ahead has no guarantees

It’s February 15, 4 o’clock in the morning. The world outside is dark and cold here in Vermont, and I am awake, thinking about commitment.

Fitting, I suppose, that these thoughts come the day after Valentine’s Day — a day draped in hearts. Hearts on cards, hearts in windows, hearts wrapped in ribbons and chocolate boxes. But if love had a truer emblem, it wouldn’t be a heart. It would be a knot.

A knot, when tied with care, is strong, enduring, unbreakable. And commitment — true commitment between two people — is exactly that. It is not a fleeting emotion or a momentary passion. It is the invisible thread that binds two souls, two promises, two lives into something that holds fast.

Yesterday, I found myself making a declaration to the man I love: a commitment that requires a guarantee is not a commitment at all.

Think about it.
If we only take a class when we’re certain we’ll pass, that’s not commitment.
If we only train when we’re sure we’ll win the race, that’s not commitment.
If we only start a business when success is guaranteed, that’s not commitment.

Those are transactions — arrangements made with safety nets and escape clauses.

But real commitment exists for its own sake. It stands independent of rewards, of certainties, of comfortable assurances. The people we admire most — the ones who inspire us — commit without conditions. They don’t wait to see if success is guaranteed. They don’t hedge their bets. They simply say, I am all in.

For 31 years, I was in a relationship that embodied this truth. My late husband, Brian Stephens, and I lived by those words: I am all in.

Not “I am all in as long as it’s easy.”
Not “I am all in unless something better comes along.”
Not “I am all in, but only if I get exactly what I expect.”

Just — I am all in.

Because that’s what true commitment is. It takes vulnerability to make such a promise. It takes courage to live without guarantees. It requires trust — not in certainty, but in the strength of the commitment itself.

Because, in the end, commitment isn’t about what it gets us. It’s about who we become because of it.

Jim Rohn once said:
“The major reason for setting a goal is for what it makes of you to accomplish it. What it makes of you will always be the far greater value than what you get.”

Commitment transforms us. It shapes our character, our resilience, our depth.

So — who do we become when we fully commit?

A person of integrity, whose word is a bond, unshaken by circumstance.
A person of action, who doesn’t just dream but builds, creates, and follows through.
A person who persists, not because success is guaranteed, but because giving up is not an option.
A person who becomes stronger, not because the path is easy, but because they refuse to walk away.

In 1984, I had the most powerful experience of my life: an Outward Bound course in the Florida Everglades. The experience not only shaped my career but became a lighthouse in my life, a guiding force.

Outward Bound’s motto is:
“To Serve, to Strive, and Not to Yield.”

Taken from Tennyson’s Ulysses, these words hold profound meaning:
To serve is to give, to sacrifice, to stand for something greater than oneself.
To strive is to push forward, to pursue a goal with relentless determination.
To not yield is to persist, to endure, to triumph — not because it’s easy, but because it’s worth it.

This was the mindset I brought to my relationship with Brian.

Ours was not a love held together by passion. It wasn’t our interest of Star Trek or our commitment to animal rescue that made it last. It was the unwavering, quiet vow between us:

To stand beside each other. Always.

Brian had my back — not because he had to, not because I asked, but because that’s who he was. No conditions. No hesitations. No exceptions.

And I had his.
That is who I was.
That is who I am.

In a world that shifts and falters, where so much is fleeting and uncertain, that certainty — that someone has your back — is everything. It is the weight that anchors you in life’s storms. It is the force that carries you forward.

Commitment is what made our love enduring.
Commitment is what made our love powerful.

Yet today, commitment often feels like a relic, replaced by convenience and comfort.

Too often, people choose what is effortless over what is enduring.
Too often, they mistake temporary happiness for something unbreakable.

But commitment is not effortless. It is not soft, nor simple, nor easy.
It is the choice to stay when leaving would be simpler.
To hold on when the world says let go.
To stand — not just in the light of love, but in the shadows of sorrow, in the depths of struggle, in the quiet spaces where words are no longer needed.

To be truly committed — to a person, a purpose, a life shared — is to weave something unshakable.
Not because it’s easy. But because it matters.

And in a world that trades depth for distraction, that kind of devotion is more precious than ever.

So here’s my invitation to you:
Stand apart.
Build.
Create.
Lead.
Inspire.

Commitment is not about being perfect. It is about showing up. It is about staying true. It is about pushing forward when most would quit.

If you want to change your life, your business, your relationships — start here.
Commit fully. No half-measures. No hesitation.
Just full, unwavering dedication.

Because in the end, commitment isn’t just what you do — 
It’s who you become.

And that transformation?
That is the ultimate reward.

That is the guarantee: you will become someone extraordinary.

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A Commitment that Requires a Guarantee is not a CommitmentThe road ahead has no guarantees

It’s February 15, 4 o’clock in the morning. The world outside is dark and cold here in Vermont, and I am awake, thinking about commitment.

Fitting, I suppose, that these thoughts come the day after Valentine’s Day — a day draped in hearts. Hearts on cards, hearts in windows, hearts wrapped in ribbons and chocolate boxes. But if love had a truer emblem, it wouldn’t be a heart. It would be a knot.

A knot, when tied with care, is strong, enduring, unbreakable. And commitment — true commitment between two people — is exactly that. It is not a fleeting emotion or a momentary passion. It is the invisible thread that binds two souls, two promises, two lives into something that holds fast.

Yesterday, I found myself making a declaration to the man I love: a commitment that requires a guarantee is not a commitment at all.

Think about it.
If we only take a class when we’re certain we’ll pass, that’s not commitment.
If we only train when we’re sure we’ll win the race, that’s not commitment.
If we only start a business when success is guaranteed, that’s not commitment.

