There are so many cliché’s I could borrow from right now, the grass is always greener is the one I keep thinking about the most. Recently I have seen some consistencies in Facebook and those that are successful. Mostly the common denominator is among authors and women unfortunately. But it is not limited to them.

Here’s the deal people we are a jealous race. When we see someone else achieve our greatest goal we connect with them to see if we can learn from them. What did they do that we can immolate and then gain that success too. That’s what we tell ourselves. We like their posts on Facebook, we comment on their questions they create to engage people. We like how authentic they are. It makes us believe that they are people. That if someone as normal as they are can achieve success then we can too.

Then they have a bad day!

They complain about something that clearly defines that they are not exactly like us. For example, they are unhappy about a trip you can’t imagine being able to ever afford. Or they are concerned that their sales aren’t as high as they were the quarter before.

That’s when the space between you becomes painfully clear and you lash out. You don’t feel that it is their right to complain. If you were ever there you’d never do that. Right?

But in reality you don’t know that…do you?

In reality they are still being authentic. They are expressing their true desires, fears, and challenges.

Didn’t you like that about them to begin with?

The truth of the matter is they are just being honest. We don’t know all the background information that is prompting these posts. The author/publisher making less may have taken out a loan to pay for audio books and expected that money to pay it back the next quarter. Because that’s what we do in business we take a leap of faith at times to expand. When it doesn’t look like what we thought would happen is going to we get scared. When you are afraid, you seek comfort.

Because we are all people.

Do we know why the vacation she took is so bad? Could it be she has an almost overwhelming social anxiety disorder? Could she have received a message from her kids of problems and then couldn’t get in contact with them for hours because she was out of service? I know as a mother that would probably send me over the edge.

The point is people please find some grace. I wrote this post because I have to tell you I’ve been there. I’ve been so guilty of this myself. And I know after writing this that if I am ever guilty again then my Facebook friends will be quick to remind me. Sometimes that’s what we need a reminder of grace.

Bri Clark   Social Media Strategist/Publisher





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