StephenRichards Demystifies The Power Of ForgivenessAs human beings, we are custom made to be happy. Why then would we want to change the order of things by not being happy? 
Usually, when someone has done something wrong to us, we feel like we have the right to feel bitter towards them. At that moment it is actually the driving force and we are very liable to being duped into thinking that we are on the right track, yet we are actually headed for a really bad scenario. 
From this point forward, this bitterness is the driving force. It becomes the air we breathe and without it, nothing seems to be in place. However, we are breathing in toxic air and basically harming ourselves in the process.  
The risky thing with always blaming the other person is that we will never acknowledge that the same things keep happening over and over again, therefore we will not know how to rise up and put an end to the bad trend.  
The moment we see beyond our personal desires to be felt sympathy for, that is the time we can actually start the journey to that final destination of true forgiveness.
Hanging on to the ill-feeling is not a good direction to take because it is most likely to create friction and disharmony between you and that person. 
If you forgive them, even internally, it does not matter whether you say it to them or you do not, it will simply be visible when you interact with them – you will both be happier.  
Discover more about this in the book by Stephen Richards in the link below"The Pain You Feel Today Is The Strength You FeelTomorrow"