Architects' Book Club discussion

QUESTION: Knowing when to self-promote is tough. For women (and likely some men, too), it's not always easy to strike a balance between feeling blessed and grateful, and acknowledging how much hard work went into that promotion/raise/accolade(s). It feels good when someone else acknowledges it and attributes my achievement to my hard work and/or my brain power (but...because of the Bropropriator...we know recognition from others is scarce...) Do you struggle to give yourself credit where credit is due? Do you think a "boasting buddy system" would work?

Excerpt from Part Two: KNOW THYSELF: The Saboteur: "The Humble Bragger"

"She's #blessed to have been granted a full scholarship, 'grateful' (and 'surprised!') to have been promoted, and feels #lucky - not proud - to have won a prestigious award...She's come up with a system: to brag but not to brag, to promote without promoting, to attribute her accomplishments to #luck - so that we still like her."

The Fight Moves: Find a Boast Bitch

"Research shows that having someone boast on your behalf is effective even if it's clear that person is biased (like your mom). And if you're in the boasting position? That's great, too. It makes you look like a team player. Plus isn't it always easier to boast on someone else's behalf, anyway?"