I was in a small seaside town in Spain and struck up a conversation with a family. It developed that they’d rented a car and the dad had driven from Barcelona, while I’d taken the bus. In my mind I remarked “I make good money, I can pay somebody to drive me there so I don’t have to do it myself.” But probably, in the other dad’s mind, he was remarking “I make good money, I don’t have to ride the bus with a bunch of strangers.” The visible signs of richness are governed by which things you want to have, but a lot of the real content of richness has to do with which things you want to avoid.