College Students! discussion

Jamie... I am so sorry. Suicide is so horrible. One of my friends attempted suicide when we were in high school, I thank God that he didn't succeed.

You and those who love her will be in my prayers.

Thanks guys. Everything is just so surreal. We were really close in high school and our families have been so close for a while so even while we both went our separate ways with college we were still friends. Her family was a big support for us when my mom passed away. My stepdad just was talking to her on Saturday and she was telling him to give me her number because she was home now and wanted to hang out. I just honestly can't believe it right now. We just went over to the house tonight and it just broke my heart. I just don't get it. She just graduated from nursing school and her brother just got married yesterday and she was just an amazing person that was so bubbly and genuine.

Jamie. I am so sorry. I hope you are doing okay. I am sending my thoughts and prayers towards her family and you. Take care of yourself.

Thanks Silvia.

and I forgot to mention that this Friday will be 4 years since my mother passed away. This week is going to be horrible. Please be praying for strength because I'm going to need it.

Oh Jamie, I will. I'll also ask my Bible study group to pray for you and for you friend's family.

Terrible news Jamie, suicide is always a shock and it sounds like she had so much going but it makes one realize how many layers people can have. My thoughts are with you and her family, and when I go to the beach tomorrow I'll send out a prayer.

Oh my gosh. Jamie, I'm so sorry. I'll be thinking of you and her friends and family ... and your family too.

Oh I'm so Sorry Jamie, That's so tough. I'll be praying for you and her family tonight!

I just found out that a girl I knew from high school was killed by a drunk driver while riding her bike today. She had just graduated a few weeks ago..

So sad, I am sorry for both your pain. Hope things look up soon.

I am so sorry for you both, Jaime & Kelly. My best wishes for you and your families in these tough times.

I'm so sorry Kelly :(

Oh Kelly, I am so sorry.

That is terrible Kelly. Ugh, I just have no tolerance for drunk drivers. Seriously.

The fact that it was a drunk driver makes it even more horrible. Also, it happened at about 2 o'clock today...what kind of person is drunk at that hour?
But thanks guys, please keep her family in your prayers.

I will, Kelly.

I will, Kelly.

I am sorry, may she Rest In Peace.

I'm so sorry, both Kelly and Jamie. That's so sad. :(

OK, if it couldn't get any more horrible..it did. Some friends of hers set up a a tribute page to her on Facebook. A group of people (a bunch of random people from overseas I think) have been spamming the page and saying horrible things about her appearance, calling her a lesbian, and plain disrespecting her. I feel so bad..I mean her father and sisters saw it...it's so awful. :/

That is so horrible!! Why do people do stuff like that?! Ugh. Sometimes I'd like to punch people in the face.

What?? I don't understand people like that. I'm so sorry, my thoughts will be with her family... that's horrible.

Are you kidding me? What kind of person does something like that?? How horrible.

Oh my goodness. I am so sorry for all that you and her family are going through Kelly! What a horrid situation! You all are in my thoughts.

What terrible people. I'm so sorry this has happened, Kelly... we're all thinking of you and your friend's family. :(

I don't understand some people. That is horrible. Sort of like those that protest the war at a soldiers funeral. The families and friends should be able to grieve and remember the person, not have to deal with senseless idiots.

Lori, Sorry about your teams loss.

Thank you Tami. It was really sad that Bob Sheppard, longtime voice of the Yankees, died the day before Steinbrenner. (I feel weird talking about this in the Support Group thread, so I'm going to stop here)

I don't know if this is the right place to put this...

I returned from Haiti (I only spent 8 or 9 days there) a week ago, and ever since I've just been kind of depressed. And people are annoying me WAY more easily.

I wish I was still in Haiti. It's weird, because I saw a lot of things that were just... it was just hard to believe they were real. People really live like that. They have to. And I did as much as I could to help out in the short time I was there, and now I'm back in the American suburbs and ... I don't know...

