Forgiveness might be a virtue. It might not.

On my last post, Reader FD commented:

I loathe the ‘to be a truly actualized person you have to forgive and forget’ message. Yeah, understanding helps and knowing ‘they’ had triggers and damages of their own, gives valuable distance and perspective, but that’s very distinct from the victim mentality of forgiving, and forgetting. I mean, come on, if you truly forgive, you are saying there are no completely unacceptable behaviours, and if you truly forget