The Mafias Who Read discussion

Bookbutterfly06 wrote: "Sophia wrote: "Bookbutterfly06 wrote: "Do you have any classes together? You could ask for help on the class and go from there."

I wish we did, but no."

Do you have any of the same classes? Like ..."
i'm not sure. i need to ask his firneds.

Also feel free to ask his friends to get info to see if he does like you.

Bookbutterfly06 wrote: "Also feel free to ask his friends to get info to see if he does like you."

idk, i doubt he likes a blockhead like me.

You won't know unless you ask.

Bookbutterfly06 wrote: "You won't know unless you ask."

I know. I hope I can ask them tomorrow. but idk, I'm like a really shy person so i doubt i can even say hi to his friends.

You got this girl, I know you can do it. And if you need anything feel free to message on here or pm me and I'll respond as soon as I can.

Bookbutterfly06 wrote: "You got this girl, I know you can do it. And if you need anything feel free to message on here or pm me and I'll respond as soon as I can."

omg thank you so much!

You're welcome. And seriously just go for the jump, and if you need rescuing there is me and probably 20 other girls on here who will help you.

Bookbutterfly06 wrote: "You're welcome. And seriously just go for the jump, and if you need rescuing there is me and probably 20 other girls on here who will help you."

haha, well that's a bit much but thanks.

No problem lol.

;d

Bookbutterfly06 wrote: "You're welcome. And seriously just go for the jump, and if you need rescuing there is me and probably 20 other girls on here who will help you."

fr yes we're here to help you out

sTuTs wrote: "Bookbutterfly06 wrote: "You're welcome. And seriously just go for the jump, and if you need rescuing there is me and probably 20 other girls on here who will help you."

fr yes we're here to help y..."

oh thank you guys.

Ok so now I need some help, the guy I have no idea what me and the guy that say I love you are exactly. It is romantic love I know that but I have no idea if I'm his girlfriend or not. And I don't want to ask and make things weird. And he's so busy right now that we haven't had the chance to talk much and I'm about to get really busy and wanted to ask him before then.

Bookbutterfly06 wrote: "Ok so now I need some help, the guy I have no idea what me and the guy that say I love you are exactly. It is romantic love I know that but I have no idea if I'm his girlfriend or not. And I don't ..."

Have you tried maybe texting him about it? Or like holding hands and whatnot?

The problem is he lives 17 hours away in Virginia and I live in Arkansas. And emails are all we have since my dad refuses to let me near a phone.

Bookbutterfly06 wrote: "The problem is he lives 17 hours away in Virginia and I live in Arkansas. And emails are all we have since my dad refuses to let me near a phone."

Well then why not mail him about it? I doubt he'd be mad at you.

He has family over right now and I'm scared of the answer.

ok i have something to share

i've been dating this guy for around 3 weeks now, but we haven't exchanged numbers nor do we talk outside or in school (and even then only a bit bc we don't share a lot of classes).
the thing is, before we were dating, we talked all the time outside of school, and even in school sometimes. we had conversations that lasted an hour, maybe even more.

but i feel like i'm kinda 'cheating' on him bc ive had a crush on this other guy for way longer than him?? i mean don't get me wrong i still like this guy but i dont wanna hurt his feelings. and anyway im pretty sure he's insecure abt dating me and doesn't want to since he keeps asking me if i think he's annoying and if i actually want to date him.

there's also the fact that when we talk in school, he's rlly fun to be around and i feel like he's great, but then school ends and i come home and then i dont talk to him at all sometimes until the next day. and especially bc of the week-long thanksgiving break we got, im not sure if i like him anymore, or at least continue to date

and for some reason he thinks we're gonna be dating until the end of the school year, which damn well isn't gonna happen bc it's just not gonna work out. now i fr dont know what to do bc i dont want to hurt his feelings and break up with him (and thats considering he doesn't want to break up bc i feel like he doesnt want to date me anymore) or stay in a relationship with him and ig hurt him even more later on??

someone help pls

i read this in a book "it's better to end in happiness then keep it with tears" and i completely agree like you could talk to him about it but if you aren't happy i would break it off. but like maybe give him warnings that with the way it's going it won't work out? idk haha

I am completely unhelpful in this area of advice lol

ok first off: it’s will probably hurt him more if u lead him on and he finds out that you havnt actually like him for x amount of time
a clean break will heal easier so you really just have to be honest, and if he isn’t strong enough to deal with the truth then he wasn’t worth your time in the first place
you do what you want and you do what you need, he is an entirely other person and u cannot control what he does and what he feels, you can only control YOU
don’t let your fear for what HE MIGHT feel affect your decision in response to what YOU DO feel

Hey so lately my mental health has been shit and it got me thinking about how whenever my friends are in a bad place they can talk to me but I can never tell them anything without it being about them.i also feel bad to burden them with my problems.Thoughts?

I feel literally the same way, but I find that if I write out what I feel, or channel my emotions or the emotion coming from the nonexistance of emotion into a productive activity

I've tried the whole writing thing but i find it doesnt really work for me.Sometimes the numbness is too much and I cant do anything

Man Ammarah, that sounds really rough and I hope it gets better for you!! I wouldn't say you're burdening them with your problems. Friends are there to lift us and help us through both the good and the bad. And friendship is a two-way deal, if you can listen to their problems and help them through them, they should be able to listen to yours and help you through them as well. Another thought is if there's someone older than you (not sure if you're a teen or what) that you trust and has kinda been there through the years, they could be a good person to go to as well.

