College Students! discussion

ughh kate..i totally understand that one..why not just tell me that you hated me for the past four years!? ughh i just have so many bad experiences with girls!

i think that's why i tell my sister everything..because i can be positive that she won't tell anyone..and even if her and i fight..she always has my back.

aww i have so many memories like that from kindergarten..i was pretty mean back then..one day you were friends with someone..the next day you hated them..and then the very next day all the friends who were on your side suddenly switched sides and then you sat all by yourself on the playground..after the weekend..everyone was friends again. haha

I'm the exact same way...I don't have that many girlfriends. The ones that I have all have with exceptions of one, have boyfriends or are married. It's so hard when you have a boyfriend to have single friends b/c the girls around here are always wanting to go out to the bars and frat houses and things and well I had my fun doing that while I was younger and single but now that I have been in a relationship for close to 3 years now my priorities are different. I enjoy those quiet evenings at home, or tailgaiting at football games with close friends, going to see a movie, dinner....the more calmer things in life :o) I'm not sure if this has happened to any of you but girls tend to be involved in a lot of drama and stab you in your back anyway that they can. I'm pretty sure that I checked drama at the door when I left High School.

I just applied to CSUEB online. Now I just wait to see if they accept me. I'm sure they will. I got good grades and a good GPA at the community college I am currently at. I plan on getting a Bachelors in Human Development-Childhood Development Option and also plan on getting a Teaching Credential in Multiple Subject. Next Monday I meet with a gal to discuss some stuff. So I am excited. My transfer process is taking off. I can't wait to attend CSUEB. :)

i'm sure they will accept you!!
keep us updated!:)

Jamie, you and I are exactly alike in that sense. I am a super nice person that has gotten walked all over many times, and so I, too, have developed a sort of defense mechanism which sadly, i think I probably come off as bitchy even though thats not who I am.

Im really shy too, Saved by Grace, but conversing online (especially about things Im interested in- like books) seems a lot easier than sparking conversation in the "real world" with people I don't know.

good luck, ashley! we're all sure you'll get in :)

Haha yep. I actually met my boyfriend online accidentally (we both were definitely not looking for boyfriends/girlfriends online). I met his sister in a group much like this one, and she thought that her brother and I would have a lot in common, so she thought we might like to talk or something. We just got to chatting, and that was that. I moved to California to be with him, and now we've been together for 6 years. Craziness.
Anywho, my point is that everyone online is not a 50 year old rapist like my parents seem to think. It's like...yeah, there are definitely crazy stalker people online, but I think the majority of people are just normal people.

Saved by Grace- Thats fine if you call me Ash. Most people do after awhile...lol.

And I am understand about the whole meeting people online thing. My sister is always getting on my case about it...lol.

And I will be sure to update everyone about CSUEB :)

kels..that is awesome! i remember when myspace and all that crap came out i was thinking that it would be all 50 yr rapists and creeps..but i've learned that not all ppl online are creepy.lol..but it takes a while to get that notion out of your head.

I'm a little late coming in about the friends being mostly girls topic but...

I'm the same way too! This one girl I was friends with throughout high school did something that at the time I thought was just plain ridiculous, but now I've come to laugh about. We used to have to take "AR" tests, which were just read a book, go to the library, sign on, & take a little quiz that shows you read the book. Well my friend asked me to go in there & take one of the the tests for her since she didn't read her book. I'm a computer geek & a book lover, & a friend... so naturally, I took the test. Well after I got back in class, the librarian came in, went in the hall with my teacher, came back, & pulled me & my friend out of class. Yup, she caught me taking the test for her. My teacher asked my friend if she told me to take the test for her & she said, "Of course not, I'm in there finishing up my book right now."

Yup. And then of course the teacher asked me if this was true & and I said I was just doing it for her as a favor & she didn't know anything about it. I figured hey, this way both of us won't get in trouble.

But we both got "AEP" anyways, which is where you sit in a little room all day in a cubical (sp?) with all the bad kids. And after we were sentenced by the principal, my friend went to the bathroom & cried because she got in trouble and had me go back to the classroom (in front of everyone) & get her purse so she call call her parents & they could come get her.

