Quite often, I see that people are not equipped with the right mindset to win, succeed, or to resolve the problems in their lives. Of course there is no magic solution. What I am going to present here may take a lifetime to master, but it will provide a pathway toward accomplishing more than many of us even would have thought possible.

Consider the importance of using all these tools together. If you only use a few of them, you will be limiting your potential.

1. Growth Mindset

Dr. Carol Dweck has studied the growth mindset – a mindset where you believe that you are capable of growing in your abilities. This is important because if you attempt to do something and fail, if you have a growth mindset you will believe that you can always work on it and improve. If you have a fixed mindset, rather, you will believe that your skills and abilities are fixed, and there is not much you can do to get any better.

With the growth mindset, you believe that the more you work and push yourself, the better you can get. And this belief turns out to be true. Likewise, for those who believe that they are limited, or those with the fixed mindset, their beliefs also turn out to be true for themselves, because they limit their own potential with this mindset

2. Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

The growth mindset may actually be a form of the self-fulfilling prophecy. Note that people who think they can grow and improve are able to do so. Those who do not think they can grow and improve, are unable to do so. This may be an oversimplification – but at least those who think they can are much more effective in accomplishing their goals.

With the self-fulfilling prophecy, whatever you expect to happen is quite likely to actually happen. There are limits to this of course, but this concept is one of my favorite ones because it shows us just how powerful the human mind is.

As an example, if I take two forty-year-old men who look to be in average shape, and I ask them to do 40 push ups for me, who is more likely to accomplish this? The one who doubts his own abilities, or the one who is sure he can do this? If they both had the same height, weight, health status, and muscular build, the one who was more sure of himself would have a better chance to accomplish the goal.

In my life I have found that when I believe something is going to happen, I don’t spend any energy doubting or on thinking about failure. That means I use more energy focusing on accomplishing what I want to do, rather than on negative emotional energy. Therefore, I am much more likely to succeed at what I believed I would succeed at.

Often times your belief will create the reality. Be careful about what you expect, as it will probably happen. In this sense, it will pay off to be optimistic and expect things to go well.

 

3. Affirmations and Visualization

For many of us, a “belief” with nothing to back it up can feel empty and meaningless. If I tell you to believe in yourself, and believe that you will succeed, this sounds like empty motivational speak, doesn’t it? It doesn’t feel real, and it seems unlikely to actually make a difference in your life. For that reason, you may wish to try creating affirmations and visualizations, to make your beliefs more real in your mind.

Affirmations and visualization are tools you can use to create stronger positive beliefs in your mind, which may make it more likely that they will come true. This is an application of the self-fulfilling prophecy, where you train your mind to expect something to happen through affirmations. Affirmations are statements you make and say to yourself, in efforts to make them feel true and real. Once you have your affirmation, you can visualize that thing happening in vivid detail so that your mind feels it already has happened. Then there is nothing left to do but live out that which has already happened in your mind. Ultimately, your mind will feel comfort in simply living out that path which you have already created. This will feel like destiny, in a way. To do anything else outside of what your affirmation / visualizations indicate would feel like going against nature.

As an example of an affirmation, you may write down a statement such as:

I will live my life today without allowing negative emotions to guide my actions. Instead, I will be guided only by positive emotions, reason, and intuition.

With visualization, you would visualize yourself living out the above affirmation. You may envision someone verbally attacking you. But rather than allowing negative emotional energy to overcome you, you would respond calmly by suggesting that you continue this conversation when the other person has calmed down, or you could state that you have more important things you need to do at the moment, and they should write their grievances in an email to you so that you can respond at a later time. If the person continues to be verbally aggressive, you may calmly walk away and say “Have a nice day!” Notice that with this affirmation, the goal is not to extinguish negative emotion, but rather to stop such emotions from guiding our everyday actions.

4. Ongoing Learning

Part of the way you win and do better than others is to learn more than them. In many fields, you must develop your expertise in order to perform well. Even if your field is not intellectual or informational, you could be surprised at the importance of continuing to learn. For example, someone who plays sports at a high level would want to study their opponents’ weaknesses in order to search for ways to gain a competitive advantage.

Our world changes and adapts rapidly, and so in order to keep up with this, you must continue to learn on a regular basis. The prior principles focused on your beliefs and mindset. But if you have a positive mindset and you have not learned anything, then you may simply be an overconfident amateur.

 

5. Work Harder and Smarter

Working hard is a continuation of ongoing learning. You will need to not just learn, but to also work harder than most people if you truly want to win. Generally, this can mean working more hours, or training more rigorously. Then when you reach a level where everyone is working quite hard, you will need to work smarter in order to gain an advantage.

Working smarter could mean finding any critical weaknesses in your abilities, and working to develop those. It could also mean finding your greatest strengths, and fine tuning those to become even better at what you do. Working smarter can also mean prioritizing what is truly important for you to work on. All work is not equal. You can work very hard and make very little progress, if the work was not important or especially useful to helping you make progress.

Part of working smarter can also mean finding the right leader, colleagues, or organization to work in. If you are highly skilled, but in the wrong environment that can not properly use your skills, then you will not be able to accomplish much.

6. Make Your Own Luck

To increase your chances of winning or success, you should aim to make your own luck. This can simply mean increasing your chances for something good to happen. The way you approach this will be different depending on your field.

