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Discussion: Before You Suffocate Your Own Fool Self


Here's the link:
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I'll ask more specific questions and make observations of the stories when I get my book nearby...following the order that they appear in the book...feel free to skip around in your answers but a gently placed 'spoiler alert' for those who haven't finished might be helpful when talking about the latter stories.





This is the great thing about these stories. Each one could have easily been made into a full length novel.

I agree Toni that each of these economical short stories, less than 30 pages each, contain a lot of full length themes. I'll try to feature 2 of the 8 stories in the contents order each week, with a question or observation about them. But as a disccussant feel free to jump around. And those still reading jump in at any time, each story stands on its own.
I'm like so many others. Been waiting for just 1 of 9 copies to become available at my local library. Hope to start reading before the month is out.
For those in the DC area, Evans will be reading and signing her book at the Borders downtown on K Street Nov 8th @ 6:30pm.
For those in the DC area, Evans will be reading and signing her book at the Borders downtown on K Street Nov 8th @ 6:30pm.

As for Michael and white girls, I suppose we're all free to bring our own baggage to that, since we never meet any of them and he doesn't really talk about it. So, any opinion could be right, yours, mine or anyone else's or, we could all be wrong. just no way to know. it just is, within the story. girls are told to stay away from white guys, men apparently aren't told to stay away from white women.
I also liked Mr. Thompson and the Italians, white, ask the Ethiopian line. very nice. unexpected humor in a story largely lacking any.



I thought that "Virgins" was a good story also and was totally believable in terms of the situations that teenage girls can naively get themselves into. It was interesting to me that apparently this is the story for which Evans first attracted critical attention - it was published in the Paris Review. Perhaps this is why it was chosen to begin the collection, even though some of the other stories are even stronger.





Everything that Christine just said!

thoughts?

- The title "Snakes" (as in snake-in-the-grass, serpent-of temptation) is part of what made that story rock. Snakes are made, not born.
- The title really opened up for me this story as an exploration of some archetypal female "snake" relationships: the Disapproving Mother, the Self-Absorbed Career Woman, the Competitive Companion, etc.
- I thought it fascinating that the narrator was used as an object of manipulation, as a tool in other people's drama, so often that it became her identity and her story about herself in the world. I think the author is pointing to some relationship between multiracial identity and this state of being the object of other people's stories, with her own agency hidden.

i read Snakes last night but i don't remember thinking of tara as manipulating at any point. if i had a story like that, i would tell it and tell it again, too, and i wouldn't consider myself manipulative at all. painful stories (and this seems as painful as they come) need retelling. SPOILERS FROM NOW ON the real tragedy of Snakes, it seems to me, is that both of the girls are incredibly traumatized, and, until a certain point, they have each other, but then they are no longer enough for each other (because they are kids) and need their parents, but their parents are not there. tara's parents come back and clearly nurture her deeply. allison's parents, shockingly, simply get rid of her. when they find each other again, sadly, the girls fail to capitalize on shared trauma -- maybe because tara is over it and allison is clearly not.
remember when allison says to tara "you are my best friend" are tara says "no i am not" and then, as the narrator, she adds something to the effect that that had become true? i think this is one of those cases in which we should consider the hypothesis that tara is an unreliable narrator. she tells the story through the point of view of trauma. there is no reason why alison, who was her savior for weeks in the face of great opposition, should have stopped being considered a best friend. the only thing we know is that she eventually got tired of tara's phobia, but that's pretty understandable: they are 9!
as for the tree scene, the way she describes it the first time around is very different from the way she describes it the second time around, so we really do not know, i feel, what happened. we do not know if allison pushed her or not. what we know is how they feel about it: tara has constructed the memory to say that she jumped, allison has constructed the story to say that she pushed. this may say something about the racial dynamics depicted in the story -- the internalization of badness and guilt, and how these two qualities manifest themselves in the chosen (white) grandchild and in the rejected (black) grandchild.

