Terminalcoffee discussion

How long did it last?

I like weird people. If you’re female, and have spent time in a mental institution we’ve probably dated.

Weird doesn't have to be negative.

prob need to ask my wife this question :)

notice nobody's actually answered the question yet. Okay, I will. I only had one date with him. We kept running into parties and the flirting was very nice, but as soon as it got past that and into real conversation, uh...no... I don't even know what to say. I don't want to make fun of him or anything. He just had no idea of conventional manners. He literally licked his plate clean, he was one of those science fiction/fantasy/gaming people who thinks everybody not into that stuff is boring, unintelligent and a soul-dead automaton. And he brought a porn movie. On a first date. I once read a magazine article about "what makes a man unfuckable." If I had contributed, that would be what I'd have given them. I've got nothing against a bit of spicing things up, but to bring one the first night...well, I probably don't need to explain the problem with that.

His parents both died in his teens/early 20s and he was just a wild uncivilized boy - no, man - he was in his 40s, and by that time it's just not cute any more. He complained about how cheated he's been in life by that, which is true, but there were a lot of things he wanted to do that he could have if he'd gone about it more intelligently, but he was just sort of frozen by feeling crippled by his circumstances. I guess that's always easier for other people to see and say those things.

That's a great start Rebecca. I dated a few weird guys. But they were weird in a very boring way.

Although we did have a very enlightening discussion where he answered a lot of questions I had about S & M.

Sales & Marketing?

Stamps & Money?

the image of him being involved with any of the above is extremely incongruous.

1. Guy who arrived for our date on his BMX. I rode to dinner on those little sticky outy things on the back wheel. It didn’t get any better.

2. Guy who insisted that I attend church with him on Sunday mornings... he acted holier than holy when I protested, but he had some weird fantasy about doing it in church. As everyone was on their knees praying he’d start trying to get fresh with me. Um, didn’t happen.

3. Guy traded me for an unspecified amount of pot and a bottle of Peach Schnapps to a drug dealer named Bouncin’ Bob. No we didn’t go out again.

Fun times.

I dated a guy that lied alot, and they were the worst lies ever. He use to brag about his truck that had speakers that covered the whole bed of his truck. When I was going to his house conveniently enough his mother had sold his truck and replaced it with the exact same make and model without his sound system. Douche.

Helena wrote: "1. Guy who arrived for our date on his BMX. I rode to dinner on those little sticky outy things on the back wheel. It didn’t get any better.

2. Guy who insisted that I attend church with him on S..."

Number 3 had to be the worst.

Rebecca wrote: "notice nobody's actually answered the question yet. Okay, I will. I only had one date with him. We kept running into parties and the flirting was very nice, but as soon as it got past that and i..."

How did you meet him Rebecca? Did any alarms go off before your date?

Arminius wrote: "Helena wrote: "1. Guy who arrived for our date on his BMX. I rode to dinner on those little sticky outy things on the back wheel. It didn’t get any better.

2. Guy who insisted that I attend chu..."

Ah, wasn't as bad as it sounds- I was about 17, so it was actually quite funny at the time.

Aynge wrote: "Rebecca wrote: "notice nobody's actually answered the question yet. Okay, I will. I only had one date with him. We kept running into parties and the flirting was very nice, but as soon as it got..."

I'd seen him several times in parties and other group situations and we did have an attraction but it never went beyond flirting and joking. I hadn't been alone with him before. The only thing that seemed strange was that he kept saying he knew me from a polyamorous group, and I wasn't in the polyamorous group. I'd keep telling him, no, we met _____________ but next time I'd see him he'd talk about how we met at the polyamorous group.

Does polyamorous = swinger?

In the prom thread, I mentioned that my grad was a total wash. I asked the guy to escort me. He was good looking and nice enough. I gave him my camera to take pictures of me during the ceremony. When I got the film back, there was nothing but pictures of our female border on it. While he was waiting for me to get ready, he snapped a bunch of her pictures. We didn't get to the dance because he had other ideas about finding some parties. I think the border was supposed to be at them.

Then there was the guy I dated for a couple of months. He said that I was one of three girls he was in love with and he couldn't decide between us. We all solved it for him and dumped him. It was lucky for us because he turned out to be a drunk and wife beater.

Aynge wrote: "Does polyamorous = swinger?"

The distinction is that it's about being in more than one committed relationship, rather than having short-term hookups. But usually there's a little of that going on too!

I dated & then lived with this guy many moons ago. I didn't know he was a freak till almost 2.5 years later. He would call my sister at her work and act like someone else, then tell her all the sexual stuff he wanted to do to her! OMG when she told me i almost kicked his ass. But she made me wait till she recorded him & played it for me, then i kicked his ass!