College Students! discussion

Jamie wrote: "wow..janet..i will definitely be praying for your uncle and your family. that's what my mother died from..so i really understand (obviously to an extent) what you are going through. If you ever nee..."

Congratulations! That gave me chills! lol

Yay! Jamie that is so exciting!

this is trivial compared to other problems on here... but boys stinkkkk! anyone wana help me throw rocks at them? :(

Sure! What happened?

ehh this guy I was seeing for ~7 months just told me he thought we would be better off as friends and he was seeing someone else. then I found out he met this girl only in the last week and was already bf/gf with her.and now he says well i never saw us as being serious. couldnt i have known this before 7 months and before i let myself get feelings... ugh! disgusting.

Throwing rocks at them is probably more effort than the boys are worth! :)

Aw I'm sorry Jen, let me go gather some rocks and we could have fun! But Tami does have a point. If we all lived in the same area we could go boy hunting for you to make him jealous.

aww jen..that's horrible. why are guys so stupid. they think its not a big deal to string someone along like that for 7 months..i don't think they get what kind of feelings develop over that length of time. they are so dense! I'll throw rocks!

Jen guys are so clueless! I had a moment with my boy, he was suppose to come over and help bake cookies with me and I was super excited because it's a cheap date and fun, right? Well I told him I wanted it to be just us and I called him to see if he was on his way and his friend was with him! Fortunately he dumped the friend and came and hung out with me. But I was hurt, so it is SO true that they are dumb!

It's true. I will never be able to figure men out. They think women are so hard to understand, but they are just as bad, if not worse!

Lets egg his car and then saran (sp?) wrap it! That would be fun! Gosh, guys are so dumb sometimes!

Ha Kelsey I so agree, everytime my boyfriend tells me I'm impossible to understand I tell him he's worse.

Ughhh Jen! What a loser!!! I had the same thing happen to me but we had been dating for 3 years LMAO! We're too cool for those types of boys! :)

thanks guys for the support. omg silvia i definitely could not deal with 3 years. Im kind of over being mad and now im just missing him which makes me feel super lame. when things dont work out with a guy it always make me feel like I will never find someone to be with...

Aw Jen don't feel that way you deserve much better than him.

Silvia wrote: "I got this idea today. Yesterday I received really good news and I am boasting to tell somebody, anybody about it!

So this thread is for posting good news, bad news, problems, future goals, that..."


That's really exciting. What will you be doing? I have always been interested in doing something like that, I just never knew how to go about doing it. I go to a private school that doesn't really offer anything like that.

Most of my friends are guys too but I actually prefer girls in some cases. For the most part (and lets face it ladies), when a girl and a guy are friends, chances are ONE of them likes each other, maybe not instantly but somewhere down the road and usually it is the guys that are the ones attracted first. It is easy for girls to be friends with guys. Most of them do not gossip as much and they aren't all that judgemental like girls can be. That's what makes guys such excellent friends but then at one point in time you have to cross that bridge when one of them likes you. I like having girls as friends much better :)

Spreet wrote: "Most of my friends are guys too but I actually prefer girls in some cases. For the most part (and lets face it ladies), when a girl and a guy are friends, chances are ONE of them likes each other, ..."

haha yeah..i agree..that has happened to me a few times..i think that i am just friends with a guy and then turns out that he has had this crush on me for a while and thinks i'm "leading him on"..i'm always so confused..like..wait..what? I thought we were just friends! ..so frustrating! so..i do agree with you as well.

Ok, so here is the problem I am having. I have a friend, that is a boy, that likes me and doesn't hide it very well. I am not attracted at all, but he is a really good friend. We hang out and go to shows sometimes but nothing that I would consider a date. And we have had discussions about this so I know he knows they aren't dates.
I am as blunt and honest as I can be, and I am sure he gets it, but my problem is everyone else doesn't get it. I think some of the friends are finally clued in, but I get comments about how "mean" I am being to him from our friends and my family. How do I get those to stop?

i dont really think you are "mean" to him, sometimes things do not go the way you want them to go. explain to them that you are not attracted to him, but this does not change any friendship that you have with him. i sure they will understand

I agree with Gene. And if he gets mad and doesn't understand, maybe he is not worth having as a friend anyway. If he's a good friend he'll take anything to keep you in his life. Did that make sense?

