I'm reading a book right now that's so profound, I'm forced to slow myself down so I can fully grasp its concepts and their meaning in my life.  Not too long ago I decided "family" wasn't a useful term for me…there had been too many failures, too much hurt and disappointment.  Community, I decided, was the better option since it could be imagined and constructed in a myriad of ways.  Then last week, my friend Rosa loaned me her copy of Ties That Bind: Familial Homophobia and Its Consequences ...