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Errr.. say what? That is no sexual harassment. That is, by every definition possible, a male species. There is nothing wrong in being a man. Just like there is nothing wrong in being a woman.

Benarji wrote: "Errr.. say what? That is no sexual harassment. That is, by every definition possible, a male species. There is nothing wrong in being a man."

Oh, but there's a lot wrong with behaving like a stupid, drooling arse. ;)


To the question at hand:

It depends.
When I grew up typical youth movies painted this kind of behaviour as perfectly normal. If you're a guy your're (supposed to) behaving this way, that was in all essence the message we got delivered.
There's the crux to it.
Does the movie encourage such behaviour or call it normal?
Or does it use it to point out that there's something wrong it?

Eva wrote: "(First, sorry for the mistakes I am not a native English speaker.)
Yesterday I saw a Hungarian film called coming out. (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt3059638/) The story is about a homosexual celebri..."

I dont think its sexual harassment but the movie puts a huge stereotype on heterosexual males as if they are the only ones to have any sort of "gaze". There seems to definitely be an agenda here with the creator of the film which is a little alarming and baffling.

Not all heterosexual males behave in this manner but im assuming you are addressing things like "cat calling" and "gazing" with your second post in response to Benarji? If so, yes that is a problem with some men and shouldnt be accepted as proper behavior. More so with the cat calling which at times can turn to harassment if they are following or attempting to advance themselves on said women.

As far as "gazing" i think im a bit more forgiving with that. The reality is there is the law of attraction at play. Overly staring can certainly make a woman (or anyone for that matter) uncomfortable but if i happen to see a beautiful woman walking down the street and my gaze happens to linger a bit because of said attraction i see no problem with it so as long as im not actually harassing or making her feel uncomfortable. But finding someone attractive is not harassment.

Eva wrote: "(First, sorry for the mistakes I am not a native English speaker.)
Yesterday I saw a Hungarian film called coming out. (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt3059638/) The story is about a homosexual celebri..."Perdón yo tampoco hablo ingles.Sobre la película,supongo que querían dejar claro de esa manera el cambio del protagonista de homosexual a heterosexual y por eso lo exageran tanto,por aquello de que esta descubriendo algo nuevo.En la vida real a mi me molesta mucho que me miren descaradamente,hay maneras mas sutiles de hacerlo todos somos humanos, a mi también me gusta mirar a otras personas que son atractivas,pero,no lo hago descaradamente

@Emma yes, and that difference is either the person is good looking or not. If the person is good looking, he is an admirer and if he is ugly, he is a stalker. That is the reality of life. People's perception changes based on attraction.

@Eva you have unrealistic expectation from a relationship and I am sorry to say that you are gonna be gravely disappointed by men.

Eva wrote: "(First, sorry for the mistakes I am not a native English speaker.)
Yesterday I saw a Hungarian film called coming out. (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt3059638/) The story is about a homosexual celebri..."

There seem to be two themes here firstly the protagonist has suffered a brain injury and the changes in his behavior are attributed to that. Antisocial tendencies increasing is not unheard of in such cases.

The second aspect of the film is the behavior you describe. is this harassment , yes I would say it is, its unwanted attention added to that is reduces the women involved to objects seen only for parts of there bodies and not as individual. Its also blatant sexism as there is I assume no similar attention paid to the male characters,

there are people who stare the face