Those are transactions — arrangements made with safety nets and escape clauses.

But real commitment exists for its own sake. It stands independent of rewards, of certainties, of comfortable assurances. The people we admire most — the ones who inspire us — commit without conditions. They don’t wait to see if success is guaranteed. They don’t hedge their bets. They simply say, I am all in.

For 31 years, I was in a relationship that embodied this truth. My late husband, Brian Stephens, and I lived by those words: I am all in.

Not “I am all in as long as it’s easy.”
Not “I am all in unless something better comes along.”
Not “I am all in, but only if I get exactly what I expect.”

Just — I am all in.

Because that’s what true commitment is. It takes vulnerability to make such a promise. It takes courage to live without guarantees. It requires trust — not in certainty, but in the strength of the commitment itself.

Because, in the end, commitment isn’t about what it gets us. It’s about who we become because of it.

Jim Rohn once said:
“The major reason for setting a goal is for what it makes of you to accomplish it. What it makes of you will always be the far greater value than what you get.”

Commitment transforms us. It shapes our character, our resilience, our depth.

So — who do we become when we fully commit?

A person of integrity, whose word is a bond, unshaken by circumstance.
A person of action, who doesn’t just dream but builds, creates, and follows through.
A person who persists, not because success is guaranteed, but because giving up is not an option.
A person who becomes stronger, not because the path is easy, but because they refuse to walk away.

In 1984, I had the most powerful experience of my life: an Outward Bound course in the Florida Everglades. The experience not only shaped my career but became a lighthouse in my life, a guiding force.

Outward Bound’s motto is:
“To Serve, to Strive, and Not to Yield.”

Taken from Tennyson’s Ulysses, these words hold profound meaning:
To serve is to give, to sacrifice, to stand for something greater than oneself.
To strive is to push forward, to pursue a goal with relentless determination.
To not yield is to persist, to endure, to triumph — not because it’s easy, but because it’s worth it.

This was the mindset I brought to my relationship with Brian.

Ours was not a love held together by passion. It wasn’t our interest of Star Trek or our commitment to animal rescue that made it last. It was the unwavering, quiet vow between us:

To stand beside each other. Always.

Brian had my back — not because he had to, not because I asked, but because that’s who he was. No conditions. No hesitations. No exceptions.

And I had his.
That is who I was.
That is who I am.

In a world that shifts and falters, where so much is fleeting and uncertain, that certainty — that someone has your back — is everything. It is the weight that anchors you in life’s storms. It is the force that carries you forward.

Commitment is what made our love enduring.
Commitment is what made our love powerful.

Yet today, commitment often feels like a relic, replaced by convenience and comfort.

Too often, people choose what is effortless over what is enduring.
Too often, they mistake temporary happiness for something unbreakable.

But commitment is not effortless. It is not soft, nor simple, nor easy.
It is the choice to stay when leaving would be simpler.
To hold on when the world says let go.
To stand — not just in the light of love, but in the shadows of sorrow, in the depths of struggle, in the quiet spaces where words are no longer needed.

To be truly committed — to a person, a purpose, a life shared — is to weave something unshakable.
Not because it’s easy. But because it matters.

And in a world that trades depth for distraction, that kind of devotion is more precious than ever.

So here’s my invitation to you:
Stand apart.
Build.
Create.
Lead.
Inspire.

Commitment is not about being perfect. It is about showing up. It is about staying true. It is about pushing forward when most would quit.

If you want to change your life, your business, your relationships — start here.
Commit fully. No half-measures. No hesitation.
Just full, unwavering dedication.

Because in the end, commitment isn’t just what you do — 
It’s who you become.

And that transformation?
That is the ultimate reward.

That is the guarantee: you will become someone extraordinary.

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Groot and Rocket pose at the Entrance Sign for Parc national de la YamaskaContact DetailsAddress: 1780 Boulevard David-Bouchard, Roxton Pond (Québec) J0E 1Z0Phone: +1 450–776–7182Website: https://www.sepaq.com/pq/yam/Overview

I visited Parc national de la Yamaska at the end of September, so paddleboarding with the dogs was off the table. The general rule is that the combined air and water temperature should be at least 100°F (37.7°C), and I knew it wouldn’t be anywhere close. I didn’t even bother bringing the board.

Most of the park was shut down for the season. The paddleboard rental facilities, sprawling beach, and multiple food stands were all closed. The only thing still running was the electric bike rental, which plenty of people were using to loop around the lake. It struck me as funny — why rent an electric bike just to cruise a flat lakeside trail? But hey, to each their own.

The campsites were better than those at Parc national du Mont-Orford, but oddly, my site wasn’t level at all — a surprising oversight for a place like this. It was also right next to a walking trail, which turned out to be a busy thoroughfare with runners, dog walkers, and families out for a stroll. The facilities were an improvement over Mont-Orford, but the showers were lukewarm at best with no way to adjust the temperature — government efficiency at its finest. This is definitely a social park, not a place for solitude. I can only imagine how packed it gets in summer.

I had already adjusted my expectations after learning that Quebec’s so-called “national parks” aren’t national in the same way they are in the U.S. The first clue was how they were managed: in the U.S., national parks are federally run, but in Quebec, they’re actually provincial parks with a fancy name. Quebec is the only province that calls its parks “national” instead of “provincial,” a branding choice that, let’s be honest, reeks of French pride and bureaucratic self-importance. And that attitude wasn’t just in the name — the staff weren’t exactly warm toward me, an American visitor.