Yup... craziness. She didn't even realize what she'd done until the next day because she had told her boyfriend the story and he told her that wasn't very nice of her.

Well... there's a long story, but hey... girls can be mean sometimes.

Aww. I actually totally did that for my friend once too. Accelerated Reader, right? I would just take quizzes on books that I already read to get my points. People always asked me to take quizzes for them, but I never did. There was this one kid in my grade to took quizzes for everybody that asked him, so we ended up having this huge Accelerated Reader scandal at our middle school. Haha.

omg thats horrible lauren.
i freakin loved Accelerated Reader..because had read so many books that it didn't matter which quiz i took haha

Wow I wish I had AR in my middle/high school. That sounds like fun! Ha! I'm a geek.

Lauren I think I would have punched my friend in the face if she did that to me. Sounds like she was down right selfish. She should have taken full responsibility and let you go. Since she was the reason you were doing the quiz.


SBG my parents have always warned me about online social networking. But they also warned me a lot about hanging out with guys, cause apparently all guys must be gang bangers. HA! I realize that it's good to be caution, but not live your life in fear.

Kels that is so funny you met your boy that way. I kind of met mine like that. Only it was through Instant Messenger. A girl I went to elementary school with added me there, so we caught up and were constantly talking for weeks on end. Then she told me about this guy that she liked and jokingly I said he sounded hot. He asked her out, and then she dumped him after a day. Gave him my IM and told him that we had a lot in common. We then met up at a rival basketball game. He was there to play tuba and I was there to meet him. We became instant friends, along with two of his best friends and two years later he asked me out. Now we've been dating for two and a half years and he's saving up for a ring. Woo!

Sorry that was a long story. Sorry if I bored anyone.

Just wanted to add on the AR topic. We had AR in my school and I HATED it! I tested in a really low reading level, so I had to read all of these books that were way too easy for me. Then they tested me again for a new reading level and they still wouldn't bump me up because I didn't test well again!! It's annoying. And I hate that that's the only way to get kids to read today, give them these stupid AR points in order to pass, just so they'll read. They should read because they want to, not because they have to and if they don't then, we, as teachers need to find that one book that will! Ok sorry didn't mean to go off for a minute there but just had to say something!! Don't hate me everyone who liked AR! I just didn't have a good experience with it! Haha :)

That totally makes sense Janet. And I agree, teachers should find books that kids enjoy.

I agree too that teachers need to find contemporary books that they can relate to. If they do that the kids will have more to say in class discussions.

Janet..I totally agree with you..despite the fact I loved AR..but I do see the downfall in it and I think you are totally right! The thing is..there are so many good books out there for kids..its a shame teachers don't try to integrate them into their curriculum more often. I'm glad to know that there will be teachers like you in the future! :)

I am not sure if I am going to CSUEB next year. For two reasons:

- CSUEB is having budget cuts, so they probably wont offer the courses that I need to take.

-I need a B.A. in Liberal Studies and I could probably finish that off at my community college and it would save money.

This is just frustrating. I was hoping for a smooth transfer. But I look at it like this, I pretty much almost done with my B.A. and could finish it at my community college. Then I could just concentrate on my Teacher Credential and Minor in Early Childhood Education when I am at the CSU. My mom and I are meeting the head of the education department next monday to get advice of what I should do next. I guess this is poor planning on my part, I took a lot of bull shit classes..lol. You live and you learn. Can anyone relate?

Ashley, I went to community college for 2 years thinking I would take all the core classes and then transfer somewhere for physical therapy.. but I didn't do well in one of the required classes and couldn't get a high enough grade to move on to the second level. I was taking a lot of psych classes and really liking them, so I decided when I transferred I would be a psych major. When it came down to transferring, I ended up going to state college. If I had planned that from the beginning I would have locked in the community college tuition rate for state college, but I just never really considered it before so I had to pay a lot more.
Then when I got to state college I changed my major my second semester there from psych to communications. It took me an extra yr to graduate but I got lucky with the classes I took before - all of them transferred except for one, and somehow I slipped through the cracks and never took a college level math class (I HATE math).
So, I can kind of relate to the confusion of the transfer process. Things may not always go according to the way you were thinking they would, but it all worked out for the best for me. Hopefully things will work out for you too!

