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That Eagle Badge sure does come in handy.>> We wrestled that conundrum and WON. (but the conundrum still flails) >>tupperware oots


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He and I have had many talks about the inclusionism of the BS, must believe in God, can't be homosexual, etc. and most of it pertains heavily on the fact that the LDS (Mormon) church controlls the majority of it. He has made some exceptions in his own camps, mostly he reviews whether or not the boys will be good candidates to follow rules & be part of the team. But, they do have to pledge oaths & say the 'under God' stuff with the pledge of alligence. He quite simply doesn't understand why this could be offensive to someone, it isn't in his perception of the world.
If I had a boy I would be expected to have him participate (like all of my 8 nephews), but I wouldn't want to. I have more issue with the whole militaristic and blind obedience stuff than with just the issues about God & homosexuality. It reminds me of the Nazi's brown shirt boys.
But, in the defense of the BS, they do teach great skills in survival, discipline, teamwork & leadership... if it is instilled within that particular troupe. Much depends on the leaders. I just wish there was some alternative group that taught the good things in BS, to boys & girls, without the whole conservative, military-for-God take on it.






But they never taught us knots, or survival skills, even so. I learned embroidery and some cooking, and mostly just had fun with the other girls.

i tried scouting for like one weekend camp-out during which i was primarily concerned with burning stuff, melting stuff, throwing stuff and trying not to laugh at the dweebs who took it really seriously. i realize now they probably own the company i work for


I hated the religiosity of the BSA and never went in for all the patriotic hullabaloo. The first troop I belonged to met at a Methodist church and we never had to pray or anything like that. But then the 2nd was at a Catholic church and every meeting opened with a prayer and a flag ceremony. Overall the BSA is a religiously neutral organization (in that they don't necessarily care which Christian denomination you belong to).
I was in Scouts when the decision to not allow gay scoutmasters was made and our troop was really upset by it. Of course, out of my 12 person troop two were already out of the closet and another two would follow in the next couple of years- we were probably the most progressive troop in North Idaho. My friends weren't kicked out but were definitely told to keep it on the downlow when we were at large Scout gatherings.

I have seen it be a great influence of many boys/men, but then the troups that I have exposure to were able to go to my Dad's leadership camps and these were exceptional. I do really think it depends on who's running it.
I also have to admit having a 'wanted to be a boy' complex and was extremely jealous that I couldn't join in the one activity that my Dad was so involved in. I've heard the Girl Scouts can be great, but ours sucked. They promised us a horseback riding campout at the end of the year. We fundraised our hinies off, and after a grueling year of this plus making various cookies & crochet crap (I knew how to cook & I hated crocheting), they handed out tickets to Skate Palace and said the trip was canceled. Kinda bummed me out to them too.

In some ways the way the do this kind of bizness is amazing and really reaches a lot of people, on the other hand it can be downright underhanded and manipulative (prop 8).
After 2-year review, Boy Scouts decide to stick with ban on gays; critics voice dismay
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Same with Camp Fire. Inclusive as all get out. That's the route we took. My girls had a lesbian group leader with four kids and a ton of energy.

Until I moved to Utah.
Having seen the effort put in by my friends, most of whom reached Eagle at age 17, I was shocked to see these young mormon boys getting the award at age 14, 13 or (once) 11.
If things are run as they should be and the proper standards followed, reaching Eagle by that age should be possible only for maybe 1 in 1000 scouts. I looked further into Utah scouting (my son might some day want to join) and found troops running "Eagle mills" to progress the kids faster. Sickening.
It's my opinion that, while it's possible for the letter of the law to be achieved at a younger age, the spirit is likely to be missed. Most of the mormon Eagle scouts I know were OUT of scouting as soon as possible. When I've asked why they aren't still participating, I've been told, "my parents wouldn't let me get my license until I got Eagle."


It's not a costume! It's a uniform!