One particularly ridiculous moment happened while I was photographing Groot and Rocket at the park’s outdoor art installations. These weren’t delicate museum pieces — just big concrete structures scattered in the woods. I picked up the dogs, set them on one, and was immediately scolded by a passerby who accused me of “desecrating” the sacred concrete slab. Apparently, I was both “insolent and unintelligent” for daring to take a picture. I just ignored them. Clearly, they’d already decided I was another “stupid American,” and I wasn’t interested in their nonsense. (For the record, the art installations were my favorite part of the park.)

Despite all that, the walking trails were great — well-maintained and perfect for exploring with the dogs. Some trails are for walking only, while others allow both walking and biking, so be aware if you’re out on them. We wandered through the woods, stopping at different vantage points around the lake as well as the art installations.

For paddleboarders reading this, be aware that the water was choppy the entire length of my visit. While beginners might enjoy it on a calm day, any wind would require at least intermediate paddling skills.

Overall, Parc national de la Yamaska wasn’t a bad scouting trip, but I decided I wouldn’t return during warmer weather to paddleboard. There is no direct water access from the campsites, meaning you have to drive to the parking area and then schlep your board down to the water. Plus, I prefer peaceful getaways, and this isn’t the place for that. But if you’re after an easy, well-equipped park with plenty of activity, it gets the job done.

Rating

2 out of 10

Groot and Rocket enjoying art before we got yelled at by the CanadiansHistory

Parc national de la Yamaska, located in Quebec’s Estrie region was originally inhabited by the Abenaki people. The land was vital for fishing, hunting, and gathering, with the Yamaska River and surrounding forests providing essential resources. When European settlers arrived in the 17th century, the area was gradually transformed into agricultural land as part of the broader expansion of farming in southern Quebec. Over time, resource extraction and land cultivation reshaped the landscape, setting the stage for future developments.

In the early 1970s, the Quebec government launched a project to regulate the flow of the North Yamaska River, a move that would significantly alter the region. As part of this initiative, land was expropriated to allow for the construction of a dam and dike, resulting in the creation of the Choinière Reservoir by 1977. This artificial reservoir not only changed the area’s geography but also provided new opportunities for recreation, making it a prime location for outdoor activities such as boating and fishing. Recognizing the potential of the site, the government moved to establish a protected area around the reservoir.

On July 27, 1983, Parc de récréation de la Yamaska was officially created, covering 13.4 square kilometers of diverse ecosystems. Its primary purpose was to promote outdoor recreation while also safeguarding the region’s natural environment. In 2001, it was officially renamed as Parc national de la Yamaska.

The park saw another milestone in 2017 when it expanded its territory to incorporate additional land that had previously been used for material sourcing during the construction of the Choinière Reservoir’s dam and dike. This expansion increased the park’s size from 12.9 km² to 13.5 km², prompting a reassessment of its zoning plan. In an effort to strengthen conservation efforts, the park significantly increased the portion of its land designated for preservation — from 0% to 51.1% — while reducing the area classified as “ambiance” zones, which allow for recreational activities, from 86.1% to 38.5%. This shift underscored the park’s growing emphasis on protecting its natural landscapes and biodiversity, ensuring that its ecosystems would be preserved for future generations.

Stand Up Paddleboarding at Parc national de la YamaskaView from the rental shop at Parc national de la YamaskaWhat’s Good:

Calm and Peaceful Waters (when it is not windy):

The Choinière Reservoir features calm waters, making it ideal for beginners and those seeking a relaxing paddle.Minimal boat traffic ensures an experience without wakes.

Scenic Beauty:

Surrounded by lush forests and rolling hills, the park offers stunning natural vistas.Wildlife sightings, including birds and small mammals, enhance the connection to nature.

Family-Friendly Atmosphere:

The calm conditions and park amenities make it a great spot for families to enjoy paddling together.Facilities include picnic areas, restrooms, and nearby trails for additional activities.

SUP Rentals and Accessibility:

Paddleboard rentals are available on-site, making it convenient for visitors who don’t have their own equipment..

Eco-Friendly Setting:

The park is a protected area, ensuring a clean, natural environment with strict guidelines for preserving its beauty.What’s Bad:

Limited Exploration Area:

While the reservoir is large, it doesn’t offer the same variety of terrain or features as larger lakes or rivers.Paddling options may feel limited for advanced SUP enthusiasts seeking long or challenging routes.

Crowds During Peak Season:

Summer weekends can be busy, reducing the sense of solitude and making rental equipment availability competitive.The beaches and launch areas may become crowded.and other insects can be a nuisance, particularly in late spring and early summer.

Wind:

Wind can pick up in the afternoon, creating small waves that might challenge beginners.

Difficult access if you are camping and not renting a paddleboard:

Easy access to the water via designated launch points if you are renting, but if you bring your own equipment, be prepared for a haul from the parking lotThings to Consider:

Skill Level:

Ideal for beginners due to the calm reservoir conditions when it is not windy.Experienced paddlers may enjoy the serenity but might find the area less challenging.

Safety Gear:

Life jackets are mandatory, and a SUP leash is recommended for added safety.Bring a whistle or signaling device, as required by Quebec’s boating regulations.

Timing Your Visit:

Early mornings and weekdays offer the calmest waters and fewer crowds.Avoid paddling during windy afternoons or storms.

Pack Essentials:

Bring sunscreen, water, snacks, and bug spray to ensure a comfortable experience.

Explore the Park’s Activities:

Complement your SUP adventure with other activities, such as hiking, biking, or birdwatching.The park features over 40 kilometers of trails.

Respect the Environment:

Follow Leave No Trace principles to preserve the reservoir’s pristine condition.Avoid disturbing wildlife or aquatic vegetation.