Christine wrote: I didn't buy it that Angel didn't care much one way or another about what happened to her baby. I understand that a young woman dealing with an unexpected pregnancy may not know immediately what she's feeling and what she wants to do, but there's no way she's going to be as nonchalant as Angel was.
I worked in reproductive health clinics for many years, and young women really are this alienated from their bodies, their sexuality and their reproductive capacity.I think this story is strong where it shows us how alienated these two young women are from each other as women, and from their experience of potential motherhood. The two main characters settle for an old fashioned bonding around race, when there is the potential for them to be allies as women.
What is central to this story is not simply how white skin privilege affects Angel & Laura's respective places on the reproductive market; it is really about the effect of our market mentality about reproduction and contrasts it with our (equally wacky) idea that parenting marks the beginning of adult life.
Angel's decision does seem whimsical, but she is a remarkably immature person: she still wants to be a spy when she grows up, fer cryin' out loud! Getting pregnant doesn't make one develop earthshaking depth all of a sudden: it just makes you an immature mom. A mom who thinks her pregnancy and life as a mother can be subsidized with a single check, just as Laura thinks her experience of giving away her reproductive capacity can be exchanged for a check. In some ways, Laura is doing to Angel what others do to her: she is buying Angel's ability/choice to have a baby.
I thought the twist on race/class expectations about who society expects to get pregnant and drop out of college was interesting.

I really felt sorry for Georgie...he seemed so heartbreakingly sad and deluded.
Thanks for the great comments about Snakes and Harvest, Christine, Mistinguettes, and Jo..fell free to keep discussing the other stories..I'm just trying to introduce the new ones so that all are covered my the end of the month.

In King of a Vast Empire Evans portrays an entire family haunted by its past. It's collective participation in an automobile accident effects each differently but seemingly Terrence the most. She states that love is simply hurting those close to you in order to later make them feel better. She takes a girlfriend that seems to believe the same thing. Comparing her leaving her to the caterpillars she threw off the balcony in her youth. When the sisters conspire to track down the credit card thief whom they imagine to be the surviving child in the car accident were they really just trying to find a way home again?

just finished this one last night - I "read" Terrence as a male character; and the story's complexities interest me. just too caught up in work and whatnot to comment very fully - but had been thinking I was grateful as always for the opportunity to read an author I might otherwise have missed.
the story itself is so raw in some ways, and yet calloused over, as the characters might be, having lived with pain and relived this car thing through all their days..
William's question about a way home again makes sense.
I'm reading this on a kindle and sort of miss being able to easily flip back and forth - but am looking forward to the remaining stories.



I missed requesting this book when it first came out (do not know how I missed it) as a big user of the Mecklenburg library system I understand how quickly the request list grows once more annoucement for the book. So, I missed out getting this as a library book in time for our discussion so purchased a Kindle copy.

Over..."
I am only beginning to read this collection of short stories.
I am not a big fan of the short story genre. But have just finished first two storys - Virgin and Snakes.
If you think that Virgin is one of the weakest stories in the collection - then this is a promising start to me.
What I did not like about Virgin is that it left too many unanswered questions for me.
I am liking Ms. Evans writing style and hope her next publication will be a novel.

Something happened in the Goodreads "upgrade" that made it really difficult for me to log back onto this discussion board. I was gone for several months because of this. Goodreads still occasionally rejects my password several times in a row, then unpredictably accepts it - and it's not a typing error because the password is generated by a cookie, not my manual entry. I *still* don't get emails about new posts when I am following a thread. And the website no longer loads on my Droid at all anymore, so I can't chat with you all while I'm at the airport (which is 50% of my life). So, we have probably lost some folks who kept trying to be here, but couldn't get in.
Back later with a question about a story.


i think "Virgins" is a fabulous story. not the weakest in the collection by far.
i thought "Jellyfish" was about a chasm in communication. those two, much as they love each other, just can't click. did i read it wrong?

