A Good Thriller discussion

Sorry to hear that Jean I hope your father gets well soon, take care.

Thank you, Aymen.

I am so sorry about your news, Jean. Both you and Christine have been through a lot this past week. Take care and be strong.

Thanks, Sue. I appreciate it.

Jean wrote: "Thank you, Janet. I am debating about going today - nervous energy! But they don't know much at this point, so I guess maybe I'll just sit tight for today."

I suggest you ask yourself how you will feel if you don't go and things don't turn out well. From my experience, only you are likely know the answer to that one. In whatever you decide, I wish you the best, as do all of your GR friends.

Jean, I am sending you a big virtual hug and best get well wishes to your father.

So sorry Jean. That is tough. My dad was in Ocala, FL while we were in NY when he started having serious health issues at 83. You want to be there but I'm sure you have your own responsibilities that can't just be dropped or handled so far away. I truely feel for you. It is difficult to know when the right time to go is. Unfortunately we can't be with our loved ones all the time.

Thanks, guys. No updates since this morning. This summer he had some stents put in and then TAVR (transcather aortic valve replacement) done after that, and we knew that his renal function was diminished. He also had some vessels that they couldn't place stents in, but up until Christmas, he's been doing okay, just tired. He had a respiratory virus then and still has been tired and weak, complaining of joint pain. He had an appointment to see his doctor later this week. I'm sure I'll hear more later today though.

Yeah, we were planning to take a little vacation to Florida for a few days next week where one of my sisters and her husband have rented a condo for the month...who knows, maybe that will still happen...or maybe they will have to come home too. We can't control what happens. I don't envy the sister who is the official healthcare proxy if Dad isn't able to indicate what he wants; at this point, it's my understanding that he can't.

Oh, Jean. I am so sorry for you and Christine. It is a very difficult time when elderly parents and surrogate parents (like aunts and uncles) start to have these problems and decisions have to be made. I went through these thing 6 years ago with my mom and it is so hard. Wishing the best to both of you. Follow what's in your heart and what you think is best. Love.

Oh Jean, big hugs from NZ for you. I can only echo what Pat says and follow your heart. You and Christine have our full support. Any time you need a shoulder, we are all here. xoxoxox

Oh Jean

my thoughts are with you.

Big hugs from all your friends here

Jean. Thoughts with you....

Thanks, guys. Some better news last night. My sister e-mailed the family to say that Dad woke up last night and was able to talk a little and squeeze my brother's hand. His condition still is not good at all, but this is the first positive news, so we'll take it. I'm going up today.

Dad was moved to another hospital today so they can better assess his complex medical conditions. Lots of fact-finding assessments so far. No extreme interventions will be done, as he is too fragile, but we wanted their expertise here to see if anything's been missed and if anything can be done to make him more comfortable. Poor guy keeps asking for tea, but he can't have anything by mouth because he has trouble swallowing )-:

You and your family are doing your best for your father Jean, my thoughts are with you and I hope he gets well.

My thoughts are always with you Jean. I pray your Dad will feel a little better soon...and gets his tea soon.

Jean, my heart goes out to you and Chris! I don't know how I missed the news about Chris's aunt, and now your Dad is having some problems. I'm really sorry you both are having worries. I hope your Dad improves and is comfortable.

Still in Duluth with my Dad. He seemed to rally a couple days ago and even played a little cribbage wth assisstance, but he waxes and wanes. Yesterday it looked like we might have to opt for palliative care, but his CT scan didn't show anything new. He had a significant stroke affecting his left side, and his heart and kidneys are not in good shape either, so he is quite fragile. The doctors expect that they will have a better indication after a few more days which way he will go, but they don't expect much in the way of recovering ability to function, i.e., care for himself. Heading back to Rochester today. Other family will be around, and I expect to be coming back soon. Thanks for all your support. It means a lot.

Jean wrote: "Still in Duluth with my Dad. He seemed to rally a couple days ago and even played a little cribbage wth assisstance, but he waxes and wanes. Yesterday it looked like we might have to opt for pallia..."

A cribbage man? Take good care of him! There are way too few of them left.

Sending good thoughts your way Jean. Take good care. xx

I send my love and prayers, Jean.

Jean I hope things will get better for your dad and your family, I hope he gets well soon, take care my friend.

Jean, best wishes to you and your whole family! Hugs all around!

Jean - wishing you and your family the best.

Today I have a heavy heart. Yesterday our best friend(he was only 51 years old), who had gone to Mendoza, Argentina, for Christmas, to be with his dad...was killed in the living room of his dad's house, point blank...1 shot to the heart, yesterday morning . (6:00A.M.) in the morning. The detectives say it was a hit over money? The victim, our friend, Alberto, was there with 1 of his daughters and 2 grandchildren. The other daughter is living at her dad'd house, close to us in Toronto. My husband, Enrique is best friends with the daddy and saw the son, Alberto grow up.
It is the daughter's wish to bring their father back to Toronto, for the funeral, but based on the investigation going on there...who knows when?