Rental and Permit Information:

SUP rentals are available seasonally.Camping

The campground at Parc national de la Yamaska has serviced and non-serviced campsites for tents and RVs. Each site includes a picnic table and fire pit. Amenities include flush toilets, tepid showers, drinking water stations, and electrical hookups at select sites. RV campers have access to dump stations, and trash and recycling services are available.

Outdoor activities include nature walking, swimming at the park’s beach, fishing, and boating, including paddleboarding. The park also features playgrounds, picnic areas, cycling paths, and wildlife-watching opportunities. Pets are allowed on a leash. Firewood is available for purchase.

Quebec’s “national” parks have an incredibly complex pricing system, outlined in a 42-cell matrix. There are separate rates for two high seasons and a low season, with different prices for weekday and weekend overnight stays. Additionally, campsite costs vary based on factors such as proximity to flush toilets. The system feels more like purchasing concert tickets than booking a campsite. Prices range from $20 to $85 per night.

Campground Details:

Season: early May through the end of October

Total number of campsites: 189
Without services : 67
With 2 services : 84

Cabins : 5
Tents (Ready-to-camp): 32
Cottage rental : 5

Reservation booking window: NA — according to their website, reservation booking a campsite at Parc national de la Yamaska typically opens in early January for the upcoming summer season

How difficult is it to get a camping reservation (1=easy, 10=impossible): 6

The biking / walking trail goes right over the earthen damFees:

Vehicle use fees

· Day use (peak): approx. $10

Campsite fees

· Vary depending on site, day of week and season. See the park website for more details:
https://www.sepaq.com/camping/emplacement/tente.dot#tarificatio

Things to Check Out Nearby Parc national de la YamaskaGroot and Rocket checking out more “art” at Parc national de la Yamaska

Lac Waterloo:

Located near Parc national de la Yamaska, Lac Waterloo is another site for boating, swimming, kayaking, and paddleboarding.

Bromont:

About 20 minutes from the park, Bromont offers hiking, mountain biking, and outdoor activities during the warmer months. The town is also known for its charming village, which has shopping, dining, and art galleries.

Mont Shefford:

A 30-minute drive from Parc national de la Yamaska, Mont Shefford offers excellent hiking trails with panoramic views of the surrounding countryside.

Vignoble La Bullerie:

A local vineyard near the town of Bromont, offering wine tastings and tours. Enjoy a relaxing afternoon surrounded by vineyards, where you can sample wines made from local grapes.

Bromont, montagne d’expériences:

This all-season outdoor adventure center offers a variety of activities such as hiking, mountain biking, and even zip-lining in the summer.

Magog Village:

About a 30-minute drive from the park, Magog is a charming town on the shores of Lac Memphrémagog. The town features shops, restaurants, cafes, and beautiful lake views.

Vignoble Domaine des Côtes d’Ardoise:

A picturesque vineyard near Dunham, about 30 minutes from the park, offering wine tastings, tours, and an outdoor setting.

Parc de la Gorge de Coaticook:

A 40-minute drive from Parc national de la Yamaska, this park is famous for its suspension bridge over the Coaticook River, which offers incredible views of the gorge. The park also features hiking trails and guided tours.

Lac Saint-Charles:

About 30 minutes away, this lake offers excellent opportunities for swimming, fishing, and kayaking.

Centre d’Interprétation de la Nature de la Vallée du Richelieu:

Located near the Richelieu River, this nature interpretation center offers educational exhibits, walking trails, and birdwatching opportunities.You just read a chapter from the book:

“Paddle, Camp, Repeat: 10 Campgrounds for Paddleboarding in the Northeast”

Paddle, Camp, Repeat: 10 Campgrounds for Paddleboarding in the Northeast

Read other chapters from the book:

Cedar Point State Park, Clayton NY
Cumberland Bay State Park, Plattsburgh NY
Fish Creek Pond, Saranac Lake NY
Grand Isle State Park, Grand Isle VT
Lake Francis State Park, Pittsburg NH
Macomb Reservation State Park, Schuyler Falls NY
Moreau Lake State Park, Gansevoort NY
Parc national du Mont-Orford, Orford QC
Umbagog Lake State Park, Errol NH

Check out my book about paddleboarding with your dog:

SUP with your Pup: A Guide to Paddleboarding with your Dog

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Groot and Rocket pose at the Entrance Sign for Parc national de la YamaskaContact DetailsAddress: 1780 Boulevard David-Bouchard, Roxton Pond (Québec) J0E 1Z0Phone: +1 450–776–7182Website: https://www.sepaq.com/pq/yam/Overview

I visited Parc national de la Yamaska at the end of September, so paddleboarding with the dogs was off the table. The general rule is that the combined air and water temperature should be at least 100°F (37.7°C), and I knew it wouldn’t be anywhere close. I didn’t even bother bringing the board.

Most of the park was shut down for the season. The paddleboard rental facilities, sprawling beach, and multiple food stands were all closed. The only thing still running was the electric bike rental, which plenty of people were using to loop around the lake. It struck me as funny — why rent an electric bike just to cruise a flat lakeside trail? But hey, to each their own.

The campsites were better than those at Parc national du Mont-Orford, but oddly, my site wasn’t level at all — a surprising oversight for a place like this. It was also right next to a walking trail, which turned out to be a busy thoroughfare with runners, dog walkers, and families out for a stroll. The facilities were an improvement over Mont-Orford, but the showers were lukewarm at best with no way to adjust the temperature — government efficiency at its finest. This is definitely a social park, not a place for solitude. I can only imagine how packed it gets in summer.

