A Good Thriller discussion

My thoughts and prayers are with you Daisy!!!

Daisy, if you're interested in a murder mystery where the MC has breast cancer, I recommend Hiss of Death by Rita Mae and Sneaky Pie Brown. Sneaky Pie is a pussycat. Granted it's the 19th in the Mrs. Murphy Mysteries series, but it's also entertaining, despite the fact that the MC has breast cancer.

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/8...

Thank you Dawn and Faouzia. All thoughts and prayers are appreciated.

Thank you for the recommendation, Amber. I will check out the series sometime.

Daisy, a virtual hug going your way. I know chemo can be so horrid. I hope you have a dog or a kitty to help you through it all.

@Kirsten Thank you. I have 2 dogs and 3 cats. The cats are not really friendly or cuddly most of the time though. I do have one dog that sticks right by me. When I started this journey my dog would not leave my side except to eat and go outside. My kids say I love her more than I do them. I always tell them sometimes I do. Of course, they know I'm only teasing them.

@Daisy Dogs are such a comfort, but cats can care too. My neighbor's golden lab has spleen cancer and she is going to have to put her down. Her sister's 3 cats have been so wonderful. They follow her everywhere because they know how upset she is. It really changed my opinion of cats.

@Kirsten We have one cat that is always in our laps when we get upset or cry. I've never been much of a cat lover but they really do have a lot of personality.

I'm sorry to hear about your neighbor's dog. Fur babies are like family and it's hard to lose them.

All of our 5 cats are affectionate in their own ways. A couple of them have a special sense that tells them if we're sick or sad, and they can be a great comfort and extra cuddly. A couple of the others simply offer their presence...Sad to hear about your neighbor's dog. It's always hard to deal with the illness of a beloved pet.

When my father was sick his dog would follow him everywhere he went. On the day he died, the dog, a long-haired dachshund, started barking like crazy when he left the house and walking in front of him so he would leave. He never made it back home.

There is a nasty fire now in the Cajon Pass. It started this morning and is now encompassing 18,000 acres. Highway 15 is the route from L.A. to Las Vegas and runs through Cajon Pass. They have now evacuated over 82,000 people and over 32,000 homes are in jeopardy. Some fire fighters are currently at risk. Looks like some prayers would be appreciated.

What a difficult summer this has been!

Daisy...
God Bless Your Heart!!! Please consider all of us, as your cuddly friends. We'll send you hugs even when you don't want them!!!!
Ah....come on......you know you will want them.

We all wish we were your neighbors..........we would pamper you to pieces!!!!

God Speed on your recovery.
Xoxoxox

Ter'e wrote: "Daisy...
God Bless Your Heart!!! Please consider all of us, as your cuddly friends. We'll send you hugs even when you don't want them!!!!
Ah....come on......you know you will want them.

We all wis..."

Thank you so much, Ter'e!! I will take all the hugs I can get.

Having someone pamper me would be wonderful. My kids do a lot but not a lot of pampering. A full body massage would be fantastic!! ;)

Sure is......

My Dad elected to join Mom in heaven yesterday morning. Bittersweet. He has not done well the last few months. During that time he has had several hospitalizations, including an 8 day stay (3-4 days in ICU for aspiration pneumonia) with broken hip which left him dependent for almost everything. He has also been plagued with chronic intermittent hiccups, which sapped all his reserve. Because every time he got back from the hospital, he had a new lower baseline quality of life, my brother John, Dad and I decided no more hospital trips unless he needed comfort care we couldn’t manage. Thursday he aspirated again sometime during the night. From 7-9 AM yesterday morning I got to be with him and told him everything I ever wanted to tell him and more. He looked at me a couple of times and squeezed my hand a couple of times, so I know he could hear me. It was a phenomenal last visit. We told him it was time my mom Nan got to have him back and it was OK to go. He went fast. He died with me and Jean holding his hands. We are sad, but also thankful that he is free to join Nan in her most fervent wish to run through the meadows together. They had terrific lives and so did John and I because of them.

Oh, Christine, I am so sorry. But it was good that you and your family were with him, instead of him only hearing beeping machines. God only lends our family to us. I know that he will be with you always.

My dad died from throat cancer 3 years ago and we still blame him for ever spill in the house. :P All the best!

So sorry to hear your sad news Christine. Thinking of you with love and sending you big hugs. Treasure your memories.

Christine wrote: "My Dad elected to join Mom in heaven yesterday morning. Bittersweet. He has not done well the last few months. During that time he has had several hospitalizations, including an 8 day stay (3-4 day..."