Seems like a bad dream.We have been up all night. Can't sleep.

Sue wrote: "Today I have a heavy heart. Yesterday our best friend(he was only 51 years old), who had gone to Mendoza, Argentina, for Christmas, to be with his dad...was killed in the living room of his dad's h..."

Oh, Sue! My deepest sympathies to you and your family and to Alberto's loved ones. How shocking! A death like this and its aftermath needs prayers to sort through. So very, very sorry!

Linda

Sorry for your loss Sue, this is terrible, life can be worse than the scariest stories we read about... I feel sorry for the family, what can I say... last year my friend was killed by his own brother in front of their mother...another friend was killed and I still don't know why, his family are not talking about it... Personnaly I believe that every person is meant to die in a precised day, even if they stay home alone, nothing can change that.

Sue, I cannot imagine the shock and grief that you must be feeling at the loss of your friend. My thoughts are with you and Alberto's family as you mourn the loss of your loved one.

Linda wrote: "Sue wrote: "Today I have a heavy heart. Yesterday our best friend(he was only 51 years old), who had gone to Mendoza, Argentina, for Christmas, to be with his dad...was killed in the living room of..."

Thank you Linda. I can't get rid of my headache. Have to lie down.

Thank you Jean and Aymen.

Oh Sue I'm so sorry. What a hideous situation. Good thoughts, best wishes and hugs to you and yours at this difficult time. Take good care.

Sue, what a horrible horrible thing to happen to Alberto. My heart goes out to you and Enrique. I cannot even begin to understand how badly you both must feel. My deepest condolences and prayers to you, Enrique and Alberto's family. Come talk to me anytime. I'm always here for you. XOXO

Christine wrote: "Sue, what a horrible horrible thing to happen to Alberto. My heart goes out to you and Enrique. I cannot even begin to understand how badly you both must feel. My deepest condolences and prayers to..."

Thank you Christine. Our phone doesn't stop ringing. Neither one of us slept last night. Will try to lie down now, as I can't get rid of my headache. Love everyone here! X0X0

Janet wrote: "Oh Sue I'm so sorry. What a hideous situation. Good thoughts, best wishes and hugs to you and yours at this difficult time. Take good care."

Thank you Janet.

How sad and awful.

Life can really shock and sadden you.

Sue, my thoughts go to you and your husband Enrique

Hugs to you both

Sue - so very shocking. Condolences to all of you. Such a needless thing to happen. Wishing you the best and take care of yourself. I know you will be there for everyone else but remember you too need care. Love.

Oh my! What a needless act of violence, Sue. You and your friends are in my prayers.

Sean wrote: "How sad and awful.

Life can really shock and sadden you.

Sue, my thoughts go to you and your husband Enrique

Hugs to you both"

Thank you Sean for your warm thoughts.

Pat wrote: "Sue - so very shocking. Condolences to all of you. Such a needless thing to happen. Wishing you the best and take care of yourself. I know you will be there for everyone else but remember you too n..."

Thank you Pat for your kind thoughts.

Anne (Booklady) wrote: "Oh my! What a needless act of violence, Sue. You and your friends are in my prayers."

Thank you Anne. A great kind person.

Diane S ⛄ wrote: "I agree, I don't like taking over an established thread for more serious things. I have now been in the hospital for twenty days. An asthma acerbation that they cannot seem to reverse nor controlle..."

Hope you are feeling better soon Diane!!

Diane S ⛄ wrote: "Thanks everyone for your kind words, hugs and support. My medical team seems to be covering many different bases, photonics, probiotics, along with the traditional meds. We will see what happens wi..."

Hoping you feel better soon Diane !

Oh, Diane! You poor thing. I missed your original post, until now. You're in my prayers for a speedy recovery. I know what it is like to be hospital for months - I'm glad I had books to read in between PT.

Stephanie wrote: "Sue, so sorry to hear the horrible news about your friend. How tragic."

Thank you Stephanie. I feel lost.

Sue, I'm so sorry. I am speechless in the face of such tragic news. Take what comfort you can from the knowledge that many friends are sending you their best wishes.

Sue wrote: "Today I have a heavy heart. Yesterday our best friend(he was only 51 years old), who had gone to Mendoza, Argentina, for Christmas, to be with his dad...was killed in the living room of his dad's h..."

Sue, my heart goes out to you and your friend's family. Be kind to yourself. xo

And Diane...I hope you are soon better.

Tom wrote: "Sue, I'm so sorry. I am speechless in the face of such tragic news. Take what comfort you can from the knowledge that many friends are sending you their best wishes."

Thank you Tom.

Sandy *The world could end while I was reading and I would never notice* wrote: "Sue wrote: "Today I have a heavy heart. Yesterday our best friend(he was only 51 years old), who had gone to Mendoza, Argentina, for Christmas, to be with his dad...was killed in the living room of..."

Thanks Sandy.

Sue, I'm so sorry for your loss! The circumstances you describe sound tragic and I hope you find out quickly what happened. I also hope he's brought home. You, Enrique, and Alberto's family have my deepest sympathy.