I also went to a community college the first 2 years and it was the greatest thing I could have done. People tell me all the time that they wish they could have done that. I saved a lot of money trying to figure out what I wanted to do. And it's nice because when I finished at the community college the university I go to is like it's "sister school" and so they pretty much have to take all of my credits, it's an agreement they have together.
But it was still kind of annoying because some of my classes transfered over as different courses but they still count toward my major but I always have to get them cleared. It's just a hassle. And that didn't really make sense...:)
So I can also just kind of relate but really relate on the money thing. It really saved a lot of money in the long run! Also, I didn't pass a lot of my entrance exams so I had to take a lot of under 100 level courses and those do not transfer at all. So now I am a semester behind because I am not smart...haha!
Hope everything works out!!

Okay.. now I have to vent! So most of the regular girls on here know from one of my earlier posts that I have generalized anxiety disorder. I believe I'm getting better all the time and I rarely have panic attacks.. or "getting nervous" as I call it. Because I don't think I actually have full blown panic attacks. Anyways, now that my anxiety-ness is getting better.. I feel like I'm crawling into a lazy/slighty depressed phase. As Oskar says (from our group read).. What the? LOL

I have been missing WAY too much class because I honestly & truly don't want to go. Not like my normal college-laziness. But I don't want to go. This is my first semester of my junior year and I'm messing up! It makes me want to tear my hair out! (Not literally though, ouch.) I've always made good grades my whole life and now I know I'm going to have to take 2 of the classes from this semester over! Urgg! I just feel like I've been in a funk all semester and a little during the summer. But now I feel like I need to quit being such a "girl" as my brother would call it, & man-up. But for 2 of my classes, it's too late in the semester.

I guess I just need a shoulder to lay my head on & then for them to whoop my ass back into shape! LOL I already told my mom that next semester she has my permission to scold me daily about going to class & doing my homework. I figure maybe because all of the authority figures in my life have stopping getting on me about my grades since I started college have lessened my motivation & maybe I need that again.

Okay.. I think that's all the venting I need for tonight. =)

I knew I could count on my GoodReads girls for a good ear.

Aw Lauren I'm sorry to hear about that, and I kind of understand. Hoping all gets better.

aww lauren..i totally hear you on that one. I think that the important thing is that you recognize that something is going to need to change in order for your motivation to change towards school..and that you took a step to even have your mom keep you accountable next semester..you will be fine..sometimes you just need to fall..it happens to the best of us..but we still love you!! :)

and yeah..definitely...vent away! we are always glad to listen and to support you!

Thanks for all the support, girls. Really, I appreciate it!

I think most of us go through that sort of thing! It's okay, especially when you're realizing it so far in advance and taking proactive steps to prevent it in the future. SNAPS AND CLAPS for Lauren!!

Anyway, I'm sorry to hear about your current mess but I fully believe you can bounce back. =) Best of luck!!!!

I got accepted into CSUEB. I find that amazing since CSU's are going through budget cuts and are only accepting a certain amount of students now.

Congrats Ashley!!

yayy!! congrats!! so glad to hear that and i'm so happy for you!!

Congratulations!
I go to CSUN. =) It's probably nowhere near where you are, but it's a CSU!

Congrats!!

CSUN?...Northridge? That is by Los Angeles...you are way down south from me.

Ok girls..so..i just want your opinions..i know alot of you are in relationships now..or have been before..

i feel like my bf and i of 2 years are in a rut..some days i think its great and sometimes things are just bad..yeah i know that the "honeymoon" stage ends when everything is all fairytale like..but like how do you know if you've just hit a rough patch or if your love is just fizzling..?

its really eating at me.

hmm..i'm so bad with relationships..my longest relationship was like 3 months..he cheated on me..pretty simple to know that it needed to end..i wish i could help..love is a tricky thing.

Yep, Northridge. I'm in the valley.

aww katerina. that is horrible that he cheated on you. guys are dogs sometimes.

