Why Are More Women Exploring BDSM?
BDSM is out of the closet and written in the stars. Bondage, discipline and spanking are entering the bedroom and more women are exploring their own secret universe of erotic pleasure.
Each age brings a new level of sexual awareness. In the 1960s it was free love and the hippy lifestyle. Women believed they were liberated and slid with eyes closed a decade later into the never-never land of swingers and wife-swapping. The 1980s brought us the shallow, showy world of the new romantics. The digital age has landed with sexting, nude-selfies, internet dating, wall-to-wall porn.
It will pass. Everything does. That is the nature of the cosmic dance of the planets and stars. At the end of 2012, Saturn began to journey through the sign of Scorpio, where it will remain until the end of 2015. This transit brings us to a time where people will feel an urge to take greater responsibility for their actions and pleasures. Women who tune into this astral influence will become truly, finally, liberated, open and eager to explore their deepest needs across the entire palette of sexual fetishes, including BDSM.
BDSM Pain & Pleasure
What is BDSM? It stands for bondage, domination sado-masochism. Why would a man or woman want to be tied up and dominated in order to provide sadistic pleasure for their partner? It’s all in the last word – masochism, according to the Merriam Webster Dictionary: a sexual perversion characterized by pleasure in being subjected to pain or humiliation especially by a love object.
The key words are pleasure and love. Sex between loving couples gets dull. BDSM with its role play, dressing up, masks, leather, latex and fantasy is about putting the untried and unexpected back into the relationship by going deeper into our unknown, often buried sexuality. The more you put into something the more you get out. Push a spring down, down, down – and when you let go, it doesn’t just jump up, it explodes.
Spanking – the most common and popular of all BDSM practises – warms the entire nervous system and reminds the clitoris that it’s alive and adores stimulation. Does spanking hurt? Yes, absolutely. But it’s nothing like the pain of childbirth and, the difference is, the fleeting sting and discomfort passes under the practiced hand into ultimate bliss: a rippling, breathtaking, life-affirming multiple orgasm.
Being tied up, bound to the bed, chained to a wall, wearing a ball-gag takes you out of the mundane daily grind of work and bills into a state of total submission: complete surrender to the will of your partner, the Dom, or dominant, but submission, too, to every woman’s latent potential to reach ecstasy, elation, euphoria.
BDSM is a marathon, not a sprint. Start slow and make sure you and your partner have decided on safe words and safe signs (in case your mouth is full) to STOP the activity if the ropes chaff, your throat’s constricted, the pain outweighs the pleasure. The world of BDSM is not vaster than we imagine but vaster, perhaps, than we can imagine. Research before you try and, remember, Saturn’s transit in Scorpio ends in 2015. If there was ever a moment to try BDSM it is NOW.
R.M. Simone’s latest book is GOTHIC GATES VENICE. Do read her acclaimed blog TWIN LOVE and visit her lively WEBSITE.
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French philosopher Georges Bataille describes spanking girls as 'the illicit pleasure of all pleasures.' When a hand comes down again and again on your bottom, the sting is quickly followed by a prickling numbness. The pain vanishes and the heat generated from those slaps sends lines of electric fire through all the tissues and nerve…Tags: spanking, pleasureThe post Why Are More Women Exploring BDSM? appeared first on Erotic romance writer Chloe Thurlow.