I had already adjusted my expectations after learning that Quebec’s so-called “national parks” aren’t national in the same way they are in the U.S. The first clue was how they were managed: in the U.S., national parks are federally run, but in Quebec, they’re actually provincial parks with a fancy name. Quebec is the only province that calls its parks “national” instead of “provincial,” a branding choice that, let’s be honest, reeks of French pride and bureaucratic self-importance. And that attitude wasn’t just in the name — the staff weren’t exactly warm toward me, an American visitor.

One particularly ridiculous moment happened while I was photographing Groot and Rocket at the park’s outdoor art installations. These weren’t delicate museum pieces — just big concrete structures scattered in the woods. I picked up the dogs, set them on one, and was immediately scolded by a passerby who accused me of “desecrating” the sacred concrete slab. Apparently, I was both “insolent and unintelligent” for daring to take a picture. I just ignored them. Clearly, they’d already decided I was another “stupid American,” and I wasn’t interested in their nonsense. (For the record, the art installations were my favorite part of the park.)

Despite all that, the walking trails were great — well-maintained and perfect for exploring with the dogs. Some trails are for walking only, while others allow both walking and biking, so be aware if you’re out on them. We wandered through the woods, stopping at different vantage points around the lake as well as the art installations.

For paddleboarders reading this, be aware that the water was choppy the entire length of my visit. While beginners might enjoy it on a calm day, any wind would require at least intermediate paddling skills.

Overall, Parc national de la Yamaska wasn’t a bad scouting trip, but I decided I wouldn’t return during warmer weather to paddleboard. There is no direct water access from the campsites, meaning you have to drive to the parking area and then schlep your board down to the water. Plus, I prefer peaceful getaways, and this isn’t the place for that. But if you’re after an easy, well-equipped park with plenty of activity, it gets the job done.

Rating

2 out of 10

Groot and Rocket enjoying art before we got yelled at by the CanadiansHistory

Parc national de la Yamaska, located in Quebec’s Estrie region was originally inhabited by the Abenaki people. The land was vital for fishing, hunting, and gathering, with the Yamaska River and surrounding forests providing essential resources. When European settlers arrived in the 17th century, the area was gradually transformed into agricultural land as part of the broader expansion of farming in southern Quebec. Over time, resource extraction and land cultivation reshaped the landscape, setting the stage for future developments.

In the early 1970s, the Quebec government launched a project to regulate the flow of the North Yamaska River, a move that would significantly alter the region. As part of this initiative, land was expropriated to allow for the construction of a dam and dike, resulting in the creation of the Choinière Reservoir by 1977. This artificial reservoir not only changed the area’s geography but also provided new opportunities for recreation, making it a prime location for outdoor activities such as boating and fishing. Recognizing the potential of the site, the government moved to establish a protected area around the reservoir.

On July 27, 1983, Parc de récréation de la Yamaska was officially created, covering 13.4 square kilometers of diverse ecosystems. Its primary purpose was to promote outdoor recreation while also safeguarding the region’s natural environment. In 2001, it was officially renamed as Parc national de la Yamaska.

The park saw another milestone in 2017 when it expanded its territory to incorporate additional land that had previously been used for material sourcing during the construction of the Choinière Reservoir’s dam and dike. This expansion increased the park’s size from 12.9 km² to 13.5 km², prompting a reassessment of its zoning plan. In an effort to strengthen conservation efforts, the park significantly increased the portion of its land designated for preservation — from 0% to 51.1% — while reducing the area classified as “ambiance” zones, which allow for recreational activities, from 86.1% to 38.5%. This shift underscored the park’s growing emphasis on protecting its natural landscapes and biodiversity, ensuring that its ecosystems would be preserved for future generations.

Stand Up Paddleboarding at Parc national de la YamaskaView from the rental shop at Parc national de la YamaskaWhat’s Good:

Calm and Peaceful Waters (when it is not windy):

The Choinière Reservoir features calm waters, making it ideal for beginners and those seeking a relaxing paddle.Minimal boat traffic ensures an experience without wakes.

Scenic Beauty:

Surrounded by lush forests and rolling hills, the park offers stunning natural vistas.Wildlife sightings, including birds and small mammals, enhance the connection to nature.

Family-Friendly Atmosphere:

The calm conditions and park amenities make it a great spot for families to enjoy paddling together.Facilities include picnic areas, restrooms, and nearby trails for additional activities.

SUP Rentals and Accessibility:

Paddleboard rentals are available on-site, making it convenient for visitors who don’t have their own equipment..

Eco-Friendly Setting:

The park is a protected area, ensuring a clean, natural environment with strict guidelines for preserving its beauty.What’s Bad:

Limited Exploration Area:

While the reservoir is large, it doesn’t offer the same variety of terrain or features as larger lakes or rivers.Paddling options may feel limited for advanced SUP enthusiasts seeking long or challenging routes.

Crowds During Peak Season:

Summer weekends can be busy, reducing the sense of solitude and making rental equipment availability competitive.The beaches and launch areas may become crowded.and other insects can be a nuisance, particularly in late spring and early summer.

Wind:

Wind can pick up in the afternoon, creating small waves that might challenge beginners.

Difficult access if you are camping and not renting a paddleboard:

Easy access to the water via designated launch points if you are renting, but if you bring your own equipment, be prepared for a haul from the parking lotThings to Consider:

Skill Level:

Ideal for beginners due to the calm reservoir conditions when it is not windy.Experienced paddlers may enjoy the serenity but might find the area less challenging.

Safety Gear:

Life jackets are mandatory, and a SUP leash is recommended for added safety.Bring a whistle or signaling device, as required by Quebec’s boating regulations.