Sorry to hear your sad news, will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

My thoughts are with you, Christine. Losing a parent is never easy. But while they may be gone from this world, they live on forever in your heart and memories.

Love and hugs, Christine. I hope they do get to run through the meadow together again...... xxx

i am so sorry Christine! my thoughts and prayers are with you!

Christine wrote: "I got to be with him and told him everything I ever wanted to tell him and more. He looked at me a couple of times and squeezed my hand a couple of times, so I know he could hear me. It was a phenomenal last visit.."

I'm so glad you had the opportunity to have this final conversation. There's no avoiding the partings but having the chance to say goodbye can make a huge difference in how we come to terms with the event.

Thank you guys so much. Your kind words mean a lot to me. Tom, you are so right. My mother's death was sudden so none of us were with her. I was determined that would not happen with my dad.

Christine wrote: "Thank you guys so much. Your kind words mean a lot to me. Tom, you are so right. My mother's death was sudden so none of us were with her. I was determined that would not happen with my dad."

I had exactly the same situation. It's all in the closure.

I am so sorry for your loss.

oh Christine I m so sorry for your loss may your dad rest in peace and may God give you the strength and peace to get through this the best way possible, I know that it meant a lot for both of you that you were together in his last day, take care my friend

Christine, my friend,

my thoughts and best wishes and hugs.

I know how you feel, x

My condolences, Christine. On the bright side, you both probably had a long pleasant relationship together. May your dad R.I.P.

Chris, I'm so sorry about your Dad! You had a very beautiful, peaceful goodbye. Sending love and hugs your way. xo

I am so sorry Christine for your loss. Was just reading the threads and saw your upsetting notice. You and Jean should take relief that you got to say goodbye to your dad. Enrique and I send you love and hugs and may God give you the strength and peace to get through this difficult time. May your dad R.I.P.

I am not a one to moan, well, not on the net, but lately I had to see a specialist nurse because things are getting me down so much.
My bucket has been over flowing :(

I am disabled. I also am the sole care for my husband who has bi polar, heart condition and OA spine, I also care for my daughter [shes 33] who has CFS [chronic fatigue syndrome]

My back has been so bad lately I have been in pure agony with it. I am on painkillers.

So much going on with our Housing Association and our Solicitor too because we want the driveway divided off due to disability issues and we have an open driveway with the neighbor. She doesn't want the divide. So her and her friends have made our lives a living hell for 3 years calling us crippled, mental retards etc. We saved and got CCTV camera put in, however, we have no audio its not legal, so how do we prove it?
The Landlords say its alleged, the Police say it can't be proven.

So in the end I have had to get a Solicitor to take the pressure off of me.

My reading keeps me sane as do my knitting [when I have time]

I am rambling now.....
This is the only place on the net that I have aired most of what's going on.

The other day I was in a big pickle as my husband's back was terrible, he had a dizzzy spell and my daughter and myself got him on the stair lift and got him into bed, then half hour later my daughter was screaming in agony with chest pain.
I called the emergency services. It was hard seeing to both of them I could hardly stand with my back in half and try to climb the stairs to the front door to let them ambulance drivers in.

Everything turned out OK with my daughter its down to her CFS they say because all of her sats and obs were fine. Its settled, but shes exhausted.

Our son [30] thank god still lives at home and after work was able to help me.

Its crazy, but this made me think, we chat to people on the net about our books etc but we never know what is going on behind the scenes do we?

I just had to let off a vent somewhere and I thought I knew quite a few of you on here as book buddies so why not let me feelings be know here

Sue, you are so right about not knowing the lives of others. I'm so sorry you and your family are having trouble. I hope things get better soon! (You know we at A Good Thriller are here for each other!)

Christine,
I am sorry for your loss. I'm glad you got to be with him and tell him everything you wanted him to know.

So sorry Sue, a very hard, tough and painful life.

As you say reading helps you through, but so hard.

This is all too much for any one person.

Sadly life can be so hard.

Thank you, everyone, for the kind, heartfelt messages. They really give me comfort and help me focus on all the good things revolving around Dad's passing.

Sue, so so saddened to hear you are struggling. I will think of you often and will send lots of prayers up for you and your family.

