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Thanks so much, Brenda, for discovering and sharing this. I imteracted with Daisy a lot and periodically checked her profile for any action, the last time just last week. So sorry to hear of her passing. A wonderful member of our group.

Brenda - I'm just catching up and am sorry to learn about Daisy's passing. Thank you for letting us know and may she rest in peace.

We don’t know each other in person, but we are friends who care about each other. There are, however, disadvantages to a digital-only relationship. I was glad I could find information about Daisy.

Brenda wrote: "We don’t know each other in person, but we are friends who care about each other. There are, however, disadvantages to a digital-only relationship. I was glad I could find information about Daisy."

Brenda - the fact that you took time to notice Daisy's absence and follow up to see what happened to her - well, that speaks volumes on your kindness to friends in this group and I'm sure Daisy would appreciate that we/you noticed. Digital friends is hard but it's good to know when we are missed.

Digital friendships are different but can be just as valuable as real life friends. I've made some lovely friends on GR.

Thank You for the information..

We are a family of friends, here many old timers, not in years but in loyal years as members here,

Sadly life can be tough and hard, and we have to enjoy life as much as possible.

RIP Daisy

Thanks for this update Brenda! I remember Daisy and was thinking about her a few weeks ago, wondering... I had a friend diagnosed with stage IV breast cancer around the same time as Daisy and sadly she passed away last year. Like others have mentioned, even though some of you are my GR friends and I don't know you in person, I find myself thinking of you.

Brenda wrote: "I was looking at some reviews on a book and noticed one from Daisy Taylor. Many of you will remember Daisy. She reported here in this thread in 2016 that her mother had passed away and just months ..."

Thanks Brenda, It appears that the mortuary changed the link to her obituary site. I did a search and found it here.
https://claibornefuneralhome.com/trib...

Thanks for that Tom.

Daisy is on my friends list, I’m shocked and saddened to hear this

Twenty years ago my wife and I were invited to a friends wedding.

My wife worked with Christine the bride.

Ten years ago Christine joined RBC, where I work.

Five years later she went off sick, fought and beat cancer, six months later came back to work for one month, to be told the cancer has come back.

Never came back to work, fought and battling but lost her battle against cancer yesterday.

After a tough battle, fought so hard for nearly five years, when the cancer had spread throughout her body.

Life can be sad. Last September she celebrated her 20th wedding anniversary.

So sad, and so young 48 to 50 years old, two young children (12 and 14), two dogs and a cat, and of course a husband.

Oh Sean, my sincerest condolences to you and your wife for the loss of your close friend. Life can truly beats us up at times.

What a tough, tough deal, Sean. My condolences on the loss of your friend.

On Monday we lost another beloved kitty, our 17-year-old Rainey. Rainey Mae Dylan because of her feisty meow that sometimes sounded like a cross between Mae West and Bob Dylan. In recent years, we called her “Cupcake,” because she was really a sweetie. She had recently had an echocardiogram by specialist at Iowa State, and she was doing quite well. But Monday morning after her breakfast while going for a favorite toy, she just dropped. We rushed her to the ER, but she was already gone. Chris and I are still in shock and so very sad. But we are comforted to know that she went on her own terms - no extended illness or euthanasia - and she did not suffer. We are worried about her best friend Holly, as they were together for almost 14 years. Rainey was so greatly loved. She was a special little cat, and we will always love her.

Jean wrote: "On Monday we lost another beloved kitty, our 17-year-old Rainey. Rainey Mae Dylan because of her feisty meow that sometimes sounded like a cross between Mae West and Bob Dylan. In recent years, we ..."

So sorry to you and Chris for your loss. Rainey did seem to leave this life on her own terms, so she lived up to her name until the end. That is a comfort to know.

I'm so sorry guys for your losses. 😔

I have not spent much time writing/reviewing in this group and I'm sorry to say that will continue for awhile.

My husband has been diagnosed with dementia with Lewy body. It is under the umbrella of Alzheimer's. I am now finding myself in the role of caregiver.

We moved into a smaller home in Fall 2018. My husband was forgetful, but we didn't think it was a worry just getting older. But, after the move, life changed dramatically. His previous forgetfulness became serious. Saw doctors, got referrals, got tested and he is in middle stage dementia. A terrible, insidious disease.

So, my reading and reviewing time is different from before. I still love this group and all my friends on here but I am a lot more low profile.

Jean wrote: "On Monday we lost another beloved kitty, our 17-year-old Rainey. Rainey Mae Dylan because of her feisty meow that sometimes sounded like a cross between Mae West and Bob Dylan. In recent years, we ..."

