Sally Hanan's Blog
March 13, 2023
Fail Often—You’ll Laugh More
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January 5, 2022
Expectation Is the Worst
Of all the things that cripple people from being all they can be, expectation is the worst.
Expectation is very different to hope, because it usually sets a standard to be attained that is nigh impossible to reach–one that says that you must the brightest, the best, the shiniest at that thing you want to do.
And with that mindset, it also usually means that when you inspect your level of work, talent, and success, you tell yourself what you are doing is not good enough so you should quit.
You’re probably already sick of people talking about 2019 and how it should be, but please listen up–
It’s OKAY to just be okay at something.
The world is full of talented, shiny, bright people. You’re one of them. How many artists, actors, writers, scientists, teachers, software developers, health professionals, coffee baristas do you know of? How many would you know of if they had the mentality that they should quit because they couldn’t be the #1 star of their industry?
So this year please do the world a favor. Accept that being okay is enough, because you’re doing your thing in your own unique way and bringing your flavor of passion to the world. That’s enough. That’s a good thing, The world needs you as you are. There’s plenty of time to get better at your “thing,” plenty of time to shine more, but for right now relax, enjoy, and do your thing with joy so that this jigsaw of life can be turned into the full picture it’s designed to be with you as one of its crucial pieces.
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September 5, 2021
September 1, 2021
Cover award
I'm not surprised - Vanessa Mendozzi did an incredible job.
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Gold Medal for Fix Yourself
July 28, 2021
Proof is here
July 7, 2021
June 17, 2021
The Supreme Adventure
An adventure is, by its nature, a thing that comes to us. It is a thing that chooses us, not a thing that we choose.
Falling in love has been often regarded as the supreme adventure, the supreme romantic accident. In so much as there is in it something outside ourselves, something of a sort of merry fatalism, this is very true. Love does take us and transfigure and torture us. It does break our hearts with an unbearable beauty, like the unbearable beauty of music.
But in so far as we have certainly something to do with the matter; in so far as we are in some sense prepared to fall in love and in some sense jump into it; in so far as we do to some extent choose and to some extent even judge—in all this falling in love is not truly romantic, is not truly adventurous at all. In this degree the supreme adventure is not falling in love.
The supreme adventure is being born.
There we do walk suddenly into a splendid and startling trap. There we do see something of which we have not dreamed before. Our father and mother do lie in wait for us and leap out on us, like brigands from a bush. Our uncle is a surprise. Our aunt is, in the beautiful common expression, a bolt from the blue.
When we step into the family, by the act of being born, we do step into a world which is incalculable, into a world which has its own strange laws, into a world which could do without us, into a world that we have not made. In other words, when we step into the family we step into a fairy-tale.
– G.K. Chesterton
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June 10, 2021
Should You Give Up on Life?
Should you give up on life?
It’s quite possible that shutting down, avoiding, and dissociation are what got you to the point you’re at now, and if so, ask yourself this:
Have any of those behaviors given you any happiness?
Let’s assume the answer is no. And that’s because in order to really live, you have to experience life in all its moments. Once you’ve got in to the habit of shutting down, it’s nigh impossible to come alive when life is good. You’ve set your default switch to barely present.
How can you possibly enjoy life when you’re living in a nonexistent state?
My suggestion is to learn how to actually live by doing some or all of the following things each day:
Be fully aware in every moment.Be willing to process fear or pain in every moment it arises.Quit anything that stops you from feeling—alcohol, weed, TV shows—anything that pulls you out of having to interact with life.Make a point of being thankful for every single little thing of beauty—a cloud, laughter, a warm bed, hot food.See other people’s hearts rather than their facial and physical reactions.See your own heart rather than your facial and physical reactions and start enjoying your unique way of being you.Thank people all the time—phone support people, cashiers, friends, family. Tell people they’re amazing when they help. Thank them when they’re kind. Point out every good thing you see in them.When you’ve done that for a few months, you’ll find that your new perspective will have changed your life rather than allowing what you see of life to change you. And that’s when you get to truly start living.
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June 3, 2021
Self-Forgiveness
Self-forgiveness of something that makes you ashamed and regretful every time you think of it
is harder than forgiveness of others
sometimes,
especially if you let it define you,
when the truth is that’s not who you are at all.
It’s not like you got up that morning and said, Yup, today I’m going to be a horrible person.
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