2-3-4 Challenge Book Discussions #2 discussion

Meanwhile, Faz and wife Vera are dealing with the news that she has breast cancer. Your thoughts about how this storyline was presented? Did Dugoni get it right or did he miss the mark?

He did a good job. Everyone reacts differently when told they have cancer. Vera acted as I expected for the character that Dugoni created. It isn't unusual for someone to avoid discussing the diagnosis initially. She worked hard to keep the status quo for as long as possible.

Having lived through this with my mother (she was in denial until her death), I thought he nailed it. At first, I didn’t know how to support Mom and then I decided to just take my cues from her. The result was almost a year of having a rich relationship with her on her terms that I will always treasure. This felt so realistic.

I've seen this reaction too.

What a beautiful opportunity for you to have a great relationship with your mom at the end. Both of my parents died suddenly, which made me think of all the things I could of, should have said and done.

My Dad died suddenly, without warning. I always wondered if it would be easier if I had more time. After my experience with Mom, I now know the pain is exactly the same.

Go figure.

Everyone reacts differently when there is a life-threatening diagnosis. I thought the author did a good job with the storyline. It rang true to me.

True - everyone does react differently to this type of diagnosis and this definitely affects everyone in the family when it occurs. I'm sure it's hard for Faz to just attempt to be supportive of her and not make decisions. The scene where he tells her to just have her breasts removed - I was yelling at him in my head No No No - don't tell her that .....that's not what she wants to hear. She needs time to grieve before she can make that sort of decision.

Men need to wait until women ask for their help😏 My hubby has finally learned after many, many years of training.

I agree that Dugoni did a good job - with both character's reactions. As for the husband side of things - I think it was a normal reaction for Faz. Men want to fix things and the answer seemed clear and easy to Faz. As women, we know and see the mistake he made but I though Dugoni nailed his reaction and attitude as he did with her.

Sandra wrote: "I agree that Dugoni did a good job - with both character's reactions. As for the husband side of things - I think it was a normal reaction for Faz. Men want to fix things and the answer seemed clea..."


Oops - missed the part of the question about whether Dugoni did a good job, lol. And I agree he did do a good job and honestly if Faz was quiet and didn't say anything or give the advice he did - I would've thought it odd for his character.

Jonetta wrote: "Men need to wait until women ask for their help😏 My hubby has finally learned after many, many years of training."

Nice!

My husband only took "many" years to learn. I would have made his life miserable, if it took "many, many." Jonetta you are a patient woman.

Like Garfield the cat, I "resemble" the above remarks. It took my husband a while to learn what I needed was not usually for him to jump right into fix-it mode.

Sharon wrote: "My husband only took "many" years to learn. I would have made his life miserable, if it took "many, many." Jonetta you are a patient woman."

Not so much patient but not here. I was traveling a lot for business so when I retired, he felt the pain. Didn’t take long after that😏

Charlene wrote: "Like Garfield the cat, I "resemble" the above remarks. It took my husband a while to learn what I needed was not usually for him to jump right into fix-it mode."

Love this!