Life is always telling us what we need to START doing. But it does not concentrate as much on the things we need to STOP doing.

We use all kinds of strategies to stop our life, love, and leadership and we have all kinds of mechanisms that we have cultivated in order to stop moving forward.

There are people who will laugh just so they can stop their tears.

There are people who will be center of attention just so they can stop feeling lonely.

There are people who will pretend to be happy just so they can stop their sadness.

What we don’t realize is that sometimes our behaviors keep us hidden from our greatness.

If we are to be successful this year in our life, leadership, and loving, we might need to put a stop to a few things

I have put together a short STOP list. Feel free to add your own items.




LIFE:

Stop being late.

Stop being so sad.

Stop bragging.

Stop doubting yourself.

Stop being so anxious.

Stop thinking you are the only one suffering.

Stop complaining.

Stop being so dramatic.

Stop being a martyr.

Stop being so ashamed.

Stop doing things you don’t believe in.

Stop thinking you are not worthy.

Stop being so angry.

Stop lying.

Stop wondering “what if.”




LEADERSHIP:

Stop interrupting.

Stop over scheduling.

Stop being bossy.

Stop being afraid of success.

Stop working so hard for so little.

Stop being a perfectionist.

Stop being judgmental.

Stop sabotaging yourself.

Stop being hypocritical.

Stop being narcissistic.

Stop criticizing others.

Stop having an affair.

Stop being an enabler.

Stop being a cliche.

Stop craving public attention.




LOVING:

Stop settling.

Stop being mean.

Stop arguing.

Stop being unhappy.

Stop looking over your shoulder for better.

Stop being moody.

Stop running from relationships.

Stop blaming yourself.

Stop being selfish.

Stop apologizing for yourself.

Stop being rude.

Stop philandering.

Stop being down on yourself.

Stop being spoiled.

Stop being afraid of commitment.

To stop is to change and to change is to transform.

 




What we have been doing does not have to become our fate. We can always choose to stop:

Stop impacting our lives in negatives ways.

Stop defining our moments by the behaviors of the past.

Stop reliving our habits that don’t work for us.

And, most of all stop apologizing for who we are.

Life is about learning, growing, and constantly developing.

We have starting many things, we are learning many things, and sometimes we have to stop many things.

You can’t stop the future or rewind the past, but you can stop what is not working in the present.

 




The time to stop is now because everything we want to achieve, to learn, to share can begin right now. If we don’t live within our best, if we don’t love with all our heart, if we don’t lead with compassion, then when will we?

Lead From Within: be the kind of leader who stops competing, stops judging, stops comparing, stops blaming and become a better you. For who? For you. When? Now!

Lolly Daskal is the president and founder of Lead From Within a coaching and consultant firm that manages large scale corporate coaching and custom made leadership programs. Connect with Lolly Daskal

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