I am not worried about him. I am positive he understands there isn't anything there. It is everyone elses remarks that bug me.
I have told him that he needs to let them know from him that we aren't dating, but I doubt that happens. I think he likes them thinking that. So when it starts getting really wierd again, I quit hanging out as often. Then it goes back to normal.
I just need a fake boyfriend. :)

well then i think that if he doesnt want to let them know then i think that you may need to stop seeing him as often.

I got my new cell phone today. It's a pay-as-you-go phone from virgin mobile. :D

The back of my cell phone was stolen. Along with my camera, and Ipod. Actually my whole purse was stolen but I got at least my purse and wallet back.

OMG...I am so sorry Silvia. I hope you get everything back.

That sucks. It makes me mad that I work for what I have, yet others think it is okay to just take.

oh man..Silvia..that sucks! i hate people who steal..I'm with you on that one Tami!! How did it get stolen??

I agree with Gene, and you are being very smart about the situation. You just have to deal with dumb people. Fake boyfriends can be good. My boyfriend now used to tell me all the time that if I needed to I could scare other guys away by saying he was my boyfriend. HA!

Oh no! That's terrible! What happened?

I am pretty careless I have to admitt. My Ipod I was listening to it in the library at school.I set down the little headphones to talk to my friend and forgot about it. Then I got up to leave and when I turned around it was gone. VANISHED!

My whole purse was stolen downtown. Typical me to be careless downtown. The bouncer found two girls in the bathroom that had taken my purse. All my stuff was on the floor apperently. Anyways they got my purse back but didn't think to retain the names of the girls and their phone-numbers in case they had taken something else. Which they did, my camera and the back of my phone.

OMG Silvia!

That's terrible!!

yeah i think that the bouncer should have detained the girls until the police got there but apparently they didnt do that that sucks i would have sued them but thats just me

hmm hard decision..when i was a freshman i had similar thoughts about wanting to maybe go somewhere else or take some time off. i ended up just sticking it out..and it was fine..and i know some people who had the same thoughts and they left..and they turned out fine. it's hard to say what you should do because i'm not you..however..what i do know is..that whatever you decide..you are going to be fine..life is going to be fine with either decision you make..because they both are good options. maybe you do need to stay at home for a little while so you can really decide what you should be doing and where you should be. think about this..what are the things that are drawing you back to being home? what are things that would make you want to stay at school? idk..im sure i'm not much help..but just some things to think about.

and btw..i don't think leaving school is "quitting" or "not finishing what you started"...because sometimes it is just a matter of realizing what you need/want and choosing that path..which is a smarter decision than staying just for the sake of "not quitting".. :)

you will make the right decision. :)

well keep us updated! and take your dad's advice..pray about it. you will have peace about the right decision..and that doesn't mean you will always be super happy about the decision or always so sure of it(although sometimes peace is like that)..but deep down you will know that you made the right decision..even if it is hard or scary.

Jamie's right. As hard as it will be (I know your pain... I am THE most indecisive person ever) no one can make the decision for you and ultimately you will be the only one who knows what is right for you.

Why exactly don't you feel like it is right for you? When I look back on coming to my school I have absolutely NO idea what brought me here. It was totally on a whim. but ultimately I think (and yeah people will probably think this is hokey) God sent me here for a reason. I'm not exactly sure what the reason is and Lord knows I have many days (especially this past semester) where I wonder how different my life would be if I were somewhere else and would I be happier? But I mean... why else would I be here? I MUST have been in an altered state of mind. That is the only explanation. Sooo I guess what I'm saying is maybe God DID send you there for a reason and maybe He IS going to do something. It might just take time. We are impatient people (I am anyway) and God just doesn't work on my schedule as badly as I want Him to (Girl, don't get me started on those stories)

I say, no matter what you decide, have faith in what my mom always says: God has a plan for everyone. When I worry that I'm making the wrong decision, my mom always says that everything will work out for the best somewhere along the line.

