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Ash wrote: "From what I get from Bible, the initial intent was about preventing infective diseases from spreading."
Yes. Something similar happened with eating pork for Muslims. But it was not just that, it was another argument for women hate too.
Yes. Something similar happened with eating pork for Muslims. But it was not just that, it was another argument for women hate too.

Because women have them and men don't. It's long been an excuse to keep women out of certain places. Some doctors still refuse to operate on women who are on their periods (though they legally have to if there is no one else to do it instead, but even the fact that they have an option...).
I mean, we probably shouldn't talk about periods, or any other bodily fluids, in inappropriate professional settings, or while eating. But I try to combat this taboo but talking about periods, tampons, pads, menstrual cups, cramps, medications, color and consistency, ovulation, etc., to everyone who will listen regardless of gender. Because if someone asks me what's wrong, I'm not going to lie and say "Oh, nothing, just tired!" I'm going to say "My uterus hurts and I am craving all of the foods." And if they have a problems with that, it's their own fault. They asked!
I mean, we probably shouldn't talk about periods, or any other bodily fluids, in inappropriate professional settings, or while eating. But I try to combat this taboo but talking about periods, tampons, pads, menstrual cups, cramps, medications, color and consistency, ovulation, etc., to everyone who will listen regardless of gender. Because if someone asks me what's wrong, I'm not going to lie and say "Oh, nothing, just tired!" I'm going to say "My uterus hurts and I am craving all of the foods." And if they have a problems with that, it's their own fault. They asked!

I mostly agree with not censoring what one says. I'm very free with what I say, especially since I come across as someone who is very polite. My mom, who is very liberal, has even said that sometimes it makes her feel strange that her daughter will talk about sex with her.
But here's thing, whatever way I chose to talk I do so with respect. Because everyone should be treated respectfully. And how that respect usc expressed does depend on who I'm talking to. With my mom, I know I can be straightforward. Same with my few female friends. Around my few male friends, I'd probably be slightly more cruder. With my grandma, I'm more polite in the way I'll approach it.


Agreed. I mean as a guy, the most I can relate to is an injury. But atleast for injuries, I could probably talk about how it happened.
Maybe the ladies here can suggest how you would like a period conversation to go?

I am not sure about the above posts, the app crashes when I try to read them right now, but this is my personal experience with males, females, and the topic of periods.
My guy friends are fine with talking about it. In fact, they think girls are a walking miracle. That we practically give birth to the internal lining of one of our organs and still go on like it is a normal day just amazes them. They know that I get cramps so bad that I can not walk, and they feel sorry for me. Sure, they are glad they do not have to face the pain themselves, being male, but they do sympathize with our plight.
Some of my male friends are not so comfortable with the topic, but not for the reason you would think. They are just extreme gentleman who would rather not discuss such personal, private issues with someone they are not dating. I respect that. Their conversations are usually very clean and mature, just without any mention of any body function involving private areas on themselves or myself. Needless to say, sometimes I need a fix of talking to my twisted friends who joke about everything, but on a whole, everything balances out.
They know it is not taboo, nor do they think of it as that way. Half of them think it is awesome that our panties look like a murder scene once a month, some people just don't want to know. It is the same with everything else in life, and that, to be frank and honest, is my opinion as well. I don't like to talk about some things which pertain to men or just society in general, but that does not make it taboo. It all comes down to who you associate with.

my brother and his wife are in nursing school and they are open to me talking about bodily functions with them without embarrassment (when my parents aren't around). I think relationship dynamics play into what people talk about or not.
I hope I didn't misrepresent my enthusiasm for period talk: I don't go around talking about it to strangers! Haha
But if I am conversing with a person who I might also discuss other bodily functions with: parents, my partner, roommate, friends, even like-minded acquaintances, I don't hold back. I'll talk about how sick I got last night after drinking and describe the color of my puke, I'll excuse myself with "I have to pee!" and even comment on the frequency of bowel movements. So I'll also talk about my period without hesitation.
That being said, I obviously use discretion when necessary. But I won't lie: I do get a bit of a thrill out of making people uncomfortable about these things at times. I personally don't see that big a deal. If I'm getting lunch with a friend, and she is discussing something that takes a turn for the gross and says something like "I'll wait until we're done eating, I don't want to ruin your appetite," my response is, "No, go for it." I just don't find any of is gross, I guess! But I realize a lot of other people do, and I respect that when the situation merits it. However, if someone is just being immature along the lines of "ew, don't talk about your period," for no good reason... I'll probably go right ahead and give them the details. My personal little rebellion against the stigma ;)
But if I am conversing with a person who I might also discuss other bodily functions with: parents, my partner, roommate, friends, even like-minded acquaintances, I don't hold back. I'll talk about how sick I got last night after drinking and describe the color of my puke, I'll excuse myself with "I have to pee!" and even comment on the frequency of bowel movements. So I'll also talk about my period without hesitation.
That being said, I obviously use discretion when necessary. But I won't lie: I do get a bit of a thrill out of making people uncomfortable about these things at times. I personally don't see that big a deal. If I'm getting lunch with a friend, and she is discussing something that takes a turn for the gross and says something like "I'll wait until we're done eating, I don't want to ruin your appetite," my response is, "No, go for it." I just don't find any of is gross, I guess! But I realize a lot of other people do, and I respect that when the situation merits it. However, if someone is just being immature along the lines of "ew, don't talk about your period," for no good reason... I'll probably go right ahead and give them the details. My personal little rebellion against the stigma ;)

