Terminalcoffee discussion

What do you think other people find annoying in you?

i am SURE that people are annoyed because i talk loud

The fact that I frequently suffer from the notion that I have wise things to say. I don't. I just have a big mouth.

I tend to mumble and speak too fast, especially if I'm under influence of tiredness, stress, nervousness or absentmindedness.

(My husband claims he says "What?" at an alarmingly increased rate after he met me)

What?

I'm sort of withdrawn which seems to give people the impression I'm not interested or that I want to be reclusive.

That I'm withdrawn and quiet, that I mumble and often suffer from the delusion that I have something wise to say, (which is even more annoying when I just give them the look which only two people in the world understand), and that when they do hear me it's always a brilliant but overly elaborate intelligent for the sake of being intelligent quip which they often lack the mental capacity to understand.

I'm a little bit of a complainer. I try not to be, and I think I've gotten better about it over time, but it's a bad habit I picked up from my mom and I'm sure it's annoying as hell.

I like to be in charge... it's the LEO in me! I have, however, gotten better at letting it go as I have gotten older.

I talk a lot. And I don't care who I talk to; I'll talk to anyone and nowadays people think that's weird. Talking to strangers is a lost art :(
I complain a lot, too, but I'm trying to work on that and be more positive.

I do that talking thing too Annie... it drives my daughter CRAZY!

I try very hard not to cut people off but I know what they're gonna say already so I stop them from talking. I'm only half-kidding when I say that.

Also, I thrive on autonomy. You can do it your way, knock yourself out, but I'm perfectly happy over here doing things my way. Like Petra I've grown better than before about letting things go that aren't that important.

I'm not very social and I can come off as aloof when in fact I'm just not all that great in social situations.

RandomAnthony wrote: "I try very hard not to cut people off but I know what they're gonna say already so I stop them from talking. I'm only half-kidding when I say that.

Also, I thrive on autonomy. You can do it yo..."

I always do that! I even correct the thing they're about to say sometimes.

i'm a bit the same way. when someone is telling a story i think is really boring with too many details i am internally like a caged raccoon pacing inside the bars thinking "cccccccmon cletus"

i also have a little tic deal where i attempt to pop my neck obsessively. i've been told that is annoying also

When I'm busy at work, too, I'll do that thing when I'm slowy, and not so slowly, backing away from people when they're talking to me.

Kevin "El Liso Grande" wrote: "i also have a little tic deal where i attempt to pop my neck obsessively. i've been told that is annoying also"

I do that during the boring too-many-details stories. It's like I'm trying to tip the cage so that the raccoon can escape.

me three, get to the point already!

Barb wrote: "I also cut people off more than I should. I don't mean to do it, and I always kick myself afterwards. I think it's because I already know what the person is saying, and I'm compelled to say what ..."

It's obnoxious if, like me, the thing that pops into your head is usually a snide comment, is it?

Wow. You people are all really annoying. What the hell am I doing here, anyway?

Larry wrote: "Wow. You people are all really annoying. What the hell am I doing here, anyway?"

If you don't know I'm quite sure some of these nice people will happily offer up a few suggestions.

Barb wrote: "Yes Mark, it's sometimes a snide remark ... or some odd statement / joke that only I get or think is amusing. I get a lot of "huh?" looks.

Add me to the get to the point club. I start doing th..."

I'm quite fond of those looks. Since most of my 'Comments',(they actually refer to them this way), are about the general lack of intelligence present at the table. I take the looks to be confirmation of my point.

Oh, and I'm a stewer. In other words, I'm not a confrontational (or even assertive, really) person, so when I get angry I bottle it up and allow it to grow before finally exploding in a horrible, teary pile of frustrated rage. My husband finds this infinitely annoying, since he's the kind of guy that doesn't care what anyone thinks and says immediately what's on his mind.

understanding what makes you annoying and what is wrong with you should keep you somewhat humble in realizing that we all have flaws. makes me more tolerant of the flaws of others :)

True, Kevin. And thinking you don't have any annoying flaws is so arrogant.

well said, K. I'm off to work to annoy my coworkers :)

Petra gets paid to be annoying.

RandomAnthony wrote: "

Also, I thrive on autonomy. You can do it your way, knock yourself out, but I'm perfectly happy over here doing things my way. Like Petra I've grown better than before about letting things go that aren't that important.
"

Yo, RA, I feel you on that one! That's my version of compromise. And then someone had to tell me that's not compromise.