So, tell your kids the policy is wrong, as is the bigotry behind it but to learn what they can; there are many great things to learn. Foster a good enough relationship with your son that he will ASK you about things he hears that seem wrong to him. Pay attention to the lessons so that you know what he's learning there. When he has to earn his Spiritual Formation badge, have him learn about several religions, not the one he's part of or the one that seems predominant in his troop...
My son has been involved in scouts in several locations over the years. Frankly, we had the best experiences with the LDS sponsered ones. Yes, the kids (Not the leaders) invite him to other church events, but don't hold it against him when he says no. He is proselytized to more at school because of all of the LDS band and choir kids than at scouts. But the Mormons WILL make sure your kid gets to go even if you can't transport him. When I asked for help at other locations I was told no because of potential lawsuit reasons... If you can't afford the uniform they'll find one for you. And in our area, boys are allowed to participate if they are openly gay, but they may have to have counseling (NOT with the church leader either. They just secure a parental commitment to have the boy see a mental health professional... regardless of the church's belief that homosexuality is curable, the counselor is unlikely to share that belief so counseling might actually HELP the boys become secure in their identity sooner than they would otherwise). I know that doesn't make it right, but in my opinion if you are doing your job as a parent your sons should understand that bigotry exists, it WILL be used against them, and how good of a person they are has nothing at all to do with the archaic policies of any organization.


What I mean is that if the people who don't agree with the policies abstain from participation, there is no reason for anything to change. Teaching your kids that bigotry exists and that they can be a part of something despite it allows them to look at the whole picture and ultimately brings about change. This is an organization that didn't officially start allowing WOMEN leaders until 1988!... and still doesn't allow girls to participate, even though there's no equivalent organization for girls. Give them time! Change is slow because people have ridiculous fears. Trying to force people to change when their reasons are fear-based is always a lengthy, tricky process.


By that logic then, I should join the Catholic church & become a bishop. Heck, that's the way to effect change. All that stuff about public pressure to change is bullshit. I need to be pope.
Here's a letter from Saturday's Salt Lake Tribune that sort of sums it up for me.
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My grandparents fought their condo’s ban on Jews. My parents wouldn’t patronize a country that discriminated by race (South Africa). I won’t patronize social clubs that won’t allow women (Augusta National Golf Club) or stores that have a glass ceiling for women (Walmart). And I won’t support a social group that bans gays (Boy Scouts of America).
Most of us think that if we had lived in the 1940s we wouldn’t have patronized establishments that discriminated against blacks. Well, gay rights is our Jim Crow. Where do you stand?
Do you live with the wrongness, or like Eleanor Roosevelt with the Daughters of the American Revolution when it wouldn’t let black Marian Anderson sing in Constitution Hall, do you quit bigoted groups?
People with a conscience and a sense of fairness must find a venue for their sons other than the homophobic BSA.
T. Griffith Clark
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T. Griffith Clark
My favorite thing of the day.
I love Phil.


I don't disagree with the idea that people should find activities that agree with their values and ideals. Is there one that has everything BSA has to offer with the worldwide recognition that looks so good on a resume?
Really what it comes down to is that they decided that at this time they would lose more members by allowing it than they would gain. People still change troops due to female scout masters too... Things take time to change. When we as a society TRULY accept the LGBT community as equal, organizations like BSA will too. But really, we don't. We wouldn't have to deal with garbage health care for domestic partners, right to marry, etc if we did. We're getting there, but it's a big machine to turn.

Disagree. The number of members isn't important to them, it's the purity of those who remain.


What is has to offer is very much dependent on the troop one joins. Some troops are very much involved in living the scout law and experiencing all they can, while others are just going through the motions.
In those run through the mormon church, the scout leader is fulfilling a "calling" (appointed by the bishop). Some are into it, some not so much. Some just do it because they can't bring themselves to say no to the bishop.
By the way, are you familiar with the BSA's "perversion files?" Maintained since the 1920s, the files track suspected molestation by BSA officials, but the organization did not follow-up on those cases, and refuses to turn them over to other investigators.
Yes, a truly classy organization that looks wonderful on a resume.

My boys and I had a long talk about bigotry afterward but they wanted to stay involved. Overall the boys think the 'old people' are being idiots. I don't disagree. They figure it'll change once they are in charge... Because every 15 year old thinks they're going to rule the world eventually :-)

That is entirely dependent on the troop you join. If you have an outdoorsy leader and an outdoorsy group, you learn orienteering and outdoorsy skills. There are badges for science and math and arts and also for the homemaking skills you mention. The Girl scout camps I worked at were no frills. Most of the kids I know who went on to senior projects and gold awards did worthwhile, intensive projects that they could point to with pride.
And best of all, it's a clear eyed organization that looks to the future and doesn't cling to outdated and exclusionary definitions of morality.
Hear, hear. It is impossible to generalize about a bohemouth like the Boy Scouts just like it is unfair to lump all Americans into a group of "gun-loving Yanks" or whatever.



I think Eagle Scouts are always so cute and ruddy-cheeked. Are there any that aren't adorable? They're like the best well-fed seal pup of the litter.