Timing Your Visit:

Early mornings and weekdays offer the calmest waters and fewer crowds.Avoid paddling during windy afternoons or storms.

Pack Essentials:

Bring sunscreen, water, snacks, and bug spray to ensure a comfortable experience.

Explore the Park’s Activities:

Complement your SUP adventure with other activities, such as hiking, biking, or birdwatching.The park features over 40 kilometers of trails.

Respect the Environment:

Follow Leave No Trace principles to preserve the reservoir’s pristine condition.Avoid disturbing wildlife or aquatic vegetation.

Rental and Permit Information:

SUP rentals are available seasonally.Camping

The campground at Parc national de la Yamaska has serviced and non-serviced campsites for tents and RVs. Each site includes a picnic table and fire pit. Amenities include flush toilets, tepid showers, drinking water stations, and electrical hookups at select sites. RV campers have access to dump stations, and trash and recycling services are available.

Outdoor activities include nature walking, swimming at the park’s beach, fishing, and boating, including paddleboarding. The park also features playgrounds, picnic areas, cycling paths, and wildlife-watching opportunities. Pets are allowed on a leash. Firewood is available for purchase.

Quebec’s “national” parks have an incredibly complex pricing system, outlined in a 42-cell matrix. There are separate rates for two high seasons and a low season, with different prices for weekday and weekend overnight stays. Additionally, campsite costs vary based on factors such as proximity to flush toilets. The system feels more like purchasing concert tickets than booking a campsite. Prices range from $20 to $85 per night.

Campground Details:

Season: early May through the end of October

Total number of campsites: 189
Without services : 67
With 2 services : 84

Cabins : 5
Tents (Ready-to-camp): 32
Cottage rental : 5

Reservation booking window: NA — according to their website, reservation booking a campsite at Parc national de la Yamaska typically opens in early January for the upcoming summer season

How difficult is it to get a camping reservation (1=easy, 10=impossible): 6

The biking / walking trail goes right over the earthen damFees:

Vehicle use fees

· Day use (peak): approx. $10

Campsite fees

· Vary depending on site, day of week and season. See the park website for more details:
https://www.sepaq.com/camping/emplacement/tente.dot#tarificatio

Things to Check Out Nearby Parc national de la YamaskaGroot and Rocket checking out more “art” at Parc national de la Yamaska

Lac Waterloo:

Located near Parc national de la Yamaska, Lac Waterloo is another site for boating, swimming, kayaking, and paddleboarding.

Bromont:

About 20 minutes from the park, Bromont offers hiking, mountain biking, and outdoor activities during the warmer months. The town is also known for its charming village, which has shopping, dining, and art galleries.

Mont Shefford:

A 30-minute drive from Parc national de la Yamaska, Mont Shefford offers excellent hiking trails with panoramic views of the surrounding countryside.

Vignoble La Bullerie:

A local vineyard near the town of Bromont, offering wine tastings and tours. Enjoy a relaxing afternoon surrounded by vineyards, where you can sample wines made from local grapes.

Bromont, montagne d’expériences:

This all-season outdoor adventure center offers a variety of activities such as hiking, mountain biking, and even zip-lining in the summer.

Magog Village:

About a 30-minute drive from the park, Magog is a charming town on the shores of Lac Memphrémagog. The town features shops, restaurants, cafes, and beautiful lake views.

Vignoble Domaine des Côtes d’Ardoise:

A picturesque vineyard near Dunham, about 30 minutes from the park, offering wine tastings, tours, and an outdoor setting.

Parc de la Gorge de Coaticook:

A 40-minute drive from Parc national de la Yamaska, this park is famous for its suspension bridge over the Coaticook River, which offers incredible views of the gorge. The park also features hiking trails and guided tours.

Lac Saint-Charles:

About 30 minutes away, this lake offers excellent opportunities for swimming, fishing, and kayaking.

Centre d’Interprétation de la Nature de la Vallée du Richelieu:

Located near the Richelieu River, this nature interpretation center offers educational exhibits, walking trails, and birdwatching opportunities.You just read a chapter from the book:

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Cedar Point State Park, Clayton NY
Cumberland Bay State Park, Plattsburgh NY
Fish Creek Pond, Saranac Lake NY
Grand Isle State Park, Grand Isle VT
Lake Francis State Park, Pittsburg NH
Macomb Reservation State Park, Schuyler Falls NY
Moreau Lake State Park, Gansevoort NY
Parc national du Mont-Orford, Orford QC
Umbagog Lake State Park, Errol NH

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Groot and Rocket pose at the Entrance Sign to Parc national du Mont-OrfordContact DetailsAddress: 3321, chemin du Parc, Orford, QC J1X 7A2, CanadaPhone: +1 819–843–9855Website: https://www.sepaq.com/pq/mor/Overview

This was the first of two national parks I visited in Canada, and I quickly realized that there was a significant difference in how these parks were managed compared to those in the United States. I had assumed these were true national parks, but it became clear they were more like local parks with a national label — something, it seemed, rooted in a misplaced sense of entitlement. The park even had a golf course, which should have been my first clue. After all, what kind of national park in the U.S. has a golf course? The whole point of national parks there is historic preservation and conservation on a national scale.

The attitude of the staff reflected this disconnect, too. It felt like they saw me as just another “stupid American” who didn’t belong, as if I was intruding on their little corner of the world. It was frustrating and made the whole experience less enjoyable. The campgrounds were decent but not exceptional. The campsites were packed too close together for comfort, and that was just the beginning of the disappointments.

