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You did not choose to be abused but unfortunately it becomes your responsibility to deal with it. It is painful to know this.

It is unfortunate that the offender who you feel is responsible is not going to come and fix things. You journey towards the life you so desperately desire begins when you look at God and say, ‘Here I am. Help me work through this.’ Allow God to help you with your sexuality.

The world is not perfect, and your parents and family members cannot protect you from all hurts. Actually in most cases they will also be battling with their own wounds. This becomes a stumbling block in extending their love to you. Your church leaders and society leaders cannot fully protect you as individuals. They have thousands to take care of. The justice system does not provide the restorative justice that you want. They simply punish criminals if they are caught and live you with the wound. You the victim are left with the wounds. You are exposed. The walls of security that you so desire are broken. You are left vulnerable to Satan’s elements and at God’s mercy.

Burying your feelings and disliking your sexuality will not help. Instead it builds up a dangerous reservoir of anger and depression that can harm you, your husband or wife and the people you love.

It is your responsibility to choose what you believe, what help to take, what you expose yourself to in books, movies, etc. Do not continue to sit in dirt. Yes, someone put you there but it’s our choice to stay there. It is your responsibility to choose how to deal with your sexuality and your marriage relationship.

You might be saying to me. ‘I am not responsible for putting myself into this situation.’ Yes, I agree. You are not. But in order to get out, who can be responsible? You are best placed to bring recovery to your own life.

Do not live in denial. Your parents or close family members might have denied that it happened (firstly to protect their own pride), but you cannot continue like that anymore. Look at it. It did not help. The pain will not just go away. Accepting the facts and reality gives the opportunity for God’s power to intervene. It empowers your faith to believe for something better.

Yes, it seems unfair that someone messed up your life and it is you who has to clean up things. But the good thing is you are cleaning ‘your’ own house. It is you who will enjoy the benefits of it.

I encourage you to face your past and deal with it. Seek the relevant help. God wants to walk with you on this. Do not allow the giants of your past to rob you of your great dream.

This time, be bold and shake things up! You cannot stay here for ever.

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Everyone has a dream, I mean big dreams. Since you were a kid you have had dreams. You see yourself one day being this or that. With all the super dreams that we have and are constantly working on, how come only a few people live to live their dreams? How come one gets an idea and he can see himself at the top, but after few weeks or months the dream just fades away? At time the dreams become nightmares haunting day and night.

What many people cannot or do not do is to translate the dream into achievable goals. Unless a dream is translated into goals, it remains a fantasy. Unless the goals are specific, achievable, relevant, timely and measurable the dream will turn into a nightmare. If you do not put enough resources (finance, human and time) to complete the dream you will have a half-baked cake.

Goals provide you with a direction to your dream. You will use that as a measure of your achievements. Completing all the goals successfully means you have attained your dream. Goals tell you what you are going to do, when you are going to do it and how you are going to do it. They spell out the steps that must be taken to attain the dream.

And goals are reinforced by values and beliefs. Values guide behavior by creating boundaries for our actions. They set the right environment for the goals and vision. This in turn will keep us on track to our dream. Some of the values include; honesty, integrity, loyalty, dedication, responsibility and accountability.

Whatever dream you have today, make it a vision. Set goals and values that guide your behavior to your dream and hold you accountable.

You may have to analyse yourself and determine your core competencies, the key skills that are essential to fulfilling the dream. What skills do you need to move from where you are to your dream? What is your plan to develop these new skills? Whatever is inadequate; create a learning plan and professional development program for yourself.

 

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Seven billion people! Yes! This is the population of the whole world.

Image yourself standing in front of the whole world. And you have been given a chance to speak. What will you speak about? How will you speak?

What will you tell seven billion people to do? What will you tell them not to do? I guess this will be the message you were born to speak.

We all have a message. A message we were born to speak. Yes! You! Most of us are not pros at speaking, but deep down in our hearts we all have a voice wanting to shout out a message. A message we want to go out there. It can be a message of hope or profound wisdom or deep knowledge that you have or even a story.

We express this message by the things we do or choose not to do. This message can be expressed in our work, our words, our actions and our thoughts.

Ask yourself ‘What is the message I was born to speak?’ And when you find it, do not stop speaking.

Dear brothers and sisters, you are not meant to be silent. You have a word, a message you were born to speak, to speak with your voice, to speak with your gifts and talents. You all have treasure in you. Awesome treasures to display to the world. This is the message people read through your life.

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Inspiring indeed.

Great indeed.

CHILDREN, OBEY your parents in the Lord [as His representatives], for this is just and right. Honor (esteem and value as precious) your father and your mother–this is the first commandment with a promise–[Exod. 20:12.] That all may be well with you and that you may live long on the earth.

Ephesians 6:1-3 AMP

Our life journeys are unique, and we can all agree that we are not 100% in control of our lives. All of us found ourselves in our families and with the parents that we have. As a baby you cannot have a say about who your parents will be or how you will be born. It still remains a fact that each one of us had one father and one mother. These are the parents we are supposed to honor.