As far as Jellyfish..which two are you talking about Jo?


it's actually rather moving how he has it all figured out about her moving in. he is excited about this new house he finally bought because he was, i assume, too depressed or too stuck to move out of the broken-down too-small apartment that eventually collapsed on his head, and assumes, as we often do, that this new beginning for him is a new beginning for everyone in his life, too. but like mina says, time has in the meantime passed, and he has lost the kid he thought he had, and cannot see the kid he does now have.
i like that evans analyses this phenomenon, because i recognize it. you make a big change and it turns the world around so much for you that you see everything new, and assume everyone will see it new too, and it's just so exciting and wonderful. but then it all comes crashing down, because of course making a big change of this kind (a cosmetic change forced by circumstances) is not making a real change, and when people fail to play along (as they will), well, you realize nothing has changed for you too.
evans spares us the moment of the crash. she just shows the makings of it, the little manic phase of the father who is now liberated of the old apartment; his being late to see his breathing, living daughter because he has to go hunt down pictures of her she is not interested in. and then she shows us how children are often abandoned by parents who can't keep it together.
but there's no judgment, just the presentation of people adrift, and trying, and just simply failing.

Maybe it is because I could not relate to any of the characters.

i think "Virgins" is a fabulous story. not the weakest in the collection by far.
i thought "Jellyfish" was about a chasm in communication. those two, much as they lov..."
I too enjoyed Virgin - Thought this would be a wonderful story to read with young girls, as many discussion points.
The only thing that puzzled me about the story was the leaving behind the "friend" in the apartment, and then not finding out what happened to the friend.

So far Snakes is the fav of the three stories I read so far. Many layers to this story and the ending had me saying wow. The author did a great job of reeling me in and then having the ending be a surprise. But, I guess that can happen as Tara was the narrator and this was from her pov.
I thought the part about the grandmother not knowing how to deal with Tara's hair as being realistic. There is no reason why the grandmother should know how to handle the hair. In fact, Tara makes the comment that her mother does not know how to do her hair. I can understand the grandmother being upser about the braids. But, the mother should have known how her mother would react to the braids, and better have prepared her daughter what she was going to encounter being with her grandmother.
In some ways, being innocent and naive helped Tara survive the comments by the grandmother's "friends".

well, this is partly how evans writes -- she is not into neat conclusions, and also she's a lot about how life is not kind to bonds between people. in fact, i'd say this is a motif.
as for Snakes, it's a fantastic story. i feel the mother knew exactly what she was doing -- she was just too blind to the consequences this would have on her daughter and too taken with her own disappointment in her mother to do the right thing. someone said above that both girls were pawns in their parents' lives.
you know what i think? i think that tara had her blackness (and ultimately really caring parents) to shelter her. by her blackeness' sheltering her i mean, you know you have a reason why someone dislikes you. it's not you in your entirety as a human being. and you also know there are others like you who will like you very much. allison didn't have that. and she ended up badly fucked up.


Which leads me to wonder: Do we dislike the way that these short stories quickly immerse us in someplace unfamiliar? Do we need to "relate" to the characters in order to hear their stories? Are we willing to take the risk, as readers, to take a brief journey with them into identities and experiences that are not our own?
I am also wondering about whether we have assumptions about what "black" writing looks like that is challenged by these punchy, spare stories. When I think of our discussion of the short stories in Junot Diaz' Drown, we weren't interested in judging the characters; we were interested in understanding them. Before You Suffocate clearly invites us into a generational experience, and a trans-racial identity, that is foreign to many of us as readers, yet our topics of discussion seem to focus on whether characters are "right" or "wrong" rather than how they are similar to, or different from, us as readers.

Sidebar: to the discussants...would the actions of the females in the stories be considered "feminist". None are protesting or acting in an overtly political way. All seem to be making hard choices and sometimes initiating personal and sexual situations. Although I see young women unburdened by past sex role limitations I wouldn't think of this collection of stories as a feminist tract. Has just living a strong guilt-free life become the symbol of todays feminism?
I don't dislike the short-story genre at all...what I think makes this collection different than most is that Evans doesn't go for the neatly wrapped up happy ending in her stories that we see in most other collections.


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