Sneha Mehta's Blog
August 9, 2013
Love marriage versus arrange Marriage
Myth: It's better to marry someone you love.
Fact: Love has never been just love. Even love involves calculation, a very strict logical subconscious calculation. This is how girls think in the initial days of dating. Which college is he from? AIIMS! IIM! MIT! Mini Orgasm. How much does he earn? If he doesn't earn much, do I even see the ‘potential’ in him to earn? Is he worth the financial wait? I love the way he kisses me. I am sure I want to be kissed this way, forever.
When you are dating, you give subconscious scores to your man/woman all the time. It is just that in arrange marriages; these scores are given consciously by the parent. Ladka kamata kitna hai? Is he healthy? Padha kaha se hai? Is the girl homely? Is she pretty?
You and your parents sail in the same boat to find the right mate. Just that in love marriages, responsibility shifts to you, yourself.
It doesn't matter who is making the calculation, as long as it is RIGHT CALCULATION; which is why there is nothing called a love marriage or an arrange marriage but only two kinds of marriages : a successful one and an unsuccessful one.21 Things every Girl Should Know
Fact: Love has never been just love. Even love involves calculation, a very strict logical subconscious calculation. This is how girls think in the initial days of dating. Which college is he from? AIIMS! IIM! MIT! Mini Orgasm. How much does he earn? If he doesn't earn much, do I even see the ‘potential’ in him to earn? Is he worth the financial wait? I love the way he kisses me. I am sure I want to be kissed this way, forever.
When you are dating, you give subconscious scores to your man/woman all the time. It is just that in arrange marriages; these scores are given consciously by the parent. Ladka kamata kitna hai? Is he healthy? Padha kaha se hai? Is the girl homely? Is she pretty?
You and your parents sail in the same boat to find the right mate. Just that in love marriages, responsibility shifts to you, yourself.
It doesn't matter who is making the calculation, as long as it is RIGHT CALCULATION; which is why there is nothing called a love marriage or an arrange marriage but only two kinds of marriages : a successful one and an unsuccessful one.21 Things every Girl Should Know