Saved By Grace, I am so sorry you're in this boat. It really sucks. I hate my college. I do. I don't feel like I belong there and I wish I hadn't let me stupid boyfriend threaten me with breaking up if I went to the better college that was in town (he's later apologized and said he was jealous because he knew his parents could never send him there). Long story to say--I hate it, but I'm sticking it out. I have some friends and some fun, but for the most part I don't feel like I'm living up to my potential. But I have to believe that no matter how big a mistake this has been, no matter how big a derailment this has been, God will still get me where I need to be.

So, I'd say, pray about it and know that no matter what you decide, God is going to get you to where you need to be; you just can't see it yet.

Jamie, Lynn, and Lori have summed everything up. But one more thing to think about. Are you going to regret not going back this semester? Or are you going to regret living with your parents?

I'm the kind of person who if I took time off from school I wouldn't go back. And I decided to live with my parents to save money and it's killing me. You need that independence.

But either way you really will be okay. Let us know what you decide tomorrow!

hmm with all your reasoning..i would say not to go back..if you are going to spend all that money and then not even be able to use that towards what you want to do in the future..then i feel like it is a waste of money..i mean..that is just me. I've seen so many people do the same thing..they just go somewhere and pick a random degree and then ending up regretting it because they owe a lot of money for nothing.

you got a little college experience for your first semester..i say..you go work for a little while and then transfer to another school when you are ready. figure out what you really really want to go to school for..if you even want to go back.

Saved By Grace, Maybe you should look at transferring somewhere else so you can go for your dream of writing, singing, and drawing. You know, state universities aren't that expensive.

Hey...Go back this semester. But start investigating on transferring somewhere else.

Saved By Grace I hope you're alright! You have to realize that the decision you have made is life changing. Think about what you picture yourself doing in the future. What you want to be doing!!!

With me, I entered University in a program called Behaviour, Cognition and Neuroscience. I always felt left out, behind, confused, just out of place. Thet program was very biological and chemistry based as opposed to what I wanted most: psychology.

So I made a compromise and switched to just psychology. It has changed my grades!!! I can actually achieve the dream of gradschool.

Saved By Grace all I can say is you have options. You can work or you can find another program in the University if you want a degree. Don't think about how much it will cost! Think about what you need in your heart. What drives you! If the schoolwok is hard and you still feel driven you can achive it.

Don't focus so much on your past! Just look to the future! From what I have seen you post on here I know you're a strong girl!!!

i think i have them too! i have to go to the doctors still..but my stepdad(is a nurse) thinks that is what is wrong with me. what are the symptoms?? i checked webmd..but sometimes it doesn't help.

Ovarian cysts are scary but not necessarily cancer. Hopefully yours are benign. They run in my family too.

Both my sisters are looking at getting hysterectomies this year, and one is 35 and the other is 30. They both have two kids and are still having to fight the doctors about this. I don’t get it. If it makes them better, do it. Sorry, that part should have been on the rant page.

Hope everything turns out okay.

They told my 30 year sister that she would never have kids because of them. They also told my mom, her sister and two of my cousins. My mom has 4 kids and her sister, my sister and both cousins have 2 each.

I think they give worse case scenarios. It did kind of back fire on them with my sister. She convinced herself she didn't want kids since she wasn't going to be able to have them. Then when she ended up pregnant with my nephew, she cried for the full first month. Madder than mad that she had gotten pregnant. Her poor husband got the brunt of most of it, because he was excited. We still tease her about that.

I don't want to have children so it really isn't that big of a deal to me. I still should go get examined to stay healthy but I hate that. Ick!

Anyways, good luck with everything.

Keep us all updated ladies. I have my yearly next week and I always get nervous because they have found a lump in my breast before. It wasn't anything but I did have to get the lump removed and it's just a hassle! But do keep us updated!!

Cassi, that story is so funny!! Have you heard that people are now being burried with their cell phones and after they're burried people call and leave them messages! Isn't that creepy?!!! AHHH! Haha.

Ugh, I'm also having health issues like some of you ladies. I have "severe pre-cancerous cells" in my cervix that I have to have removed next week actually. I'm really nervous for it because they've said it can cause problems in the future with having kids. But then again, this kind of thing runs in my family and both my mom and aunt had to have this done and both had 3 healthy kids. And the procedure itself will not be very fun.

Hahaha wow that is too morbidly humorous!