I am so sorry Jean & Christine for your loss. We love our babies, and when they leave us, our heart breaks. We send our love and prayers to you both, and RIP Rainey. I know you were loved and well cared for. Sue

Pat wrote: "I have not spent much time writing/reviewing in this group and I'm sorry to say that will continue for awhile.

My husband has been diagnosed with dementia with Lewy body. It is under the umbrella..."

Pat, I am so sorry for what you are dealing with, and can imagine that life has changed dramatically for both of you. I can only say, take one day at a time. Everything is in God's hand. I send my love and prayers. Sue

Pat wrote: "I have not spent much time writing/reviewing in this group and I'm sorry to say that will continue for awhile.

My husband has been diagnosed with dementia with Lewy body. It is under the umbrella..."

May I suggest Confessions of an Imperfect Caregiver by Bobbi Carducci. She went through what you are facing with her father-in-law. You may find hope and guidance there.

Stay strong, take care of yourself as well as your husband, and know that you both are in our prayers.

Pat, I am saddened to learn what you and your husband are dealing with. Lewy body dementia is a very difficult illness. It is frustrating for the person who has it, and it can be very trying for the caregiver. I hope you have a good support system, both for respite care and for emotional support, Pat. I wish you both solace in the moments where you can appreciate one another and the love you share.

Christine and Jean

I know so, so much how you feel, and my wife and I adore out four cats.

My thoughts are with you both xx

Pat, sorry to here the sad news.. again my thoughts are with you also xx

Sue wrote: "Pat wrote: "I have not spent much time writing/reviewing in this group and I'm sorry to say that will continue for awhile.

My husband has been diagnosed with dementia with Lewy body. It is under ..."

Thank you Sue.

Quillracer wrote: "Pat wrote: "I have not spent much time writing/reviewing in this group and I'm sorry to say that will continue for awhile.

My husband has been diagnosed with dementia with Lewy body. It is under ..."

Quillracer - thank you for the book recommendation. On hearing the diagnosis from the neurologist, I did download books on the subject to know how to help my husband. The title of your recommendation is how I'm feeling so I know I will be reading it. Thank you.

Jean wrote: "Pat, I am saddened to learn what you and your husband are dealing with. Lewy body dementia is a very difficult illness. It is frustrating for the person who has it, and it can be very trying for th..."

Thank you Jean for your beautiful words. We are working on the support. Reaching out to organizations and our move put us closer to our daughter.

Sean wrote: "Christine and Jean

I know so, so much how you feel, and my wife and I adore out four cats.

My thoughts are with you both xx

Pat, sorry to here the sad news.. again my thoughts are with you also xx"

Thank you Sean.

Thank you Sean, Janet, Sue, and Pat for the wonderful condolences for our kitty Rainey. We miss her so much--she has left quite a hole in our hearts.

Pat wrote: "Jean wrote: "Pat, I am saddened to learn what you and your husband are dealing with. Lewy body dementia is a very difficult illness. It is frustrating for the person who has it, and it can be very ..."

Pat, I am devastated for you to be going through such a difficult period of your life. I am glad you are reaching out for the support that is out there. We will think of you often.

Christine wrote: "Pat wrote: "Jean wrote: "Pat, I am saddened to learn what you and your husband are dealing with. Lewy body dementia is a very difficult illness. It is frustrating for the person who has it, and it ..."

Thank you Chris. This is a more difficult change than either of us expected in life. He is seeing a neurologist and we are figuring out medications. Family is near and we are learning to take each day as we can. One small and strange bright spot, hubby forgets he has dementia and doesn't know what the fuss is about. Ah, well, a respite for him and we don't remind him.

I can’t imagine what you are going through, Pat. I am pleased for you that family is near—oh so important. And a positive in that your hubby is being spared a bit of pain. Good thoughts coming to you.

I am so sorry Pat. A life changing matter and so difficult to come to terms with.
I am so glad you have family so near to support you.

Hugs x

sue wrote: "I am so sorry Pat. A life changing matter and so difficult to come to terms with.
I am so glad you have family so near to support you.

Hugs x"

Thank you Sue. I'm learning so much about this disease because I have dived into books on the subject. Millions of people are dealing with these same issues. So sad.

Very sadly on Black Friday and another terrorist attack, near London and on London Bridge...

5 members of the public stabbed.

Where is everyone? How are you coping with the changes, challenges, uncertainties of the Covid-19 pandemic?

We've had no cases in my county in NE PA. Other that some common sense things - washing hands, keeping our distance from others, etc. - my wife and I aren't doing anything extreme. Our biggest problem is greedy bastards hogging supplies of TP, soup, bottled water, and meat. I've been to the grocery store twice in the last 4 days, and both times they had no chicken, beef, or pork.