What really threw me off was the one dump station for sewage in the entire campground. There was a long line, and the signage was poorly marked. Incredibly, I even witnessed people filling their drinking water tanks with non-potable water meant solely for waste disposal — because, for whatever reason, there was no proper signage to warn them. It was an embarrassment. I couldn’t help but think, “You’d never see this in a U.S. national park.”

However, Mount Orford itself was a highlight. It was a beautiful spot, offering great hiking opportunities, and the lake — larger than most I’d seen — was perfect for paddling. The water was warm, and the lake wasn’t very deep, so it felt ideal for running paddleboards. I was looking forward to spending time on the water.

Of course, the staff managed to make that more difficult. They insisted my dogs be leashed to my paddleboard, even though I knew they were well-trained and would not get off without my permission. After a bit of back-and-forth with the park staff, they grudgingly allowed it. As soon as I paddled away from shore, I unclipped the dogs, and they calmly stayed on the board with me, as they always did. But, that wasn’t good enough for the park rangers. Apparently, they thought I was breaking some unspoken rule, and it didn’t matter how well-behaved the dogs were.

I remember playing music softly from my outdoor speakers while I relaxed by the lake. Now, I’m not the type to blast music, but someone complained, and I was told to turn it down. In contrast to their obsession with rules, the park staff showed a complete disregard for cleanliness. This was, without a doubt, one of the dirtiest parks I’ve ever camped in. I even pointed out the garbage at our campsite to the staff, but they never bothered to clean it up. It was such a stark contrast to the level of service and care I’m used to in national parks back in the U.S.

All in all, it was an eye-opening experience that left me with a lot of mixed feelings. While the natural beauty of the area, like Mount Orford and the lake, was undeniable, the overall management of the park left much to be desired.

Rating

2 out of 10

The author, Groot and Rocket on Lac Fraser, Parc national du Mont-OrfordHistory

Parc national du Mont-Orford, nestled in Quebec’s Eastern Townships, has a storied history rooted in conservation and recreation. The idea for the park took shape in the 1920s, driven by Dr. George Austin Bowen, a physician from Magog who envisioned protecting the region’s natural beauty while making it accessible for public enjoyment. This vision materialized on April 8, 1938, when Mont-Orford Park was officially established. The creation of the park was a collaborative effort, with 27 municipalities acquiring and ceding land to the Quebec government to secure its future as a preserved natural space.

As the park grew in popularity, its facilities expanded to accommodate visitors. In 1967, in preparation for Expo 67, the government developed a 300-site campground near Lake Stukely, further enhancing the park’s accessibility. By 1975, an ecological inventory prompted a significant expansion, increasing the park’s boundaries by nearly 30% to better protect local wildlife, particularly the white-tailed deer population.

The turn of the millennium brought further changes to the park’s status. Originally designated as Mont-Orford Park, it underwent a reclassification in 2001 when amendments to Quebec’s Parks Act unified all provincial parks under the designation of “national parks.” This shift emphasized the park’s commitment to conservation, ensuring that its rich ecosystems and landscapes would be preserved for future generations.

However, the park faced challenges in the following years. In 2006, the provincial government proposed privatizing the ski resort and golf course within the park while also expanding its protected lands. The plan met fierce resistance from environmental groups and citizens concerned about commercial development within a protected area. The opposition proved successful, and by May 7, 2007, the government abandoned its privatization plans. Instead, the park continued to expand, securing over 100 square kilometers of additional protected land.

To maintain the balance between recreation and conservation, the Corporation Ski & Golf Mont-Orford was established on May 31, 2011, as a non-profit organization tasked with managing the park’s ski and golf facilities. Today, Parc national du Mont-Orford stands as a testament to Quebec’s enduring commitment to preserving its natural heritage, offering both protection for its diverse ecosystems and opportunities for visitors to experience its scenic beauty.

Stand Up Paddleboarding at Parc national du Mont-OrfordOn Lac Fraser with Groot and RocketWhat’s Good:

Scenic Surroundings:

The park is nestled in the heart of nature, offering stunning views of forested hills, Mont Orford, and calm waters.

Multiple Waterways:

The park features several lakes, such as Stukely Lake and Fraser Lake, both ideal for paddleboarding.Each lake offers calm, sheltered areas perfect for beginner paddleboarding.

Abundant Wildlife:

Spot a variety of birds, such as herons and ducks, as well as other wildlife like beavers and turtles because the quiet atmosphere makes wildlife sightings common.

Family-Friendly Atmosphere:

The calm waters and accessible amenities make the park a great option for families.Beaches and picnic areas are available for post-paddling relaxation.

On-Site Rentals:

Paddleboard rentals are available in the park, so you can enjoy the experience without needing to bring your own equipment.

Complementary Activities:

The park offers numerous activities beyond SUP, including hiking, biking, and camping, making it ideal for a multi-day visit.What’s Bad:

Crowds During Peak Season:

Summer weekends and holidays can get busy, especially at popular launch areas and beaches.Limited parking during peak times.

Weather Variability:

Wind can pick up in the afternoons, creating small waves that can challenge beginners.The weather in this region can change quickly, especially in the mountains.

Cold Water Temperatures:

Even in summer, water temperatures can be chilly, requiring caution if you plan to swim or are prone to falling in.

Limited Exploration Area:

While the lakes are scenic, they may feel small for experienced paddlers seeking long routes or more varied terrain.

Bugs in Warm Months:

Mosquitoes and black flies can be bothersome, particularly in late spring and early summer.Things to Consider:

Skill Level:

The calm waters are excellent for beginners, while experienced paddlers can explore the lakes’ nooks and crannies.

