I'm a terrible blogger.  As each new year approaches, I tell myself that I'm going to do better...blog more often and about things that matter.  So, when I find someone who is already doing that, I like to share.  Ruthie Dean is young enough to be my daughter, but her wisdom, compassion, and words exceed her age.  I love reading her blogs.  They make me think, appreciate, and want to be a better person.

Today, I'm excited to share with you a post from Ruthie! She works for my publisher, Thomas Nelson, and I asked her to write this post about different cultures because she lived in China for two years as a missionary before working for Thomas Nelson. She talks about similar emotions I first experienced when engaging in and writing about the Amish culture. She blogs about truth, joy, and abundant life at RuthieDean.com. Enjoy!

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New Cultures, Standing Out, &Life-Long Friendships

I stepped off the plane, my head still spinning from the rough landing, as the smell of fried noodles and strong spices wafted over me; instantly taking note of what appeared to be thousands of black eyes staring at my differences. I nervously pulled my hair back behind my ears and bit my fingernails-- just 14 hours ago I was sitting in the Atlanta airport speaking English. I felt as Lucy must have when she discovered Narnia. The wardrobe was behind me as I was standing in an unknown world of fascination and intrigue—one where everyone stared at me like I was a life-size doll and the words consisted of intricate pictures. I was certainly not in Kansas anymore. I arrived across the globe in what would be my new home for the next two years: China.

I moved to China to tell a primarily atheist nation about the one true God who sent His Son to die for them. I was there to be the hands and feet of Christ—in a city where brokenness and sorrow reigned because a recent earthquake buried thousands of children underneath their schools. Overwhelming does not even scratch the surface of the emotions I felt walking around my new city of 12 million. The most daunting task was to learn to communicate in their heart language.

The honeymoon phase with my new home ended rather quickly. I grew frustrated with the people staring at me on every street corner, some touching my hair and face as if I was an artifact. The general hurry of everyone in public seemed unjustified, especially when elbows would find their way into my sides or worse when I was pushed off a bus one time. Pushed! I didn't understand why the Chinese stood in line touching each other or why people would cut me in line if I didn't press my body against the person in front of me. And why the hurry at the train station? I have never before experienced such massive chaos and panic as the train doors opened and we were allowed to find our (assigned, mind you) seats. Grocery shopping in China on a Monday morning felt like Y2K was looming. And everywhere I went, people snapped pictures of me (without permission) and school children giggled and pointed.

The language came with great difficulty, many embarrassing moments—the word napkin and menstrual pad should not be confused, esp. in a crowded restaurant—and many tears over the frustration of the large communication barriers.  With time, I began to form deep friendships with Chinese women. The cultural barriers came down, brick by brick, as I was able to truly recognize that while they looked different, talked different, and had different customs, we were in essence the same in longing for love, acceptance, and belonging. They needed a Savior just as much as I did. My housekeeper Xiao Li and I loved to laugh and share a good meal with friends. My friend Zhou Qiu Yu and I both loved to sit up late and eat 'snacks' and watch a movie (however her 'snack of choice' was chicken feet). One night, I invited my Chinese friends over for a sleepover. And guess what we did? Danced, sang, laughed, ate way too much candy, went to bed at 4am, and talked about boys. Sounds familiar, doesn't it?

Each day as I lived among the Chinese, spoke their language, and became closer friends with natives, the unfamiliar with the culture grew familiar. They laughed, desired acceptance, fought with their relatives, struggled with selfishness, loved deeply, had their hearts broken, wanted to be thinner, experienced anger, wanted more—just like us. While there will always be language & cultural barriers between me and the Chinese, my two years spent in their midst was the most rewarding time in my life. Hard, yes. But richly blessed with friendships and experiences that forever change the way I view others.

Beth said she had a similar experience when beginning to learn about the Amish. What grace God gave her to dive headfirst into their culture and bring beautiful stories of love, life, and faith to us!

Have you ever experienced life among people from a different culture or background? How did it challenge your faith?
 

Beth here -- I know Ruthie would love to read comments from you.  She is building her blog, and I encourage you to check out her past posts and subscribe at www.ruthiedean.com.

Hope you all have a fabulous week!