Sue, I am so sorry you are bombarded with all these problems. I know you have your hands and HEAD full of too much. I know what it is like to suffer from a chronic back problem, as I have herniated discs in the low back. When the weather changes, or I do too much, I can barely walk and take a pain killer and go and lie down. Last night I couldn't sleep, because my back was acting up, so I stayed up and read a book. I have severe arthritis in both knees, but I keep moving. Hate going downstairs to do laundry etc. That is why we live in a bungalow. Enrique had both knee replacement done at the same time about 5 years ago, and he is fine, but he did a lot of physio. We all deal with physical or mental limitations to some degree, but we are still alive and able to read and be with our friends.I am glad Barry and your daughter are okay. Take care of yourself, Sue and know that God never gives you more than you can handle! I thank God everyday for my blessings and know that there are worse off than us. Email me Sue when you want to talk.
Hugs & Kisses OX

Brenda wrote: "Sue, you are so right about not knowing the lives of others. I'm so sorry you and your family are having trouble. I hope things get better soon! (You know we at A Good Thriller are here for each ot..."
I know Brenda, I pop in, but I am a lurker, terrible, I should join in more

Sean wrote: "So sorry Sue, a very hard, tough and painful life.

As you say reading helps you through, but so hard.

This is all too much for any one person.

Sadly life can be so hard."
Its life Sean. You just deal with it. But sometimes when other outside problems come along that's when it makes it harder.

I'm made of pretty solid stuff lol but at times I just need a break. That's my reading and time on PC if I can. My window to life mostly is via my Internet, sad init lol But listen, life could be harder.

Christine wrote: "Thank you, everyone, for the kind, heartfelt messages. They really give me comfort and help me focus on all the good things revolving around Dad's passing."

I am so sorry Christine to hear of this, its a terrible time when we loose a parent. Part of you goes with them. We tend to take them for granted when they are there. But alas, that is life. He had a wonderful daughter in you so keep all the good memories close to your heart

Sue wrote: "Sue, I am so sorry you are bombarded with all these problems. I know you have your hands and HEAD full of too much. I know what it is like to suffer from a chronic back problem, as I have herniated..."

Sue, you have become one of my regular friends and no, no one is worse off than another, I think we all suffer to some degree, I suppose its how we cope with what life throws at us right?
You yourself have been through things including with your eyes as well, but yes WE ARE ALIVE AND BREATHING and that is the main thing there are always people worse off. You are an inspiration. Many I know have trials and tribulations on the net and it amazes me how we all have fellow feeling for each other.

Our little/big book world is amazing, I love reading all the reviews from different ones that have either befriended me or I them and we have grown to chat sometimes. I love it, it definitely keeps me going.

Thank you everyone.

Christine, my wonderful friend,

I am so saddened to hear of your dad passing. The goodbye you had sounds wonderful. Your parents are watching over you. Imagine the glorious reunion they have had!

I'm sending up prayers for comfort and peace for you and your family. Big hugs and much love for you and Jean!

Sue1958 wrote: "Christine wrote: "Thank you, everyone, for the kind, heartfelt messages. They really give me comfort and help me focus on all the good things revolving around Dad's passing."

I am so sorry Christi..."

Thanks, Sue, for your very kind note. I do have loads and loads of memories, and you are so right in that they are going to help a lot.

Daisy wrote: "Christine, my wonderful friend,

I am so saddened to hear of your dad passing. The goodbye you had sounds wonderful. Your parents are watching over you. Imagine the glorious reunion they have had!
..."

Thank you for this, Daisy, you are so sweet. And yes, that reunion had to be one for the ages! The prayers and hugs are so appreciated--sending the same back to you!

Christine - sincere condolences to you and Jean. I am glad you were able to be with your Dad when he passed.

Sue1958 - I'm glad you felt that this was a safe place to vent a little. And you are absolutely correct that we "kinda know" each other but never really know what is happening in each other's lives until someone posts. Best thoughts and wishes for better times ahead.

Thinking of you Christine.

Sue, I am so sorry to hear of your pain and your struggles. Caretaking is hard work, physically and emotionally. Somehow you have to take care of yourself too. Your son sounds like he is able (and willing) to help, so that's good. I wish you had a way to get along better with your neighbors...kill 'em with kindness or something! Show them they can't get you down (those lousy so-and-sos)!

Thanks everyone for the kind, caring wishes. Between the two of us, we only have one parent left now, my dad, who's in a nursing home following a stroke in January. Jack was a real gem. He was a man of few words, but he had a wry sense of humor and a quick wit. He had a smile that lit up a whole room, and he will be missed.

Thanks everyone
We all have our problems but we keep going