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message 1: by Keri (new)

Keri | 10 comments I have been searching for a book to help through a certain situation and haven't had much luck. Without giving to many details here is what happened...
Have always been close to my parents. Parents have recently accused me of something that I would never think of doing. My Mom has developed a prescription drug addiction, which I believe is the root cause. Now we will never speak again It has even caused issues between my one and only sister and myself. They are all also in denial about her addiction.

I am looking for a book to help me through this. I know I won't find answers but maybe some self-help processes to help my heart break, fear of my children missing out on grandparents, etc. If anyone has any suggestions, I would greatly appreciate it!

Thanks in advance,
Keri


message 2: by Suzanne (new)

Suzanne (esmerelda1) | 19 comments I had a really bad fight with my mother about 6 years ago and we didn't speak for a long time. Ended up my mother had breast cancer and didn't know it so I always wondered if maybe that had something to do with it unconsciously. At any rate, we're fine and she's fine and it took awhile but our relationship mended.

As a daughter and as a mother, it is a very strong bond that should not easily be broken. It would break my heart if anything ever happened between my daughter and I and I try to make my relationship with my mother one of my top priorities in life.

I hope that whatever happens that you will be ok. Even when I was not speaking to my mother, I never gave up on her because I knew that in the past she never gave up on me when I had serious problems. It sounds like with a drug addiction, your mother has screwed up. Be there for her and accept her forgiveness, even if the requirements mean that she needs to go to a counselor and seek treatment. I had to tell my mother that I would speak to her again if she went to a doctor to find out if she had chronic depression. Turns out she had that AND breast cancer so it ended up saving her life.

At any rate, I found this book very helpful and I'm not sure if it's in print anymore:

When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life by Victoria Secunda and The Mother Dance How Children Change Your Life by Harriet Goldhor Lerner

God Bless!


message 3: by Keri (new)

Keri | 10 comments Thank you so much! I will check out both of the books. I know it will take time and there is a chance we will never speak again, it's just hard as you know! Figured reading some self-help books wouldn't hurt! Thanks for your reply and recommendations! It means alot to me!

Keri


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