All of my friends complain about the silliest, smallest things. I used to/still complain about the silliest things. Trying to stop. BECAUSE WE HAVE SO MUCH HERE. But I don't want to scream that at my friends and get all preachy on them. It's not our fault we were born here. But I don't think that means we should live with side blinders and pretend like the rest of the world is as lucky as we are.

I went to a party one of the firsts nights I was back and a few of my friends were almost upset that I wasn't 100% perky and ready to party. Normally I'm a really happy person, but I was still processing the whole experience and wanting to share and very few people cared. Or at least it seemed that way.

I feel bad, do I have a legitimate reason to be annoyed by some of my friends??

I'm meeting up with a few of the people I went on the trip with this Thursday. I can't wait to see them because on facebook they were telling me they're going through the same thing.

Ashley, last summer my cousin went to Kenya for a month and when she came back she felt the same exact way you're feeling right now. Her blackberry used to be glued to her hand, but after the trip she didn't even carry it around with her half the time (but she constantly has it on her again! haha). She would get mad at some of her friends for complaining about really dumb things too.

Ashley, I think that's completely understandable. It's easy for us to take so much of what we have for granted, and I can see how spending time in a place like Haiti will make you see how much we do have. I would probably be annoyed at everyone too.

Ashley, have you tried to talk to them about what is bothering you? Maybe suggest another trip to Haiti that they can accompany you on. Or, since Haiti might not be possible, some type of charity work closer to home. Isn't it fun to mature without those around you maturing at the same rate? Hang in there. Things will get better.

My boyfriend's dad has been battling cancer for awhile now. They thought it was gone but it came back last year and he is back to fighting with it. A couple weeks ago the doctor's said there wasn't much more they could do and they pretty much gave him a timeline. His parents went to UCLA last week to talk to doctor's about experimental treatment only to find out there isn't anything available right now.

My bf seems to be in denial. He has acknowledged that this is serious but he rarely talks to me about it and when he does he just says he knows his dad will pull through. He says he is mad at his family for just giving up and treating him as if he is going to die. I am worried about him. I know everyone deals with things different but it kind of worries me. He and I started dating in December so I have only been there through part of this. I want to be there for him but I am not always sure how as the only experience I have had with a family member dying of cancer is when I was 3.

Hmm wow. Well, this is a hard situation. I will be praying for your bf and his family. I just went through this with my boyfriend..his dad passed away in March from ALS. He was the same way--he was in denial and didn't want to talk about it. I had lost my mom in 2006 to cancer so I felt like I could related to what he was going through alot. I think that you can definitely be there for him even if you haven't. The important thing is to just be there when he does need you. For me that meant things like: talking when he needed to talk about something bothering him about things regarding his dad and the whole family situation which was kind of tense for many reasons, going home to spend time with his dad whenever he wanted to, asking how he was doing on occasion but not pressing the issue, and a whole slew of other things. The important thing is to understand that, if you do fight or you find him getting mad easily or irritated, letting him know that he isn't mad at you but that he just has alot of stress going on. I found myself biting my tongue about things that I would have normally started a fight about and being more patient if he was irritated easily but letting him know that it wasn't me that was making him upset. It's easy for those emotions to come out during a silly fight. I know that when my mom was sick it was CRAZY the amount of things that would come out randomly. When people hold things in (like your bf seems to be doing) it's hard to control when they come out.

As far as him not talking about it---that was hard for me as when my mom was sick I always talked about it with my best friend. I had people to "lean on" during that time. I thought something was horribly wrong because he wouldn't talk to me about it but I realized that was how he coped with things. He did talk when he really needed to but I needed to wait for those moments. On occasion I would ask him how he was doing but say that we didn't have to talk about it and let him know that whenever he did I'd be willing. I think for him, taking care of his dad until his last days, was how he was coping with it. It amazes me how he took care of his dad--such hard things he had to witness and do.