Oh, I'm so fucking annoying. I have to control every little thing. I complain a LOT. I'm a spoiled BRAT! B-R-A-T, I am so fucking bratty it's insane. Like really. My brother's fiancee, who is as stubborn as I am, said to me the other day, "Brittany, do you know that sometimes I just let you keep talking? Like, I just let you win, and I NEVER do that to people." I'm lazy as hell. I CANNOT take criticism.

When people introduce themselves to me, I don't listen at their names. At the end of the conversation, I'm always like, "I'm sorry, I don't remember your name." And I feel so fucking bad!!!

I talk a lot.

I weigh EVERYTHING out. I'm big on process. We could do this...OR...

I don't think I cut people off, but I zone out and start thinking of something else. Then ask, "What did you just say?" I'm also opinionated.

I'm annoying because I talk too fast, I roll my eyes if I think you're dumb and I speak with an authoritative tone and use declarative sentences- which means I can make things up and have them sound official.

I have no shame in giving you fantastic relationship and child-rearing tips though I'm single and childless.

I pick the HELL out of chicken or turkey before I eat it because I don't want to put a vein in my mouth (there's a TWSS in there somewhere??).

I will open a beer at your house, take one swig and pour the rest down the sink when you're not watching.

I am known to flip out about nothing, but as soon as I'm done flipping out, I'm over it (which makes me look even crazier).

I will pick the wrong guy EVERY TIME... even if I trick myself and pick the other one, it's still THE WRONG GUY. Then I will whine to you about how I picked the wrong one.

The list goes on and on and on...

Yikes, Kristina.

Wait ... what was that middle part?

ms.petra wrote: "I do that talking thing too Annie... it drives my daughter CRAZY!"

I LOVE to have a wonderful conversation with someone I've just met. Makes my daughters and my husband climb the walls with embarrassment.

LOL @Kristina. You and I could totally be friends IRL.

I crack my knuckles, shoulders, and neck- very irritating to my husband.

I have some issues with personal security/space. I might overreact you if you sneak up on me.

I hold grudges when I’m wronged in some way and it’s irritating to family members. I don’t stew about these things, I simply cut those people out of my life without a backwards glance. I’m happier that way and that’s all that matters.

I’m a tad selfish.

I have a really hard time making simple decisions, like what to order at a restaurant, what movie to see, what I should wear, etc. It takes me forever to decide and then I'll decide and I'm sure and then a minutes later I'm like, no, nevermind, I changed my mind.

Also please note not to wrong Helena. She holds grudges! (So do I, I'm afraid.)

No worries Barb! They won’t give me a gun :( I usually just have a big temper tantrum.

Janice, I tend to zone out in the same way- but I never ask what they were talking about, I try to pretend that I was listening!

I do the devil's advocate thing here, too. But I doubt I have to tell people here that:)

i def do the devil's advocate deal. my wife and daughter tell me all the time. i need to become a better listener without trying to solve or give an alternate opinion. i will say when i have tried to just listen and say nothing they are like "what?" when i am silent

I just lie back and think of England.

Kristina wrote: "I will open a beer at your house, take one swig and pour the rest down the sink when you're not watching."

That shit ain't right. Unless it's lite beer, of course.

I don't even open the lite beer. I just toss the whole can in the recyling bin.

Cynthia wrote: "I don't even open the lite beer. I just toss the whole can in the recyling bin."

Are we actually twins, separated at birth?

Clark wrote: "Kristina wrote: "I will open a beer at your house, take one swig and pour the rest down the sink when you're not watching."

That shit ain't right. Unless it's lite beer, of course."

But I only find that first swig delicious! I told you... it's annoying!!

Clark wrote: "Cynthia wrote: "I don't even open the lite beer. I just toss the whole can in the recyling bin."

Are we actually twins, separated at birth?"

You know it. Today is my birthday, yours too?

Cynthia wrote: "I just lie back and think of England."

TWSS!

RandomAnthony wrote: "I do the devil's advocate thing here, too. But I doubt I have to tell people here that:)"

I play devil's advocate just because I love to argue. O.o I wish I could say that I just like broadening conversations or gaining insight into the other side's perspective, but the truth is, I just love confrontation.

I might say I'm playing the devil's advocate, but usually it's my opinion. I approach it that was so people don't look at me with the "are you eff'ing crazy look".