We are at home in South Dakota. SD has 10 or 11 confirmed cases and 1 death due to Covid-19. Hubby and I are high risk so we have self quarantined for several days already and intend to keep indoors. I've got lots of books and other hobbies so will try to not go crazy. My husband has dementia/alzheimers and every day is a new explanation of why we can't go out to eat, or go to the library (our libraries are closed) or sit in Starbucks (take out only). It's not easy and I consider myself a homebody.

I now have added a separate thread/post for the Corona Virus.

Thank you for the update Sean

So, November 27th is fast approaching and it's a very significant date that means 2 different things to me....My Daughter, Hailey will be turning 5 years old this year. But it's also the birth date of my Daughter,Ashley who passed away at 2 months(identical twins). It's difficult because I want my little girl to enjoy her Birthday and know how special it is because it's the day I was given my greatest gift while simultaneously feeling like I've been gut punched as I wonder what her sister would be like. ..would she love 'My Little Pony' and every Disney Princess like her sister or would her personality be a complete opposite to her twin's?
Also, my Mother and myself have a tradition where I write a message to Ashley on a balloon and release it into the sky, and I know Hailey is going to have questions about it this year and she doesn't grasp the concept yet that she had a twin who is in Heaven. She has caught me crying over it a few times (though I try not to let her catch me because she'll start crying for the simple reason that she doesn't like Mommy to be sad). It's just an awkward thing to have a single day in which was among the happiest of my life but also crushes my soul. Enough rambling, it's just nice to be able to put this out there without receiving the same clichés that I always do...ex: It will get better with time (WRONG), Everything happens for a reason (I DON'T CARE), Just focus on the good, meaning Hailey (SURE, WHY DON'T YOU GIVE YOUR YOUNGEST AWAY THEN SAY THAT AGAIN TO MY FACE) Sorry, I'm cutting myself off now)

Malinda and Patricia, I'm sorry to hear about your truly sad family death/illness. My heart goes out to you

Ramble away Malinda if it helps you. It's good to talk. Many friendly voices here.

Thank you so much for understanding and tolerating my VERY long rants!

Merry Christmas to my Goodreads friends. Things are not so merry in the Best household. Two days ago, my husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. We are still in shock. We find ourselves just sitting and staring off into space, then one of us asks what the other is thinking and a conversation starts that we never expected to have. So very much to discuss.

I pick up my Kindle and read for small periods of time. Not able to concentrate for very long, but reading provides a small escape from thinking. I will try to stay engaged with the group, but if I’m not around you’ll know why.

Oof, Brenda. What a hit that is. My heart is in my throat for you guys. Why do these things always happen to the wonderful people? I will start sending many many prayers for you that things go as well as possible as you both make your way through this journey. God Bless you both. Love, Chris ♥️🙏

Thank you, Chris. I’ll email you and Jean directly.

Brenda wrote: "Merry Christmas to my Goodreads friends. Things are not so merry in the Best household. Two days ago, my husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. We are still in shock. We find ourselves just ..."

Oh Brenda, I am sorry to hear your news. This is a terrible time of adjustment for you and there is nothing we can do to help except to be here for support for you when you need to vent. I know that it's of absolutely no practical used to you, but I am thinking of you. If I have one piece of advice it is this: make as many wonderful memories as possible.

Sandy *The world could end while I was reading and I would never notice* wrote: "Brenda wrote: "Merry Christmas to my Goodreads friends. Things are not so merry in the Best household. Two days ago, my husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. We are still in shock. We find ..."

Thank you, Sandy! I do appreciate your thinking of me and the advice!

I am stunned, Brenda. I know that you will do all you can to be there for your husband. Please do what you can to take care of yourself too. As the news of his diagnosis sinks in, you will find ways to cope, to live, to love, to do what you need to do and to allow yourself to feel all the range of emotions that bombard your heart and soul. Thank you for sharing this with us. We will be thinking of you. ❤️

Brenda wrote: "Merry Christmas to my Goodreads friends. Things are not so merry in the Best household. Two days ago, my husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. We are still in shock. We find ourselves just ..."

Brenda I am so sorry to hear your news. I can only send my prayers and thoughts. I will continue to prayer for you and your husband.

Brenda wrote: "Merry Christmas to my Goodreads friends. Things are not so merry in the Best household. Two days ago, my husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. We are still in shock. We find ourselves just ..."

Brenda, I am so sorry to hear your news. I'll keep your husband in my prayers.