Anyways..I feel like I've rambled but I just really feel for you. It is a really tough position. Please message me anytime you ever want to talk about it.

That is so sad, my thoughts and prayers are with them too. I hate the C word. :(

I think that it may be a difference between the sexes. Girls like to discuss problems, and think of different ways to handle the situations. Guys tend to do all the discussions and problem solving in their own heads, very seldom do they use sounding boards.

Now that I have generalized, I admit I work through problems better by myself. I have friends and family that this drives insane, but I work better that way. I like what Jamie said, just make sure he knows if he does want or need to talk to someone, you are there. Also let him know that he can count on you to help if he needs it for something. I guarantee he is constantly thinking about it even if he doesn't think out loud.

Jamie wrote: "Hmm wow. Well, this is a hard situation. I will be praying for your bf and his family. I just went through this with my boyfriend..his dad passed away in March from ALS. He was the same way--he was..."

Thank you! I will probably take you up on that.

Yesterday there was a bad accident at a train crossing near where I live, a man was killed. We found out today that its a family friend. He owned an auto shop and has worked on our cars and motor homes for more than 20 years. You hear about stuff like this all the time, but when it's such a shock when it's someone you know.

And what's almost even worse, on the article online there are people commenting and saying terrible things. Some are trying to say it was a suicide attempt, others are saying how stupid he was. Of course what he didn't wasn't smart, but saying that about a man that has just died is horrible.

Was it the trax/truck accident? The news last night made it out like a suicide too. I am so sorry for your loss! Hopefully they can figure out why it happened instead of just speculating. Until it happens to someone they know, people don't think of how their comments can hurt others. It is sad.

Also, doesn't it seem that there are way too many accidents involving the trax system?

Tami- Yes, that was it. I'm not sure if it was a suicide or not. I hope that isn't the case, I think that would only make everything even more difficult for his family.

There have been a lot of accidents with the Frontrunner lately. The last one was near me too. A 14 year old boy was hit. He grew up a couple of miles away from me. A lot of my friends have younger siblings that went to school with him.

Gosh. A similar incident happened near where I am. An old woman was driving her car and she got hit by a train.

It wasn't even her fault! The railroad track had no warning lights or those arms that go down when a train is coming. Basically she didn't know until she saw the lights and by then it was too late to stop her car. It was really sad :(.

My job at McDonald's is going great. My co-workers are really nice and have been very helpful. I'm getting the hang of things, especially the cash register. I like the night shift...it's slow and not many people come in...lol .

My brothers dog (whom I'm very attached too, and watch all the time) Just went through a seizure for the first time. I'm studying to be a vet tech so I see this all the time, but you hate to see it happen to your own pet! If you can't get them to a hospital fast enough there could be long term affects I just hope she makes a full recovery. I'd be too upset if anything were to happen to her!

Just got word that it was actually 7 seizures in a row. =(

Aww I hope she is ok! Let us know! :( That is sad.

:( I hope she's going to be okay!!

Thanks! She's doing better, but she'll probably have seizures all her life. She has to take antiseizure medicine forever too, but she is doing better and that's all that matters!

Kimberly, I know how you feel about your family friend. I hope it wasn't suicide for everyone's sake, that's such a hard thing to deal with. My mum attempted suicide over and over when she was ill last year (thankfully unsuccessfully) and it's so easy to be angry, but there's always something deeper going on. Usualy it's the last act of a desperately unbalanced mind, which is a physical fault in the brain rather than something wrong with them personally. I don't know if that helps but knowing my mum had chemical imbalances making her act that way, and not thinking that she hated us all and didn't care if we needed her, definitely made things easier. My thought are with you! x

We just found out that my aunt has a very aggressive form of Leukemia, they've only given her about a week.

Kimberly, my thoughts are with you and your family!!

Oh Kimberly, I'm so sorry. I'll pray for your aunt, you and your family.

Oh no Kimberly... You, your aunt and your family will be in my thoughts.