I ask myself that question any time I catch myself wondering
why some other person does not seem more supportive or positive.  We all may wonder such things from time to
time, particularly when the naysayer lives in our inner circle of close friends
or loved ones.

That’s when I try to say, “Woah!”  Am I supportive of them?  I truly only have control over my own thoughts,
words, and actions.  It sure helps me
when I stop focusing on someone else’s negative. 

Instead, I look inward. 
I ask myself, “Am I being an Encourager or a
Discourager for them?”

Did I listen when they spoke?

Did I genuinely try to see the situation from their perspective?

Did I deliver building blocks or stumbling stones?

Did I speak words that revealed compassion and encouragement?

Did I do anything to make them feel worthy or capable?

Did I recognize their achievement, even small steps toward
their goal?

Did I leave them with strengthened resolve and boosted
self-confidence?

I try to ask myself such questions whenever I catch myself
thinking or speaking or even feeling negative toward someone.  I know. 
I know.  Sometimes that someone
may have been sucking the air out of the room, squelching my creativity,
diminishing my dreams, directly or indirectly putting me down.  They may well have been highly discouraging.

Step one for me is trying to not absorb their negativity.  I don’t want to accept pity party
invitations.

Encouragement just may be one of our most vital personal and
professional Life skills.   So, it thrills me to say that encouragement is
the theme of my newest book.

In a few days I’ll deliver details right here on its
official release AND discount introductory pricing, too!  Till then… think Encouragement!