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What makes a "real man"?
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I think a real man is anyone that defines themselves as such. Real men fight; real men make peace, too. No one's actions define their gender, though one's actions can come to define their character.
I'm going to go a little deeper with my comment here. Instead of allowing anyone to define you as "not a real man", let your character do so. Example: I'm a man that chooses my battles wisely. I am a man that isn't quick to anger. I am a man that doesn't allow myself to pressured into acts of violence. I am a man that chooses to fight only when all other options are exhausted. I am a man that doesn't allow others to define what being a "real" man means to me. Etc.
Or simply this: I am a man that knows real strength doesn't fight for no good reason.
Now as to the question why your friends believe "real" manhood is tied to engaging in physical confrontations, and choose not to do so means you're not a "real" man, read here: http://geekfeminism.wikia.com/wiki/To...
Finn I have a sneaking suspicion that you know how wrong your "friends" were to make those claims regarding your manhood. You stay true to yourself, if you don't believe in violence then don't be violent and that makes you a respectable man period.I don't know what makes a man a man. I would guess the comments from these people are part them trying to goad you into their mentality and maybe even part them feeling dumb at what they did and seeing you do something completely different then insulting you to try and make themselves feel better? I don't know if I'm making sense but good for you for doing what you knew to be right! :-)
I think it's all about choosing your battles.
I agree with the others posts here. You are no less of a man for not choosing to get involved. Fighting needlessly just because there is one going on doesn't make anyone more a man than one who chooses not to. In my opinion, it proves one's maturity in deciding not to fight just to prove one's manhood. Don't let these peers make you feel cowardly or unmanly for your choice. You just proved you are the better man in this situation. Be proud of that, and stay true to yourself, no matter what others may say against you. ^_^
I also agree with the other comments. Knowing what your heart and soul tells you to do or not to do. Trusting them enough to guide you through right and wrong. That is what I will say makes you a man. :)
man' s make real man mean dose ' strong ' ?
In general, I'd say society defines what a man makes a man.I also go with the other's posts.
It is mature not to engage in a fight unless you are forced (have no other option) to do so.
We should always go for the higher road (thanks for yet another new expression Meelie:) )
Soscha, you nailed it!
Sorry well, maybe it's kind of random but I think what we ought to seek is not what is 'real man', it's only good 'person' who lives desirable life. And for being a good person what characters are requested is depend on each own values like I am Hufflepuff but maybe you are Gryffindor. Real man, this word makes me feel we can find areté of man but as you know it doesn't exist.
So me being rather rather young in year 11 studying my GCSE's, I tend to experience a lot of conflict both verbally and physically. So a few months ago a massive fight broke out at my school and it actually made local news, All of my peers were involved and jumped in. Yet I didn't. After the fight many of friends called me a "coward" or a "pathetic excuse for a man" and these statements made me wonder what it is really to be a man, and for what reason has caused my peers views on what it really is to be a "man", As well as that I couldn't help but feel ashamed, yet I know I did the right thing now getting involved.
I would love to hear your opinions on what you think caused my friends views on what they think is a man, and any opinions you have on what I have posted. Thanks. - Apologies for the 2nd attempt posting this.