Q&A with Syrie James discussion

I know from personal experience that deep, profound love can blossom in a short span of time, as long as the couple really talk to each other and reveal their true selves. That period of initial communication and discovery between new lovers is something I find thrilling, and I put great emphasis on it in all my novels.

Writing NOCTURNE has got me thinking about the essence of true love and what it means. Have you found true love? If so, how do you define it?

Oh Syrie...so difficult to put into words! Here are my initial thoughts. True Love: when 2 people understand each other inside & out better than anyone else in the world, when every moment you spend with that person is vibrant & makes you feel like a teenager, someone you would go to the ends of the earth & wait a lifetime for if you had to, someone who still gives you butterflies everytime they are near but everytime they are away from you - you can feel an empty spot in your chest, someone who makes you glow & even the smallest memory or thought of them brings a smile to your face. When you have found your true love - there are no boundaries on time or distance.

Amber wrote: "Oh Syrie...so difficult to put into words! Here are my initial thoughts. True Love: when 2 people understand each other inside & out better than anyone else in the world, when every moment you spen..."

What lovely sentiments. I so agree! I would add: You are each other's best, most trusted friend, as well as lovers. You balance and complete each other. You love, admire, respect, and appreciate each other, and fully support each other's needs and dreams. You are both willing and happy to put the other's happiness and well being first. You know that you can count on each other to always be there in time of need.You are successful as individuals, but happier together than apart. Your affection and passion for each other are so strong, you can't imagine spending the rest of your life without each other.

Syrie wrote: "Amber wrote: "Oh Syrie...so difficult to put into words! Here are my initial thoughts. True Love: when 2 people understand each other inside & out better than anyone else in the world, when every m..."

Agreed!!!

I think it's true love when it hits you like a ton of bricks that any day or future cannot be imagined without that person - that one's mind can't even get around that thought. That person is a part of you and you literally have a hard time functioning (breathing?) without that person. You seem just fine to the outside world but inside it isn't right until you are together again.

Long separations (thanks US Army) were very difficult but just made it stronger!

Megan wrote: "I think it's true love when it hits you like a ton of bricks that any day or future cannot be imagined without that person - that one's mind can't even get around that thought.... Long separations (thanks US Army) were very difficult but just made it stronger! "

I know what you mean! My husband and I attended different universities, and the nine months we were apart before I finally graduated (early, after taking 26 units in one quarter so we could get married) were excruciating painful. We feel very lucky to be together today, and can't even imagine ever taking a vacation apart, as some couples do.