Devil in Winter question

I like Annabel Joseph, Em Brown, Every Ryan but there is too much spankings in it for my taste. Rough sex sometimes - yes, kinky sex - yes, but there are other things than floggers and canes,
Aren't their men around courageous enough to tackle strong women and get them into hot games with all the other sextoyx they could use? Bondage, dominance, Geisha balls, other toys for girls....
If any of you know of books like these, please let me know! 2 Examples: Sabrina Yorks "The Dark Duke" and Georgette Browns "Surrendering to the Rake".
Thany for giving me ideas!
Lili