It was recently intimated to me that some people think Chris and I are mad at each other, or that we broke up due to my transition, or some other shit uninformed fools make up out of their fool heads. I've been meaning to say it isn't so. Just last week Chris was over at the studio with me and Grey, checking out some of our art, and I looked at the two of them and saw four of the bluest eyes in the world, and I loved them both in totally different ways.

It's true that Chris and I didn't see much of each other for a while because things were kind of sad and weird, and also he was busy with his new restaurant, Serendipity (to which: go!). But I spent too many years with him to be able to imagine a life without him.

I don't think polyamory is ever going to work out for me, though. I've tried twice, at very different times in my life, and run into many of the same obstacles. Poly as I understand it means having multiple relationships, multiple partners you care about. Grey and I play with other partners together and occasionally separately, but as far as our time, our home, and our hearts go, we seem to be pretty much monogamous. Am I defining these things wrong? I'm happy with our somewhat unconventional life* and don't want to cast aspersions on anyone else's.

*I guess you could even call it a "lifestyle," but my God, the right has made me loathe that word.