As an example, if you have written something that you think everyone needs to read, you may pay to have it translated into several languages. Even if no one in your native language is impacted by what you wrote, perhaps you will find people who truly believe in your ideas with another language.

Also, you may practice sending out an email to an author, political figure, or owner of a company on a regular basis, depending on your goals. Be quick and to the point. Don’t ask for anything big such as for a job. You may start by recognizing their good work and how you are interested in what they do. Then you may ask if they have any suggestions to help you with a particular problem. Or perhaps they can suggest a resource that may help you. If you feel it is appropriate and you are especially interested in learning more from someone, you may offer to buy that person lunch so that you can have a quick conversation with them.

The general idea is that you will want to put yourself in positions where it is more likely that you will accomplish your goals, whatever those goals may be. I recently heard that in high school, Bill Gates and his friends hacked into his high school’s computer databases so that he would get placed in classes with all females. The idea was that this would help increase Bill Gates’ chances of getting a date. Surely he must have had better chances of getting a date when he was surrounded by females.

To increase your luck and opportunities, ask yourself questions such as:

Where can I position myself to increase the chances of meeting my goals? (This may even involve moving.)

Who can I network with or contact to increase the chances of meeting my goals?

What can I do to make more people notice my skills and talents (e.g., starting a blog, podcast, or volunteering to work for free for someone who is known for being the best in their field)

Notice that to increase your luck you do not need very specific goals. The general goal is to put yourself in situations or circumstances that will make it more likely for good things to happen. Of course, you probably should have some specific goals that you are working toward in your life at the same time.

7. Creative Problem-Solving

When you practice generating many solutions to your problems, you can get very good at this. If this becomes a daily practice for you, you will find that eventually you can effortlessly come up with a variety of potential solutions to virtually any problem.

This creative skill is one of the greatest assets you can have because so many people are not used to thinking in this way. In school and in our work lives, many of us get used to searching for one solution to our problems. When that one solution does not work, we become frustrated and need to call the boss or Google it.

If we practice our creative idea generation abilities instead, then we could become better and better at this. In time, we would feel confident that we could solve new problems on our own without always needing extra assistance.

As I already indicated, the world we live in now is rapidly changing and demands that we adapt to it. Those who are able to look for creative solutions will be in the best position to succeed when difficult circumstances arise.

To practice this skill, the next time someone makes you aware of a problem, try to come up with five possible solutions to solve it. Also of course, if you come across your own life problem, do the same thing. Do not settle for the first or even second obvious solution that you come. Work harder to train your mind to be more creative.

8. React Positively to the Overwhelming Likelihood of Failure

I often see that as soon as a problem becomes difficult, people are ready to give up on it. They will say that this is too difficult. Or if the situation involves a game or competition, as soon as one team starts to lose, they will become discouraged and feel that there is no way to win.

However, the person with a true success mindset will never stop looking for possibilities to win or to accomplish what they truly want to do. A problem that can develop in our mindsets is that when you look for reasons to give up, then the next time you face a difficult problem it becomes easier to give up. You can actually train yourself to become a failure. If every time things get difficult you choose to give up, then you will train yourself into giving up more easily and more quickly with each new problem you face. Eventually, just the slightest indication of trouble will cause you to throw in the towel. You will fail before you truly even get started.

Rather, we must train ourselves in the opposite direction. The harder things get, the more stubborn you should become in searching for pathways to accomplish your goals. Obviously, there is an actual point where it makes sense to give up, but it just depends on the circumstance. If you do not look forward to succeeding at something, then you should probably give up. But more often then not, we give up too early on our goals or dreams.

My favorite way to train this mindset for not giving up is with games. It could be chess, Monopoly, or even video games. It doesn’t matter. I’ve learned that it is fun to win, but I also enjoy myself and have fun when the odds are stacked against me. Even when you think all hope is lost, if you keep pushing forward and going for the win, sometimes you will get it. And it is highly rewarding to get that win when it seemed impossible. Games are a perfect vehicle to train your mindset because there is no real excuse to give up – you are not risking losing money or wasting anyone’s time usually.

When you can do so, practice continuing to go for the win even when others think it is a lost cause.

As an example, recently I was playing a speed chess game. The other player was higher rated than me and he outplayed me completely. Eventually, I got to the point where I realized it was impossible for me to win the game if I played normally. I was down a lot of material (or points).

My solution was to make the worst possible move in the game.

The move was so bad only someone new to the game could make it. (My opponent and I were both in around the top 5% of chess players). I left my Queen vulnerable, which is the most valuable piece. In his mind, he never would have expected me to make this worst possible move, and so he didn’t realize how bad it truly was. He proceeded in the game making a “normal” move. Then I stole his queen. I made the worst move possible in the game, but a side effect of this was that it would allow me to take his queen for free. Then I proceeded to win a game that should have been impossible for me to win at that point.

Notice that I used some creative thinking here - I don’t think most people consider making the worst possible move as a viable option when they are trying to win. Giving up assures you that you will lose, so sometimes in difficult circumstances it makes sense to try something “so crazy, it just might work.”

Train your mindset in small everyday ways like this. No game is too trivial. No situation is too minor. Take whatever opportunity you can to teach yourself to have a winner’s mindset. Keep going for that win even when the odd’s seem stacked against you. Trust me when I say that those wins feel the best.