Aw, Jamie! I'm so sorry to hear about you and your boyfriend. I know how that goes, some days just suck for me and my boy because we have been together for so long. The thing that keeps me with my boyfriend is imagining my life without him, and the friendship I find in him. I don't know how much that is going to help, but keep us posted on what's going on!

thats the same thing with me caiti..when i wonder if we should take a break..i sit there and think how i would never want to live without him and how that would be also losing my best friend. we did have a decent chat about it today..it was good because we both talked about how we have changed since the beginning of our relationship..so at least we recognized that fact.

Wow, that is crazy! I was thinking about how both me and my boyfriend have changed since we started dating. But I came to the realization that even though we are different from when we first meet it doesn't change how we feel about each other. And that change is good in a relationship, it can allow you to become closer. So other than that how did your chat go?

it went well..i basically said..we need to just decide whether or not this relationship is something we want to continue because its important and we know that we still love each other and care for each other the same way, if not more, than we did before..or we need to just cut our losses now and i'll go my way and he'll go his. we both agreed that it was important enough to try and work on getting ourselves out of this rut.

Well I'm happy to hear about that. Pleas keep us updated if anything gets better or worse.

Jaime, I agree with what the other girls have said. My boyfriend gets in these moods all the time and he is just so sucky to be around! Haha. But I know he puts up with a lot from me too. And right now we're having a hard time because he is still looking for a job and his job he has now ends on Friday.
But like the other girls said, I just try to imagine a future without him and it makes me really sad and lonely just to think about. And I just think that if we can get through this, we can get through anything and if I am there for him and I know he will be there for me if and when I need him to be. We have been together for 5 years and I cannot imagine my future without him being there!
Does that make sense?

Jamie, same thing here. I've been with my man for 4 years. Sometimes I really have just thought, wow, how much of life have I missed out of because of him? But he has made compromises for me too. He's the one person I know will be there for me when I'm upset and that I completely trust. I would stick with it and see if things get better.

Congrats!!! Way to go :o)

Lauren I completely agree with you. I have been with my guy for 5 years which includes all of college. But then I look at my roomates who fight all the time and break up and cheat on each other and realize I have it pretty great and don't want to give that up for anything!!

I agree with pretty much all of you! My boyfriend and I just celebrated our 6 year anniversary, so it's nuts. We're both 21, and we've been together since we were 15. We've obviously both changed tremendously since the start of our relationship, but we've been lucky to grow together instead of apart. I do what the rest of you do and just think about life without him. He's my absolute best friend, and life without him would be awful. I very much enjoy having him in my life. And of course, when we got past the honeymoon stage, I was feeling the same way as you, Jamie. But, with the right person, love really grows into this new thing where you're not wanting to be together every second and you don't think the other one is absolutely perfect in every way...but it's more of this deep, respectful, trusting kind of love. It's the kind of love you have when you've been through a ton together and know that the other one has your back, you accept each others flaws and imperfections, and you really learn to work together to solve any problems you might have...I've been going on for far too long. But yes, I agree with all of you! =)

Congratulations on your six year anniversary Kels. When is he gonna pop the question? Have you two talked about marriage? It is it a level you both want to go to?

Hehe. People always ask me when me & Matt are getting married. We don't even think about it. We are happy where we are right now. But I wouldn't mind having a pretty ring!! =)

Kels, me & my man starting dating when I was 16. Hehe. We were youngsters..

Ok totally sorry about the Congrats way to go...I didnt see the last page of this thread...I was commenting on page 2. Oops!

Ashley, we are definitely going to get married. We're thinking that we'll do it after we both graduate from college, because we definitely don't have the time to plan and everything right now. But yes, we've talked about it and we know how many kids we want and all that jazz. =)
And Lauren, isn't it funny to look back and see how young you were when you started dating? I look back at pictures of my boyfriend and I and I'm just shocked, because we both just look so young!

Haha I feel the same way! I look back at our pictures together and we looked like such dorks!! I was 16 and he was 17 when we started dating and we look so young back then!! My boyfriend and I talk about marriage a lot but I am not done with school and we both don't have any money and that's key. Haha! Someday it will happen but not now.