World, Writing, Wealth discussion

I lived for a while in the eastern Himalayas, where polyandry is practiced; it made sense in an environment where a lot of physical work was needed to make a living from the land. I suppose I'm OK with polygamy provided there is polyandry as well, and it is an equal playing field for both men and women.

I agree with Jim.

I don't share voluntarily. I know I am the jealous type who wants a person to commit to me as his priority. With that goes the commitment that I don't say no to sex, aside from being ill. Many couples use sex as a bargaining chip. "I am annoyed by something you said or did so none for you tonight." Do that and partners tend to find what they are seeking elsewhere.

I can't even imagine the problems that would result in a divorce. Who supports the children? Do parental figures who are not biological have parenting time? How do you divide assets 3 or more ways, especially if not all partners are contributing equally. It's difficult enough when it's just 2 people.

Since no USA state recognizes polygamy as legal, only the first marriage would be a divorce. The other "spouses" would have to file a civil suit under contract law in some states. In other states, they may not have any recourse. You can't dissolve something that doesn't legally exist.

I know at least 2 people who believe in polygamy. I made a comment about it and a friend of my daughter's proceeded to lecture me on it. We are probably all capable of loving more than one person at the same time, but I suspect most of us are not able to maintain a long term relationship of multiple partners all having equal power, because it takes too much work, energy, and compromise (and money).

When you get married, does that mean that you're responsible for satisfying your partner's sexual desires whether you feel like it or not? Is that written somewhere in the marriage contract?

Scout wrote: "When you get married, does that mean that you're responsible for satisfying your partner's sexual desires whether you feel like it or not? Is that written somewhere in the marriage contract?"

I guess that varies by country. In England and Wales I believe that until relatively recently, a woman was effectively obliged to have sex if her husband demanded it as there was no legal concept of rape within marriage. But I think that's now changed.

Scout wrote: "When you get married, does that mean that you're responsible for satisfying your partner's sexual desires whether you feel like it or not? Is that written somewhere in the marriage contract?"

I personally believe that sex should always be consensual. No one should ever feel obliged to submit to unwanted sexual interaction.

I considered my late wife to be extremely sexy during our 35 years together. My children and grandchildren often teased us about the fact that, in all of the pictures of my wife during the first 10 years of our marriage, she is wearing maternity clothes.

After our 5th. child was born, it became apparent that, financially at least, we had met our limit. I suggested that one of us should have surgery to prevent further pregnancies. My wife immediately agreed and wished me luck with the procedure. I scheduled the vascetomy the following day. It turned out to be a sound decision since my wife only had to give me a smile and certain look to drive me crazy during the remaining 25 years we had together.

Jim wrote: "Scout wrote: "When you get married, does that mean that you're responsible for satisfying your partner's sexual desires whether you feel like it or not? Is that written somewhere in the marriage co..."

That is great Jim. I am sorry to hear she has passed.

Scout wrote: "When you get married, does that mean that you're responsible for satisfying your partner's sexual desires whether you feel like it or not? Is that written somewhere in the marriage contract?"

No, you don't. My point was just that commit to me and I commit to you and we both of us want to make the other happy. I have seen too many people use sex as a bargaining chip or punishment, i.e., you hung out with your friends last night and came home drunk, so no sex. That applies regardless of which of us got drunk with our friends last night.

I don't think anyone should engage in activities they find offensive, but that is different from saying no because we had an argument over what time someone came home from watching the NHL playoffs and now we want to punish the other party.