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This books teaches about how to love your spouse and make your marriage work,some of the things this book teaches about include
 (1) Emotional understanding:This is understanding that the emotions of a woman can be disturbed by things that looks minor to the emotions of a man.That is why when a woman is bothered over things that looks minor to you as a man,you should give her full attention even when you are not bothered.It involves you giving full attention to the things that really bothers your wife.These are things like her missen make up,her missen nail polish , Repairing the Television for the children,going out for fun,her daily activities at her place of work,when you do that,your spouse will always feel that you love and care about her.This makes a woman to become more sexual.Women are emotionally connected to everything around them.So until you begin to comfort her,and spend quality time with her to emotionally console her and try to get solutions to the things that really bothers her,she will never feel loved around you.Sometimes a woman might be bothered about the behavior of the kids,her business,her place of work for a long period of time,but as a husband,you have to understand that when a woman is bothered,you might need to keep consoling and comforting her for weeks, until she gradually gets relieved from those things that bothers her.Another mistake men make is this,most men think that woman can just easily get over the things that emotionally bothers them,just because the things that really bothers their wives does not really bothers them.This misunderstanding can lead to bad   communication.For example your wife says darling I am really worried about how the kids will cope with the kind of friends they are keeping in their school.Then you might just say honey Don't worry they will cope,without giving much attention and looking for how to make your wife happy by looking for a solution.The husband might feel that it's not a problem,but as long your wife is emotionally disturbed,your wife might still be bothered and it can make her grow in fear and tension.This fear, tension and worry will automatically make her to be carried away,her sex drive will remain low,she will not be romantic because inside of her she is really troubled and worried about the kids.
(2) communication: Good communication is the act of saying things that makes your wife feels that she is the most important person in your life.For example when you tell your spouse that nothing will ever stop you from meeting her needs, answering her calls,and paying attention to her needs,your spouse feels so special,loved and secured.But when you tell your wife that you want to go to visit your friends althrough the week for something important,and that you might not really have time to be with her,your wife will can feel unloved and unimportant to you.You might be trying to explain something very logical to her, even when she understand what you are saying,she is emotionally hurt.What you should do is to meet her needs first,tell her that you want to be with her first before you can think of being with anybody in your life.When you do this to her,she can get to a point where she becomes emotionally safisfied,fulfilled,and emotionally secured.Then at that point,she can tell you to visit some of those your friends.Sometimes when you have something very important to discuss with your friends, what you should tell her is this, darling,I want to go visit my friends for something very important,buh I promise to return back to you as quickly as possible and when I return,I will spend all the time with you because you are the most important person in my life.