Safety Gear:

Wearing a personal flotation device (PFD) is mandatory, and a leash is recommended for your paddleboard.Carry a whistle or signaling device to comply with Quebec’s boating regulations.

Timing Your Visit:

Early mornings and weekdays are the best times to avoid crowds and enjoy calmer waters. Plan to paddle early in the day before afternoon winds pick up.

Pack Essentials:

Bring sunscreen, water, snacks, and bug spray for a comfortable day..

Rental and Reservation Information:

SUP rentals are available, but they can sell out quickly during busy periods. Reserve your equipment and park entry in advance.

Seasonal Considerations:

Summer offers the best conditions for SUP, while fall provides a quieter experience with stunning foliage.Be aware of cooler water temperatures in spring and fall.

Eco-Friendly Practices:

Follow Leave No Trace principles to help preserve the park’s pristine environment.Avoid disturbing wildlife or aquatic vegetation.

Explore Nearby Trails:

Consider combining your paddleboarding trip with a hike on one of the park’s many trails for a full day of outdoor adventure.CampingOur campsite in the Lac Fraser section of Parc national du Mont-Orford

Parc national du Mont-Orford offers a diverse range of camping options across two main sectors. The Lac-Stukely Sector provides 276 campsites, with varying levels of service: 45 sites with one service, 113 with two services, 33 with three services, and 85 without any services. Additionally, this sector includes 38 ready-to-camp units for those seeking a more convenient outdoor experience. The Lac-Fraser Sector provides 148 campsites, including 49 with one service and 99 without services, along with 8 ready-to-camp units. In total, the park accommodates visitors with 424 campsites and 46 ready-to-camp units, catering to a range of camping preferences.

The park offers essential amenities to enhance the camping experience, including flush toilets, hot showers, drinking water stations, and electrical hookups at select sites. RV campers have access to dump stations, and all visitors can utilize trash disposal and recycling services. Firewood is available for purchase, and pets are welcome, provided they remain on a leash.

Outdoor enthusiasts can enjoy a variety of recreational activities, such as hiking, swimming, fishing, boating, cycling, and wildlife watching. The park’s scenic landscape, including views of Mont Orford, makes it a popular destination year-round. In winter, visitors can take advantage of activities such as cross-country skiing and snowshoeing.

Camping fees at Parc national du Mont-Orford follow a complex pricing system, reflecting different rates for two high seasons and a low season. Prices also vary between weekday and weekend stays, as well as based on campsite proximity to amenities such as flush toilets. The pricing structure, which resembles a detailed ticketing system, ranges from $20 to $85 per night.

Campground Details:

Season: early May through late October Day

Total number of campsites: 424

Reservation booking window: NA — according to their website, reservation booking a campsite at Parc national du Mont-Orford typically opens in early January for the upcoming summer season

How difficult is it to get a camping reservation (1=easy, 10=impossible): 3

Trash was a problem at our campsite and remained so despite talking multiple times to park staffFees:

Campsite fees

· Vary depending on site, day of week and season. See the park website for more details:
https://www.sepaq.com/camping/emplacement/tente.dot#tarificati

Things to Check Out Nearby Parc national du Mont-OrfordThe author, Groot and Rocket hiking to the top of Mont Orford

Hike Mont Orford:

The park’s main attraction, Mont Orford offers hiking, mountain biking, and panoramic views from the summit. It’s a popular spot for outdoor activities such as trail running, photography, and nature walks during the warm weather.

Lac Orford:

Located within the park, Lac Orford is perfect for swimming, kayaking, paddleboarding, and picnicking.

Parc de la Gorge de Coaticook:

About 45 minutes from Mont-Orford, this park is famous for its suspension bridge over the Coaticook River, which offers stunning views of the gorge and waterfalls.

Sentiers de l’Estrie:

A network of hiking and biking trails throughout the Eastern Townships, these paths connect Parc national du Mont-Orford to other scenic spots in the region, offering options for various levels of difficulty and beautiful views.

Lac Memphrémagog:

A large, scenic lake just south of Mont-Orford, Lac Memphrémagog offers boating, sailing, and kayaking, as well as beaches for swimming and relaxation.

Magog Village:

The charming town of Magog offers a variety of attractions, including boutique shopping, cafes, restaurants, and art galleries. You can also enjoy lakeside walks and a vibrant downtown area with a relaxed atmosphere.

Mont Sutton:

Located around 40 minutes from Mont-Orford, Mont Sutton is another popular mountain in the region, offering hiking, biking, and breathtaking views during the summer months.

Vignoble Domaine des Côtes d’Ardoise:

A picturesque vineyard near Dunham, about 30 minutes from Mont-Orford, offering wine tastings and tours.

Domaine de l’Orpailleur:

This vineyard in the Eastern Townships offers guided tours, wine tasting, and a chance to explore the beautiful vineyards.You just read a chapter from the book:

“Paddle, Camp, Repeat: 10 Campgrounds for Paddleboarding in the Northeast”

Paddle, Camp, Repeat: 10 Campgrounds for Paddleboarding in the Northeast

Read other chapters from the book:

Cedar Point State Park, Clayton NY
Cumberland Bay State Park, Plattsburgh NY
Fish Creek Pond, Saranac Lake NY
Grand Isle State Park, Grand Isle VT
Lake Francis State Park, Pittsburg NH
Macomb Reservation State Park, Schuyler Falls NY
Moreau Lake State Park, Gansevoort NY
Parc national de la Yamaska, Saint-Paul-de-Vence QC
Umbagog Lake State Park, Errol NH

Check out my book about paddleboarding with your dog:

SUP with your Pup: A Guide to Paddleboarding with your Dog

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