I am a teen but I find it hard to talk to my parents,as open as they try to be about these things.My mother is looking for a therapist for me but until then I kinda just have to figure things out on my own.

I think that if I were your friend in this situation, I would feel worse if you didn’t seek my help or comfort. If one of my friends was not doing well mentally, I would want them to reach out to me. I wouldn’t feel like it was a burden to listen to them.

molls wrote: "ok first off: it’s will probably hurt him more if u lead him on and he finds out that you havnt actually like him for x amount of time
a clean break will heal easier so you really just have to be h..."

thx molls! i agree, i'll talk to him when i go back to school sometime

Ammarah wrote: "Hey so lately my mental health has been shit and it got me thinking about how whenever my friends are in a bad place they can talk to me but I can never tell them anything without it being about th..."

mara that sounds awful! i have a friend like this and she always talks to me about it. i would recommend going to ur friends and actually talking to them, bc they care abt u and wanna see u better :)

okay guys i'm really sorry that i haven't been a lot of help on here especially because i'm the mod for this section. and it's not an excuse because i should have been here for you guys no matter what, but there's been a lot i've been going through. for some reason i've always been really anxious and like if someone tries to hug me i flinch really hard and back away, or if someone pretends to throw air or whatever i flinch too. and eating has been really hard for me lately, like my body mentally and physically rejects certain foods. anyway i'm like in love with this guys but he likes other people and he is honestly the sweetest person, and as soon as he lets someone in romantically they break him. lately he's been acting really weird, like today i asked what he was doing and he said "crying" and then edited it to "nothing". i asked him about it a lot but he just avoided it, he even said goodnight earlier then my screen time usually goes off. and then i saw he was listening to this playlist that explinex in the description how hurt he was because the girl he loves just broke his heart. anyway sorry for the rant haha it's no excise for me not being here for you guys but that's what's been happening lately.

explains*
excuse*
hahah

kessa, dw it's all fine, we know how hard it is to take care of other ppl while you're struggling yourself :)
we still appreciate you!
also about the guy, i think a good plan is to talk to him about it and try to help him get over it, as this could also make you guys closer. for the flinching, were u ever in a abusive relationship or situation? that could explain it.
i have a friend who also struggles with eating and she got better by counseling and by her friends, maybe you could talk to people about it?

you don't have to feel bad, kessa! we're here to help you out too. you don't have to worry about leaving us alone or anything. everyone has problems they're dealing with, and its not your fault you didn't reply for a day or two.

ugh i'm so nervous of confessing to my crush. I just did, but I'm like nervous he'll reject me, and honestly I wouldn't be surprised if he rejected me, bc well i'm me, and i'm so freaking annoying and an idiot! TwT

kessa (taylor's version) wrote: "okay guys i'm really sorry that i haven't been a lot of help on here especially because i'm the mod for this section. and it's not an excuse because i should have been here for you guys no matter w..."

Girl, we're here for you. If you need to cry chat pm me and we can. You can make it through this.

Nagisa wrote: "ugh i'm so nervous of confessing to my crush. I just did, but I'm like nervous he'll reject me, and honestly I wouldn't be surprised if he rejected me, bc well i'm me, and i'm so freaking annoying ..."

You got this. I'm sure everything will work out. Here for you.

Bookbutterfly06 wrote: "Nagisa wrote: "ugh i'm so nervous of confessing to my crush. I just did, but I'm like nervous he'll reject me, and honestly I wouldn't be surprised if he rejected me, bc well i'm me, and i'm so fre..."

haha, i doubt it will.

Nagisa wrote: "Bookbutterfly06 wrote: "Nagisa wrote: "ugh i'm so nervous of confessing to my crush. I just did, but I'm like nervous he'll reject me, and honestly I wouldn't be surprised if he rejected me, bc wel..."

. I mean like we call each other names, and we like talk with each other everyday, and then yesterday I just confessed and it's been barely 8 hours since we last talked, and that was when I told him.

Nagisa wrote: "Nagisa wrote: "Bookbutterfly06 wrote: "Nagisa wrote: "ugh i'm so nervous of confessing to my crush. I just did, but I'm like nervous he'll reject me, and honestly I wouldn't be surprised if he reje..."

Give him time to process, and if he doesn't like you in that way then he's just not the one for you.

Bookbutterfly06 wrote: "Nagisa wrote: "Nagisa wrote: "Bookbutterfly06 wrote: "Nagisa wrote: "ugh i'm so nervous of confessing to my crush. I just did, but I'm like nervous he'll reject me, and honestly I wouldn't be surpr..."

he kinda just passed by the message, so he completely ignored it. *sigh* it's okay.

I’m sorry, that’s really rough. I hope he responds to you, but even if he doesn’t, at least you shot your shot! That’s really brave of you to do :)

fr tho. haha thanks.

My friend sent me this

((*you realize he rejected you* Man that's rough...))

(( is that friend real or fake? or if they just meant that as a joke/if situation ))

lol it was a joke. haha.

ok thats what i thought :) otherwise....🔪

haha OMG NO!!! NEENA NO!!!! HAHA *DIES OF LAUGHTER*

THAT IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU MESS WITH MY FRIENDS >:)