What does it mean to honor your father and mother? It is to be respectful in word, in deeds and in attitude. It is to esteem their position. To honor is to ‘to revere, to respect, to prize, and to value’. Honor is does not mean to agree but it is to give respect not only for merit but also for rank.

God values honoring parents enough to include it in the Ten Commandments (Exodus 20:12) and again in the New Testament (Ephesians 6:1-3). Surprisingly ‘honour thy father and thy mother’ is the only command in Scripture that promises the blessing of long life as a reward. The Bible also promises a curse to those who disobey the commandment.

To honor parents who are still alive makes sense, but we are supposed to honor our parents even if they are deceased. Honoring good parents is easy, but honoring bad parents is difficult. The secret is that honoring your parents is not agreeing with them. It is to respect their position. There is a blessing in it, a blessing that you can get and change the direction of your life. Do you possess this blessing? Do you need this blessing?

Parental Figures

Now let’s hold on as we bring another dimension to parenting. What if you did not have your own parent, and you had parental a figure? I believe that God has ordained that parental figure to be your parent. So your parental blessing did not end with your parents. It is still there.

The main challenge is when your parental figure is not a perfect person. However the words of your parental figure can either bring you a blessing or curse. To add on to that your words towards them can either bring you a blessing or curse. Whichever way you will be affected. Why? Because they started on this journey long time ago when you were still a baby. They have been sowing a lot in you. No one can deny it. It is now your turn to reciprocate.

It may sound unfair, but if you look closely in the eyes of God, it is an opportunity. An opportunity for you to be blessed. If you play your part, you will be blessed whether the parental figure is good or bad. Focus on your side of the deal. Maximize your side of the deal, and you will reap accordingly.

You will gain nothing from struggling with your parents. You will always lose because they had a head start on you. They started this before your birth. You are too late.

‘Ceremonial’ Parents

‘Ceremonial’ Parents are parents used on a formal occasion or at a ceremony. Some of them will not take any responsibility to raise the child. Beware of opportunistic ceremonial parents who come out at the last minute. They disappeared from your life until they hear that you are at the university. They come out just in time to collect lobola.  First, they tell you how the person who raised you is bad or has been bad to your real parents (if they are deceased). They arm you with strife with the aim of winning the potential success that you now possess. If you look closely, you will see that they were not there when you needed them most. They never stood with you when you were sick or hungry. They never changed your nappy or shed a tear for you and with you.

So what do we do opportunistic ceremonial parents? Should we get rid of them? The key word here is ceremonial. However they are not the real deal. They did not get dirty raising you. Put them in the right position. Give them a ceremonial position, but do not neglect those who really got dirty sacrificing for you.

How to Get the Parental Blessing

If a person paid the cost of raising you, that person has a parental stake on you. That person deserves to be treated as if he or she is your own parent. You have an opportunity to unlock a blessing in your life.

If there is a person who took you as his or her child, changed your nappies daily, carried you on her back each day, gave you the mother’s (or father’s ) love, gave you the mother (or father) you did not have and gave you the mother’s (or father’s ) blessing, that person has your parental blessing. Mistreating, taking for granted and disrespecting such persons violates the Devine order and shuts doors in your life, stopping the blessing flow.

To realign things, you should reciprocate that love by honoring them as your parents. This is the key to complete your parental blessing circle. Take them as your real parents. If you do this, you will unlock a blessing that has been missing in your life. Find ways to do it. If you touch their heart, you touch your real parents heart. It will release that blessing. Remember this is the only parent you ever experienced.

Regard (treat with honor, due obedience, and courtesy) your father and mother, that your days may be long in the land the Lord your God gives you.

Exodus 20:12 AMP

Think carefully about these words. If they resonate with your heart, take the advice

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Have you noticed that people everywhere are blaming everything and everyone for whatever is wrong in their lives? They point at their husbands or wife, their employer, the government, the community, the economy, the ruling party, the opposition, the banks etc. ‘Someone’s at fault for this mess I’m in and it’s definitely not me,’ they say.

After a year, two years or ten years, they will still be blaming someone except themselves. They spend all their time and energy blaming. They sit in groups criticizing politicians and public figures, spending five to six hours of their weekend time pointing out how bad things are.

Instead of spending all this time discussing politics and all these problems, why don’t you spend that time talking about how you can improve yourselves? Much better why don’t you spend that time improving yourself? If you cannot find something productive to do with that time, you can spend that time with your wife, you husband or your children having fun.

People who always find someone or something to blame for their failure always end up on the losing side. But responsible people who actively take charge and ownership of their lives and the lives of others become winners. The blame game is a loser’s game. Don’t get into it. Which game are you playing?

Make a bold decision today to take charge and be a solution oriented person. Create a plan to make things around you better. Drive out negativity. Focus on making your dream a living reality. Set your goals and take immediate action. Attend the course if necessary and start progressing now. Otherwise you will find yourself playing the blaming game, a game you will never win.

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