2-3-4 Challenge Book Discussions #2 discussion

Aditi also shares with Tracy that Kavita was registered with a sugar daddy site and had a regular Sugar Daddy, Charles Shea, a pediatrician. See any of that coming? Was he ever a suspect in your mind?

I didn't see that coming. Charles Shea was on my radar for a few pages, but I didn't bump him up on the list at all.

I really was put back on my heels when this was revealed. That’s a major step for a woman of Indian descent. This told me more about how much Kavita wanted a different life than what her family longed for because this was huge.

Charles was on my list for a hot minute and then I went back to Nikhil.

Kavita wanted a career and certainly didn't want to go with an arrangement marriage. When the huge amount of money in her bank account was uncovered, I figured she had been either selling drugs or prostitution.

Like both of you, I thought about Charles being the killer for a little while, but quickly dismissed him after the interview.

After the interview with him and his genuine shock and sorrow that she was dead - I didn't really think of him at all for it. It was the brother and the best friends husband but I couldn't figure out a good why for the husband.

To an extent, yes, I was shocked that she did the sugar daddy dating but it just proved how much she wanted to be a doctor. I don't understand how having a daughter being a doctor is a disgrace or dishonor. That was one part I just did not understand at all. And if you don't want your daughter to be anything/have a life outside of becoming a wife - why did you move to the states? You aren't going to look here for wives for your sons.

That’s a great question.

A very good question.

The Indian men and women that I know, are proud of their children who are doctors and/or some other professional career. That part didn't ring true for me. Although my reference is doctors and medical researchers so I don't know a lot of people from India; the people I do know they came to the US to get their medical degree or another advanced degree.

I decided to reverse the question to myself. We lived in foreign countries for most of my formative years, returning to the US when I was almost twelve. We were there because of Dad’s military career. Though I loved most everywhere we stayed, I never considered abandoning my own culture, in spite of me embracing some of those from my host countries. So, no matter what the reasons for their immigrating to the US, I don’t think we can assume they embraced abandoning their own cultures. Those in the Indian community continue to maintain strong ties to family in their home country. It gets tough for them, though, because their children are immersed in the norms of the country they now call home.

Hope this makes sense.