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There is this boy that I liked all last year- and we hooked up 3 times- but then he stopped talking to me and just got irritable. We had been best friends all year. Now he has a girlfriend and I just began dating the sweetest boy. And me and him are friends again- but he wants more. And we have been getting into the past stuff. All year last year he knew I liked him- and everyone knew. I just never was good enough. Now he is saying that he would have dated me last year if he could have gone back. But now he is saying he dumped his girlfriend last year- for me- without telling me. He said he had been obvious- but he wasn't. Now I don't have any idea what to do. I never really got over him and I loved him... and now everything is so confusing. He really hurt me but is saying that I can trust him and is saying sorry and promising he won't do it again. And I am confused. Advice please... my friends and I are all on break and no one is talking to me. I need help so I do not make a fool out of myself!

Well, my opinion is that you keep dating the boy you are currently with! Things in the past are meant to be the past for a reason. He missed out and realizes that now and thinks that you will come running back to him. I honestly feel like he will hurt you again like he did before, but I might be wrong. Just dont put all your eggs in one basket becuase it might be too good to be true.

Goodluck!

Alice Belikov wrote: "Well, my opinion is that you keep dating the boy you are currently with! Things in the past are meant to be the past for a reason. He missed out and realizes that now and thinks that you will come ..."

Thank you- and the egg basket metaphor makes a lot of sense...

OMG No! I know you have feelings for this other guy, but if you really like the "nice guy" your dating currently I say stick with him. I am no expert but what if this guy does the same thing to you again? you would be left heart broken because the you let him in once and again for the second time and your still left with the same feelings and no guy. I'm not saying this guy is a bad guy but I say stick with the boyfriend you do have if he treats you right. If you leave him for the other guy and the guy you hooked up with does the same thing you might not get another chance with your current boyfriend. He had his chance and blew it but if you really think you guys could make it work I say go for it even though it may or may not be a good choice. But you have to take in your current boyfriend feelings too and not just your own since yall are in a relationship "Boyfriend and Girlfriend" How do you think he will feel.... the same way you felt when the boy you liked dated his girlfriend so please think about him too.


There's this old saying... " You fool me once Shame on you.You fool me twice shame on me"


Hopefully this helps!!! I wish you luck in whatever you choose to do!

I love this group lol

Thanks Sheri for this folder it could really help some people. :)

Tt wrote: "You fool me once Shame on you.You fool me twice shame on me"..."



These metaphors are really helping.

Tt wrote: "I love this group lol

Thanks Sheri for this folder it could really help some people. :)"

I told her too... LOL. I needed people to talk to )L

But hey your still young you should follow your heart because it may lead you to the right place,and if not then you learn form your mistakes(everybody makes mistakes,everybody has those days-Hannah Montana lol)

yep if you really love him take that leap of faith and hope that he has changed and make sure your hearts prepared! Best thing to do in this situation is to take it SLOW!

Jade wrote: "Tt wrote: "I love this group lol

Thanks Sheri for this folder it could really help some people. :)"

I told her too... LOL. I needed people to talk to )L"


Well good idea Jade! Well I'm always glad to help even though I need help myself lol. I cant wait to see what Tana comes up with for her advice shes always so creative lol

I dont know if he CAN change... UGH..

And the boy I am dating- I am his first girlfriend.. so either way I am going to be the first girl who broke his heart. :/

- TT
thanks. I have lots of problems.

Everybody has problems its life unfortunately....


but its always good to have a great group of friends to confide in so I hope we've helped :)

Love is a promise delivered already broken.

I am looking at love metaphors trying to figure it out... I am not deciding tonight. I'm thinking about it for a few days at least.

When love is not madness, it is not love.

AGH

Jade wrote: "Love is a promise delivered already broken.

I am looking at love metaphors trying to figure it out... I am not deciding tonight. I'm thinking about it for a few days at least."

You have all the time in the world. :)

Tt wrote: "Jade wrote: "Love is a promise delivered already broken.

I am looking at love metaphors trying to figure it out... I am not deciding tonight. I'm thinking about it for a few days at least."

You h..."
and if he cant wait- its his loss
right?

Exactly!!

Ok I am here sorry was trying to finish a book.

So this happened to me awhile back, I was so in love with this boy and he wanted things I wasn't ready to give so we broke up. While I was seeing another guy who was super nice to me and really cute and you know what happened....I broke up with him because the first boy wanted me back.

So off I went back to the first boy because I thought I loved him. Well it was the worst mistake I ever made. He used me till he got what he wanted and as soon as the next girl came along he was gone.

Sometimes us girls/women want things when we think we can't have it. So here you have this really nice boy who you deserve but yet we still want the one who broke our hearts.

The risk Jade is that 99% he is going to break your heart all over again.

I know your young Jade but honestly what do you think you deserve? I think you deserve the nice guy, the good one, the kind one. You deserve the best. If he hurt you once he will hurt you again.

I forgot to add you know what happened to these two boys now that I am older, the nice guy is married to a very nice woman with 2 kids and they are very happy together (he is still very handsome also)

The first boy who I thought was the love of my life (15 is a hard age) anyway he is kinda nothing long hair hippy lol not good looking and doesn't have a great job I would say loser LOL.

so looking back I should of staying with the second guy. that happy couple could of been me.

I believe in my heart you should stay with the one your seeing know he sounds nice and nice guys grow up to be nicer guys and handsome men lol.

I agree...

You're still young so you probably can't see it, but trust me...I've been there. Any guy who hurts you in any way, shape, or form (and hurting your feelings or breaking your heart counts) isn't worth it. It might be hard now, but in a couple of years you'll be able to look back and see what you can't now. Cry over losing him, try to be friends if you can, and stay with the guy who is sweet to you. You're worth more than he's giving you....you should never be made second.

The hardest part of loving someone is knowing when to let go,
and knowing when to say goodbye.

found another one

Open wounds never heal
if you keep reopening them.