But if I am conversing with a person who I might also discuss other bodily functio..."
I wouldn't want to talk about period details while I'm eating. But that's the same with defecating, puking, worms and other things that you wouldn't want going anywhere near your mouth (please don't bring up 2 girls 1 cup).
Otherwise I'm alright. We can talk about it any other time.

I loved what you said in your whole comment but this line made me laugh after a very horrible cramp not too long ago so thank you for that. XD I'm very happy now loooool.




Really! Wow! That is interesting where do you live? My dad was pissed off when I didn't tell him I had begun having periods. I was have BIG stomach aches and we had to go to the doctor, but then the doctor asked me if I had begun my period (I was 9 and terrified of anyone finding out) and my dad clicked and was like "Yes she has". I am truly grateful that he doesn't care about that. He is a teacher and he knows young girls can be in real pain during their first periods ( i couldn't get up sometimes). He shops for the pads and tampons for me and my sister and mother and he does not forget to take the brand we prefer. It must be hard to keep it a secret when you have it every month!

It's available on Youtube.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bjIJZ...
I can honestly say I never understood it until this video here, I've had periods for almost ten years, and I only watched this within the past month or so.
It's fun explaining why I need Ibuprofen to people at times. The faces are worth it.

I especially hate that periods (and women in general) are being made fun of ALL the time! "Oh, she's on her period..."
And I definitly think periods are still a taboo! So much regarding womens health is unfortunately still a toboo. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AL240...
And it's not a suprise, because it's constantly being portrayed as somthing dirty and impure. This video is super interesting! It talks about the representation of periods in the media. Bad as well as good representations. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WRczf...
This taboo and stigmatising is leading to many girls not really knowing their body and how it works and how it's been taken care of correctly. http://everydayfeminism.com/2013/02/m...
And I definitly think periods are still a taboo! So much regarding womens health is unfortunately still a toboo. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AL240...
And it's not a suprise, because it's constantly being portrayed as somthing dirty and impure. This video is super interesting! It talks about the representation of periods in the media. Bad as well as good representations. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WRczf...
This taboo and stigmatising is leading to many girls not really knowing their body and how it works and how it's been taken care of correctly. http://everydayfeminism.com/2013/02/m...
This is a super interesting article! It's about how periods have been perceived throughout history. http://www.independent.co.uk/life-sty...
And "the period poem" is so amazing! :-D
And "the period poem" is so amazing! :-D


Please have a look at these two interesting and important articles:
http://www.npr.org/sections/goatsands...
http://www.npr.org/sections/goatsands...
Savannah wrote: "I am not sure about the above posts, the app crashes when I try to read them right now, but this is my personal experience with males, females, and the topic of periods.
My guy friends are fine w..."
For the longest time in my family, talking about periods was a no no, even with my mom, who is a nurse. It wasn't until I read this post on Tumblr that I realized that we shouldn't have this negativity/ stigma with periods. In short, the post was talking about how we shouldn't have to hide our pads and tampons underneath a bunch of groceries when shopping. We have no control over it.. Because of that post, it encouraged me to start taking away the negativity in my own family. I leave a basket of pads and tampons out in the open in the bathroom, when I'm cramping, I'll say so in front of male family members.- I don't walk in and announce it, only when asked what is wrong.
There shouldn't be an embarrassment with it, even though for the longest time, I was. I do joke about it with my guy friends when they ask if I am. I find that when you're laid back about it, those around you are as well.
My guy friends are fine w..."
For the longest time in my family, talking about periods was a no no, even with my mom, who is a nurse. It wasn't until I read this post on Tumblr that I realized that we shouldn't have this negativity/ stigma with periods. In short, the post was talking about how we shouldn't have to hide our pads and tampons underneath a bunch of groceries when shopping. We have no control over it.. Because of that post, it encouraged me to start taking away the negativity in my own family. I leave a basket of pads and tampons out in the open in the bathroom, when I'm cramping, I'll say so in front of male family members.- I don't walk in and announce it, only when asked what is wrong.
There shouldn't be an embarrassment with it, even though for the longest time, I was. I do joke about it with my guy friends when they ask if I am. I find that when you're laid back about it, those around you are as well.

My guy f..."
There is nothing I don't like about this post!
A great video about internalised period taboos https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qeQ2T...
"As a society why are we so much more cool with seeing violent blood than period blood??"
"As a society why are we so much more cool with seeing violent blood than period blood??"
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